Life is about learning and Growing, Right?!

Well, it comes a time in a girl’s life that she needs to understand the means of Sexual Definitions… Now I know you all thought I was going to say something else but, hey, even these definitions of the sexual kind I didn’t know was labeled, tagged put into a box and deliver for you to read.. along with me.. so watch and learn something, I am about too…

Okay sum I already know but, keep reading viewers… some are familiar however, this list is massive so keep it if your going into Sexology or perhaps hooker type work you may need to be very knowledgeable… joking..

Open Relationship

Definition – What does Open Relationship mean?

An open relationship is a catch-all term for a pairing that is consensual non-monogamous. Although the primary partners intend to stay together, they agree to take on other partners with each other’s full knowledge. These additional companions may be for the purposes of short-term dating, long-term dating, sexual encounters or romantic companionship. The primary partners may choose to share lovers or seek out individual companions.

Kinkly explains Open Relationship

The rules of an open relationship are as individual as those in it. Sometimes the relationship resembles a swinging or BDSM play partner scenario, where it’s mainly physical in nature. Other open relationships may operate like traditional polyamory, which places more emphasis on cultivating a lasting emotional connection. Some couples have very specific rules about their open relationships. For example, sex with another person may only be allowed on out-of-town business trips.

Open relationships aren’t suitable for everyone as jealousy is often an obstacle. Opening a relationship successfully takes communication and trust. There are also no one-size-fits-all rules for open relationships. Partners must work together to establish the boundaries that work for them.

Alternative Sexuality

Definition – What does Alternative Sexuality mean?

Alternative sexuality refers to any sexuality that does not fall under heterosexuality. It is the umbrella term for all sexual and romantic attractions that go beyond opposite-sex attraction. At the same time, it is more than being homosexual or bisexual. It includes those who identify as asexual, persons who do not experience sexual attraction; and those who identify as pansexual, persons who can be sexually attracted to all genders. Alternative sexualities make up the gender identity rainbow, which includes lesbians, gays, bisexual, transgender, and queer, among others.

Kinkly explains Alternative Sexuality

Men and women who practice an alternative sexuality are often subject to discrimination and harassment. This usually stems from the lack of understanding. Some members of society still expect others to conform to traditional ideas of masculinity and femininity. It is a good thing that such expectations of conformity are slowly giving way to acceptance and appreciation of people’s difference.

Sexual Orientation

Definition – What does Sexual Orientation mean?

Sexual orientation is a term that describes an individual’s emotional and sexual attraction to men, women, both sexes, or neither sex and the sense of identity which stems from these attractions.

Sexual orientation is traditionally classified as heterosexual (attraction to the opposite sex), homosexual (attraction to the same-sex), or bisexual (attraction to both sexes). Alfred Kinsey’s research suggests, however, that rather than three distinct groups, people tend to sit somewhere on a spectrum ranging from exclusive attraction to the opposite sex to exclusive attraction to the same sex. The term asexual has recently been added to the spectrum, to describe people who are not attracted to either sex.

Kinkly explains Sexual Orientation

An individual’s sexual orientation defines who they will be attracted to, who they will fall in love with, and in some cases, who they will want to make a long-term romantic commitment to.

It’s generally believed that people are born with a particular sexual orientation, but to a group, the tendency along with other genetic factors like sex and eye color does an injustice to the complex nature of sexual orientation. Sexual orientation differs from these characteristics as it is defined and expressed in terms of relationships with other people.

People express their sexual orientation through a variety of sexual behaviors, from hand-holding and kissing to intercourse, as well as nonsexual behaviors. As sexual orientation is linked to the human need for love and intimacy, tasks such as communicating and working towards common goals with a partner of a particular sex may also be seen as ways of expressing one’s orientation.

Sexual orientation is not just a personal characteristic, but one which defines groups of individuals. People can look to a community of others who share their sexual orientation for support and to establish the romantic connections which are an important part of personal identity for many.

Labels are often used to describe people of varying sexual orientations. For example, heterosexual men are generally called straight men, while homosexual women are typically called lesbians. However, some people may prefer different labels or none at all.

