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Shaving Away “Toxic Masculinity”


Now let’s talk about the new ad that seems to be causing so much of a ruckus!!!

To be perfectly honest I like this video I am still from that generation that believes in a male does have many rights of him being a man his honour, pride and sense of judgement will only come from his understandings while he grows.

This means if you do not allow a child to go through bullying, up against butt heads, and doffuses, I often wonder what type of male are you bringing into this world?

You would hope that there would be many different levels of shades but, it does go back to a lot of things as I am not a male however, my brother was disabled and if I which I did fight a lot of his fights as a child at home and in the playground there where times I walked away with him screaming at me saying help me, but, I had to because he had to understand what happens to another person if you do fight their battles for them!! 

Plus, just so you are all aware I knew the difference who he was up against as well, so he had a fair argument or fight with a few that really all you had to do is blow in their general direction… all I had to do is jump high and bounce on top of them usually with me hanging on their back and yelling “You touch my brother Bradley Denchem, Richard Hawley  and you will cop it from me… (like I used to do because I was a rather tiny little tot) he ended up finding out that they where easy to beat… always look out for your family and friends.. just saying 🙂

Usually, I would be thrown off and laughted at however, I was always given a hand to get up off the ground by them… so go figure… it taught me alot.. it made my laugh alot.. sorry I actually laughted alot at those numb nuts.. however, so did they at me… great mates as kids btw.. not a day went by that my knees, nor my head didn’t have a few black and blue marks.. but, I would never look at them as anything but, me being a bratt saving my brothers sorry sooky ass.. However, I will say one thing my brother saw me do it and what do you think with time he did? 

Yup, well, he had this shitty habbit and I had to never discount his brave nature he would find the biggest bully and say, this, oh god, “I am not scared of you, just because you can fight doesnt mean I wont be able to beat you, then he would laugh, hmm,” some how not so funny, really, and not that easy to get him away from “those bullies”, however, somehow I was always there.. god damn it… many, many, many, many, did I say many? Times…god shit poo… lol

We are not perfect however, us women should start being more feminine there seem to be too many females acting like males on behalf of our men that we spend our lives with.

I am one of them I said to my husband the other night if anyone hurts you emotionally, that is my main objection when it comes to him that they will be mine to take on because of that isn’t okay!

Blaming and shaming, one another especially our males isn’t cool, they require us to love them, support them, tell them that they are valued, which is something I have noticed that I do not do enough for my own husband.

That also will change!
When your a single mother or a girl that really only had herself to deal with the world it is difficult to step back and say nothing I so get that!

Very difficult for us to say nothing because frankly we are female and we end up saying too much it is hard for us to learn a new behaviour that will benefit as long as the person your withholds your hand and allows himself to trust you.

Trust is the answer and so is communication with every person on this Earth, without talking to one another how are we going to grow and understand how each other feels about things?  We cannot expect everyone to be “us” we have to forgive, we have to listen we have to adapt and perhaps learn a few new understandings, we cannot assume everyone should be mind readers, we are not your parents we did not hurt you, abandon you, we say things to one another that at times isn’t okay!

I know I seem to assume, put my 2 pennies worth of crap in, I tend to think that I know best all because of nothing but my own shit!  I get on my high horse and rant, rave, yell, a mindset of blocking others out and listening mostly to negative unrealistic bullshit!

I cut people off and hear a bit of a sentence then interrupt and say, yup say no more I then ramble about me… whoops, bad, not good, and it does not make friends either!!

Try to stop, listen and not judge others because you might be surprised to find out what really is ticking in a place that could potentially hinder, hurt and lame another person by muting their existence!

Not cool!

Change happens within a millisecond of saying nothing, so try and say little by allowing those that know about themselves by listening and allowing a female to be a female and letting a male be mindful of his needs because our men can be hurt too just like us girls.

  • Men are so silent it scares me to death to think what the hell is it that ticks them off!
    Men are so silent is it possible they have been hurt like us girls?
  • Can men be raped like us women? What do you think? Absolutely, and do you hear them cry? Do you hear them say a word to anyone?

Imagine if you allowed your thoughts to go there for a moment that our men can be hurting inside just like us girls.. how would you feel?

So, the Gillette is not a bad video… get grip wingers!!!

I like this video I still think that us women have alot of understanding and we must be aware that we could be better ourselves!!

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Gillette commercial that has so many people up in arms.

I couldn’t for the life of me understand what was so wrong about it.

To me, the idea of the commercial was to challenge one another to be better human beings.

To not be a bystander when there are toxic behaviours happening all around you.  Frankly, I loved the message

Spoiler alert for how the rest of the conversation went: He did NOT share my view.

His take was this:

  • He sees women as a protected class.
  • What would happen, he pondered, if the commercial implied that women were toxic?
  • His suspicion and I think he might be right here, is that Gillette would be done for. From his perspective, Gillette and the rest of the world are picking on guys like him.
  • Good guys that can’t walk around without feeling like they have done something wrong because they have male genitalia.
  •  He is sick of being portrayed as the bad guy all the time.
  • Even in trying to defend himself as one of the good guys, he felt that he came across as defending “toxic” behaviours.

He wasn’t being toxic.

He was just being him.

A man. And there is nothing inherently toxic

about that.

I get his point.

The trouble, as I see it, is the assignment of the word “toxic” to any particular gender.

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Women too can be toxic. Particularly where gossip is concerned.
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Toxicity is toxicity.

Males certainly don’t have a monopoly on bad behaviours.

Perhaps we need to rethink the assignment of the term “toxic masculinity,” as the definition is too easily expanded to offend people like my friend who feels as if his whole gender is under attack.

Toxicity doesn’t belong to a gender any more than it can be exclusively assigned to skin colour.

In fact, females, are often the drivers of exactly the behaviours we label as being “toxic” in males.

Female mate selection is complicated, but the driving characteristics of “good mates” haven’t changed throughout evolutionary history.

Females today demonstrate the same preferences for their sexual partners as their ancestors did. In short, we want protectors.

In experimental settings, women are generally more attracted to males with higher testosterone, and more aggressive/dominant tendencies.

Hmmm….in reality this means that as females, we may be selected for some of the behaviours we label as “toxic masculinity.”

While not a perfect correlation by any means, high testosterone is linked to extramarital affairs, high sex drive, aggression and fighting.

These “toxic behaviours” might be the direct result of our selections.

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What message of “toxic femininity” might be sent by various magazines to their largely female audiences?

And what of the toxic femininity?

What do we do to one another as females?

As I was drinking my coffee this morning, I found myself flipping through one of my “girly” magazines.

I began noticing all the ways it made me feel imperfect.

All the other smiling females that looked back judgingly at me from the interior pages – all skin glowing, and tight stomachs, and perfectly shiny hair and makeup and I began to realize that this was the equivalent of males flexing at one another.

The readership of this magazine is 91% female.

These pages were made for me, to demonstrate how a female should look.

This could easily be labelled as toxic femininity.

Is there anything wrong with being in shape, and pretty and smiling?

Of course not! But could it be toxic in its interpretation by me?

  • Absolutely.

The idea that I had to meet some standard of perfection in order to be feminine is certainly a toxic formula – perhaps the same formula we assign to men (must you demonstrate your testosterone-laden tendencies in order to be masculine?).

  • Do females abuse one another with these standards?
  •  Do we gossip and put one another down and hurt each other by spreading vicious rumours?

Absolutely.

Do we weaponize sex, and use it as a powerful tool to get what we want?

More than most of us will care to admit.

These behaviours aren’t exclusively feminine any more than bullying, catcalling, and abuse of power is exclusively masculine.

I’m not justifying behaviours on either side.

In fact, I’m condemning them on both sides.

There are toxic behaviours in the world. And certainly, some are demonstrated by one gender at disproportionately higher rates than the other, but it is the behaviour itself, not the gender that needs the label.

  • Yes, sexual harassment is toxic.
  • Yes, bullying is toxic.
  • Yes, intentionally hurting another human without cause is toxic.

 

But perhaps we need to put the labels in the right place.

On the behaviours.

We will need males and females as equal advocates in a fight to make the world a better, less toxic world for everyone.

Inner Belief in your own self…


A journey of no expectations, unselfish thoughts of one’s self by being honest about how you see the world and then having a little bit of selfishness by saying “I really like you, I enjoy your company, I actually love your whole entire living spirit”.

That little paragraph above is the most effortless emotion and feeling in my heart and soul and it is easy to feel it, say it and what a relief my inner self-belief is still present the funny thing I would like to share with you, is this!dancing

I never, ever, felt that it wasn’t, get out of here…

How do I explain the above emotions that I feel deeply, that is really hard for me to put it in a sentence, sigh!

Sometimes, your values obviously as time passes they rise and they fall with every moment of your existence or experience I should say, a bit like that old negative emotional sadness of being let down,  feeling real, again?

However, the pain in your past only occurs to those that cannot understand you or are so selfish and negative, insecure, I could list them but, for some reason these days if I list a negative thought, it does bring me down.download (3).jpg

But, the difference is I notice it and I let it go now!!

And guess what I can breath and smile and laugh and feel better about me and now it is okay if others don’t I am happy for me, yay at last!

The last month or so … my poor body, I felt tired, old, run down so damn spent, I really had no more gas in the tank!

Stress and your environment will definitely kill you, the age you and damn well, run that body down to just about empty and looking pretty shabby!

The heat in Australia is like shit a brick, Hot as Hell, but, I love it however, I do love airconditioning too 🙂203c226d99520dfbd454b6b999abcd60--google-images-do-want.jpg

I have these amazing overwhelming moments of “please mother of this universe don’t let me do this solo, I am begging you, I know I would be able to but, a tiny bit of hope glimpses in and warms my heart as says, here Franny, I am giving something kind to you back will you take it…

I give you a one or two like-minded, kind, never hurt you or you them, to share your wisdom, understanding, love, trust, endless good feeling of hope and joy until the day you all die!

And the tears of joy and that relief of feeling, at last, we can be ourselves and enjoy what is left without fear, without judgement without feeling that someone is going to hurt anyone again that too I is the best gift I could give myself and those that deserve it too.817nvQgfBcL._SX522_.jpg

A family isn’t always about blood it can be if you’re lucky, however, if you be the best you can be by just being honest and real, never perfect, we can all have warts and parts of ourselves isn’t that great I know, I am a shit head hehe

But, that isn’t the point of this post it is that thought of being able to believe in yourself and if by any stretch of the imagination being able to have a bit of hope for others too.

This isn’t really what I wanted to say but, who cares… you get the gist….of it… it felt nice to feel a similar feeling of the same thing that to me is priceless, if you cannot understand me it doesn’t matter, just know that I am finally at peace with me again…

However, you, well that may take time lol HA!!!!

Anywho, enjoy your Friday people…

How do we Empower ourselves…


What a question… How do we Empower ourselves in believing we are Unique…

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There is no power apart from your own self.. this isn’t Ego, this isn’t Self-praise this is just simply how you see yourself and others.

Firstly, you must open your eyes, you must be totally honest about yourself and what you want, what you see, how you grow, who you want in your life…

People and positive affirmations are amazing, however, people and negative affirmations aren’t, we tend to get bogged down, doubt ourselves, we end up being miserable and sad about ourselves when those that feel the same way will, of course, have negative empowerment over you.img_4780.jpg

So, how do we do it… well, sometimes we just have to fix ourselves first, we can say how we feel, winge, moan, scream, yell, argue, bellow and continue this feeling by being right…

Or do we just go okay, let me take some time out and invest in myself and go over if I need to my past just to make sure all things are okay?

Or we go Of course they are okay because I am okay…

What I am trying to say to you is we can only change ourselves for the better make sure everything is working well, because even if it isn’t well, we certainly will make sure it is..

Our minds are the main memory of our pain, our happiness, our humour, our ups and our downs.. so why wouldn’t it be okay?

Many people including me said, but, that hurt me, and why are they mean, or perhaps my past made me strong, or I would say you dont understand who I am an what I did to be who I am…

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Guess what… so?

 

Guess what… and?

 

Guess what… are you finished with the winging and the moaning about how sad you are of yourself because something happened and I am going to find out no matter what it takes..

 

Guess what… And?

 

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Guess what… will it make a difference?

 

Guess what NO, it won’t so get over it and let it go… for whatever it was… that hurt you, that made you sad, that took something away..

 

We have all had something like this taken away…  Guess what …. Life is short and you are beautiful.. so live your life with love and get on with your beautiful journey.

 

GUESS WHAT YOU DESERVE IT…. 🙂

 

SMILE…. AND LET YOUR SADNESS GO….. LIVE, LOVE AN LET IT GO….

This is what I do… I find a video that makes me smile and think yup that is me…. in so many beautiful flavours… I am not here to change you …

I am only here to like you , love you, believe in you and never judge you, hurt you, make you sad, or anything other than happy…

So, do yourselves a favour and try and be kind to kind people because there isnt enough of us out there… xxx

So I could be your CRUSH, TOUCH, TOUCH, CRUSH xxx Keep watching the videos after it all are valid to the above post I have just posted…

“A CANDII-DO”, You can reclaim ,Your Sex Life After Surviving Sexual Assault…


Hey Candii here, HERE is a little of my story and what I did to heal….

True Story I am 50 years old and to be honest I have my good days and my shit days.. but, in most my days are better than they have been in a very long time…

A very long time ago (before I met my husband) this as taken me a long time to be “out” about this as it took me a very long time to understand what Once I thought I had dealt with I really didn’t at all.

I too am a survivor of rape, sexual assault and I have to say yes, sex, love, trust, happiness, strength about yourself more importantly and those that you wish to exchange your trust with or just your husband or partner this is up to you..

I must explain further about your sexual understanding and how to overcome some ASSHOLE that took something from you all because he may have slipped a mickey in your food, drink or cracked it up while swirling it around in your Esspresso Martini???!?!?!

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These seven tips may not be for everyone, but they’re methods that I found to be indispensable in helping to make sex a fun, positive experience again.

Take as Much “Time to Heal” as you want

Prior to my attacks, I prided myself on being sex positive and adventurous a little odd, crazy, some would say stupid I grant you this however, why on earth would I give some fool that much intent of taking away my life?

Well, some did take away my life for a very long time indeed but, is it right?

 

Should they take away your beautiful nature?

Why on earth would we allow anyone to rip our hearts out and shit all over it … all because they or him or them are too smaller man to ever allow themselves a place in your heart, soul and dont think for one moment I don’t get it… I do…

So, In fact you do (when your ready) NEED to tell someone police if you wish, a therapist, doctor, a close dear friend becaue your life does matter.. and what they did or he did whoever it was NEVER allow anyone to destroy your inner spirit.

It took me a very long time to be present I was so used to sweeping my bad memories under the carpet like it was nothing but, just another day that made me feel like it was my fault..

That feeling “my fault” wow, sad hey!

Jesus, how many times I heard myself say that to me was countless, it was like me saying to god, are you punishing me, again?

So, I would think to myself alone mostly I would say, “there must be something I have to learn about me”?

Shite …. I had many moments (let’s call them that) that I said that about saying to god over and over, of course god had nothing to do with my feeling of despair about myself I was more harder on me than any person on this planet could be…

So, I guess what I am trying to say “YOUR NOT ALONE, Ladies, Men and yes, men too…”

 

How to heal your own body after sexual abuse

Everyone heals differently, I found that healing was removing it from my brain however, because I did this I never seemed to understand or see “dangers” it was a given that it would occur again and again until I was present to understanding or at least recognising moments of terror or anxiety or even those horrid moments of “Triggered them”.

Healing was in fact understanding how to recogise events that did not suit my needs and gave me alarm bells of being more present within myself, my surroundings and those I hung out with.. this took me years upon years to even notice them!

Being fun, crazy, bubbly isnt about being any of those great emotions it’s about opening your eyes to surroundings, behaviours, language and everything that you should do but, a didnt this means your alert, it means you are not being present within your ownself and you are putting your needs above all others.

