7 Most Common Fantasies people want!

It is always the Threesome of hope, MMF or FMF, or however, you wish to put those damn letters it seems that it’s so damn common that the oldies down the road have been doing it since the ’60s.

A threesome, in my opinion, is only a threesome if “all” are getting something they want out of it… if you have a fantasy about a kink make sure that the threesome is about all 3.


Mainly because it wouldn’t be a 3 some now would it… many people think having sex with 3 people is all about the female, I have a different view it should be shared mutually and your ego, feelings of being slandered gay, and a women a slut well, then all 3 better find another kink because this little number below is all about the 3 people.

And why the hell NOT!

A hint though… if you are worried about how your perceived, then select better company and voice your thoughts, feelings, and worries out in the open before you enter the play area of this 3 wonderlust fantasy



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1. Group sex

This popular fantasy includes everything from a threesome to a multi-person orgy, and it can include people of any gender.

Why is it so common?

  • Even though you might love and feel close to your partner, each of us desires a full range of experiences, including other people.

“It’s human nature to grow bored with sexual routines—and it’s easy to fall into a routine when you have just one partner for a very long period of time.”

 “Group sex provides an opportunity to spice things up.”

If you find yourself fantasizing about group sex often, he suggests this could signal that your real-life sex life has become predictable.

Other reasons could be that you’re a “sensation seeker” or extrovert.

2. Rough sex

Glued to the TV whenever 50 Shades of Grey is on?

  • You’re not alone. Millions of people fantasize about participating in the rough action, such as S&M (sadism and masochism) or BDSM (bondage, discipline, submission, and sadomasochism).

“BDSM is a popular sexual desire in part because participating in it changes your state of mind.

“People who take on submissive roles experience an escape from self-awareness, while those who take on dominant roles experience enhanced focus.

In both cases, these psychological changes make you less likely to be distracted and, therefore, more likely to let go and enjoy the experience.”

Many of us experience some kind of power dynamic in our day-to-day lives, and playing with that dynamic in our sexual lives can be therapeutic and liberating.

For some, it’s a way of dealing with sexual anxiety.

BDSM experiences often feel as though they take place in a separate reality, where anything is possible– you may be fantasizing about BDSM because you’re seeking something unexpected.

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3. Thrill-seeking, adventurous sex

Turns out boredom is behind this sexual fantasy as well. “Thrill-seeking activities are largely popular for the same reason as group sex: They help to fend off boredom in the bedroom,”

. “Having sex in new locations and trying new positions or activities has the potential to amp up our arousal and give us those feelings of excitement that we crave.”

Sex on a beach, anal sex, joining the mile high club, and bringing food into the bedroom are other examples of fantasies that are all about increasing novelty and excitement.

If it’s your favorite fantasy theme, it could signal that you’re looking for a break from your routine sex life, or that you’re trying to find some sort of escape.


4. Fetishes and taboo sex acts

“A big part of the reason taboo activities are appealing is that we come to want what we’re told we can’t have,”

“This is a basic principle of psychology called reactance, and it applies to both sexual and non-sexual things. If you tell people not do something, no matter what it is, this is going to make some people want to do it.”

Taboos or fetishes:

  • think to be a peeping Tom or finding sexual gratification in an object, like shoes or nylon stockings
  • might also be tempting if you’re part of a social group that has strict rules about appropriate sexual behavior.


5. Non-monogamous sex

Open relationships and polyamory are increasingly acceptable lifestyle choices for lots of couples—and they’re sexual fantasies for many people who are in traditional monogamous relationships.

Desiring a non-monogamous relationship “is not just about meeting sexual needs, but fulfilling various emotional and intimate needs, too,”.

. “Nonmonogamy is appealing to many people because it’s hard for one partner to be everything to us in all ways.”

Lehmiller says that a person who has non-monogamy fantasies might be someone whose sexual or romantic needs aren’t being met.

On the other hand, it could also suggest that you’re more extroverted, or you don’t tend to get jealous.


6. Passionate, romantic sex

This fantasy theme is about the trappings of seduction: candlelit dinners, mind and body intimacy, and a partner who deeply desires you.

“Feeling wanted and connected to other people is a basic human need,”

. “Our sexual relationships have the potential to fulfill this need by demonstrating in clear and unambiguous terms that we are desired.”

Having a partner who is intensely passionate about you.

It is a great way of validating our need for social belonging and intimacy.

If you find yourself fantasizing about sexual passion, it’s possible that you don’t feel desired enough in real life.

People who do not feel good about themselves or their relationships are more likely to fantasize about adding passion to their lives.


7. Homoerotic sex and gender-bending

Fantasies involving someone of the same gender can be very surprising for some people, and it may make them question their own sexual orientation.

But while issues with sexual orientation might be driving the fantasy, Lehmiller believes it’s more a response to a ho-hum sex life.

“Testing the boundaries of your gender and sexual orientation can be sexually appealing for a few reasons,”.

“Obviously, one is introducing some novelty or excitement.

However, another is breaking a taboo—doing something that you’re not ‘supposed’ to do.”

Curiosity about trying something different or escaping society pressure to conform are potential factors.img_4153

How to indulge your fantasy IRL

Having a conversation with your partner about the fantasy scenario raging in your head can be challenging and nerve-wracking.

Understandably, you’re worried about being met with uncomfortable silence. And rejection on the part of your significant other can have deep emotional repercussions.

Lehmiller suggests going about it like this. “Consider sharing your ‘vanilla’ fantasies first—the ones that you think your partner would be most likely to be on board with,” he says.

“Building up trust and comfort with each other can help lay the groundwork for sharing—and maybe even exploring—more adventurous desires later on.”

It’s important to be comfortable with your fantasies before you can communicate it to your partner and act on it.



“A lot of times, people don’t share their fantasies because of their own personal feelings of guilt, anxiety, or embarrassment.

“In cases like this, you need to figure out how to come to terms with your desires. Professional counseling might be warranted in some cases because tackling shame can be a tough thing to do on your own.”

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