Okay here are some new ones I didn’t know


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Definition – What does Ecosexual mean?

A term coined by Beth Stephens and Annie Sprinkle, champions of the Ecosex movement, an ecosexual can be defined in a number of ways. All of the ways related to a love of and connection to the environment. An ecosexual may be one who considers the earth their lover or simply one who feels passionately about the environment and needs a term to express that when communicating with potential partners. Additionally, the term has a place in activist circles as ecosexuality may be considered an environmental activist strategy

Kinkly explains Ecosexual

Stephens and Sprinkle have created an Ecosexual Manifesto that lays out the identity and mission of ecosexuals. It recognizes the various applications of the term and explains ecosexuality as “a rapidly growing global community”.


Sexual Imprinting – aka twilight sheesh

Definition – What does Sexual Imprinting mean?

Sexual imprinting is the process that sees animals, including humans, choosing or rejecting mates based on the similarities or differences they share with their mothers, their fathers, and other prominent adults in their early lives. This process occurs in early childhood.

When we sexually imprint on someone, we create a mental model of an influential person’s characteristics and use that as a template for finding a mate. Potential mates similar to the person or people we’ve sexually imprinted on are pursued, while those that are very different are rejected.

Kinkly explains Sexual Imprinting

Heterosexual individuals tend to sexually imprint on the opposite-sex parent, leading them to choose mates that share similarities with this parent. Little research has been done on the sexual imprinting of homosexual and bisexual individuals. Sexual imprinting does not only occur among children and their biological parents. Studies have also shown adopted children sexually imprint on their adoptive parents.

The quality of the relationship a child has with its parents will also influence the degree they sexual imprint on them. A heterosexual girl who receives a great deal of emotional support from her father will be more likely to choose mates similar to him than a daughter who grew up without this paternal support.

Humans do not only sexually imprint on one another. If someone has a meaningful encounter with an inanimate object at an early age, he or she may sexually imprint on this object. This unusual type of sexual imprinting helps explain people with sexual attractions to statues and sexual fetishes for fabrics and items of clothing.

Sexual imprinting helps a heterosexual female choose a mate like her father. This increases the chances of producing viable offspring, including sons which will appeal to other heterosexual females, as her father appealed to her mother. If a heterosexual female grows up without a father, she may sexually imprint on her father or on other adult males in her life. This kind of imprinting helps her select mates which will result in viable offspring. However, it may not result in these offspring being sexually attractive to others.


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Definition – What does Demisexual mean?

Demisexual refers to an individual that is capable of sexual attraction only with those with whom they feel an emotional bond. Demisexuality is marked by a need for familiarity and emotional intimacy with as well as knowledge about a prospective partner.

Kinkly explains Demisexual

An emotional connection is a prerequisite for sexual attraction for the demisexual. However, an emotional connection does not necessarily trigger sexual attraction. While demisexuals may be emotionally bonded with all the people that they are attracted to, they are not attracted to all the people that they bond with emotionally. The need of the demisexual to have knowledge of and a bond with another before experiencing attraction means that they may experience attraction far less frequently than the average sexual person. The term demisexual is meant to acknowledge a sexual orientation that lies at the midpoint between asexual and sexual.


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Definition – What does Androgynous mean?

Androgynous is an adjective which describes a blend of masculine and feminine characteristics. The term is a combination of the Latin terms andro, meaning man, and gyne, meaning woman.

The word androgynous may be used to describe someone’s gender or sexual identity, sexual lifestyle, or appearance. It may also describe fashion trends, cultures, or relationships.

A person who does not fit traditional masculine or feminine gender roles is known as an androgyne. Androgynes often prefer the less clinical terms ambigender or polygenous. Androgynes may be male, female, transgender, straight, gay, or bisexual.

Kinkly explains Androgynous

Androgyny challenges the typical notion that there are only two gender role orientations. According to American psychologist Sandra Bem’s ‘Bem Sex-Role Inventory,’ androgynous is one of the four gender role orientations, along with masculine, feminine, and undifferentiated.