And this is called growth, understanding, awareness, and finally self worth of you, so please understand you cannot heal until your worth is more important to you than any person on this planet…

Without you being worthy then you will not heal and you will repeat all those terrible things because frankly your self worth, of you isnt your priority and you MUST be present by loving yourself first..

Don’t Be Afraid to be sexual…. it is your right!!!

While many people might find solace in entering a trusting, monogamous relationship with a person who can help them explore their sexuality in a safe and patient environment, others can find that to be too big of a step to take at this stage. Making yourself open to consensual sexual experiences and being in complete control of them can be liberating as a coping method. It can also help to restore your faith and trust in sexual contact and relationships.

However, this is allowing your thoughts be free and then your trust in yourself on what you want to do either as a single girl, partnered, or experimental all these things are your life right to be a female.

Now be safe when picking a potential partner, fuck buddy, gal play mate, male play mate all the above whichever floats your boat…

Use a trusted friend that has your back or a system for yourself and even if you do meet someone make sure your with a mate that has your back or at least do it during the day in public and of course always have a back up plan if it ever goes sour…

Be Vocal About What You want, desire

Whether you’re having sex with a long term partner, a buddy, or a fun fling, you should never be afraid to speak up about what you’re enjoying and what you’re not. Take control over your body, your pleasure, and the moment by telling your lover what to do and where to do it. Tell them to stop if something feels wrong. Being demanding and domineering during sex can be insanely sexy for the person you’re doing it with. Most importantly, it gives you the chance to direct the experience in a way that’s healthy, positive and pleasurable.

DO NOT –  Apologize  (still working on this one)

The process of recovering from a sexually traumatic experience can be longer than we expect. Although we may think that we’re completely over it, sometimes the smallest thing can trigger a response that can restrict our enjoyment or desire for sex.

Personally, I’ve had entire months where I’ve not been comfortable enough to want sex, which must be tough on my long-term partner who has been nothing but patient and supportive for over 20 years that we’ve been a monogamous couple.

Our relationship from the beginning I must admit was head scratching however, kinky as it might sound (which is another post one day) there where times now looking back I must admit I should have thought twice..(get it twice – oh, never mind)

The outcome for me was me sobbing in the shower crying thinking I was a bad person and deserved the way I was being treated.. however, it wasnt bad to me I liked it I may not have understood alot about myself but, I would never had stayed if I didnt.

I am a very open honest and a little bit odd female what I like others wont.. so I can only be true to me.. and that is exactly what I love about myself..

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Remember ladies, gents… we all have the freedom and the power to say no.

If they care about you then they’ll respect and understand the nuances of the word without requiring your desire for absolution from it.

Negotiate Pleasure

This is especially important for those in a monogamous, long-term relationship with someone.

Negotiate, talk with each other, even do a contract like “50 Shades” if you wish together a list of fun, naughty, what you would do and wouldnt do and always remember to have loads of fun…..

 

Make sure you heal, be present and always, always put yourself first….this can open the doors to exploring their comfort zones and to enjoying the provision of pleasure for someone else without immediate gratification for yourself.

Be generous.

Be creative.

Be open honest and love yourself ladies, men, young women…. LOVE YOURSELF first…

Follow your instincts and you’ll be one step closer to understanding and achieving your own comfortable pleasure on a regular basis. 

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Here is a suttle reminder to my fellow sisters out there…. let me know if you agree?


Endless, love, appreciation, devotion, honoured, Blessed and many other flavours that I would spend my entire life saying, until well, until a bit of rat bag behavior came pouring back into a mans viens like water out of a hose..:)

 

If I could put the above title or jibber-jabber into a longer word and as you can see I did try my best and guess what?

I guess it would be simply a thank you, for many things mostly something I had never seen .. isn’t it funny or strange and a little sad, really, when you never see something or have felt something you take longer to understand it???

Us ladies, we are so lucky at times, we can winge, moan, carry on like a pork chop, cry, and sob our eyes out with emotion and our sadness is heard 3 blocks away.. (lol)

Now men, well, they rarely cry, if ever, show any type of human emotion, when someone dies they hold it together, they work such long hours, their bodies are black and blue, and the result of many men who work they do end up with many injuries and they still stay silent..go figure..

Us women, we whine about why they don’t show emotion, we yell at them for not listening when those clever males have an inbuilt and so they should, the mechanism to shut that door of anything other than, a grunt of acknowledgement.  And then us women because we are the most annoying, pestering termites of no appreciation we ask them the stupidest question…

Did you even hear me?

If you did hear me then what did I say?

Now we know that question above is condescending, very mother-like behaviour, and we do know he will snap off our heads like we are Twiggs, but, we have to go there don’t we?

Why?

I believe we end up being thrown into a child tunnel vision mode and by the time you even have any energy left after the 6 kids, of course, all born 10 minutes apart are fed, bathed, clothed and rocked to sleep then we have a little opening to breath, shit and fart out our little we have left to spend with our hard-working bridge trolls..download (4)

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However, both can and will test us it is human nature…to a point. I have do have this thought behind my thoughts.. my husband’s nature is a real smart assed and very beautiful when he is in the mood, however, he does seem to press those bloody buttons of I will kill you while you sleep lol

I love him so….. more than he knows…. which I do believe he does…..

I will say I have never wanted to change him .. can’t say he didn’t want me out of the picture from time to time… but, that is another story…

I am sure at times that grave was shovelled to a fine art and I am certainly sure he has even grafted it with retainers and cement on the sides so I am surely going to be laid to rest and never be risen by walking soulless zombies…. another terrible joke..

More another day….. it is about time……… healed and it doesn’t hurt… go figure…

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You will know when it doesn’t hurt

 

HOW TO BE A GOOD SUB…


Oh, thank you, Dom-Sub Living, for sending me this which I will share to the rest of the girls who follow me…

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  • Know that being a sub is a lot of work, mentally, emotionally, and sexually. Make sure you are up for the challenge.
  • Don’t serve apathetically or reluctantly. Show that you truly desire to be owned.
  • Strive to please your Dom in all things, not just sexually. This means that you may have to give up some of your own personal freedoms and preferences.
  • Aim to conduct yourself in a respectful and modest manner at all times, recognizing that your behaviour is a direct reflection on your Dom.
  • Don’t “top from the bottom”, or try to undermine your Dom’s decisions to get your own way.
  • The best and simplest response is usually, “Yes, Sir (or Master, Daddy, etc.).”
  • Always remember that you should be making your Dom’s life easier, not harder.
  • Proactively think about what your Dom needs in any given moment, and try your best to fulfil it.
  • Obey rules to the best of your ability, but if discipline is necessary you should take it willingly.
  • Take great pride in the health and presentation of your body, since you are a representation of your Dom.
  • A good sub craves being used, serving, and giving up control.

Xenical… a reminder to ask before diving in…


Xenical (orlistat) is a gastrointestinal lipase inhibitor used to help with weight loss by preventing the digestion and absorption of fat in food by inhibiting the enzyme lipase in the intestine. Common side effects of Xenical include:

Tell your doctor if you experience serious side effects of Xenical including blood in your urine, urinating less than usual or not at all, drowsiness, confusion, mood changes, increased thirst, swelling, weight gain, feeling short of breath, severe pain in your upper stomach spreading to your back or fast heart rate.

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In this case, Pineapple would have no effect.. on the above medicine when licking I would ask before doing…

Xenical is taken as oral capsules. Xenical may reduce the absorption and blood levels of cyclosporine when both drugs are administered together. Xenical may also cause vitamin K levels to decline, and patients taking warfarin (Coumadin) must have their blood clotting monitored closely. The safety of Xenical in pregnancy and nursing mothers has not been determined.

Our Xenical Side Effects Drug Center provides a comprehensive view of available drug information on the potential side effects when taking this medication.

“Twatts Up People”


Can Pineapple Really Change the Way Your Vagina Tastes?

Now before I start this I have just got to realise that some people need a right slap on the back of the head kind of slapping…Image result for pineapples

I mean to say that it seems okay for those that come creeping into a house to get some thinking that they are not seen (yeah, right!)

Then on top of that “Pineapple” is the cure for some Vagina tastes that are off… then for some reason a barmaid says would you like a pineapple dacarri like it came out of no-where anyway…It really doesn’t fall far from the tree… now does it…

Today I may as well, never mind removed what I would normally say to them both….

I hate myself sometimes…… anyhoo, here it is ladies… best to go to the Doctor… check it out …

Mine is normal however, it seems that Pineapple and Fruit is something I require myself from time to time…

I do love Xenical from time to time at the moment I am not on this wonder drug so proceed if your willing lol funny as hell……

oh, dear me..

Twatts up, ladies”

Keep your Stink out of your Pink…

 

This is now the time to be present and begin this Journey today..


Lets talk about being Present within yourself and within those that you share you lives with socially and explisitly, without judgement, bullshit, just enjoy and have so bloody fun..

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They blame you instead and think it is funny….

We do deserve to be ourselves… we are not caged animals..are we??

Your journey, my journey, the popes journey we all have them and those that understand what that means in fact understand we all have limitations in our lives, however, this isnt about limitations…. I am talking about no LIMITATIONS.. going forward….

In fact let’s be real for a moment

We get to a point in our lives that we go on our personal journeys some include people that are the same mind set.. you would hope… some prefer to go naked and find new ones… some love that same simular smart mouthed larikin… I am one of those.. so is my hubby however, we also love to socialise with new exciting people who love life..

So, let’s shift and start doing because we should now be ready to walk side by side and enjoy life, right?life-quotes-inspiration-i-just-want-friendship-we-have-something-so-special-and-both-be-through-so-muc

I am ready, I know my hubby is… are you?

I had the best weekend and the efforts of my own self was firstly the most powerful, gob smacking, speechless, and devine moment I have had thus far…

In fact, I wanted to just stop and breath in this amazing awareness that I experienced I felt safe, I had no noise, I thought for one moment that my age was back as a young women where I seemed to really let go of things easier… or at least quicker..

However, this feeling was much better… Let me tell you

So, what is it going to take to be present and take that leap of faith?deep-connection-friendships

So, for me, my gorgeous, husband and hopefully anyone else that wishes to put up with our bad inappropriate behaviour, opinionated beliefs, excellent humour, and frankly we are pretty friggin annoying… couple but, yes any other that wishes to jump on board our pink jumbo elephant then by all means.. do so…

So from today which indeed I believe that we are all ready.. to have so bloody fun or at least get dressed up go out into this perth city and find a bar, view, beach, bottle of wine and have some really good fun.

Laughing, is the best start to any journey with those that you care enough about, get along with and have no limitations to expressing whatever you wish to say, feel, joke about with life can and will always be as hard and difficult as you wish… nothing is garenteed and that is what our entire life has been based on…

Below is all those emotions that we tend to have within us… have a look.. and embrace, and trust yourself… nothing to be lost… everything to be loved..

………………so what are you waiting for?? I am so excited to walk with a better skip rather than hesitation anymore.. done and dusted… let’s go and have some bloody fun… okay ?

BTW… nice choice of music xxx

A Woman’s Heart is a Deep Ocean of Secrets…


So many men think women want money, cars and gifts.

But the right women wants a man’s time, effort, passion, honesty, loyalty, smile, and him choosing to put her as a Priority that is “Hell Sexy”, beautifully honest, tear jerking friggin simply sexy as fck

 

A reflection of ones life….

This is how each other should look at one another….. this song is me… right down to the damn friggin ground… I love how raw it is and how raw they both are… simply beautifully honest!!!  ……. simply raw, simply human…

I think your beautiful… just be you….. wow, that is simply honest, truth, beautiful….

 

 

This song……. is mine….

 

I havent thought about this for a very long time in fact so long I can’t even remember who it was, but I do remember how and where I was when it hurt like someone had ripped out my beating heart and made it worth nothing but, their ego, something that was worthless and it was something I was never going to use again…

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Funny that paragraph above I think us women those who really feel deeply we think we wont feel again but, for some reason it’s not part of our DNA.

So, we do a few things in life I guess we watch like a hawk, we pace ourselves to look around we tend to lightly tip toe before our feelings again are hindered.

Why?

I am Confident because I can admit who I am, what Ive done, and love myself for who Ive become.

Because each time we break something leaves our spirit and without our knowledge we do tend to be a little numb around those because heart throbbing moments when your mind, soul and heart leads before you even know what hit you!

So, the question is my beautiful bloggers how many times did my heart really break?1521830997_life-quotes-inspiration-30-inspirational-quotes-for-the-women-who-are-strong-at-heart-trend-to-wear.jpg

Hmmm, well, my secret, my deeply covered moments that we all have but for me it was like my stomach had done a flip and my head was a little giddy and it scared the shit out of me…..

This occurred to me a few times in my later years…. after 28 years old, so what did I do, I was too busy trying to be a mum, trying to stop ferral men bitting my ass cuz, their 6 pack was their trophies…

I had no time to stop and smell the roses so to be honest – I have no idea all I know I did feel moments, however, I could not allow it to destroy me!

Why?

Because, just because…..of many reasons… 383f4aaba84ed577a940d05606c656ed--inspring-quotes-confident-woman.jpg

I believe in strength of living, loving, sharing moments, my heart feels, loves, beats, we are all only human this is the beauty of being a women..

Never play with a womens heart, once broken it will destroy her soul… it isn’t a game of popularity, it isnt a game that anyone wins… hearts and souls are not toy’s they are parts of your body that makes you whole…

I am the type of person that will sit in the bathroom and cry, but, then walk out like nothing ever happened..

Never Play with a Womens Heart…

“Never play with Feelings of others, because you may win the game but, you’ll surely lose the person forever…”

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What if you don’t even know… hmm?


The going consensus is that women in the lifestyle are either bi-curious or bisexual…

What if women don’t know if they are anything other than what they know?

Seriously, unless you are married to a person who questions I dunno, pretty much everthing that god has said not too… (shucks) If it was up to me remove the damn labels and find out for ourselves… this is also for men as well.. go figure how hard is life .. seriously people… moving on….images

Even though that may be very true for many, others still don’t wish for things to be labeled as there are only bi-sexual ladies in the lifestyle. After all, the lifestyle thankfully allows for variety in every single way imaginable!

Girls, Girls, Girls

A little research on this topic at travel events reveals that there are also those who can just appreciate a beautiful woman while still being very straight.

Then there are those who like to just kiss another woman without it going into a full-on sex session too. Of course, that could be somewhat of a stretch as at events, limits and boundaries are somewhat flexible.

Why is that?

Well, because apparently, and this comes from the mouth of the ladies themselves:

  • Women do kiss differently than men!
  • Really?
  • Yes, I am not that way atm… however, I have experienced women’s kisses… shock!! I have??? Nooooooo me who is straight god hell.. what is life going to do to me now???
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If I turned around so many things would have been different, would it? Probably, maybe, who would know, maybe better than you think!

 

Many ladies experimented in their younger years with their girlfriends. Word of mouth only goes so far after all!

They do???

No???

LOL, jesus, seriously?

So, What Gives?

When asked, it was mentioned that there is a significant difference in experience when kissing a woman instead of a man.

Kissing a woman is described as:

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  • just a bit lovelier, quite softer and deeper with a beautiful layer of delicacy. So now that we know that, do those kissing women then want to get “kissed” to change into a bisexual lady perhaps?

The answer, give or take a few: Oh no, not at all, of course the more the merrier, but it’s also awesome to be able to just kiss a beautiful woman without it having to go any further than that. No other expectations, period.

But do Women Prefer Women over Men?

The next logical question is: Do women prefer a woman’s kiss over the kiss of a man? And the answer again is no, it’s just considered different and more of a nice addition. Well, all in all, the men don’t seem to mind… On the contrary, a look, a flirt, a kiss, a touch and who knows where things will lead.

That very first kiss between women, what makes it so special? At SDC travel events you can witness this magic happen all the time. Threesomes and foursomes and moresomes are not an uncommon result either. Absolutely nothing is wrong with that, so by all means, if and when the urge hits you, kiss away ladies!

