So, what does that title mean, or I should say what is your idea of being kinky mean to you?
But, what about the person your dating, married too, in a relationship with are they kinky? The only way you will find out is to communicate with them and ask them don’t be shy about this subject let’s face “it if your kinky and you know it claps your hands.”
There is no area in saying I am Kinky without feeling it or at least thinking it, right?
So, firstly let’s do a list that you yourself have covered before you bring up a subject about something that you may not understand.
1. Do your own research before you bring up the subject.
2. Use subtle cues to try to engage in a short discussion.
Don’t forget to Challenge your ownself.. it is a turn on…
When you discover that you might be kinky there are a lot of questions surrounding how to accept that.
One of those may be trying to explore that kink with your existing partner.
But how do you bring up the subject and how do you handle what they may say about the ideas you are entertaining?
- Learning you may have kinky desires is not uncommon but dealing with the emotional repercussions can be difficult.
Once you deal with your own emotions and feelings surrounded your new found interests, it may be time to talk to your partner about them.
This can be a very nerve-wracking time for you but worth the effort you are going to put into it, right?
- A lot of partners are willing to try new and adventurous new things if asked.
- Things like light bondage, spanking or Dominant/submissive role play generally is well received for sex play.
- Other activities will require conversations with your partner.
Talk About It with each other
Plan a moment where there won’t be any distraction and talk about your new feelings and desires.
Be honest about it and open for positive and negative responses.
If you need help, get a book or find a few websites online to help you with your discussion.
Don’t give your partner ultimatums, they will need time to understand what you are asking from them and to find out themselves if they are interested.
It’s a change in the relationship they may not have expected, but then it could also be very exciting for them.
Leave Subtle Clues if you’re finding it difficult to bring the subject up with him or her…
Like I mentioned above you can leave a book out for your partner to see, but other things work too.
Magazines that talk about kinky sex play, bookmark pictures of ads that show someone tied up or blindfolded, start leaving links to sites online to educational kink resources like The Iron Gate or Leather and Roses.
Tell your partner your fantasies that involve some kinky things and see how they react. The goal here is to feel things out and see how they may react before talking to them outright.
After the Big Talk
Once you get someone interested in trying something don’t let the ball drop.
- play around,
- be adventurous.
You may find that you both have interests to explore and fun things to do with each other that you never thought possible.
I could bring your relationship closer together and engage a level of intimacy that was not possible before.
Your relationship dynamic could change for the better. Revel in the changes and enjoy yourself.
If Things Go South
Not every situation turns out for the better.
Some people just can’t be kinky and don’t want to entertain your fantasies or relationship desires.
You may have to make a choice to never entertain your desires or to find someone that will.
The hard decisions in life may be ahead for you.
So, be brave select a partner that suits both your ideas, feelings, points, respect, honesty, understanding and most of all your chemistry must be “brilliant”, let’s face it that is the main kicker in surviving a relationship, right?
I suggest you read to get online and sus out a few areas.. I will leave you some great sites to venture and read, read, read, if it turns you on then continue…reading, talking, you must understand this lifestyle is and will only be for those that understand exactly what turns you on about it…
So, click onto the provided link below and start with this first and click onto other areas on that website.. that should make you a little busy.