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I had a Blow out over the Weekend


So, all a great start to a beautiful weekend, however, right before we went out and me trying nearly everything on in my wardrobe by husband and I had a blow out all because of me requiring safety pins.

I have to say these days my temper is a little harder to control than normal, it takes me a while to get up there but, now I seem to have a bigger problem getting down from my anger, rage whatever you wish to put it in.659111_1.jpg

There does not seem to be any grey area now which is a problem my husband was doing his best to try and stop my rage but, for some reason I just wanted to leave, go, pack, it was Flight or Fight, in fact, both!

It made me think on why I wanted to go, leave, exit plan B!

After all my work and his I might add through all the trauma of my past and the ease of these weeks have been great, however, the rage, anger, hostility was not a good side to myself and it was horrible, nasty and darn right wrong!

It lasted a day and a half and I was exhausted, worn out and felt like shit, to be honest, nothing I can say will make that weekend better nor me for that much!

Both of us can hold up ourselves in an argument but, I could hear my mother come out of my mouth and it was horrible and revolting, to say the least…

  • Is this normal after acknowledging one’s past trauma, or is it me?
  • Is it common after feeling great or am I going end up like my mother?

How do we Empower ourselves…


What a question… How do we Empower ourselves in believing we are Unique…

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There is no power apart from your own self.. this isn’t Ego, this isn’t Self-praise this is just simply how you see yourself and others.

Firstly, you must open your eyes, you must be totally honest about yourself and what you want, what you see, how you grow, who you want in your life…

People and positive affirmations are amazing, however, people and negative affirmations aren’t, we tend to get bogged down, doubt ourselves, we end up being miserable and sad about ourselves when those that feel the same way will, of course, have negative empowerment over you.img_4780.jpg

So, how do we do it… well, sometimes we just have to fix ourselves first, we can say how we feel, winge, moan, scream, yell, argue, bellow and continue this feeling by being right…

Or do we just go okay, let me take some time out and invest in myself and go over if I need to my past just to make sure all things are okay?

Or we go Of course they are okay because I am okay…

What I am trying to say to you is we can only change ourselves for the better make sure everything is working well, because even if it isn’t well, we certainly will make sure it is..

Our minds are the main memory of our pain, our happiness, our humour, our ups and our downs.. so why wouldn’t it be okay?

Many people including me said, but, that hurt me, and why are they mean, or perhaps my past made me strong, or I would say you dont understand who I am an what I did to be who I am…

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Guess what… so?

 

Guess what… and?

 

Guess what… are you finished with the winging and the moaning about how sad you are of yourself because something happened and I am going to find out no matter what it takes..

 

Guess what… And?

 

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Guess what… will it make a difference?

 

Guess what NO, it won’t so get over it and let it go… for whatever it was… that hurt you, that made you sad, that took something away..

 

We have all had something like this taken away…  Guess what …. Life is short and you are beautiful.. so live your life with love and get on with your beautiful journey.

 

GUESS WHAT YOU DESERVE IT…. 🙂

 

SMILE…. AND LET YOUR SADNESS GO….. LIVE, LOVE AN LET IT GO….

This is what I do… I find a video that makes me smile and think yup that is me…. in so many beautiful flavours… I am not here to change you …

I am only here to like you , love you, believe in you and never judge you, hurt you, make you sad, or anything other than happy…

So, do yourselves a favour and try and be kind to kind people because there isnt enough of us out there… xxx

So I could be your CRUSH, TOUCH, TOUCH, CRUSH xxx Keep watching the videos after it all are valid to the above post I have just posted…

“A CANDII-DO”, You can reclaim ,Your Sex Life After Surviving Sexual Assault…


Hey Candii here, HERE is a little of my story and what I did to heal….

True Story I am 50 years old and to be honest I have my good days and my shit days.. but, in most my days are better than they have been in a very long time…

A very long time ago (before I met my husband) this as taken me a long time to be “out” about this as it took me a very long time to understand what Once I thought I had dealt with I really didn’t at all.

I too am a survivor of rape, sexual assault and I have to say yes, sex, love, trust, happiness, strength about yourself more importantly and those that you wish to exchange your trust with or just your husband or partner this is up to you..

I must explain further about your sexual understanding and how to overcome some ASSHOLE that took something from you all because he may have slipped a mickey in your food, drink or cracked it up while swirling it around in your Esspresso Martini???!?!?!