Each to their own I believe, baby steps, don’t beat yourselves up, and never, ever think life is as difficult as most would seem to think!

We are only human beings living in a world that seems to have everything bit like a candystore.. right so, please don’t make it harder than it should be by making it more difficult for each other.

Love and Trust, never say things like…. I don’t care if, or I am not bothered, or Never say to your wife… he or she is off limits because the question is why?

If you just relax a bit let them think … let them go .. if your not open to everything then stay home and watch a movie because if your not open.. then the door stays shut..

It is as simple or difficult as you make it.. if you start dictating to each other what you think it should be.. it does become quite difficult to understand each other and the next thing you both do is disconnect!9bcf8fe9f858a35a5bc9bbde2b4e3ddb

So, please pace yourselves…. relax….. and take your time…. be mindful of each others minds and hearts…. always allow one another to think for themselves and never tell each other that what they think and feel is wrong..

Let them work it out… for themselves 🙂

Candii xxx

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How to Talk About Sex!


Sex Quirks We All Share

(Even If We Won’t Admit It)

Oral sex isn’t always about getting on your knees and puckering up. Some of the best oral sex (think long-term payoff) can be taken care of standing up or sitting at the dinner table—through real, honest communication. Getting oral with your partner is probably the most important thing you can do to cultivate a red-hot sexual relationship. So start talking!

It may not be easy to do, but the more you practice, the easier it gets. If a topic is awkward, use these four tips to get started:

Talk when the time is right.

Initiating a serious conversation about sex right before you’re about to get hot and heavy isn’t always ideal. You’re more likely to rush through the discussion if your goal is really to get down to business. So set some time aside when sex is off the table: Start talking about sex while you’re out for coffee, having lunch, or driving to work.

Be honest with yourself first.

To communicate effectively with your partner, you first need to know exactly what you want. Take some time to jot down your needs as well as your biggest fears. Bring these to the table when you talk to your partner and be honest about your vulnerabilities and uncertainties.

Talking openly about your insecurities helps your partner understand your perspective and reduces the likelihood that you’ll manifest those issues in an untoward (and less attractive) manner at a later date.

Make requests, not complaints.

Talk about your hottest turn-ons and steadfast turn-offs, but be mindful that sex is a highly sensitive subject.

Frame your statements in terms of personal feelings, as opposed to attacks and accusations. If there is something your partner does that drives you crazy (and not in a good way), try expressing yourself in terms of preference rather than criticism: “I prefer when you suck hard as opposed to tickling with just the tip of your tongue.” Straightforwardness and tact need not be mutually exclusive.

Listen and ask questions.

The sex talk will be easier and smoother if it’s a two-way exchange as opposed to a lecture. If you’re naturally more inclined toward verbal expression than your partner, take a step back and encourage him or her to open up so that the conversations isn’t one-sided. Listen intently and ask for clarification as needed.

Sex Quirks We All Share (Even If We Won't Admit It)

 

Are we “all” Chained to the Rhythm?


Love this Sci-fi Musical video, so true, we seem to walk the path of everyone else or are we?

Should we walk the same pace as everyone else or should we stop and smell those thorns and say… are we chained to the rhythm like everyone or are we uniquely wired as individuals on this Earth?

Well, I would like to think we are “all unique”, that we don’t have to walk the same path as everyone else and I would like to see more people say more positive things about themselves…

We tend get a little lazy I know I do… don’t you?

I would like to see people – say I am different because I do this … or I like to paint sunshines because I do it in mauve, rather than bright yellow, organges, or even dull blues…

I would love to see someone say on blogs.. I love myself because I am unique than anyone else on this planet because I am…….

Wouldnt you prefer to be “broken from your chains”, and paint a world unique?

 

 

Guess, what, I am not normal, I am not perfect, nor am I like anyone else, I am crazy, funny, uniquely wired, I have amazing thoughts of fun, zany ideas of love and connection, I enjoy pushing the buttons of the normal and I enjoy it when people are shocked..

Deal withi it lovlies I am different and i AM happy as shit in the mud..

Longing for Change…


Beautiful Lyrics… absolutely lovely…. Gaga’s New Movie Debut…

Wow, very amazing I cannot wait to see this Movie…

Wish I could, I could’ve said goodbye
I would’ve said what I wanted to
Maybe even cried for you
If I knew, it would be the last time
I would’ve broke my heart in two
Tryin’ to save a part of you

Don’t wanna feel another touch
Don’t wanna start another fire
Don’t wanna know another kiss
No other name falling off my lips
Don’t wanna to give my heart away
To another stranger
Or let another day begin
Won’t even let the sunlight in
No, I’ll never love again
I’ll never love again, ooh

When we first met
I never thought that I would fall
I never thought that I’d find myself
Lying in your arms
And I want to pretend that it’s not true
Oh baby, that you’re gone
‘Cause my world keeps turning, and turning, and turning
And I’m not moving on

Don’t wanna feel another touch
Don’t wanna start another fire
Don’t wanna know another kiss
No other name falling off my lips
Don’t wanna give my heart away
To another stranger
Or let another day begin
Won’t even let the sunlight in
No, I’ll never love

I don’t wanna know this feeling
Unless it’s you and me
I don’t wanna waste a moment, ooh
And I don’t wanna give somebody else the better part of me
I would rather wait for you, ooh

Don’t wanna feel another touch
Don’t wanna start another fire
Don’t wanna know another kiss
Baby, I’ll just stay on your lips
Don’t wanna give my heart away
To another stranger
Or let another day begin
Won’t even let the sunlight in
Oh, I’ll never love again

Love again
Oh, I’ll never love again
I’ll never love again
I won’t, I won’t, I swear I can’t
I wish I could but i just won’t
I’ll never love again
I’ll never love again, ooh

 

[Verse 1: Bradley Cooper]
Tell me somethin’ girl
Are you happy in this modern world?
Or do you need more
Is there somethin’ else you’re searchin’ for?

[Refrain: Bradley Cooper]
I’m fallin’
In all the good times
I find myself longing for change
And in the bad times I fear myself

[Verse 2: Lady Gaga]
Tell me something boy
Aren’t you tired tryin’ to fill that void?
Or do you need more
Ain’t it hard keepin’ it so hardcore?

[Refrain: Lady Gaga]
I’m falling
In all the good times
I find myself longing for change
And in the bad times I fear myself

[Chorus: Lady Gaga]
I’m off the deep end
Watch as I dive in
I’ll never meet the ground
Crash through the surface
Where they can’t hurt us
We’re far from the shallow now

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There is No Failures.. only Experiences..


“Failure is unimportant. It takes courage to make a fool of yourself.” — Charlie Chaplind57a0241230d693e23e54770f104e206

The World’s Most Famous Failures

1 — Abraham Lincoln

Famous Failures: Abraham LincolnBorn in 1809, Abraham Lincoln is famously known for being the 16th President of the United States. He was a champion of equal rights, and he blazed a trail towards the freedom of slaves in America. But Lincoln didn’t start out as a success story. He failed numerous times before attaining the highest office in the land.

In 1832, when he was 23-years old, Lincoln lost his job. At the same time, he also lost his bid for State Legislature. Just 3 years later, at the age of 26, the love of his life, Ann Rutledge died. Another three years later? He lost his bid to become Speaker in the Illinois House of Representatives.

In 1848, at the age of 39-years old, Lincoln also failed in his bid to become Commissioner of the General Land Office in D.C. Ten years after that, at the age of 49-years old, he was defeated in his quest to become a U.S. Senator. Of course, through all the personal, business and political failures, Lincoln didn’t give up.

In 1846, Lincoln was elected to the U.S. House of Representatives where he drafted a bill to abolish slavery. In 1861, at the age of 52, he secured the office of President of the United States and has since become one of the most famous failures to ever hold office in the United States. His face also appears on the U.S. five-dollar bill.

 

#2 — Albert Einstein

Famous Failures Albert EinsteinBorn in 1879, the man that we all know as one of the most brilliant minds to have ever lived, was once considered a major failure. In fact, Einstein didn’t speak until he was 4-years old. Yes, four-years old. In 1895, at the age of 16, he failed to pass the examination for entrance into the Swiss Federal Polytechnic school located in Zurich.

And while he did graduate from university, he struggled and nearly dropped out, doing very poorly during the course of his studies there. In fact, he was in such dire straits that at the time of his father’s death, he considered his son to be a major failure, which left young Einstein completely heartbroken.

After graduating, he wandered, unsure of what to do with his life. After some time, he ended up taking a job as an insurance salesman, going door to door in an attempt to sell insurance. Eventually, 2 years later, he took a job at the Patent Office as an assistant examiner, evaluating patent applications for a variety of devices.

Of course, this is the same individual who brought us the theory of relativity, with groundbreaking work done in physics and mathematics, and helped us to reach deeper understandings about how the universe works, developing several fundamentals core laws governing physics, won the Nobel Prize in 1921 and created the beginnings of quantum theory.

 

#3 — Beyonce Knowles

Famous Failures Beyonce KnowlesBorn in 1981, Beyonce’s star rose early on in life. However, achieving dizzying success wasn’t without failure for Queen Bey. For her, the failures started early in life but didn’t dissuade or discourage her from pursuing her dreams. But before her solo career and before Destiny’s Child, there was Girl’s Tyme. 

Girl’s Tyme was a young all-girl group that appeared on Star Search. Beyonce was just 9-years old when the group lost, and she was shattered. The group was formed when Beyonce was just 8-years old and it stuck together for 7 long years. Beyonce’s father, Mathew Knowles, played a hand in managing the girls and quit his full-time job as a medical-equipment salesman, ultimately creating enormous financial pressure on the family.

Eventually, after 8 years, the group’s name was changed to Destiny’s Child, and it had been cut down from the original 6-member group, to just four. Those years were fraught with difficulties. After every setback and failure, Beyonce and the other three girls in the group, Kelly Rowland, LaTavia Robertson and LeToya Luckett, pushed forward.

In 1996, the group signed to Columbia Records and had limited commercial success. But a storm was brewing internally. Robertson and Luckett soon quit the group due to a conflict amongst the members, claiming that Mathew Knowles was favoring Knowles and Rowland. Eventually, the two were replaced, but ultimately, the fourth member was cut, leaving only three in the group, with Michelle Williams rounding out the trio.

 

#4 — Bill Gates

Famous Failures Bill GatesBorn in 1955 in Seattle, Washington, Bill Gates by no means struggled as a child. In fact, he had quite the stable upper-middle-class upbringing, with a renowned lawyer for a father, William H. Gates, Sr. It was originally intended by Gates’ parents that he follow in his father’s footsteps and become a lawyer.

At the early age of 17-years old, Gates had demonstrated the entrepreneurial spirit, forming a company with his childhood friend, Paul Allen, called Traf-O-Data, in an effort to analyze and process raw traffic data from traffic counters and present that data in a reporting format to traffic engineers. Their goal was to build a hardware device that could read traffic data tapes and produce the results without having to do the work manually.

On the big day of the reveal, a supervisor from the County of Seattle’s traffic department came to see it and the device failed to work. The business failed before it had much of a chance to get off the ground, giving Gates an invaluable lesson that he would carry forward with him.

In 1973, Gates enrolled in Harvard University after scoring a near-perfect SAT score of 1590 out of 1600. However, it was the following year that Gates dropped out of Harvard to start Microsoft with partner, Paul Allen. The decision, while contentious at the time, was okayed by his parents after much discussion. Obviously, it was the right move.

#5 — Charles Darwin

Famous Failures Charles DarwinBorn in the same year as Abraham Lincoln, in 1809, Charles Darwin’s life was once considered a major failure by even his own father. In fact, it was due to his interest in nature that Darwin ended up neglecting his medical studies at the University of Edinburgh, and in 1827, dropped out and quit school, leading his father to say, “You care for nothing but shooting, dogs and rat catching.”

In a second attempt at school, Darwin enrolled in Christ’s College at the University of Cambridge the following winter semester. In 1831, he realized that this wasn’t for him either, as he was too distracted to finish schooling. Once again, he quit and dropped out of college for the second time.

In his autobiography, Darwin knew that others, including his father, were displeased in him. He stated, “I was considered by all my masters and my father, a very ordinary boy, rather below the common standard of intellect.” In effect, he was summed up as a failure in life, or as an “idle gentlemen,” which was another phrase used by his father.

Of course, things didn’t remain that way for Darwin. Today, he is considered as one of the most influential scientific minds of our time. His theories on natural selection and evolution have had a major impact on our understanding of species and life here on earth, along with the progress of biological organisms.

 

#6 — Charlie Chaplin

Famous Failures Charlie ChaplinBorn in 1889 in London, England, Chaplin’s early years were tumultuous at best. Born into poverty, Chaplin’s father abandoned them at the age of 2-years old, leaving his mother with no real income aside from the odd side job making dresses or nursing. His father provided no financial support for the family and at the age of 7-years old, Chaplin was forced to go to a workhouse, an institution in the UK where the destitute denizens of a parish are sent to work in exchange for room and board.

After returning from the workhouse for a brief period, Chaplin’s mother was committed to a mental asylum at the age of 9-years old, forcing him to go back to the workhouse again. Afterwards, a brief two years later, Chaplin’s father, a raging alcoholic at the time, died of cirrhosis of the liver.

Chaplin’s mother battled mental illness for several years after that, until she was permanently committed to an asylum where she stayed until her death in 1928. In the meantime, Chaplin and his brother, Sydney, were on their own, oftentimes going without food for days while trying to survive in the wake of all the familial turmoil.

During this time, Chaplin partook in stage plays and enhanced his comedic talents along with his step-dancing abilities. Ultimately, he found his way to Hollywood, California where Chaplin was famously turned away and snubbed, only later to become the greatest silent-film actor to have ever lived.

 

#7 — Chris Gardener

Famous Failures Chris GardenerThe story of Chris Gardener was chronicled in one of the most inspiring movies in present-day history, The Pursuit of Happyness, starring Will Smith, in 2006. Gardener wrote his autobiography to shed light on his early struggles and failures in life, which resulted in an immense amount of pain.

Born in 1954, Gardener had a rough upbringing. With a father that wasn’t present, his mother and siblings suffered abuse at the hands of his stepfather. In and out of the foster care system, Gardener was at the mercy of an unstable childhood

In 1977, Gardener married Sherry Dyson. But after a 3-month affair with another woman who became pregnant with his child, he decided to leave his first wife. In 1981, his son, Christopher Gardner Jr. was born while working as a research lab assistant at UCSF, which didn’t pay enough to help support his family. This led to the decision to become a medical-equipment salesman.

If you’ve seen the movie, you likely already know how this turned out. Gardener struggled, but was committed to living a better life, one that didn’t involve so much struggle and turmoil. He met a man driving a red Ferrari who ultimately led him on a career path to become a stockbroker. But, during that journey, he suffered through an eviction and homelessness, jail and an eventual divorce. But that didn’t stop him. Not whatsoever.

 

#8 — Colonel Harland Sanders

Famous Failures Colonel SandersBorn in 1890 in Indiana, Colonel Harland Sanders, the founder of Kentucky Fried Chicken (KFC), is famous not only for his chicken recipe, but also his numerous failures in life and in business. At the ripe young age of 5-years old, his father died, leaving only his mother to fend for and support three children, including Harland.

While his mother left for days on end, Harland was forced to help take care of his siblings and became a proficient cook during this time, learning how to make bread and vegetables and advancing in his knowledge of cooking and preparing meat by the age of just 7-years old. By 10-years old, he was already working as a farmhand.

In 1902, at the age of 12-years old, his mother remarried, subjecting the children to an arduous environment that ultimately forced Harland to leave home the following year. By 14-years old, he began working as a farmhand at another farm in Southern Indiana.

Sanders worked odd jobs for years, never really able to make anything stick. He owned a ferry boat company on the Ohio River, sold tires in Winchester Kentucky, and later, in 1930, opened a restaurant inside a Shell Oil Company-owned gas station in North Corbin Kentucky where he began serving chicken dishes. He was 40-years old at the time.