People who are psychologically androgynous may identify with both genders (sometimes known as multigenic) or they may identify as genderless or gender-neutral. Those who act in both masculine and feminine fashions or display both masculine and feminine physical features may identify as physically androgynous, intersex, or behavioral androgynous. There will likely be overlap between all these types of androgyny.

Androgynous cultures or relationships lack strict gender roles. Members of these cultures or relationships happily complete tasks or exhibit behaviors commonly associated with the other sex. Androgynous figures like David Bowie, Marilyn Manson, and Annie Lennox have played with fashion norms without crossing the line into drag.

It can be difficult for the rest of society who are used to a binary gender system to understand androgynous individuals. This societal pressure can make it difficult for androgynes to feel accepted.

The term genderqueer has been used to refer to androgyny, but the words are not interchangeable. Genderqueer carries sociopolitical connotations which androgyny doesn’t have. Some androgyny may feel that the term genderqueer does not accurately describe them, or may even find the term offensive.

Gender Expression

Definition – What does Gender Expression Mean?

Gender expression refers to the external communication of one’s gender to other people. It is the way in which an individual chooses to perform their gender role.

Kinkly explains Gender Expression

Gender expression should not be confused with gender identity. Gender identity simply refers to the gender an individual identifies with, whether male, female, or neither. Gender expression, on the other hand, refers to the way in which individuals choose to express their femininity, masculinity, or androgyny. Gender expression can be defined as one’s mannerisms, behavior, clothing, haircut, voice, etc.


Definition – What does Ableism mean?

Ableism is the discrimination against men and women with emotional, physical, and mental disabilities. It is also alternately called ablecentrism, disability oppression, and handicaps. This social prejudice presumes that able-bodied people are superior to those with disabilities. It looks at being able-bodied as the norm that must be confirmed with.

Kinkly explains Ableism

The criminalization of ableism happened only fairly recently. In the United States, it was only in the 1970s when this was made into a crime. Before this, there were several laws that allowed discrimination based on disfigurements and disabilities. These were referred to as the “ugly laws.” In the United Kingdom, a codification of anti-ableism laws only happened in 1995.



Definition – What does Spectrasexual mean?

A spectrasexual is a term used to refer to a person who is attracted to a wide range of individuals, including those of different sexes, genders and gender expressions. Spectrasexuality is considered to be a sexual orientation.

Kinkly explains Spectrasexual

An individual that identifies as a spectrasexual does not have a specific set of qualities that he or she finds to be attractive. Bisexuality is too narrow of an identity because someone who is spectrasexual is attracted to individuals who fall outside of the gender and sexuality dichotomy of male and female as well as homosexual and heterosexual. The idea is that an individual is attracted to people who fall within a wide range on the gender/sexuality spectrum.



Definition – What does Allosexual mean?

Allosexual is a term used to refer to someone who does not identify as part of the asexual sprectrum (asexual, grey-a, demi-sexual). It is an umbrella term for all people who experience both primary and secondary sexual attraction on a regular basis.

Kinkly explains Allosexual

Allosexual is a term that is primarily used in the asexual community to distinguish people who are asexual. The purpose of the term is to make the distinction without calling those people “sexual” (because all people are sexual, just in different ways) or “normal” (because that is uncessarily disenfranchising to people who identify asexual).


Definition – What does Agnosexual mean?

Agnoseuxual refers to an individual with an undecided sexual orientation. An agnosexual does not identify specifically with any sexual orientation but is also not asexual.

Kinkly explains Agnosexual

An individual that identifies as agnosexual has not decided upon or does not specifically identify with, any sexual orientation. Typically, agnosexuals tend to identify as agnosexual rather than bisexual or any variation thereof because identifying with a sexual orientation such as bisexuality brings with it preconceived notions of those that identify with that particular sexual orientation.


Definition – What does Autosexual mean?