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These seven tips may not be for everyone, but they’re methods that I found to be indispensable in helping to make sex a fun, positive experience again.

Take as Much “Time to Heal” as you want

Prior to my attacks, I prided myself on being sex positive and adventurous a little odd, crazy, some would say stupid I grant you this however, why on earth would I give some fool that much intent of taking away my life?

Well, some did take away my life for a very long time indeed but, is it right?

 

Should they take away your beautiful nature?

Why on earth would we allow anyone to rip our hearts out and shit all over it … all because they or him or them are too smaller man to ever allow themselves a place in your heart, soul and dont think for one moment I don’t get it… I do…

So, In fact you do (when your ready) NEED to tell someone police if you wish, a therapist, doctor, a close dear friend becaue your life does matter.. and what they did or he did whoever it was NEVER allow anyone to destroy your inner spirit.

It took me a very long time to be present I was so used to sweeping my bad memories under the carpet like it was nothing but, just another day that made me feel like it was my fault..

That feeling “my fault” wow, sad hey!

Jesus, how many times I heard myself say that to me was countless, it was like me saying to god, are you punishing me, again?

So, I would think to myself alone mostly I would say, “there must be something I have to learn about me”?

Shite …. I had many moments (let’s call them that) that I said that about saying to god over and over, of course god had nothing to do with my feeling of despair about myself I was more harder on me than any person on this planet could be…

So, I guess what I am trying to say “YOUR NOT ALONE, Ladies, Men and yes, men too…”

 

How to heal your own body after sexual abuse

Everyone heals differently, I found that healing was removing it from my brain however, because I did this I never seemed to understand or see “dangers” it was a given that it would occur again and again until I was present to understanding or at least recognising moments of terror or anxiety or even those horrid moments of “Triggered them”.

Healing was in fact understanding how to recogise events that did not suit my needs and gave me alarm bells of being more present within myself, my surroundings and those I hung out with.. this took me years upon years to even notice them!

Being fun, crazy, bubbly isnt about being any of those great emotions it’s about opening your eyes to surroundings, behaviours, language and everything that you should do but, a didnt this means your alert, it means you are not being present within your ownself and you are putting your needs above all others.

And this is called growth, understanding, awareness, and finally self worth of you, so please understand you cannot heal until your worth is more important to you than any person on this planet…

Without you being worthy then you will not heal and you will repeat all those terrible things because frankly your self worth, of you isnt your priority and you MUST be present by loving yourself first..

Don’t Be Afraid to be sexual…. it is your right!!!

While many people might find solace in entering a trusting, monogamous relationship with a person who can help them explore their sexuality in a safe and patient environment, others can find that to be too big of a step to take at this stage. Making yourself open to consensual sexual experiences and being in complete control of them can be liberating as a coping method. It can also help to restore your faith and trust in sexual contact and relationships.

However, this is allowing your thoughts be free and then your trust in yourself on what you want to do either as a single girl, partnered, or experimental all these things are your life right to be a female.

Now be safe when picking a potential partner, fuck buddy, gal play mate, male play mate all the above whichever floats your boat…

Use a trusted friend that has your back or a system for yourself and even if you do meet someone make sure your with a mate that has your back or at least do it during the day in public and of course always have a back up plan if it ever goes sour…

Be Vocal About What You want, desire

Whether you’re having sex with a long term partner, a buddy, or a fun fling, you should never be afraid to speak up about what you’re enjoying and what you’re not. Take control over your body, your pleasure, and the moment by telling your lover what to do and where to do it. Tell them to stop if something feels wrong. Being demanding and domineering during sex can be insanely sexy for the person you’re doing it with. Most importantly, it gives you the chance to direct the experience in a way that’s healthy, positive and pleasurable.

DO NOT –  Apologize  (still working on this one)

The process of recovering from a sexually traumatic experience can be longer than we expect. Although we may think that we’re completely over it, sometimes the smallest thing can trigger a response that can restrict our enjoyment or desire for sex.

Personally, I’ve had entire months where I’ve not been comfortable enough to want sex, which must be tough on my long-term partner who has been nothing but patient and supportive for over 20 years that we’ve been a monogamous couple.