In July 1939, he came to own a motel and a restaurant, which was destroyed by a fire just 4 months later. But it wasn’t until 1940 when he began to finalize his so-called “secret” chicken recipe, at the age of 50-years old. However, in 1942, during the war, he sold his business and subsequently got divorced in 1947.

In 1955, another one of his restaurants failed after an Interstate route that led traffic past that restaurant, was changed. That year, with just a $105 social security check to his name, at the age of 65-years old, he set out to sell his franchised-chicken model to restaurants across the country. He was famously rejected by 1,009 restaurants before one agreed to his idea.

 

#9 — Curtis Jackson A.K.A. 50-Cent

Famous Failures Curtis Jackson 50 CentBorn in 1975, in Queens, New York, Curtis Jackson, professionally known as 50-Cent, had a tumultuous past and a precarious upbringing. Growing up in poverty isn’t easy on anyone, especially in the Projects in New York’s roughest neighborhoods. Not only were drugs and crime all around him, but his own birth mother, Sabrina, was a drug dealer.

At the ripe young age of just 8-years old, his mother, however, died in what’s been coined a “mysterious” fire. His father left, leaving only his grandmother to help raise young Jackson, who started dealing drugs at the age of 12-years old during what’s been labeled the “crack epidemic,” in the 1980’s.

In 1994, at the age of 19-years old, after a string of run-ins with the cops and a subsequent arrest for possession of drugs and a firearm, he was sentenced to serve 3 to 9 years in prison, but was instead sent to a bootcamp where he spent just 6 months, earning his GED in the meantime.

It was after his release that he adopted the name 50-Cent as a moniker for change, naming himself after a local bank robber by the same name. He statesthat he chose that name “because it says everything I want it to say. I’m the same kind of person 50-Cent was. I provide for myself by any means.”

In 2000, he was infamously shot 9 times at close range by an assailant outside his grandmother’s home and left for dead. While in the hospital, he signed a deal with Columbia records, but was subsequently dropped from that label and even blacklisted within the recording industry due to a song entitled, “Ghetto Qu’ran,” forcing him to go to Canada to record over 30 songs and release a mixtape.

In 2002, Eminem heard his song, “Guess Who’s Back?” and ultimately signed him to his label, Shady Records. He was coached by both Eminem and Dr. Dre, and released his first studio album, Get Rich or Die Tryin’, which later went 6-times platinum in the United States and Jackson has since become one of the world’s most famous and best-selling rappers.

 

#10 — Dr. Seuss

Famous Failures Dr. SeussBorn in 1904 as Theodor Seuss Geisel, he took on the name of Dr. Seuss in 1927 during his stint at Dartmouth and Lincoln College, Oxford, where he enrolled with the intention of earning his PhD in English Literature. But he gave up in his career pursuits at the behest of Helen Palm, whom he met at the college, encouraging him to take up a career in drawing instead.

In 1928, they married, and he worked drawing advertisements for years for a variety of notable companies such as NBC, Standard Oil and General Electric. In 1937, 9 years after he married his sweetheart, he wrote his first manuscript entitled, And to Think I Saw it on Mulberry Street.

That initial manuscript was famously rejected 28 times prior to being accepted by Random House/Vanguard Press. Ultimately, it led John O’Hara, who once held the office of President of the company to remark that “I’ve published any number of great writers, from William Faulkner to John O’Hara, but there’s only one genius on my authors list. His name is Ted Geisel.”

By the time of Geisel’s death in 1991, he had sold over 600 million copies of his books, which had been translated into 20 different languages, making him by far one of the most famous failures to have ever lived. His persistence carried him through, allowing him to succeed where others might have thrown in the towel and given up.

 

#11 — Elizabeth Arden

Famous Failures Elizabeth ArdenCanadian, Elizabeth Arden, born Florence Nightingale Graham in 1878, was a business magnate who overcame failure to achieve tremendous success, creating an unprecedented beauty empire by 1929 that included 150 salons throughout the United States and Europe, and eventually selling over 1000 products across 22 separate countries. At the height of her success, during her lifetime, she was also considered to be one of the wealthiest women in the world.

However, in 1909, at the age of 31-years old, Arden failed in business after a 6-month stint when she formed a partnership with Elizabeth Hubbard. One year later, in 1910, at the age of 32-years old, she pieced together the name Elizabeth Arden with the name “Elizabeth” used in an effort to save money on a sign for her salon, and “Arden,” which stemmed from the name of a nearby farm, thus giving birth to that name, the same year that she opened up the Red Door Salon, in New York City.

In 1912, she traveled to France where she would learn beauty and facial techniques. Upon her return, she joined forces with a chemist to begin developing what would become a vast arsenal of beauty products, lending a hand in catapulting the makeup industry into a widely acceptable practice that moved beyond the upper classes.

Her company, Elizabeth Arden, Inc., has surpassed $1 billion in annual sales, making it one of the most successful beauty businesses ever started still to this day.

 

#12 — Elvis Presley

Famous Failure Elvis PresleyElvis Presley, born in 1935, is a famous American musician who’s sold over 1 billion records worldwide. Yet, while Presley’s fame is often celebrated, his failures are usually overlooked. The family lived in a shotgun house for several years until hard financial times forced them out due to an inability to maintain the payments.

In 1948, at the age of 13-years old, Presley’s family moved to Memphis, Tennessee from their home in Mississippi. They lived in boarding houses, which were temporary rooms that could be rented in a larger home where the common areas were usually maintained, before being able to afford a two-bedroom apartment in a public-housing complex.

In 1953, when he was 18-years old, he walked into Sun Records, where he recorded a demo disc. Nothing came of it. One year later, in 1954, he walked back into Sun Records to record another demo, which he also failed to make any traction with. The same year, he failed an audition to become part of a vocalist quartet called the Songfellows. When asked by his father what had happened, Presley stated, “They told me I couldn’t sing.”

He was so frustrated, that he decided to take up a job as a truck driver. Through a friend named Ronnie Smith, Presley met Eddie Bond, who led Smith’s professional band. Turned out they were looking for a vocalist. They arranged some more recordings, which nothing came of until months later when Presley randomly launched into “That’s All Right,” Arthur Crudup’s 1946 blues number. That got the attention of a professional DJ, and the rest, as they say, is history.

 

#13 — Emily Dickinson

Famous Failure Emily DickinsonOne of the most famed authors of modern times, Emily Dickinson largely considered herself a failure for much of her life. As a fiercely-devote introvert, she was reluctant to embrace many face-to-face relationships, opting instead for correspondence rather than in-person meetings.

She was born in 1830 in Amherst Massachusetts and led a rather reclusive life for much of her years, being called reclusive and eccentric by the locals who had come to know her. She never married. She spent much of her time writing poems about dystopian subjects such as death, but also wrote vehemently about immortality, things she would also often discuss with “friends” through correspondence.

While Dickinson became one of the most renowned poets in history, less than a dozen poems were actually published during her lifetime. And, when poems were published, they were usually altered significantly because their style departed so much from the norm of the day with their lack of titles and odd capitalization and punctuation throughout.

While Dickinson might have been categorized as a failure during her lifetime, it was likely due to her reluctance to meet or correspond with many people about her work. However, after her death, her sister discovered a significant cache of poems totaling upwards of 1,800 that were eventually published, helping her to ultimately gain international notoriety and fame.

 

#14 — Fred Astaire

Famous Failure Fred AstaireBorn in 1899, in Omaha, Nebraska, Fred Astaire is one of the most famous failures to grace the entertainment business. In 1905, the family moved to New York City to allow Fred and his sister, Adele, to pursue a career in entertainment, and they focused their energies solely on the musical and dancing education of their children.

The two performed together in acts for some time, even touring the New York City Broadway circuit, and on to London as well. This helped to drastically improve their talent, but Fred shined during this time, with a set of charisma and charm that shone through even at the dimmest of times.

However, in 1932, the sister-and-brother act split, when Adele wed her husband. Fred continued his career despite that. And, according to legend, he was famously rejected during a Hollywood screen test when it was said that he “Can’t act. Slighty bald. Dances a little,” which came as a major disappointment at the time.

Yet, that didn’t stop him. Fred Astaire’s career in the entertainment industry lasted a mind-boggling 76 years, he appeared in 31 musicals,  television shows and recordings. Gene Kelly once stated that “the history of dance on film begins with Astaire.” This was clearly a nod to the musical and dance genius that Astaire was.

 

#15 — George Lucas

Famous Failure George LucasBorn in 1944, George Lucas is an American-born filmmaker, producer and entrepreneur behind some of the most successful films made in history such as the Star Wars trilogy and Raiders of the Lost Ark, amongst many others. Before Lucas ever got interested in filmmaking, however, he was obsessed with race car driving. But after a terrible car crash that nearly killed him, he abandoned that obsession.

After completing his graduate degree in film at the University of Southern California, Lucas set out to make movies. THX 1138, a story about a dystopian future where android police control the population, suppressing both their emotions and primal urges for things like sex, which has been outlawed, through the use of drugs, was, financially a failure for the studio, amounting to a loss of money.

Lucas was undeterred. His next project, American Graffiti, which he directed, was a huge success, giving him major clout and credibility in Hollywood. However, that wasn’t enough when he presented his next project, Star Wars, to two different studios. In fact, he was turned down for Star Wars by United Artists, and later by Universal, both rejecting the movie.

Still, that didn’t deter Lucas from continuing to pitch it. Eventually, 20th Century Fox picked up the script, later saying that “I don’t understand this, but I loved ‘American Graffiti,’ and whatever you do is okay with me.” Star Wars was the highest grossing film of all time, surpassing the then-highest-grossing film of E.T.

 

#16 — Harrison Ford

Famous Failure Harrison FordWhile many people know Harrison Ford for his blockbuster roles in films that are now part of American culture and history, he was also considered a personal and professional failure at several times in his life. Clearly, he’s one of the most famous people to have ever worked in the movie business, commanding top-dollar for his performances. But his life wasn’t always sunshine and rainbows.

Born in 1942 in Chicago, both of Ford’s parents had a connection to the entertainment industry. His father was a former actor and his mother a former radio actress. It seemed as though acting was in his blood. After graduating from college in Wisconsin, at the age of 22-years old, Ford headed to Los Angeles to try his hand in voice-overs. He failed to secure that job but ended up staying in the area.

It took Ford two years of working odd jobs and small-time bits before he landed his first uncredited role as a bellhop in the movie, Dead Heat on a Merry-Go Round, in 1964 at the age of 24-years old. However, studio execs were rough on young Ford, telling him that “he would never make it in this business.”

But Ford refused to give up. It took him until 1973, 9 years later, when he landed his breakthrough role in George Lucas’s film, American Graffiti. It was that role, and his relationship with Lucas, that would help catapult him into stardom. Lucas later cast Ford in Star Wars and the Indian Jones series.

 

#17 — Henry Ford

Famous Failure Henry FordBorn in Greenfield Township, Michigan, in 1863, Henry Ford was the industrialist who started Ford Motor Company, which has been one of the most profitable automotive companies in the world over the years, making him into one of the most richest and famous individuals on the planet. However, while Ford celebrated many successes later on in life, he also failed often in his earlier years

In fact, it wasn’t until 1891, when Ford was 28-years old, that he decided to become an engineer, working for the Edison Illuminating Company and earning a promotion in 1893 at the age of 30, to Chief Engineer. It was around this time when he started experimenting with gasoline engines.

However, it wasn’t until 1898, when Ford was 35-years old, when he designed and built a self-propelled vehicle that he showed off to people, winning the backing of William H. Murphy, who, at the time, was a lumber baron in Detroit. Subsequently, Ford founded the Detroit Automobile Company a year later in 1899.

In 1901, however, that company failed after an inability to pay back a loan to the Dodge brothers and due to inefficiencies in the design of the vehicle; the company ceased operations, dealing a stealthy blow to Ford. However, subsequently, Ford convinced one of this partners to give him another chance. With mounting pressure, it was agreed that he would try again. But after disagreements, this venture also flopped.

It wasn’t until 1903, when Ford would give it one final shot. At the age of 40-years old, after two separate failures, he tried again, incorporating the Ford Motor Company. Even after the failures, Ford found an unconventional backer who he made agree not to meddle in the business. He found this in Malcolmson, a Scottish immigrant who had made his fortune in the coal industry.

Afterwards, what transpired is one of the most famous stories of an individual who went from failure to success in the grandest way. The Ford name is synonymous with the automobile. In fact, while the assembly line existed prior to Ford’s arrival on the scene, so to speak, he created a car that was affordable by the everyday family, helping to develop what was to become the largest boon in the automotive industry with cars everywhere.

 

#18 — Howard Schultz

Howard Schultz Famous FailureBorn in 1953, Howard Schultz is the famous American entrepreneur behind the wildly-successful coffee company, Starbucks. However, his early life, like many other famous people who failed at first, started off in extreme poverty, growing up in Canarsie Bay, part of the New York City Housing Projects. In 1975, he graduated with a Bachelor in Arts from the Northern Michigan University, which he attended on a sports scholarship.

After graduation, Schultz headed to Xerox Corporation and he was quickly promoted to become a full sales representative. After Xerox, in 1979, at the age of 24-years old, he headed to s Swedish coffeemaker called Hammerplast as the general manager in a small company comprising just 20 employees. However, it was the company’s client, Starbucks, that led him on the next leg of his journey in life.

In 1982, at the age of 29-years old, he joined Starbucks, after being so impressed with the company, as their Director of Marketing. The year later, in 1983, after a trip to Italy, Schultz, realizing the prevalence of the coffee culture there and the country’s 200,000 coffee bars, he convinced the owners of Starbucks to role out the concept across the company’s stores. Previously, they just sold coffee beans and not actual coffee drinks.

While the owners resisted at first, he was persistent and was allowed to open a coffee shop in one of the new stores in Seattle, which debuted in 1984. It was an instant success. But the owners didn’t want to continue with the concept. They didn’t want Starbucks to get too big. In 1985, Schultz left Starbucks to open his own coffee bar, naming it Il Giornale, Italian for ‘The Newspaper.’

However, the story clearly didn’t end there. After two years, Schultz had achieved great success with his coffee shop, but he was thinking even bigger. He proposed buying the Starbucks company, which at the time carried a hefty price tag, so he needed help with the transaction. Attempting to raise the capital to purchase the company, Schultz famously stated that he “was turned down by 217 of the 242 investors I initially talked to. You have to have a tremendous belief in what you’re doing and just persevere.”

 

#19 — Jack Canfield

Jack Canfield Famous FailureBorn in 1944, in Fort Worth, Texas, Jack Canfield is the celebrated author and motivational speaker behind the Chicken Soup for the Soul series. As a Harvard-educated person, Canfield clearly possessed the intelligence for crafting such a book, however, it was his tenacity to see things  through that helped him to catapult that book to success.

In fact, it wasn’t until the age of 48-years old, with the help of his co-author, Mark Victor Hansen, that he set out to write that book, a collection of stories to help inspire and motivate people to achieve their dreams. Yet, things didn’t exactly go according to plan once the book had been completed.

Canfield and his co-author suffered through 144 rejections from publishers over the course of a 14-month period. When one publisher claimed that it wouldn’t even sell 20,000 companies, Canfield replied that he had hoped it would sell 500,000 copies at the least. The publisher laughed at Canfield.

Eventually, they convinced one small-time publisher in Florida that they would at least have some nominal success with the book. Little did they know what was in store for them. Chicken Soup for the Soul is an internationally-acclaimed brand that’s sold over 500 million copies in over 20 languages. Canfield’s determination and unwillingness to give up speaks volumes about the characteristics that allow famous people who failed at first to keep pushing forward no matter what the situation.

 

#20 — James Dyson

Famous Failure James DysonBorn in 1947, James Dyson is an English inventor and entrepreneur who launched the wildly-popular Dyson brand of products. In the late 1970’s, Dyson had the idea of using cyclonic separation to create a vacuum cleaner that wouldn’t lose suction. At the time, he was supported by his wife, who had to start working as an art teacher to make ends meet.