Autosexuality is a sexual orientation where one has sex with and is sexually attracted towards oneself. Self-pleasure is more enjoyable for these individuals than sexual intercourse or other forms of sexual activity. Autosexuality takes on several forms. One can have sex with oneself and with others simultaneously. Masturbation is a form of autosexuality. Enjoying masturbation does not necessarily make one an autosexual. Having sex or playing with oneself while thinking of oneself or of an object is another form of autosexuality.

Kinkly explains Autosexual

Autosexuality is a form of sexuality where the individual is sexually aroused by him or herself. In this situation, the individual usually has sex with him or herself and enjoys that more than sex with a partner.


Definition – What does Acedolagnia mean?

Acedolagnia is a sexual disorder characterized by an indifference to sexual intercourse, activities, and matters. People who feel indifferent to sex are said to be acedolagnic.

The word is a combination of the Greek prefix a, meaning not or without, the Greek word kedos, meaning care, and the Greek word lagneia, which translates to lust.

Acedolagnia is sometimes called sexual apathy.

Kinkly explains Acedolagnia

Some people may always feel acedolagnic. These people may consider themselves asexual, as they have no desire to engage in sex with any gender. Other people may develop feelings of acedolagnia over time. People who previously had an interest in sex might later feel indifferent about it after being single for a long time or growing apart from their partners. Some medications, illnesses, and hormonal changes can also trigger acedolagnia in some people.

While acedolagnia is considered a sexual disorder, whether it’s a problem depends on the individual. Many people who consider themselves asexual simply feel their indifference to sex is a part of them that they are comfortable with. For other people, especially those who once had a healthy sexual appetite, acedolagnia may be distressing. In these cases, therapy may be helpful. This therapy may be undertaken alone, with a partner, or both.

Dressing for Pleasure (DFP)

Definition – What does Dressing for Pleasure (DFP) mean?

Dressing for pleasure is the practice of wearing visually and sensually stimulating clothes within the BDSM community. The type of clothes a person wears to dress for pleasure will vary depending on their tastes and roles within the community.

Dressing For Pleasure is also the name of an SM boutique in New Jersey and the yearly international fetish event hosted by the boutique.

Dressing for pleasure is sometimes abbreviated to the acronym DFP.

Kinkly explains Dressing for Pleasure (DFP)

Leather, rubber, silk, lace, and tulle are common materials people wear when dressing for pleasure. Garments such as boots, corsets, body-hugging suits, dresses, and outfits resembling uniforms are also popular. Different outfits reinforce different roles within the BDSM community. Wearing leather, for example, may make dominants feel more powerful.

In mainstream society, flamboyant costumes are often the domain of women alone. However, men in the BDSM community are just as likely to wear elaborate outfits when they dress for pleasure. Some men also like to experiment with women’s clothing, whether they identify as transvestites or not.

Dressing for pleasure serves a number of purposes for members of the BDSM community. It can be a way to outwardly express their personality and desires, to separate themselves from the rest of society and show membership to their group. It can also be sexually arousing for both wearer and viewer. For this reason, some regard dressing for pleasure as a kind of foreplay.


Definition – What does Acokoinonia mean?

Acokoinonia is sex which occurs without any passion or desire. It comes from the Greek words akon, meaning unwilling, and koinonia, meaning community, which in turn comes from the Greek word koinos, which translates to “shared in common.”

While it’s unclear how the term originated, J.E. Schmidt was one of the first people to define acokoinonia in his 1967 sexual dictionary, “Lecher’s Lexicon.”

Kinkly explains Acokoinonia

Acokoinonia might occur between long-time couples who have sex because they feel they should, rather than because they want to be physically intimate. It might occur if the couple are motivated to have a baby, for example, or if they simply feel sex is an obligation. People who aren’t in long-term relationships might also have acokoinonia if they are having sex because of peer pressure or because they feel their partner expects sex.

Women are most likely to have acokoinonia. Aside from men usually requiring feelings of desire to achieve an erection, anecdotal evidence suggests women more commonly have passive attitudes to sex that means intercourse doesn’t always go hand-in-hand with desire.