Our relationship from the beginning I must admit was head scratching however, kinky as it might sound (which is another post one day) there where times now looking back I must admit I should have thought twice..(get it twice – oh, never mind)

The outcome for me was me sobbing in the shower crying thinking I was a bad person and deserved the way I was being treated.. however, it wasnt bad to me I liked it I may not have understood alot about myself but, I would never had stayed if I didnt.

I am a very open honest and a little bit odd female what I like others wont.. so I can only be true to me.. and that is exactly what I love about myself..

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Remember ladies, gents… we all have the freedom and the power to say no.

If they care about you then they’ll respect and understand the nuances of the word without requiring your desire for absolution from it.

Negotiate Pleasure

This is especially important for those in a monogamous, long-term relationship with someone.

Negotiate, talk with each other, even do a contract like “50 Shades” if you wish together a list of fun, naughty, what you would do and wouldnt do and always remember to have loads of fun…..

 

Make sure you heal, be present and always, always put yourself first….this can open the doors to exploring their comfort zones and to enjoying the provision of pleasure for someone else without immediate gratification for yourself.

Be generous.

Be creative.

Be open honest and love yourself ladies, men, young women…. LOVE YOURSELF first…

Follow your instincts and you’ll be one step closer to understanding and achieving your own comfortable pleasure on a regular basis. 

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Here is a suttle reminder to my fellow sisters out there…. let me know if you agree?


Endless, love, appreciation, devotion, honoured, Blessed and many other flavours that I would spend my entire life saying, until well, until a bit of rat bag behavior came pouring back into a mans viens like water out of a hose..:)

 

If I could put the above title or jibber-jabber into a longer word and as you can see I did try my best and guess what?

I guess it would be simply a thank you, for many things mostly something I had never seen .. isn’t it funny or strange and a little sad, really, when you never see something or have felt something you take longer to understand it???

Us ladies, we are so lucky at times, we can winge, moan, carry on like a pork chop, cry, and sob our eyes out with emotion and our sadness is heard 3 blocks away.. (lol)

Now men, well, they rarely cry, if ever, show any type of human emotion, when someone dies they hold it together, they work such long hours, their bodies are black and blue, and the result of many men who work they do end up with many injuries and they still stay silent..go figure..

Us women, we whine about why they don’t show emotion, we yell at them for not listening when those clever males have an inbuilt and so they should, the mechanism to shut that door of anything other than, a grunt of acknowledgement.  And then us women because we are the most annoying, pestering termites of no appreciation we ask them the stupidest question…

Did you even hear me?

If you did hear me then what did I say?

Now we know that question above is condescending, very mother-like behaviour, and we do know he will snap off our heads like we are Twiggs, but, we have to go there don’t we?

Why?

I believe we end up being thrown into a child tunnel vision mode and by the time you even have any energy left after the 6 kids, of course, all born 10 minutes apart are fed, bathed, clothed and rocked to sleep then we have a little opening to breath, shit and fart out our little we have left to spend with our hard-working bridge trolls..download (4)

that was a joke..lol

However, both can and will test us it is human nature…to a point. I have do have this thought behind my thoughts.. my husband’s nature is a real smart assed and very beautiful when he is in the mood, however, he does seem to press those bloody buttons of I will kill you while you sleep lol

I love him so….. more than he knows…. which I do believe he does…..

I will say I have never wanted to change him .. can’t say he didn’t want me out of the picture from time to time… but, that is another story…

I am sure at times that grave was shovelled to a fine art and I am certainly sure he has even grafted it with retainers and cement on the sides so I am surely going to be laid to rest and never be risen by walking soulless zombies…. another terrible joke..

More another day….. it is about time……… healed and it doesn’t hurt… go figure…

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You will know when it doesn’t hurt

 

HOW TO BE A GOOD SUB…


Oh, thank you, Dom-Sub Living, for sending me this which I will share to the rest of the girls who follow me…

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  • Know that being a sub is a lot of work, mentally, emotionally, and sexually. Make sure you are up for the challenge.
  • Don’t serve apathetically or reluctantly. Show that you truly desire to be owned.
  • Strive to please your Dom in all things, not just sexually. This means that you may have to give up some of your own personal freedoms and preferences.
  • Aim to conduct yourself in a respectful and modest manner at all times, recognizing that your behaviour is a direct reflection on your Dom.
  • Don’t “top from the bottom”, or try to undermine your Dom’s decisions to get your own way.
  • The best and simplest response is usually, “Yes, Sir (or Master, Daddy, etc.).”
  • Always remember that you should be making your Dom’s life easier, not harder.
  • Proactively think about what your Dom needs in any given moment, and try your best to fulfil it.
  • Obey rules to the best of your ability, but if discipline is necessary you should take it willingly.
  • Take great pride in the health and presentation of your body, since you are a representation of your Dom.
  • A good sub craves being used, serving, and giving up control.