Dyson states that, “There are countless times an inventor can give up on an idea. By the time I made my 15th prototype, my third child was born. By 2,627, my wife and I were really counting our pennies. By 3,727, my wife was giving art lessons for some extra cash. These were tough times, but each failure brought me closer to solving the problem.”

By 1991, he had a great product, but was unable to convince any of the major retailers to sell it since the vacuum bag replacement industry was so large and none of the retailers wanted to buck that trend. So, Dyson created a company after his namesake, Dyson, Inc., in 1993. He was 46-years old at the time.

However, through Dyson’s failures, he never lost hope. By 2005, Dyson had become the market leader in United States by volume sold, allowing him to launch a range of other products that are notoriously well-manufactured and work extremely efficiently, delivering a value-driven concept that the brand has become synonymous for.

 

#21 — Jerry Seinfeld

Jerry Seinfeld Famous FailureBorn in 1954, in Brooklyn, New York, Jerry Seinfeld is a famous American comedian and actor best known for his role in the hit television series by his own namesake, Seinfeld, which aired from 1989 through 1998. However, it’s Seinfeld’s earliest failures that are most notable when speaking about his success in life.

In 1976, at the age of 22-years old, after graduating from Queens College, Seinfeld tried his hand at standup during an open-mic night in New York City where he froze on stage, forgetting the joke. From the second row, a heckler asked, “Is this your first time?” He was booed off the stage and felt miserable about the failure. But he didn’t stop. He simply kept going.

He continued his stint of standup acts over the next three years, which eventually led to an appear on an HBO Special for Rodney Dangerfield, and afterwards, to a role on the sitcom, Benson. In 1981, Seinfeld appeared adjacent to Johnny Carson on, The Tonight Show.

In 1988, at the age of 34-years old, Seinfeld created the semi-fictional series about his life with co-creator, Larry David and pitched it to NBC. It was originally named, The Seinfeld Chronicles, but was later changed to simply read, Seinfeld. In 2002, TV Guide ranked it as the greatest show of all time, then subsequently ranked it the second greatest show of all time in 2012.

 

#22 — Jim Carrey

Jim Carrey Famous FailureBorn in 1962 in Ontario, Canada, Jim Carrey is a renowned comedian, actor and entrepreneur, and quite possibly one of the most famous comic minds of our time. However, his early years were distraught with a string of failures, with a childhood steeped in poverty, which didn’t help his cause or because his family was unable to help Carrey support his ambitions.

In 1977, at the age of just 15-years old, Carrey’s family ran into severe financial problems, forcing them to move to a Toronto suburb where they all worked at the Titan Wheels factory. Carrey took a job as a janitor, doing 8-hour shifts after school had let out. However, after they left their factory jobs, they lived out of a VW camper van until they could afford enough money to move back into a house.

Once Carrey’s family had financial stability, he made his standup debut at a Toronto comedy club called Yuk Yuk’s. Supported by his dad who made the drive to help aid his son to follow his dreams, he bombed during his first time on stage. However, he didn’t give up, even after the painful failure that it caused to be heckled and booed off stage, much like Jerry Seinfeld experienced initially.

Carrey kept at it. In fact, he dropped out of high school to pursue his passion. Eventually, in 1979, at the age of just 17-years old, Carrey moved to Los Angeles, and found his way into a regular standup gig at The Comedy Store on Sunset Blvd in Hollywood. However, after a failed marriage, and 5 years had passed, Carrey threw himself into acting roles. Initially, it didn’t pan out, but he kept at it.

In 1990, after 11 years of trying to pursue his dreams, he got his break to appear on a show called, In Living Color. But it wasn’t until 1994, at the age of 32, when he got his biggest break to star in the film, Ace Ventura, 15 years after arriving in Hollywood. It was that role that helped to catapult him into stardom. While he suffered through major failure along the way, Carrey’s fame is now much talked about around the world.

 

#23 — J.K. Rowling

Famous Failures: J.K. RowlingQuite possibly one of the most famous and renowned former-failures of our time, J.K. Rowling is the author of the wildly-popular Harry Potter series of books. Born in 1965, she grew up with a tumultuous childhood that included a difficult and oftentimes-strained relationship with her father, and dealing with the illness of her mother.

In 1982, at the age of 17-years old, she attempted to gain acceptance to Oxford University. She failed and was rejected, instead enrolling at the University of Exeter where she received her Bachelor of Arts in French and Classics. After graduating from university, at the age of 21-years old, she moved to London to work for Amnesty International in 1986.

After London, she moved to Manchester with her boyfriend. It was there, in 1990, at the age of 25-years old, while on a 4-hour-delayed train, when the idea of a young wizard popped into her mind, later stating that it came “fully formed,” and all she needed to do was flesh out the details.

However, it was just a few short months after that her mother, Anne, died from Multiple Sclerosis, leaving her extremely distraught and upset. In the wake of her mother’s death, only a few months afterwards, she moved to Porto, in Portugal, to teach English. There, she met a man, got married, got pregnant, and gave birth to her daughter, who was born in 1993.

The relationship was a very strenuous one, with reports of domestic abuse, resulting in a separation and eventual divorce. With only three chapters of Harry Potter completed, at the end of 1993, when she was at the age of 38-years old, she moved to Edinburgh, to live with her sister.

At that point, she considered herself a major failure. She had failed at just about everything she had ever attempted to do in life. She was diagnosed with clinical depression and was suicidal. Two years later, in 1995, five years after the initial idea had come to her, she managed to finish the manuscript for Harry Potter and the Sorcerer’s Stone. She located an agent, but after one year of trying to get it published, all 12 major publishing houses had rejected her book.

It wasn’t until 1996, when a small literary house in London named, Bloomsbury, gave the green light and a very small advance of£1500, only due to the behest of the owner’s daughter, that the book was published. In 1997, seven years after the initial idea for the young wizard, the first Harry Potter book was published. By 2004, Rowling had become the first author to become a billionaire through book writing, according to Forbes.

 

#24 — Jack London

Famous Failures Jack LondonBorn in 1876, Jack London is an American novelist who penned the poignant classics, The Call of the Wild and White Fang. He was put up for adoption by his biological mother who had attempted suicide at the time. She shot herself after news of the pregnancy after William Chaney, her husband at the time, demanded that she have an abortion.

At the age of 21-years old, in 1897, while in attendance at the University of California in Berkley, London wrote to his father, Chaney, who denied that he was the boy’s dad, instead sending him a letter that chastised him and his biological mother. Completely distraught by this, London quit Berkley and moved to the Klondike to live in the wilderness for a year.

Upon returning, he had committed to mastering the art of writing, deciding to write at least 1,000 words per day no matter what the situation. Realizing that mastery would come only through this method, he followed through with his goals, working from sunup until sundown, every single day without fail.

Yet, with every piece that he would mail to a newspaper or magazine, with the enthusiasm that he would get published, failure after failure returned in the envelopes that were sent back. No one was willing to publish his writing. After some time, he tired of the feeling of failure and rejection.

However, by 1899, after the rise of lower-priced technologies for printing presses that resulted in a boon for magazines, his first story had been published. In that year, he had earned a respectable $2,500 through his writing, equivalent to about $70,000 in today’s dollars when accounting for inflation.

Yet, London suffered through more than 50 separate rejections during a 5-month period of sending out his manuscripts and writing to various publishers. Just a few short years later, in 1903, at the age of 27-years old, London’s celebrated novel, The Call of the Wild had been published, and he had reached a dizzying height of success in his career.

 

#25 — Jon Hamm

Jon Hamm Famous FailureBorn 1971, Jon Hamm is an American actor most famous for his role in the hit television series, Mad Men, which aired from 2007 through 2015. However, it’s Hamm’s early failures, and how he overcame desperation in his career to achieve success, that’s the most notable here.

Interestingly enough, after he had moved to Los Angeles, he couldn’t land a single gig. It was so bad, in fact, that his talent agency in Hollywood cut him. Distraught, Hamm began working as a waiter and had contemplated giving up entirely on the acting business, considering himself a major failure at the time.

During that period, he gave himself an objective — either he would find stable work before he reached the age of 30, or he would entirely quit the acting business. To his delight, he found work on Mel Gibson’s Vietnam War story, We Were Soldiers, deciding to then stick it out in show business.

Good  thing he did. This famous failure would eventually land the role of a lifetime in 2007’s Mad Men, turning him, not only into a famous actor, but also a cultural icon. When he was cast as Don Draper, he states that he was at “the bottom of everyone’s list.” It just goes to show you what people can accomplish when they refuse to give up on their hopes and their dreams.

 

#26 — Katy Perry

Katy Perry Famous FailureBorn in 1984 in Santa Barbara, California, Katy Perry is an American singer and songwriter best known for her hit, I Kissed a Girl. Perry experienced a seemingly-sudden rise to fame. But did she really? In fact, Perry experienced numerous heart-wrenching failures on the path towards stardom before she ever became a household name.

In her childhood, her family faced severe struggles, oftentimes living in poverty, having to use food stamps just to get by, which had a big impact on Perry’s upbringing. From an early age, she realized that things weren’t easily obtained, and that she would have to work hard for it, something that clearly stuck with her through the failures.

Growing up, her and her siblings listened to Gospel music often. At the age of 13, she was gifted a guitar, and shortly thereafter she began performing the songs that she wrote using that very guitar. However, she was far from famous. In fact, fame was going to elude her for quite some time.

In 1999, at the age of 15-years old, she dropped out of high school after completing her GED in order to pursue music full time. She moved to Tennessee where she signed with Red Hill Records and debuted a Gospel record entitled, Katy Hudson in March, 2001 at the age of 17-years oldIt sold only 200 copies before the label ceased its operations a few months later.

In 2004, at the age of 20-years old, she signed with another label called Java, which was associated with The Island Def Jam Music Group, to work on her solo record. However, after Def Jam dropped Java, the record was shelved. Afterwards, Perry signed with Columbia Records, and recorded new music over the next two years. But before the record was completed, she was dropped from that label as well.

However, her big break came in 2007 when she signed with Capitol Records. In 2008, when she released the would-be-hit song, I Kissed a Girl, Perry was 24-years old. What seemed like an overnight success actually took 9 years to accomplish from the time that she had dropped out of high school.

 

#27 — Keanu Reeves

Keanu Reeves Famous FailureIn 1964, the world welcomed Keanu Reeves, one of the most famous, gifted, kind-hearted and generous actors to have ever graced the Silver Screen. However, Keanu’s life was wrought with failures, most of which were completely out of his control and his hands. To say that Keanu suffered through a monumentally-difficult upbringing would be an understatement.

In fact, nothing about Keanu’s life was straightforward, nor was it common. Born in Beirut, Lebanon, where his mother, who is of English descent from Essex, met his father, an American from Hawaii, while working in the country. At the age of 3-years old, however, his father abandoned the family. Reeves kept in touch with him for the next few years, but then didn’t see him again until he was 13-years old.

His childhood was spent in multiple locations. Initially, it was in Australia, but then, he was led to Canada. His mother had married and divorced 4 times and he had been to four separate high schools in a 5-year period. When he was 17-years old, he dropped out of high school and moved to Los Angeles, obtaining a green card through his stepfather, Paul Aaron, a Hollywood director.

In 1998, Reeves married Jennifer Syme with whom he fathered a baby, who unfortunately was stillborn at eight-months old, which led to the disintegration of the couple’s relationship. Tragically, 18 months after the relationship ended, Syme died in a car accident.

Reeves starred in numerous minor roles in films prior to his breakthrough role in River’s Edge, which led to the role in the widely-popular film, Bill and Ted’s Excellent Adventure Ultimately, however, it was his role in the 1999 blockbuster movie, The Matrix, that resulted in an unprecedented rise to fame.

 

#28 — Madonna Ciccone

Famous Failures: MadonnaBorn in 1958, Madonna Veronica Ciccone, who goes by the stage name, Madonna, is an American pop culture icon who’s often referred to as the Queen of Pop. Born in Michigan, where her father worked as an engineer in the automotive industry, Madonna lost her mother early on to breast cancer at the age of just 5-years old, which had a great impact on her life.

In 1978, while attending the University Michigan School of Music on a dance scholarship, she dropped out to move to New York City to pursue her dreams of becoming a professional dancer. With little money to support herself, she took a job at Dunkin’ Donuts. However, after an incident that occurred shortly after she was hired, where she squirted jelly on a customer accidentally, she was fired.

With only $35 in her pocket on arrival in New York City, Madonna searched for other work. She took random jobs where she could, primarily dancing as a backup dancer for modern dance troupes. One night, when she was returning home after a rehearsal, she was robbed at knife point by two men, leaving her scorned and fearful about her choices to abruptly move to New York City.

However, instead of giving up, even through all the failure and setbacks, she pushed forward. She landed small parts singing and performing with bands such as the Breakfast Club, and eventually she caught the eye of Sire Records founder, Seymour Stein. In 1982, at the age of 24-years old, she debuted her single, Everybody, followed by, Burning Up, both which became huge club hits.

Subsequently, she released her self-titled album, Madonna, and has since become one of the most famous singers to have ever lived, influencing many other modern-day singers and professional dancers.

 

#29 — Marilyn Monroe

Marilyn Monroe Famous FailureOriginally born, Norma Jeane Mortenson, in 1926, in Los Angeles, California, Marilyn Monroe is an American actress and model who achieved extraordinary fame in Hollywood. Monroe never knew her biological father and had a sister and brother that she didn’t know about until she was 12-years old.

Monroe’s mother suffered a mental breakdown in 1934 and was diagnosed with paranoid schizophrenia. She was in and out of mental institutions for the rest of her life and Monroe had become a ward of the state, moving in and out of foster homes for the next several years, where she was sexually abused, became withdrawn and also developed a stutter.

In 1936, her mother’s family friend, Grace McKee Goddard, became her legal guardian, but she was molested by Goddard’s husband, Doc. She was in and out of homes again subsequent to that and eventually attended Van Nuys High School, but dropped out in 1942 at the age of 16-years old, marrying the son of a neighbor in order to stay in the state after the Goddard’s had to leave to West Virginia.

In 1946, after a stint of appearances on the covers of 33 magazines, she secured a contract with an acting agency, and ultimately, a 6-month contract with 20th Century Fox. During that time, she procured no work, and instead focused on taking dancing, acting and singing lessons while also spending time in the studio to observe others acting. Her contract wasn’t renewed when it came to an end, but she was determined to make things work.

However, in 1948, at the age of 22-years old, she was signed to Columbia Pictures, and starred in a low-budget movie called, Ladies of the Chorus. Still, her contract at Columbia was also not renewed. Later that same year, she signed with the William Morris Agency, with the persistent attitude to never give up.

Still, her big breakthrough didn’t come until 1950, when she had appearances in a couple of critically-acclaimed films. Since then, her films went on to gross over $200 million, and subsequently turning her into a pop culture icon and sex symbol.

 

#30 — Mark Cuban

Mark Cuban Famous FailureBorn in 1958 in Pittsburg, Pennsylvania, Mark Cuban is an American entrepreneur and pop culture icon, owner of the Dallas Mavericks and star of the hit television show, Shark Tank. However, things weren’t always so rosy for Cuban. He learned failure the hard way, by failing numerous times, again and again before he ever attained any semblance of fame.

In his earliest years, Cuban was always a tinkerer with an entrepreneurial spirit. From selling garbage bags to running newspapers and everything in between, Cuban learned early on how the mechanics of business worked, but that didn’t mean he didn’t experience the gut-wrenching pain of failure along the way.

In 1982, at the age of 24-years old, he moved to Dallas, Texas, on the word of some of his college friends, in a 1977 Fiat X19 that had a hole in the floorboard. Upon his arrival, he worked numerous odd jobs. He simply couldn’t find something that he was good at.

He failed at bartending because he couldn’t open a bottle of wine without the cork falling in. He failed at short-order cooking because he never knew when the food was ready unless he cut off a piece and tasted it. And he failed as a salesman at a computer distributor when he was fired after less than a year on the job.

