Expectations… Why is it so Expected??

Ever listened to a song and loved the tunes and although the words are the saddest lyrics you have heard for sometime I wonder what it life is all about?

When life hits you and says, sheesh I am going to question everything and anything in my entire life until I am convinced that “the end” is “the end”!

Is it because we strive for perfection and are always disappointed because that is all we ever see on others or ourselves or even each other?

I wondered if people just allowed themselves to open up, even understand themselves and be able somehow to pick each other up or try at least see the good to the bad or whichever works.. I really don’t know the answer, all I know is what I know, and that is we are human we love, cry, we do right, wrong, we live, work, study, bring up children, do the best we can and still never good enough..

So, yes, this song is beautiful and sad.. for some reason I like it.. because it makes you put words on a post..if you wish.. and question that biggest part of you..

Be true, not perfect and never expect anything from anyone, then if you let go of all those expectations that we all seem to expect and just let it be.. without that then perhaps we all will be happy living a life with just now..

P.S.. let’s talk about my gutters near the big tree on the side of our house, now if I expected someone else was going to do my gutters then I would be waiting a very long time.. so what do you think I did.. “I did my own Gutters”, I was covered in black soot, smelt like the ass end of a sewer, hair was rank, jeans, destoryed and not to mention cuts all over well 1 hand, however, I still did my own gutters… the motto of this story is… yes life upsets you, expectations of another will always let you down… right.. so deal with your own gutters… and stop putting so much on each other.. when you will be okay, with just you,

right ?

Just a thought!!!

Candii xxx





On Dean Lewis’s latest single, “Be Alright” for Island Records, he perfectly captures gut-wrenching heartbreak that comes with the hardships of a break-up. But while it deals candidly with anguish, the chorus swells with hope; a recognition that this pain is only temporary, with Lewis emotive singing “It’s never easy to walk away/ Let her go/ it’ll be ok”.

Lewis says the song is written about a bunch of different relationships.  It was at the end of one of those relationships that he remembers driving straight to his brother’s house, “He met me at the front door, handed me a glass of whiskey, and said ‘It’s over, put the phone away, it will be alright.’ We had a drink and it just felt good to talk. For me this song is about hope and knowing that when you surround yourself with good people, things do work out.”

The song is stirring and stripped back in instrumentation allowing listeners to really grapple with the emotional weight of the track. Sonically, the song places Lewis in the vein of his heroes like Noel Gallagher and Richard Ashcroft. “Be Alright” is a testament to his knack for writing thoughtful, evocative no-frills pop songs, and signifies Lewis as a bona fide star in the making.

But, surprisingly, it almost didn’t happen.

Before Lewis’ debut EP Same Kind Of Different, before the international tours, and certainly before his chart-topping hit “Waves”, Lewis was a sound guy. This job was disheartening for Lewis – he spent most his days watching others live out the dream.

He made a little music back then: A song, and a video had been uploaded online, and the response had been good, but not life-changing. He let it rest, not sure if anything would come out of it. It didn’t look like a career in music was on the cards for him.

But a friend of his changed all of that. Years ago, at a function, his friend befriended a woman who was in music publishing. After chatting, he told him about Lewis: How he was having trouble making it in the music industry, how he couldn’t seem to catch a break. His friend asked if she wouldn’t mind listening to Lewis’ music. She listened immediately and was completely won over by Lewis’ raw talent and unique songwriting. He was pretty much signed to her publishing company by the end of the taxi ride home.

At first, he did a little bit of songwriting for other artists, but found it frustrating and unfulfilling. It wasn’t until Lewis’ publishing company sent him to the small town of Hitchin in Hertfordshire, England to work with producers Nick Atkinson and Edd Holloway, that things started to take off. The first song they worked on was “Waves” which turned Lewis from unknown songwriter to hit-maker overnight.

“Waves” was added to Triple J rotation, has had over 122 million streams, 31 million video views and was the second biggest Australian single of 2017.  Suddenly, Lewis was gracing the stages of Europe’s biggest television shows, playing headline shows and festivals slots across Australia and the US. “Waves” even appeared on programs like Suits, Riverdale and Grey’s Anatomy.

When recording “Be Alright”, Lewis struggled to capture the heightened emotions of the demo.   He went back to the UK to record and reconnected with Atkinson and Holloway and recorded the song four times, “I finally knew we had it because when I was listening back to the song, I could feel the emotion coming out of my voice.”

“Be Alright” is the first taste of Lewis’ forthcoming album, and signals a newfound conviction in his own storytelling and singing capabilities, something, Lewis explains, he had to learn. “I think a lot of people are in their rooms writing songs, thinking it’s not good enough or wondering why your voice doesn’t sound like everyone else’s. But those things you think are weaknesses are actually your strengths. It’s what makes you unique. And after a bit of time, it’s the thing that gives you confidence.”

One Comment

  1. Fran Mcbarron

    https://polldaddy.com/js/rating/rating.jsSad songs, oh, my gosh, its the end… who bloody well said, the end, some silly song someone wrote and another thought it was fitting to use… what a load of crap..

    We need to stop expecting so much of what you think is.. and start being individual and expect nothing but, the opposite from one another… we expect, of what we know, we say what we have been taught to understand…

    Guess what, I expect to eat, breath, sleep, chat, live, love, get a hug from time to time, even a kiss from a loved one..

    That is it… never expect anything but, to live your life and then my friends.. anything that is… is a surprise that will always be welcome…

    That I think is not bad… if we all expected nothing…but, whatever!!!

    Does that makes sense?

    Should it?

    Just typing after doing that post and listening to a mans sad life of his expectations of another… go figure…

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