A true friend can have many different good qualities, but the qualities that add up to true friendship may be the most important.
Loyalty is a quality that everyone looks for in a friend.
A loyal friend will stick with you no matter what the situation is and you can always count on them being on your side.
Qualities of a Good Friend:
As you read through these descriptions, envision your friends, and the ones who are truly quality will come to mind every time:
- Your friend is a good listener. She doesn’t interrupt with her own stories, but encourages you to talk as long as you need. She is genuinely interested in you.
- Your friend gives you space. She understands that you need time for other things in your life, and those things don’t endanger your friendship.
- Your friend is forgiving. Maybe, in a fit of exasperation at something else, you were cruel or rude. Your friend understands.
- Your friend is reliable. When your friend says she will do something, she does. You don’t have to worry that she will let you down.
- Your friend supports you through tough times. She shows up at your apartment with a bottle of wine because she knows you’ve had a rough day. She knows how to improve your mood and reduce your stress.
- Your friend is trustworthy. You can tell your friend anything and know that she will keep it to herself.
- Your friend helps you to reach your goals. Need an exercise buddy? She’s there. Need an emergency babysitter so you can attend class? She’s there.
Are You a Good Friend?
Friendship is a give and take.
It’s just as important to be a good friend as it is to have good friends, and it takes time and an openness of self to nurture a quality friendship. You know what qualities you value in your close friends; why not measure your own behavior to see if you could be a better friend? To be the best friend you can be:
- Accept yourself as you are. Be realistic and secure about who you are. Insecurity and self-criticism push friends away.
- Accept others as they are. Don’t judge. When your friends make mistakes, give them a shoulder to cry on, but only give them advice if they ask for it. Don’t belittle them or their choices.
When friends get together, it can be a positive and healing experience. Find the time to connect with your friends often. It’s much more important than a household chore or the latest episode of your favorite TV show. Call a friend for coffee or lunch, or just take a long walk and talk about anything and everything. It may just be the best thing you’ve done for yourself, and your friend, in a long time.