Cuban simply couldn’t get anything right. At the age of 25 years-old, one year after he arrived in Dallas, he decided to start his own company, MicroSolutions, selling software, doing training and configuring networks and computers. He grew that company to $30 million dollars in revenue, and it was later acquired by CompuServe in 1990 at the age of 32-years old.

That gave him the ability to create Broadcast.com in 1995, at the age of 37-years old, a company that was later acquired by Yahoo in 1999 when it was sold for $5.7 billion in stock. Cuban was 41-years old, famous and wealthy beyond measure. Although he had failed numerous times and been through the ringer, he never gave up.

 

#31 — Mark Zuckerberg

Mark Zuckerberg Famous FailureThere’s little need in the way of an introduction to Mark Zuckerberg, the founder of Facebook, what can be considered as the world’s most successful site that reaches nearly the whole connected world. He was also the inspiration for the popular movie, The Social Network.

However, while Zuckerberg is considered wildly famous, rich and popular today, that wasn’t always the case. In fact, shortly after starting up Facebook, which started as thefacebook.com, Zuckerberg was sued by Cameron Winklevoss, Tyler Winklevoss and Divya Narenda, resulting in an enormous level of frustration and stress. That case was later settled for 1.2 million Facebook shares.

Before launching thefacebook.com, Zuckerberg created Facemash, a system that allowed students to pick the better looking person from a set of photos, either male or female. However, students complained that the photos were being used without their consent, and it was later shut down by Harvard, forcing Zuckerberg to issue apologies and for the student paper to call the site “completely improper.”

However, Facebook’s success in undeniable. Zuckerberg is now amongst the world’s richest individuals, far surpassing anything he might have envisioned his success to be.

 

#32 — Mary Kay Ash

Mary Kay Ash Famous FailureBorn in 1918, Mary Kay Ash, born Mary Kathlyn Wagner, was the founder of Mary Kay Cosmetics, a direct-selling, multi-level marketing cosmetics company based in Addison, Texas. After marrying early on in life, in 1935, at the age of 17-years old, she became a housewife, had two children, and would later go on  to sell books door-to-door when her husband was fighting in the war.

However, in 1945, she divorced, and eventually went to work for a company called Stanley Home Products. Yet in 1963, at the age of 45-years old, she retired. She had been passed up for a promotion and instead of continuing what she felt to be a dead-end career, she decided to write a book instead. That book turned into what would be her business plan for the business she intended to start with her new husband, Mel Ash.

However, Mel died just a month before the new business was set to start. One month after he died, she took the plunge by taking a $5,000 investment from her eldest son, Richard Rogers. She opened up her first storefront in Dallas and created the company to help empower women to succeed in a marketplace that was very much in favor of men.

Mary Kay Cosmetics grew beyond her wildest dreams. Today, the company has over 3 million consultants around the world with sales topping $3 billion annually. By 1968, the company had gone public, but was later taken private again after 17 years as a public company.

 

#33 — Michael Jordan

Michael Jordan Famous FailureBorn 1963, Michael Jordan is a former professional basketball player and also the owner of the Charlotte Hornets team. Called “the greatest basketball player of all time,” Jordan’s professional career is something for the history books, with a game play that will likely be unmatched and unrivaled for decades to come.

Jordan is credited with once saying that,”I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.”

At the age of 15-years old, while a sophomore in high school, Jordan was passed up for the varsity basketball team, instead being assigned to the junior varsity team. He cried after he saw that list without his name on it. But instead of giving up, his mom convinced him to push forward. Every time he thought about stopping his training, he would picture that list without his name on it.

He was able to take failure in stride. He allowed it to push him rather than to entirely defeat him. At the age of 21-years old, he entered the NBA as a professional basketball player for the Chicago Bulls, where he would go on to win six championship titles and become one of the most impactful players to ever grace the courts.

 

#34 — Milton Hershey

Milton Hershey Famous FailureBorn 1857, Milton Hershey is the founder of the Hershey Chocolate Company located in Hershey, Pennsylvania. It was early on in life, while working on the family’s farm, that he learned the values of persistence and hard work, carrying that with him throughout his life during his elder years.

Milton Hershey left school after just two-and-a-half years, instead opting to apprentice with a local printer. One day, he dropped his hat on accident into one of the machines there and was subsequently fired from that job. That was 1871 and Hershey was just 14-years old at the time.

After working for a candy factory near Lancaster, he decided to start his own business, opening a candy store close to Philadelphia. That business failed. He left town and headed to New Orlean’s and then Chicago. Unable to find the right opportunities, he continued moving around until he settled in New York City where he started working for Huyler’s, a candy and restaurant chain.

After a few years on the job, he quit and decided to sell candies on the street in New York City but was also unsuccessful at that as well. Disheartened by failure, Hershey moved back to the farm where he grew up, experimenting with chocolates and candies, considering he had a large supply of fresh milk from the dairy cows. It was here that he learned how to make delicious chocolates from condensed milk.

In 1893, at the age of 36-years old, he established the Lancaster Caramel Company, which he eventually sold for one million dollars seven years later in 1900, giving him the ability to start the Hershey Chocolate Company. When Hershey Chocolate Company first opened its doors, Hershey was 43-years old. Success didn’t come early for Hershey, nor did it come easy. But Hershey’s chocolates are still today one of the most famous and best-tasting brands of chocolate in the world.

 

#35 — Oprah Winfrey

Oprah Winfrey Famous FailureOprah Winfrey was born in 1954 in Kosciusko, Mississippi to a single teenaged mother. Winfrey grew up in a sheer state of utter poverty for most of her childhood life, living with her grandmother during those years. When she was 6-years old, she moved in with her mother in Wisconsin, about the time her mother had another daughter, becoming Winfrey’s half-sister.

During those early years, Winfrey says she was sexually molested by her cousin, her uncle and a family friend. At the age of 13-years old, she ran away from home. At 14-years old, she was pregnant and gave birth prematurely to a baby that died shortly after birth.

At the age of 17-years old, she won a beauty pageant and interned at a radio station, creating a love for the media, and eventually landing a job after college as a news anchor in Nashville. After college, she moved to Baltimore to co-anchor the news, but was later removed by the producer for being unfit for television.

In 1983, at the age of 29-years old, she relocated to Chicago and took over a fledgling show called, AM Chicago, which would ultimately become the, Oprah Winfrey Show. She became the highest-ranked talkshow in Chicago. Today, she is a multi-billionaire and has had a major impact on a large part of world.

Oprah was able to overcome multiple failures in her life, but didn’t give up. Because of it, she reached international fame and is known around the world as a household name.

 

#36 — Richard Branson

Richard Branson Famous FailureRichard Branson, born in 1950, is an English billionaire entrepreneur and business magnate well known around the world for being one of the most famous and successful individuals at the helm of a global brand, Virgin Group, with businesses in a wide variety of fields such as music, telecom, hospitality and travel.

In the late 1960’s, Branson started the Student magazine, where he interviewed prominent people. He also started to sell records through the magazine at a discounted rate, helping it result in an overnight success. Branson opened a record shop in 1971, but was labeling records sold as export stock, and thus had to pay a hefty fine and unpaid taxes. His mother had to re-mortgage the house to help his son pay the settlement cost with the government.

Ultimately, however, the Virgin Records store was a success, and it allowed him to create his own record label. By 1992, at the age of 42-years old, he had created Virgin Atlantic and the Virgin Megastores. But in order to keep the airline afloat, he was pressured into selling the record label or have to suffer a major financial failure and loss in the airline industry. He sold the label to EMI for £500 million and was completely distraught after this because the record business was his first foray into the business world.

Eventually, the airline succeeded and the Virgin brand today is synonymous with value and customer service, also making Branson one of the richest people on the planet. He simply refused to give up, even through all the failures and the setbacks.

 

#37 — Robert T. Kiyosaki

Robert Kiyosaki Famous FailureBorn in 1947, Robert Kiyosaki is an entrepreneur, investor and the wildly-popular author who wrote the Rich Dad Poor Dad series.  He also founded the Rich Dad Company, which provides financial education to children and adults, along with creating the Cashflow board game, which helps to instill the same educational concepts as much of the books in a game format.

Yet before all that fame, Kiyosaki faced a number of failures along the way. His road to fame and wealth was wrought with a number of setbacks and defeats. In 1977, at the age of 30-years old, Kiyosaki started a company that sold surfer’s wallets, with nylon and velcro, but failed to intellectually protect the products. Facing stiff competition, that company eventually went bankrupt.

Afterwards, he started a company selling t-shirts and hats and other licensed products for heavy metal rock groups. That company also went bankrupt in 1980. He was 33-years old at the time. In 1985, at the age of 38-years old, he started a financial education company to teach investors and entrepreneurs various strategies for investing in real estate and other financial products. In 1994, at the age of 47-years old, he sold that company and began his investing and writing career.

However, it wasn’t until 1997, at the age of 50-years old, when he penned the Rich Dad Poor Dad book, that he achieved international notoriety. The book has since sold over 26 million copies worldwide and has been translated into 51 languages.

 

#38 — Shawn Carter aka Jay-Z

Jay-Z Famous FailureBorn in 1969, Shawn Carter, also known as Jay-Z, is an American singer, songwriter and entrepreneur who’s sold over 100 million records and rose up against extraordinary odds to succeed in life. While quite possibly considered as one of the most famous and successful rappers of all time, his early life was dominated by a string of failures and unstable family life that led to a career of dealing drugs.

Born in Brooklyn, New York, Carter grew up in the housing projects known as the Marcy Houses in the Bedford-Stuyvesant neighborhood. After his father had abandoned the family, it was his mother that raised him and his three siblings. He became passionate about music early on, appearing on several early recordings of artists such as Jaz-O and Big Daddy Kane’s, Daddy’s Home.

However, while wanting to pursue a record career, he realized that no label wanted to sign him, so he opted instead to selling CDs out of the trunk of his car. Every major label had turned him down, so he did what any enterprising young individual would do that was committed to succeeding — he co-founded his own label called Roc-A-Fella Records.

Once the label had been setup, he sought out to find a distribution partner, which was no easy task. Ultimately, after finding one, Jay-Z released his debut album entitled, Reasonable Doubt, which reached number 23 on the Billboard 200, and it eventually hit platinum status, with Rolling Stones calling it one of the 500 greatest albums of all time. This was the start of a long and very successful career.

 

#39 — Soichiro Honda

Soichiro Honda Famous FailureBorn in 1906, Soichiro Honda was a Japanese inventor and industrialist who created the automotive empire by his namesake — Honda Motor Company. However, while Honda’s company has certainly grown to rival even that of Toyota, Honda’s earliest days were anything but easy. Yet, it was his perseverance and his tenacity to never give up that kept him going and helped him to ultimately succeed.

Without any formal education to his name, at the age of 15-years old, Honda left home to head for Tokyo to search for work, which he later found at an auto repair shop where he apprenticed and worked for the next 6 years before returning home to open up his own automotive shop.

During the Great Depression, in 1937, at the age of 31-years old, he founded, Tōkai Seiki to create piston rings for Toyota. He toiled and labored night and day to create these, but to no avail. With little cash and bleak chances for survival, he had to pawn his wife’s ring just to make ends meet. He failed ultimately, and was told that the rings didn’t meet Toyota’s specifications.

However, he refused to give up. He went back to school and continued to search for ways to improve upon his prior designs. Eventually, after two more years of designing and trying, he succeeded and successfully secured a contract with Toyota to create the piston rings.

But shortly thereafter, his factory that he built to build the products was hit by a bomb during WWII when a B-29 bomber run carpeted the area. After he rebuilt the factory a second time, an earthquake leveled it. But he refused to give up. Instead, he created a motorized bicycle that would become the start of the Honda motorcycle.

 

#40 — Stephen King

Stephen King Famous FailureBorn in 1947, Stephen King is one of the most famous and successful authors of all time. He’s sold over 350 million books but had an unorthodox start to his writing career. In fact, after a subsequent string of failures, Stephen King was all but ready to give up on his hopes and his dreams of becoming a published author.

King was so passionate about writing, that he worked tirelessly to get his worked published. He was rejected so often, however, that by the time he turned 14-years old, a nail supporting his rejection letters on the wall, could no longer bear their weight. Eventually, he replaced the nail with a spike and continued to hang his rejection letters.

After completing his studies at the University of Maine in 1970, at the age of 23-years old, he got himself a teaching certificate, but he was unable to find any work teaching. Instead, he worked for a laundry service while his wife went to work at Dunkin’ Donuts, writing short stories in his spare time.

In 1973, King finally secured a teaching job, however he continued to write when an idea came to his mind. When the idea for his first book, Carrie, a story about a girl with telekinetic powers, first came to him, he had envisioned creating it as a short story for a magazine like, Playboy. But after beginning the story, he realized it was going to need to be longer than the format would call for in Playboy.

One day, after being so frustrated with the story, he crumpled it up and threw it into the garbage, only later to be retrieved by his wife, telling him that he should continue the work and finish it. Upon completion, 30 publishers rejected the book. Eventually, he got published by Doubleday and received a $2,500 advance. A short time after, he was told that he would receive $200,000 for the rights to that book.

 

#41 — Steve Jobs

steve-jobs-famous-failureBorn in 1955, the late Steve Jobs was an iconic billionaire, inventor and entrepreneur responsible for the one of the most renowned and successful companies to have ever been created — Apple Computers. Yet, Jobs’ life was filled with failure. Before fame ever graced him and his name become synonymous with success, he suffered through an enormous number of setbacks.

In his earliest days, Jobs felt unwanted. He was put up for adoption by his mother and was raised by a blue-collar couple in Palo Alto, California. He dropped out of college and started taking the courses that were most interesting to him rather than trying to complete his degree. Afterwards, he opted to travel the world and see places like India where he would study Zen Buddhism.

In 1976, Jobs co-founded Apple Computers with his friend, Steve Wozniak. The company was highly successful. However, in 1983, Jobs hired John Scully from Pepsi to helm the company as CEO, which ended up being one of the worst decisions he had ever made. After a disagreement with Scully, and a foiled plan by Jobs to oust the new CEO, Jobs resigned from Apple and quit, taking 5 employees with him to start his new business venture, NeXT.

That disheartening period helped to embolden Jobs. While Apple was fledgling and would eventually be on the verge of bankruptcy, NeXT thrived. Ultimately, NeXT was acquired by Apple in 1997 bringing him back into the fold of a now-struggling company.

 

#42 — Steven Spielberg

Steven Spielberg Famous FailureBorn in 1946, in Cincinnati, Ohio, Steven Spielberg is an American Academy Award-winning director, producer and entrepreneur responsible for some of the biggest and most successful movies and movie franchises in history such as E.T.Raiders of the Lost ArkJawsand Jurassic Park.

After his parents’ divorce, Spielberg moved to Los Angeles, California with his father where he applied to the University of Souther California’s film school, but was rejected for his poor grades, instead opting to attend the less-prominent California State University at Long Beach.

In 1979, Spielberg released a film that flopped, entitled 1941. He had been riding high on the success of his previous films such as Jaws. Although 1941 was not a financial failure, it was a critical failure, and resulted in the loss some of Spielberg’s notoriety at the time.

Ultimately, however, Spielberg refused to give up, even after that major failure. He could have called it quits, but he refused to do so. He pushed forward, and because of it, we’ve had some incredible blockbusters such as Schindler’s List, The Color Purple, A.I. Artificial Intelligence, and so many more.

 

#43 — Sylvester Stallone

Sylvester Stallone Famous FailureBorn in 1946, Sylvester Stallone is an American actor and director best known for his role as Rocky Balboa in the hit boxing film, Rocky.Stallone moved to New York City in the 1970’s to pursue his dream of being an actor. However, all he seemed to face was rejection, failure and a string of people telling him he talked funny, walked funny and couldn’t act.