Definition – What does Ablutophilia mean?

Ablutophilia is the experiencing of intense sexual arousal or satisfaction from taking a shower or bath. This term is derived from the Latin word ablutio, meaning a washing or cleansing, and Phila, an intense liking of or attraction to certain items or activities.

Kinkly explains Ablutophilia

The subject of what constitutes “normal” sex practices is quite controversial. Does loving sex in the shower make you an ablutophile? Not necessarily. Are specific attractions or fetishes a problem? Likely only if they prevent you from having a fulfilling sex life (as in the case where nothing else outside the specific attraction can achieve arousal).


Definition – What does Bi-Comfortable mean?

Bi-comfortable describes individuals who are comfortable with the idea of bisexuality, even though they may not identify is bisexual. Many bi-comfortable individuals are willing to participate in sexual activities with members of the same sex, but they won’t usually go in search of members of the same sex for a relationship, emotional or sexual. One example of this is a person comfortable and willing to participating in a ménage à trois if it would please their partner.

Kinkly explains Bi-Comfortable

Bi-comfortable is a relatively new term, and it often means different things to different people. Some individuals, for instance, identify bi-comfortable people as those who are simply comfortable being around bisexual people. Others describe bi-comfortable people as those who are willing to engage in sexual acts with individuals of the same-sex but are not bisexual or gay themselves.


Definition – What does Desensitizer mean?

Desensitizer is the term for a sexual enhancement product designed to help individuals overcome sexual challenges. These products are usually topical creams or ointments that numb the area to which they are applied. The most common use for desensitized is to delay ejaculation and to make anal penetration more comfortable.

Kinkly explains Desensitizer

The use of desensitizers, especially in the case of the anal play, is often discouraged for safety reasons. Sex educators advise against using products that reduce sensation and leave participants unable to feel bodily discomfort. Discomfort ordinarily acts as an important signal of damage or injury to the body.


Definition – What does Fetters mean?

Fetters are metal manacles tied together by a chain. They are popular, if slightly expensive, BDSM accessories for restraining a bottom, submissive, or slave.

Kinkly explains Fetters

Fetters are a little bit like handcuffs, but with wider metal cuffs and typically a longer chain between them. They also go around ankles rather than wrists.

Fetters are what you usually see tied to the “ball and chain.” They can be tied to ankles and then chained to objects in the floor to limit the wearer’s area of movement. Wearing fetters is enough to limit someone’s freedom of movement: the heavy chains and shorter length reduces your ability to take normal steps.

Using fetters as restraints is more showy than practical. First, they are expensive; second, you can get the exact same effect with cuffs and a rope or smaller chain. For a strong effect on the mind of the wearer, the weight of the iron around the ankles as well as the heavy chain can work wonders.


Definition – What does Dysmorphophilia mean?

Dysmorphophilia is a fetish or sexual preference for people with physical or mental impairments. People with dysmorphophilia, known as dysmorphophiles, may become sexually aroused when fantasizing about these individuals, or have recurring and persistent erotic thoughts about them. They may also seek out sexual partners who are physically or mentally impaired.

Dysmorphophilia comes from the Greek words dysmorphos, meaning disformed, and philia, meaning love.

Kinkly explains Dysmorphophilia

People with dysmorphophilia are often most attracted to one group of individuals who have similar impairments or deformities. For example, one dysmorphophile may find they have a preference for people with scoliosis or other spine deformities, and another dysmorphophile may be attracted to people with a limp. Some people with dysmorphophilia are only interested in people with permanent deformities, while others find themselves aroused by people with temporary impairments like wearing a cast or a leg brace.

It can be difficult for some dysmorphophiles to find partners, as understandably many people with disabilities worry that dysmorphophiles see their disability, rather than their personality or who they are inside.

Most dysmorphophiles simply learn to accept their condition as a part of their sexual identity and learn to achieve sexual gratification in a socially acceptable way. However, if dysmorphophilia becomes problematic for a person, treatments such as psychoanalysis, hypnosis, and cognitive therapy may be helpful.

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