Our relationships are either Emotionally mature or Immature, right!

Emotional maturity is and will always be defined by our ability to control our own emotions and take in full responsibility for our life along with opportunities and dramas.

A large part of this is in controlling our anger with one another, guilt, resentment, fear, our jealousies, disappointments, grief even our insecurity.  Its the ability to recognise these emotions and then allow yourself to say, okay, I see them, feel them and now I will let them go.

Emotional maturity is the ability to see life a little clearer, and to deal with it by being able to say enough is enough for now.  This life we have can either be easy or difficult it is up to you to sum it up and then let go of negitive emotions and allow yourself that moment of being intune of yourself by letting go and being present.

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Emotional immaturity people this can be harder than you think, it means they cannot interpret or react clearly let’s face it apart from the “Delhi Lama”, and I am sure that he has difficulty in doing such an act of clarity and defined love.

For example:

  •  If you are married to someone who is emotionally immature you probably face great challenges in dealing with their moods and behaviors. They tend to try to control their world around them making it what they idealize rather than accept it for what it is and work toward positive change.

All human minds require a basic need to feel in control

We were born with this need. This need helps propel us through various stages of emotional development. Without at least some sense of control, we would feel lost, desperate and broken. We become unable to cope.

Relationships are often the most obvious places where our lack of control shows up. When we are without significant people in our lives, we are able to glide through life on our own terms, addressing our needs and wants. We are rarely confronted by the needs of others in a meaningful way. Outside of a relationship we do not have a need to have to listen or to contemplate the workings of someone else’s mind. As a result, we feel in control most of the time.

When we become more intimately involved with people, we are forced to deal with other peoples wants and needs. 

Emotional maturity is an important skill to have in life.

  • Emotionally immature individuals walk through life blaming their problems on the people in their lives or their situations and circumstances.
  • They blame others for their anger, sadness and depression, but rarely look inwardly. Instead of assuming responsibility for how they feel, they expect others in their life to see their points of view.
  • They attempt to control others which is something you cannot control.

 

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  • When things go wrong, it is always someone else’s fault. One of the easiest ways to spot emotional immaturity is finger pointing. People who are emotionally immature rarely assume accountability for problems in their lives. It is always everyone else’s fault. It is difficult to talk sense into someone who always blames others. They refuse to see things from someone else’s point of view or own up to their role in things. They think they are right and the world is against them.
  • Emotionally immature people are highly sensitive to things done to them, but are blind to the things they do to others. If they perceive you as wronging them in any way, they retaliate. Yet they expect you to deal with whatever they dish out, including rude and moody behavior. You must accept them as they are, but they cannot accept you you are. More than likely, they often feel persecuted by any behavior they deem as unfair or insensitive. Unfortunately, their perceptions are often very skewed and inaccurate.
  • Emotionally immature people are victims. Bad things happen to them, but their poor choices play no part. Emotionally immature people enjoy playing the role of victim. They refuse to see how their poor choices often lead to consequences. As victims, they will often greatly distort reality, omitting certain things that happened or take words out of context. These emotionally challenged people will often pick partners who will side with them no matter what. They often seek drama because drama allows them to reinforce their victim role and to seek revenge over things that did not play out as they had hoped.
  • Relationships are often short lived. For the emotionally immature, it is challenging to maintain relationships of any substance. The reason is that such people often turn their friends into enemies-over the smallest perceived slight or threat. Compromise is almost impossible for the emotionally immature.

They will cut off ties with people who will not give into them all of the time.

Or people will distance themselves from the emotionally immature, as they tire of their unreasonable demands.images (2).jpg

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