He was broke at the time. It was during this period that he was forced to sell his dog for $25 just to pay for his electricity bill. He had been rejected 1,500 times by talent scouts, agents and everyone in the film industry that he could get a meeting with. He would sit for hours on end in offices just to wait to the see the person who would ultimately reject him again. He did this repeatedly, over and over.

Eventually, this wore on Stallone. He was broke and homeless. He lived and slept in the New Jersey Port Authority bus terminal for three weeks while trying to scrimp and save money together for another apartment. He was just about as desperate as anyone could be in their lives.

After writing the script for Rocky, he was offered a tremendous amount of money with one caveat — that he not star in the film. The offer was raised as high as $325,000 with the condition that he not act in the film. He refused time and again. Eventually, he accepted just $35,000 and a percentage of the film’s sales. That film grossed over $200 million in the box office!

 

#44 — The Beatles

Famous Failures: The BeatlesThe Beatles were an English rock group that formed in 1960 and have since gone on to sell over 1.6 billion records worldwide, with over 600 million records being sold in the United States, and are considered to be one of the most popular musical groups in history. Its members were John Lennon, Paul McCartney, George Harrison and Ringo Starr.

However, The Beatles once considered themselves failures. On New Year’s Eve in 1961, the group drove in a snowstorm to Decca Recording Studios to lay down 15 tracks based on songs that they were already performing, which was a mashup of R&B and Rock tunes.

Still, it was Dick Rowe, an A&R that was there to hear their sound, who stated that they would never succeed. Specifically, he said that “guitar groups were on their way out.” Five months later, the group received the big break they had been hoping to receive. and signed with George Martin from Parlophone and released their first in a string of hits late that year entitled, Love Me Do.

While others might have gotten discouraged during the rejections and the failures faced by the group, they didn’t falter. They didn’t throw in that proverbial towel. They knew deep down inside that they were bound to be famous and that it was just a matter of time as long as they didn’t give up.

 

#45 — Thomas Edison

Thomas Edison Famous FailureThomas Edison is an American inventor and entrepreneur born in 1847 in Milan, Ohio, one of seven siblings in a very large family. Edison was home schooled by his mother and developed hearing problems early on in life. He was trained to use the telegraph after a train almost struck the son of a station agent who was so grateful that he taught Edison how to use the system, eventually leading to a job working for Western Union.

In 1877, at the age of 30-years old, Edison invented the phonograph, an invention that was so magical that it made the public dub him with the name “The Wizard of Menlo Park.” In 1878, just a year later, Edison began working on a commercially-viable incandescent lightbulb that would be both long-lasting and highly efficient by not drawing too much energy to operate.

Thomas Edison went through thousands of iterations to make this dream a reality. In fact, he failed over 10,000 times trying to invent a commercially-viable electric bulb. At one point, when asked by a reporter whether he felt like a failure after so many failed attempts. He said, “I have not failed 10,000 times. I have not failed once. I have succeeded in proving that those 10,000 ways will not work. When I have eliminated the ways that will not work, I will find the way that will work.”

Edison had a huge impact on society, holding 1,093 patents to his name at the time of his death. His work in a number of fields created the basis for much of the technologies that we enjoy today and take for granted. However, like anyone else, he suffered through failure numerous time, but where others quit, he persisted.

 

#46 — Vincent Van Gogh

Vincent Van Gogh Famous FailureBorn in 1853, Vincent Van Gogh is one of the most influential painters in modern history, and is accredited with painting some of the most notable works of art in all time. Throughout his life, Van Gogh created 2,100 various pieces of art, which included 860 oil paintings, most of which were painted within the last 2 years of his life.

However, during Van Gogh’s brief 37 years of existence, prior to committing suicide in 1890, he had only sold a total of one painting. Yes, just one painting. For the most part, Van Gogh considered himself a failure and didn’t feel that life was worth living. That also could be because much of his life was lived steeped in poverty and battling mental illnesses.

While Van Gogh suffered through psychosis and delusional states, his bold impressionist work and dramatic brushstrokes have resonated with the art community. While he only sold one piece of art prior to his death, he had only begun the bulk of his oil paintings just two years prior to committing suicide.

Still, it’s clear that Van Gogh was a true genius, with an unending imagination and talent to transform the pictures in his mind into wild landscapes and portraits filled with illustrative brushstrokes and bold impressionistic vibrancy.

 

#47 — Walt Disney

Walt Disney Famous FailureWalt Disney, born in 1901, is the beloved founder of the Walt Disney Company, quite possibly one of the most famed companies in the world throughout history. However, Disney’s road towards success wasn’t easy; it was paved with a number of failures and setbacks that included bankruptcy.

1919, Disney had taken a job with the Kansas City Star, the local newspaper, when he was fired by the editor for lacking imagination and having no good ideas. Later Disney started a company called Laugh-O-Gram, producing cartoon animations. His biggest client at the time was Newman’s theaters, one of the largest theater chains. His cartoons were shown at the start of the films at Newman’s theaters and were dubbed the “Newman’s Laugh-O-Grams.”

However, his success with Laugh-O-Gram was short-lived. The money earned didn’t provide enough income to keep the company afloat, and in 1923 it declared bankruptcy. Subsequently, Disney moved to Hollywood in 1923 when he was just 22-years old, where his brother Roy was living at the time.

With the help of Roy, they formed the Disney Brothers Studio, which later became called the Walt Disney Company. The company was formed to produce animated films. However, it wasn’t until 1928, five years later, when Disney created Mickey Mouse, when things really started to take off, but not before experiencing a number of gut-twisting failures and setbacks.

 

#48 — Winston Churchill

Winston Churchill Famous FailureBorn in 1874, Winston Churchill is famously known as being the Prime Minister of the United Kingdom from October 26th, 1951 through April 6th, 1955, and is  often credited with several very popular quotes about failure such as “Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts,” and, “Success consists of going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm.”

In 1893, Churchill applied to attend the Royal Military College in Sandhurst. He failed that exam 2 times, and on the third try, he succeeded, but only after changing from the infantry division to the cavalry division, which had a lower threshold for entrance. However, he excelled during his tenure there.

During his political career, he lost a total of 5 elections, including his very first one, which included three elections in a row during the years of 1922 through 1924. Throughout his life, he battled clinical depression. He also had a severe lateral lisp, and had trouble speaking and making speeches at times, having dentures manufactured to help repair the impediments his speech caused.

However, Churchill was also one of the most successful and renowned politicians to have ever lived.

Funny Pick up Lines…


Love this very much so here are a few Pick UP lines… for you to use…However, I highly recommend YOU, watching this Video… it’s a scream……which means it’s funny…

Just Bloody well watch it…god damn it!!!

Your name must be Coca Cola, because you’re soda-licious.

You’re hotter than the bottom of my laptop.

If you were a chicken, you’d be impeccable.

I would flirt with you, but I’d rather seduce you with my awkwardness.

I have amnesia, do I come here often?

I’m not a photographer, but I can picture us together.

I don’t need Twitter, I’m already following you.

Do you know the essential difference between sex and conversation? (No.) Do you wanna go upstairs and talk?corny-love-quote.jpg

Do you sleep on your stomach? If not, can I?

Somebody call the cops. It’s got to be illegal to look that good.

I’ve had such an off week but seeing you just turns me on.

Your body is a wonderland and I want to be Alice.

I’m going to kiss you now. Say “Kiss me” now if you want me to stop.

Do you believe in love at first sight, or should I walk by again?

Your lips look lonely. Let me introduce them to mine.

The Funniest Pick Up Lines Ever - Is There A Mirror

Is there a mirror in your pants…? I think I can see myself in them..

Hi, I’m doing a survey …What’s your name? What’s your phone number? Are you free next Saturday?

Kiss me if I’m wrong, but dinosaurs do still exist, don’t they?

I’m going to give you a kiss. If you don’t like it, just return it.

I think there’s something wrong with my phone. Could you try calling it for me to see if it rings?

My magical watch says you aren’t wearing any underwear! (I am.) It must be an hour fast.

1r10kp.jpgYou must be a keyboard, because you’re just my type.

You’re so hot, if you ate bread you’d poop out toast.

If I had to rate you from 1 to 10, I’d rate you as a 9 because I’m the 1 you’re missing.

What do I have to do to get on your drunk dial list?

You make me wish I wasn’t gay.

Are you accepting applications for your fan club?

If you were a basketball, I’d never shoot because I’d always miss you.

Are you related to Jean-Claude Van Damme?

Because Jean-Claude Van Damme, you’re sexy!

I'm New In Town - Chat Up Line

I’m new in town. Can I have the directions to your house please?

My feet are getting cold… because you’ve knocked my socks off.

There’s something wrong with my mobile. It doesn’t have your number in it.

It’s a good job I brought my library card, because I’m checking you out.

I’m not drunk… I’m just intoxicated by you.

I lost my teddy bear. Will you sleep with me instead?

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Did you get your licenses suspended for driving all these guys crazy?

If you were a bogey, I would pick you first.

You’re hot, I’m ugly. Let’s make average babies.

Excuse me, but I think I dropped something… my jaw!

Are you wearing space pants?

Because that butt is out of this world.

Was your mother a beaver? Because DAAAAMN girl!

Are you a parking ticket? Because you’ve got FINE written all over you.

I bet you $10 you’re gonna turn me down.

Roses are red, violets are blue, I have a gun, get in the van.

There’s a huge sale going on in my bedroom right now. Clothes are 100% off!

Here I am. Now what are your other two wishes?

Remember me? No? Oh that’s right, I’ve only met you in my dreams.

Hey girl, you’re gonna have to stop eating magnets; you’re making me attracted to you.

 

But, wait there is more

 

Roses are red, bananas are yellow, wanna go out with a nice little fellow?


You wanna know the best thing in my life?

It’s the first word of this sentence.

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If you’re here, who’s running heaven?


Kiss me if I’m wrong, but dinosaurs still exist right?


Do you have a name? Or can I call you mine?


Are you an alien because you just abducted my heart?


Let’s commit the perfect crime. I’ll steal your heart and you can steal mine.


Where do you hide your halo?


You’re pretty and I’m cute.

Together we’d be pretty cute.


You look familiar – did we have class together?

I could have sworn we had chemistry.


You’re like a dictionary.

You add meaning to my life.


If you hold 8 roses in front of a mirror, you’ll see 9 of the most beautiful things in the world.


If I had a star for every time you brightened my life, I’d be holding a galaxy.


Do you have a Bandaid?

Because I just scraped my knee falling for you.


Is your body from McDonald’s?

Because I’m lovin’ it.Epic-Rumi-Quotes-spiritual-poems.jpg


If I were a stop light, I’d turn red every time you passed by, just so I could stare at you a bit longer.


Your eyes are bluer than the Atlantic ocean and baby, I’m all lost at sea.


There’s 21 letters in the alphabet right?

Oh wait, I forgot U R A Q T.


Can you kiss me on the cheek so I can at least say a cute girl kissed me tonight?


You are so beautiful that you give the sun a reason to shine.


I’ll give you a kiss.

If you don’t like it, you can return it.

Beautiful Quotes….


I have borrowed these from a great Blogger link below to the person who inspired most of these quotes…life-quotes-inspiration-i-just-want-friendship-we-have-something-so-special-and-both-be-through-so-muc

Truth

“Never ruin someone’s life with a lie, when your world can be destroyed with the truth.”

Tell them…

“If you love someone, tell them. Because hearts are broken by the words unspoken.” 

Enjoying sex…

“Enjoying sex doesn’t make you a whore, just like being a virgin doesn’t make you saint.” 

A good man…

“Allow a good man to ruin your lipstick, not your mascara.” 

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“God created sex. Priests created marriage.”
– Voltaire

Lay me down…

Lay me down,
get ready to play,
clear your calendar,
to make love all day.

Start with kisses,
touch me low,
caress me tight,
as we take it slow.

Cat fight

 

“No matter how much cats fight, there always seem to be plenty of kittens.” – Abraham Lincoln6dd056fa77d441b87e2deffa867f35ef.jpg

Master Your Passions

 

 

 

“The happiness of a man in this life does not consist in the absence but in the mastery of his passions.” – Lord Tennyson Alfred

I am me… if you do not like me.. then see that door…


What can I say about this title many things….. Let me tell you….

Thus far, far out and how amazing is life!!!

We often forget who we are, how we got here, what moments was it that made us “Stop and Smell those bloody Thorns”.

Why the thorns, good question, why the hell not..

Nothing in life is easy or smooth let’s face it and if you say it is then we must be lying right!

So, in saying that I decided to say what I said, because I did!

Life is what it is.. It is what you want to make of it.. I cannot say to you the answer as I am still finding it myself..

And there is nothing wrong with that..

However, if you wish me to answer it.. it is made up on mistakes, winnings, many happy times, many sad times, disappointment, happy ever after times, its made of children that will put a smile on your face, loving moments that we all cherish, it is made of sadness when someone breaks your heart for the first time and it is made of many shades of blue, green, pink, yellow, red, orange, and I could go on.

  • It is also made of regrets of not being there for those that I should have been… with that I am soulful sorry (my son)580616_10151758483017361_261523703_n

What do I love the most 

I love myself (shit that was hard to say)  it has taken a very long time for me to say those words, I love my partner who has been by my side so many years, it is made up of dear friends I say it with the (s) why because it is more than 1 which is more than most have..

 

I love these people because they love me and that is enough no more than how that is because I am lucky..

Why do I want this?

Because I do…

What is it that you regret?

Many, Many things in my life… which is mine and if you wish to find out what, then you walk in my shoes and then ask me the same bloody question!

We can have a crystal ball tell each other I know better than you.. however, what is so significant about your life that you are better and more knowledgable what if you’re not?

Seriously speaking come on !!!

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And my dear bloggers it is that easy… if life was easy and we didn’t hurt, cry, if we had no error if everything in this life was that easy would you say… I know better?

Far out, even god would not say such things….

My suggestion is this….

Smile, love, and listen don’t be foolish if you have any business telling others who you think they are and how you think they should live , well good luck with that!

I would hate to be you if you did say such things to another!

Who wants perfect, anyway!

Not me!!!!

This is who I am:

  • I am 50 years old
  • I am in a loving and giving  relationship of 21 years
  • I make mistakes
  • I do very well at times
  • I am a very loud and opinionated female
  • I am a survivor
  • I am a mother
  • I also have good, bad, and darn right not the best at times with the above
  • I am human
  • I am true to myself and my partner, friends and family
  • I make mistakes just like everyone else and I am happy with that…
  • I love my 1 or 2 friends that I have on this earth
  • I am incredibly stubborn
  • I love with every bit of my being
  • If I say something real to you, you better believe it that I am telling you the truth
  • If I tell you my story, your lucky
  • I am a proud female who adores people for who they are not what they can give me back
  • I have no expectations of anything
  • But, I do love, and I do it with every part of my body, soul and faith

So, the question answered is Submission is about pleasing ourselves and those that are worthy of my being this isn’t a given this is earn and I am blessed with who wants to be my friend…

So, Who are you?

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Judgement of Another…


A person’s life is based on their own decision and their own knowledge of what they know …

It is indeed easy to say… Never judge however, we all do this… why?

We base our whole life on what others think, feel, say, and of course if you are a little over sensitive with life or perhaps at times we are more over sensititive with ourselves at times not all of the times at times… we then get a little annoyed at others saying things that are based on annoyance of another.

My past judgements are what I only know… yes some of my decisions that I have made have been not the best however, they are real and they are based on only what I know so I cannot be too hard on myself.

If we get out that whip and slash ourselves over and over by saying… your pattern is this and your thoughts process is wrong.. what are you really saying to someone?

Your saying that your life so far to this day has been blinded by your crash decisions that you made.. that isn’t a nice thing to say to someone who has had or made bad decsions it’s a very fine line your crossing mainly because you have no idea how that person feels..large.png

Be careful with your wording I myself can say things that are very crushing to another but, I wont know this until I tell that other person… hang on.. don’t judge me on my past you have no idea who I am..

Sensitivity is based on a person who has made decisions that have hurt them very much and they are guarded by their own knowledge of understanding … which means they are aware that they are shit at making the wrong decisions… so be careful what you say to someone.. including me I tend to put my foot in my mouth a lot..

