Mindlessness versa’s Mindfulness

The Mindfulness Movie is a fun and educational journey showcasing the worldwide brain research proving the benefits of mindfulness and the public’s increasing awareness and acceptance of the practice.

The movie celebrates those who have reshaped mindfulness into everyday, practical skills.

  • Neuroscientists now tell us that the practice of mindfulness literally changes the brain in positive ways.
  • And it’s as simple as paying attention!

Throughout the film, we encounter inspiring people and ideas on how changing the way we see can change our lives. Leading world experts discuss eight essential aspects of mindfulness, including easy to understand studies showing why we function at a more highly effective level when we change our default mindless mode to a mindful mode.

My own thoughts on Mindlessness and Mindfulness

Mindfulness is an awareness of the present without looking for distractions, which is what I seem to do alot (Mindlessness that is) I zone out all the time and I had no idea that is what I have been doing…

So, to be present is about being mindful or without using that word we all use which is “trying” to be present, “trying” to listen, “trying” to take a pen for example.

Remember when you say I am trying your actually saying you’re doing nothing but, thinking that your doing…  So, what you should say is, I am listening to you! So, what your saying is your listening!

So, are we paying attention?

Or are we drifting into lar land being distracted and not paying attention!  

We all do it and the more we get older and not recognise that we don’t do… the more we will continue to be Mindless…

“We cannot solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them”

Albert Einstein

So to be Mindful you must be self-aware of your surroundings which means you have a more openminded space of what your looking at..(more awareness)

To use Mindlessness is when you narrowly allow yourself a minimal amount of space which means your not allowing yourself to see what is around you.

“Ive had a lot of worries in my life most of which never happened”

Mark Twain

Stress makes all kinds of physical allignments worse, fatigue, what makes it worse is what processes in our brain.

  • Stress doesn’t kill us our reaction kills us
  • You must keep calm and relax because the more we stress the more our body reacts to the stress.. so remember to breathe and breath then allow ourselves to be more at peace.
  • Mindfulness if you use it more often this can reduce depression, anger, hostility, anxiousness, and if you relax your thoughts and feelings you can reduce your reaction to how you react to any situation.

“The best diet is the one you don’t know you’re on”

Mindful eating is about enjoying that steak you purchased at a Restaurant by being present and silent while eating it.. Not by eating a steak while discussing with that person your with about something stressful that occurred during their day.

Slow yourself down while you eat that delicious meal your partner cooked you and enjoy your food rather than eating your food as fast as you can to watch that TV show your about to miss.

Notice that beautiful smell or the steak tasting like butter between your teeth and that rich velvety gravy that has been designed to go with your palative steak your eating .. that is being mindful to what your eating and enjoying your food moment.

For example:

If your eating fruit think what are you thinking about?

  • Are you just eating it?
  • Or are you thinking about the tree the berry came from or where it was grown ?

So, next time your eating something .. do this smell it, think about what your chewing and really feel and taste it throw yourself into the food and enjoy it by being present.

The more you stop and start to enjoy your food the more you will taste the food.. its about allowing yourself to stop.. and enjoy what your eating rather than rushing toward the end of what your eating…

PSTD – Military

This originated from men/women coming home from war with a Zombie like attitude – Mission is first, we must succeed, no matter what, this is drilled into them like robots they are put in such a silence of subject to dishonrable discharge, as a threat and you don’t tell anyone as it is seen as weekness.. not acceptable behaviour.

Everything is based on what they think is right, what they think we should do as soldier of our country, it’s based on people who are put into a position of being responsible and this is how we act, and this is how we do things according to…. WHO?

When people are subjected to such stressful scenarios like “you must do as I tell yo to do, or else”, mindfulness is a mindset to relax and not allowed to be like this in the Military.

If they were given an opportunity to stop and look at every situation with mindfulness then the people who went to war could have made decisions based on what is but, not how it is dedicated.

We tend to be so critical on ourselves and those who care who are around us making us feel like we cannot trust anyone … we are only human and we are trying so hard to live we forget to trust others, we forget to allow those ones who actually care to let ourselves trust those beautiful people around us that actually care.

It makes you clouded and confused when we shut those doors and not give ourselves a break to let others in.. by being mindful.. we need to allow ourselves to STOP!


Here is mine and what I observe as a wife with my husband

My husband and probably myself have been subjected to so much mental abuse we have both been so numb to let people into our lives.. the reason for this is never simple.. its about our trust has been hindered and we tend to take it out with each other.

We love and are devoted but we have this invisible but, visible wall, that has always been there and we … don’t let each other totally in.. Why?

Why do you F’ing think?

Every time we do this something else is put in our way to mistrust each other

It’s not personal it is what it is.. I cannot accept certain things because it costs my soul.. same with my husband.. when you are treated so harshly and told on a constant basis that we are not worth shit.. then what do you think it does to people…?

We tear each other apart because we love each other so fucking much.. and then we still repeat the same bull shit crap…

So, my question to the wise ones out there.. before we kill ourselves.. who the fuck will give a fuck??

Not my family or even son? that is how I feel.. insignificant…………………..

Not his family?? This is how he told me he felt… he takes it out on me because who else will care???????????????


So now what are we both to do when no fucking person cares about us????????????????????????????????????????????

This is how we feel.. we both love each other with every ounce of our hearts but, life has one thing it has done.. it’s made us doubt one another… not because we are not smart, not because we don’t want to.. it’s because we where never felt ever, worth anyone’s time… so this is why we do what we do to each other because deep down we adore one another.. however, we find it hard to feel it…


We will live.. but, perhaps not together.. x fingers that we do.. xxxx much love xx



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