Xenical… a reminder to ask before diving in…


Xenical (orlistat) is a gastrointestinal lipase inhibitor used to help with weight loss by preventing the digestion and absorption of fat in food by inhibiting the enzyme lipase in the intestine. Common side effects of Xenical include:

Tell your doctor if you experience serious side effects of Xenical including blood in your urine, urinating less than usual or not at all, drowsiness, confusion, mood changes, increased thirst, swelling, weight gain, feeling short of breath, severe pain in your upper stomach spreading to your back or fast heart rate.

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In this case, Pineapple would have no effect.. on the above medicine when licking I would ask before doing…

Xenical is taken as oral capsules. Xenical may reduce the absorption and blood levels of cyclosporine when both drugs are administered together. Xenical may also cause vitamin K levels to decline, and patients taking warfarin (Coumadin) must have their blood clotting monitored closely. The safety of Xenical in pregnancy and nursing mothers has not been determined.

Our Xenical Side Effects Drug Center provides a comprehensive view of available drug information on the potential side effects when taking this medication.

Give her what she DESIRES…


You know exactly both of you do…She, you, him, them… all wrapped up into a pyramid…of intoxicating desire… Do it you know you want too…img_3703

What we think we can do and what we can do is all the same in my book!

However, to be a submissive whether that is a slut, slave, me being a rebellious one, we are all the same… damaged why?

Because no-one really gave a shit in the first place so we looked after ourselves when no-one was around to help uspity isn’t what we desire we desire the harsh slap on our ass with a dominants hand, we want you to feel the sting as you do it, harder, louder, harsher with each welting moment…

Firstly, we thirst for this through putting ourselves in harms way, testing our own beliefs and seeing if we are collateral damage, then we know exactly why we do it, when we do it and how we do it… this may sound stupid, foolish, dangerous to some, but, to us it is what makes us wet soaking in our own stench and knowing exactly what we draw to ourselves by being obedient to those that deserve our love.

With no pain their is no gain to us that is how we created ourselved and we do enjoy it don’t you ever think we don’t – like I said, it isnt for the faint hearted nor is it for those who do not understand what this lifestyle really is all about.

We do this because we want you also to feel what we feel harder the better, we want our minds at that moment not to be owned by us for a damn change we want you to take us in your harsh hands and make us devoured by the dominant with his love, with his demanding harsh command and with his grace we call him our Master or perhaps Dom.

I like to say YES instead of NO…

No, will only infuriate me wanting him more and more…. if you think that my devotion is something that I am not aware of …………think again… I am not a stupid woman I am very open, honest and I see more, feel more and know exactly what you’re doing before you even do it..

Beautiful Music for the SOUL

I believe in beautiful souls that like, do, react, talk, love, have that part of them that likes what they do without question, those of us who do it and say it is the best feeling and energy that one can ever expect within ourselves firstly.

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We are only human and with that we make errors, we love like no tomorrow and those that have the courage to act on what they love and leave expectations at the door to me are brave souls.

I am a woman who has many flavours and I love that about me..

I will do what I want to do because it makes me who I am..

I never expect more from someone unless I know they have what it takes to be a better person

Never allow another to make you do something you don’t want too do…

Always respect yourself it is not your business what others think you are..

I am crazy, funny, beautiful within my own self and I want you to see your image the way I see you from my eyes..3-dirty-sex-quotes-for-him

Never, ever think you fail you learn by your mistakes and they never ever mistake they are learnings..

Remember to SMILE, Laugh and even Cry they are all your emotions and you own them

ALways understand that life is about learning being better at what you believe in and always leave your EGO at the door.

I always believe in your own power that is within your own body allow it to explode, pick those that you know that understand or at least are willing to see life with a better understanding..

And most of all… Live, Laugh and never allow another to take what is precious about you.. because you are worth it…AGWDM-managing-your-expectations-in-a-casual-relationship-e1443148339671-1

The Rebellious Submissive… xxx

“Twatts Up People”


Can Pineapple Really Change the Way Your Vagina Tastes?