I am sorry if I do this… please and always tell me if I have… because like anyone else we all have those moments of being a little too harsh on others… because it is only based on what you know.. not what that other person feels…

Okay 🙂

Memories of yesterday… something funny


Have you ever gone to a Sunday session and you look around and scope that pub with your girl friends what do you notice?

My visual even when I was young could see so many different groups of mates, friends, surfies hanging around a pool table drinking beer then I would veer my eyes over to the bar and then notice those gangs that hung around each other they walked the same, they even had similar close then their mates and girl friends.

Then of course the locals divided into two groups by colours on their backs normally these wonderful long-haired scruffy unwashed and smelly bike lovers would look like they had not washed, cut their hair and always hung around the corner bar and dart board area.. that was their area…

Then of course the seriously good-looking angry-looking, in fact they had no expression on their gorgeous mannish faces these boys where my favourites.. at the time cuz normally when they smiled OMG moment pearly white teeth AND  COULD THEY smile took my breath away…

All these different designer men at a Beach hotel in Waikiki, packed pub, and a live band was never ever a disappointment, cuz us girls pint-sized nothing surfie, girls normally tanned black, with surfie beads, stone washed jeans tightly around our asses and all of us cute as buttons.. with our crisps white shirts and butter would not melt in our little 18-year-old mouths… oh yes, indeed…

And me who always and every Sunday Session would do the same walk to find those broody boys who had no smiles…. so what do you think I did to crack those smashing smiles….

Cheeky, sassy, brassy, short asses swinging from the tall bar swinging off with my feet not even close to the floor in their faces.. with my pearly whites saying, come on I know you can give me those beautiful pearls….

Oh, boy, oh, Boy….

Not every time I would but, always there would be at least two cuz they definitely would not broad at the bar alone.. too cool for school and leant over the bar … O M G, legs of steel and an ass of metal… impressive in tight bloody jeans.. my mouth open wide thinking wow I found them mind-blowing and a definite cracker……

Never date them but, jesus I used to get a beautiful smile out of these gorgeous men… and did they smile…. and sass with me… listen you naughty minx you should be home in bed cuz it was past my bed time…. how rude… however, I couldn’t get my smile off my face as I walked passed them and always I was picked up swung around and paid back let me tell you…

I think they put me in a rather tall empty hollow statue once…at least tried too upside down..the only problem is I recalled them saying as they laughed shit… she fitted… bloody hell…… It was at the other local which was unexpected cuz I didn’t see them…. but, they spotted me  and it was pay back…….bastards……..Screamed my heaD OFF…

In surprise… so damn funny…. so damn hot!!!

However, I was surrounded by rather well, good healthy vibrant, strong and let me say broody men which I knew I could only do this too them a couple of times before they got sick of me… these guys where too old but, far out they had white, white teeth… and it was worth it…just to see them smiling..

True story… Franny x

It’s Not What You Know, It’s How You Think


How we think affects everything from our ability to solve problems to how we understand meaning, value, and purpose.

There are many trends and patterns to be found in the past, and the Durants do a commendable job of highlighting them. The essence of their view, however, can be summarized by the following sentence from their short book:

The only real revolution is in the enlightenment of the mind and the improvement of character, the only real emancipation is individual, and the only real revolutionists are philosophers and saints.

The Durants believed that despite all that has and continues to change in our external environment, the real battle is still internal. Real change doesn’t happen until we face our minds and our thoughts.

There is a fair degree of nuance that needs to be accounted for with a statement like that, and it ties into larger questions of what progress is and how subjects relate to objects, but the fact that our thoughts — and their ability to change our minds — play a pivotal role in our experience of reality is self-evident in ways that are common sense. How we think affects everything from our ability to solve problems to how we understand meaning, value, and purpose. The Durants made it their life’s work to improve this ability in the average person by disseminating information — mostly history and philosophy.

But information alone doesn’t make our thinking better. We also have to understand and update the way our minds process this information.

Our Minds Get Stuck in Habit Loops – if you wish Mindsets

Based on popular psychology literature, some thinkers have codified the way we form habits into a simple loop: a trigger, a routine, and a reward. We see something in our environment that sets off the trigger; the trigger leads to a routine we’ve internalized based on our past interactions in such an environment; finally, a reward at the end reinforces said routine.

If you observe this in your daily life, you’ll see that it’s roughly right. Our brain is a pattern-seeking survival machine, and habits are how it ensures that we don’t have to think too hard about what to do when familiar situations arise, letting us conserve energy.

With time, we start to recognize patterns around us, and we internalize these patterns so that we can reuse them in the future.

When it comes to the human mind, there are still no concrete theories of how thought emerges. We know, however, that thought plays a pivotal role in facilitating how we interact with the information that the Durants, for example, were trying to impart on us.

In the same way that we form habits of action relating to our environment, we also form habits of thought when it comes to how we think about the world. We are all born into a reality in which — at first, at least — we can’t even distinguish between our own separateness from the world. With time, however, we start to recognize patterns around us, and we internalize these patterns — like we do habits — so that we can reuse them in the future. Usually, if a pattern persists in our mental habits, it means that it is valuable in some sense. But this is only the case if we apply that pattern to the right information.

One of the reasons it’s so hard to change our minds about things is that our brains are stuck in these mental habit loops, which tend to look at information from a singular point of view. Our brains have learned something in one context, so they mistakenly apply it to others, mixing up the triggers that lead to routine thoughts.

We’re all capable of overpowering these habit loops, of course, but it’s very easy and productive to have them operating as the default mode. To think well, we must be aware of their limitations and to not let them restrict us.

Diversifying Thinking Patterns Changes Us

Each of us faces different challenges at different times in different ways based both on our biology and our unique cultural upbringing. No two people think exactly the same way because no two people have lived exactly the same life.

In fact, these different thinking patterns (mostly produced from our mental habit loops) are, in large part, what makes you, you and me, me. Our identities are borne from the convergence of these patterns. They create our subjective experience.

The more diverse our trained thinking patterns are, the more accurately we will be able to interact with information around us.

The Durants are getting at the idea that although we’ve seen so much external change throughout history, none of it truly makes a difference unless we calibrate our internal, subjective experience with that objective, external environment. Our subjective experience is limited, and using it — and the thinking patterns that create it — as a baseline for understanding the world is a limited way to go through life. It biases us in the wrong direction.

At its core, a thinking pattern is an implicit rule of thumb for the way we connect aspects of our reality. Given the complexity of this reality, the more diverse our trained thinking patterns are — and the better refined the associated triggers are — the more accurately we will be able to interact with information around us.

Because thinking patterns emerge from the mental habit loops we form as a response to experience, the only way to diversify them is to seek out new and conflicting encounters. We can do this through books, unfamiliar environments, or even hypothetical thought games.

Outside of extreme external circumstances, any time we’re struggling to solve a problem or lacking a sense of satisfaction and meaning, it’s due to the fact that our current thinking patterns are not adequately suited for the job. Instead, we have to remodel the form and shape of these patterns so they better fit the form and shape of the issue at hand.

How We Think Is What Matters

We’re born with a set of biological machinery, but we’re not born knowing how to use it.

In fact we only know what we only know until we learn something that teaches us something that we didnt realise and this is called a new thought or learnings..

As time goes on, however, we begin to make sense of our reality. We realize what kinds of food are good for us, we learn to avoid things that are painful, and we begin to get attached to those who can take care of us. With even more time, we develop fully concrete distinctions between the different objects around us and how we, as subjects, are to interact with them.

What keeps this process going is our pattern-seeking brain. It forms both habits of action and habits of thought that it embeds into our conscious and subconscious memories to reduce cognitive load.

One of the problems with this, however, is that it’s really easy for us to become stuck in mental habit loops that don’t accurately assess the situation at hand, leading to both problems of comprehension and satisfaction. To counteract this, we have to be intentional in diversifying our thinking patterns. We have to learn to recognize when we’re falling into a mismatched pattern of thought, and we have to then use that information to update how we make connections between the objects in our environment.

To say that all issues can be solved with a shift in thinking patterns ignores the larger picture, but there is a truth to what the Durants learned from history — how we think about what is happening around us is arguably more important than what is actually happening around us.

Remember, we can process what we think and once we experience something or do something or even have those moments that opens up our mind and makes us go.. oh shit, I think it relates to this experience.. then my lovelies the mind becomes clearer and your understanding is taught something new and it retains it for your next chapter.

This is all about growing and learning and changing your brain until it is re-wired to relate and understand other new patterns and hopefully more positive wiring and that will open up moments of bliss.

Good luck and Enjoy it.. because change is something we all do everyday and sometimes we do it when we dont realise that we are doing just that changing for a better more understanding future.

Repeat and Repeat and remember to pat yourself on the back…. because that is amazing…

Franny

Taurus… Sexodiac sign..


I find it difficult to read a sexodiac sign like this many factors are correct and many many more are not so accurate…

It actually sounds very black and white with no grey, which is so untrue because I believe the grey areas are the sweetest areas of understanding.

Love, connection, being stubborn and perhaps a little on the heavy trust side of things is true because my past defined this in many ways… and didnt…

Becareful to not put too much up against your sexual thought process because the unknown isnt always the scariest and to push your boundaries in life is about looking out of your comfort zone and that excitment (not fear) excitment could be FUN…

So, never discount the unknown it does teach you alot about life and yourself

Franny

TAURUS

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Welcome to October, Taurus. This month will rock your world, largely due to Venus, the Planet of Love, spending all month in Scorpio. This activates your partnership sector, and the fact that Venus goes retrograde on the 5th means that no matter how much you may want to, you won’t be able to run from matters of the heart. Your sexual energy will be emphasized, and your ability to get to the root of important sexual and emotional matters will also increase. This may have you in your feels all month long, as you analyze repeating patterns in your relationships.

Venus retrograde can lead to blasts from the pasts, so don’t be surprised if past flings, exes, affairs, or love interests come from out of the woodwork this month. You may not immediately know how to react, but one tip is to avoid being too extreme in your decision-making. That means that you shouldn’t immediately shut them out of your life as soon as you see them, but you also should be wary before engaging with them sexually. Hear them out, figure out why they’re back and what their intentions are. See if both of you have evolved and are able to merge sexually in a way that’s not triggering or confusing. For Taurus’ in a relationship, Venus retrograde in your partnership sector can lead to you and your boo finally hashing out some unresolved misunderstandings in your relationship. You must clear the air in order to feel sexually connected to your partner. It is possible that you’ll get in arguments or disagreements during Venus Retrograde though — but the Universe wants you to find peaceful solutions to your problems rather than resorting to blaming each other or becoming vengeful. With the intense and passionate Scorpio energy, your arguments can often be followed by steamy make-up sex, and it can be hard to distinguish reality from fantasy under this elusive influence.

Luckily, three days after Venus Retrograde begins, the New Moon in Libra helps lighten up the mood significantly. New Moons have a 10-day window when it comes to activating a fresh start in your life, and this New Moon takes place in your sector of health and wellness. Practically speaking, the dates of October 8 – October 18 are great for checking up on your sexual and physical health. If you’ve felt worn out or exhausted lately, you may want to engage in some therapeutic activities. Get your partner to give you a relaxing massage, or give them one, and all that intimate touch and sensuality could get you both quite riled up and ready to tear each other’s clothes off. Libra is the sign of romance and relationship, and both you and Libra are ruled by Venus, the Planet of Love, so you will enjoy this harmonious energy and it’ll help you let out your more romantic qualities. Mid-October is perfect for taking your sex partner out on a date and amping up the foreplay in the bedroom. If you’re single, use this New Moon to set intentions about where you’d like to be six months from now. Be specific and clear, and don’t let past pain hold you back from dreaming big and believing in your ability to attract a partner who gets you, loves you, and sexually fulfills you. This month is about reconditioning your mind to let go of limiting beliefs that prevent you from feeling sexually liberated or fully satisfied.

Once Scorpio Season begins on October 23, followed by your annual Full Moon in Taurus on October 24, you will feel like a brand new person and you will have learned the tough lessons necessary for you to celebrate your sex life with ease, passion, and intensity. The Scorpio energy will be so palpable, and when combined with a Full Moon in your sign, all eyes will be on you. Your ability to get what you want will increase significantly. This is the time to let your sex partner exactly what you want them to do to you, and to show them what you want to do to them. Your sexual urges will be super strong, and some people may even be intimidated by your palpable sex drive. But those who don’t fear you will want you more than ever, and you’ll enjoy this attention. This Full Moon is connected to the New Moon in Taurus that took place on May 15, 2018, so you may find that whichever sexual partner(s) were in your life at that time are still in your life now — but this time, the connection is stronger and more magnetic than ever. Way to end the month strong!

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ABOUT TAURUS

As a Taurus, you are ruled by Venus, the Planet of Love and Relationships. You are also a Fixed sign, making you very passionate and somewhat stubborn when it comes to sex and partnerships. No wonder Taurus has a reputation for being such a head-strong lover, and for leaning towards extremes both in and outside of the bedroom. One minute you may feel super horny and need sex as an outlet for your intense emotions, and the next minute you may feel very private and introverted, and want to shun everyone away and go on a sex sabbatical. This back and forth in your sexual nature can both intrigue and deeply confuse your sexual partners. One thing’s for sure, you prefer to have a connection with someone who wants to merge their mind, body and soul with you rather than sleep around. You often lean towards monogamy rather than polygamy, but there are exceptions that occur when the mood is right (and perhaps if you’ve had a few drinks or substances in your system). You like to know that your sexual partner has chosen you and only you, and this helps you become even more invested in the sexual act. When you feel both a physical and emotional connection with someone, the amount of passion that you invest into sex increases exponentially.

Your Taurus self cannot handle shallow lovers or sexual partners. While yes, you are visually stimulated and do enjoy beautiful people, you are also a very profound sign and always thinking deeply and seeking to unravel people’s true personality. So you’ll seek to merge physically with someone who has more to offer you than just their body. You seek partners of substance who can provide you with a variety of sensations and conversations. You also want to make sure that they’re not playing mind games with you, because you want to be their priority, and not just an option. At first, your all-or-nothing intensity may be too much to handle for some romantic partners, particularly Air or Fire signs who tend to keep things light and fun. So you may find yourself drawn to Earth and Water signs who also tend to crave commitment and intimacy. But because you’re not one to shy away from a challenge, if your sexual conquest ends up being a Fire or Air sign, you’ll enjoy getting them to be sexually hooked on you and remain consistently in your bed. There is something about you that can lead to people constantly having you on their mind, Taurus, and you’re well aware of this gift and you don’t use it lightly.

One of the most legendary things about you when it comes to your sex style, Taurus, is that you like to be prepared before getting it on. You will take time to make sure you’re properly groomed and that you feel good in your skin. You also want your sexual partners to have put in that effort, because luxury is important to you. The aesthetic of your environment matters to you — think candles, an incredible playlist, and snacks nearby to recharge your batteries after a series of erotic rounds. As for the foreplay, that’s the one aspect of sex you don’t take lightly. From frisky text message exchanges to deep tissue massages, you don’t miss a beat when it comes to setting the mood and amping up the anticipation with your sex partner. Sometimes people may view you as too slow and steady, and they may be ready to get to have a home run while you’re barely getting to second base, so it’s important for you to communicate your desires and lovemaking style to minimize confusion.

You’re the type of person who would love to have a sex rendez-vous planned in advance so that you can mentally and physically prepare for it. You aren’t as into spontaneous quickies, and because you’re a Fixed sign and less adaptable than most, you may even turn them down altogether if you feel unprepared or caught by surprise. While you tend to be more predictable in the bedroom, you’re never boring. People who engage in sexual relations with you are often out of breath by the end of round one due to your tenacity and consistency. For people to truly see you unleash your uninhibited side in the bedroom, they have to earn your trust and loyalty and you have to feel like they’re here to stay. Then they’ll be in for non-stop sexual thrills that last all night (or day) long.

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