Now before I start this I have just got to realise that some people need a right slap on the back of the head kind of slapping…Image result for pineapples

I mean to say that it seems okay for those that come creeping into a house to get some thinking that they are not seen (yeah, right!)

Then on top of that “Pineapple” is the cure for some Vagina tastes that are off… then for some reason a barmaid says would you like a pineapple dacarri like it came out of no-where anyway…It really doesn’t fall far from the tree… now does it…

Today I may as well, never mind removed what I would normally say to them both….

I hate myself sometimes…… anyhoo, here it is ladies… best to go to the Doctor… check it out …

Mine is normal however, it seems that Pineapple and Fruit is something I require myself from time to time…

I do love Xenical from time to time at the moment I am not on this wonder drug so proceed if your willing lol funny as hell……

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Twatts up, ladies”

Keep your Stink out of your Pink…

 

I had a bit of a Blowout today…


thYou see I am trying my hardest to recover from my past Trauma of many, many events that I had seemed to overlooked or I had no idea just how harsh they really made me tear up without me even being aware of why.

Funny, isn’t it how something that hurt you, lamed you and hindered you over many years had such an invisible pull on this girl of 5ft’4 ratbag Italian/Irish chick of 50 years.

I was such a girl full of wild all eyes wide open so to speak, I still do by the way I have this appetite of nothing bothers me kinda spirit, however, it does, but, I only want to experience things with decent people who are similar to my like.

I will explain why…I have always been very social I adore people I mean no harm towards anyone really I don’t I am a big softy but, I will defend my dear loved ones even if I have to throw myself under a bus to protect them.  I guess the reason is they my husband a  few very (poor things) gorgeous human beings that I love and I have seen bend over backwards to help, another person and that my friends is enough for me to say hep, however, there is so many other reasons why…

It stems back to having a brother who I still adore and cherish, he does have a disability but, he will go up to the biggest bully and at least try to friend him… I love that about him, annoying but, I do say to myself, fair enough I will raise my eyebrows and go woah.. gutsy…39352800_287197282071199_6664480631281418240_n

However, as my life grew away from our local area his sister (me) could have done with a bit of a bully boy to help me through my path of life as a Single mother as you girls will know that is a tough gig and there are arse holes out there willing and waiting for something like us to mosey on by… right?

Anyway, enough of that I survived with many bruises and I had thought I dealt with many which I had.. so pat, pat for me..but, as my curiosity and my wild spirit of wanting to experience things with my husband well, it has been taxing on both of us if not others.. very sorry but, I had no idea..

I knew I had a very deep low feeling that sometimes I would sit and all of a sudden tears would pour out of my eyes and I was suddenly feeling sad, upset and heavy like someone had sat on my head… Another trigger was this “tunnel vision” I could not for the life of me as time went by the turnaround or go around my own home just in case…. I guess..

However, I found out it was a little different really it was more about a very clever and respectful subconscious that decided to peer its little sassy head into my head (me) and say you’re not ready and neither is your husband…1521830997_life-quotes-inspiration-30-inspirational-quotes-for-the-women-who-are-strong-at-heart-trend-to-wear

Shhh, well, he may not agree with him being put in that sentence but, Now I am angry at him because he’s annoying and a pest because he knows how easy it is… but, the smart alec won’t help ….. asshole…love him but, still grrrrr…

Anyway, I have been a tad overbearing with my dogs… sorry Bella and Chino, oh yes and my husband… and other… lol… woops… well, until he says anything I am stuck so take it out on him….No means No… and I get that…   (oh, yes that was Trauma that is seeping into my membrane) it will be out soon.. I guarantee.. even if I have to implant my Minions myself…. into my nose …. that is stupid.. but, that is what PTSD is people…

Bloody hell, indeed, however, I get his point more than he knows and to be perfectly honest putting my thoughts, feelings (new neurons are forming) damn it… I am now dealing with being a smuck… of a feeling mother of god…

So, at the moment I will do my best to deal… and I guess feel … joking ..sort of and I will explain to my husband and those that are close to us … well, actually that isn’t many anymore… which is a problem our circle is slightly off centre…

I am trying to be the best person I can be walking forward and that is okay…. I am extremely happy however, I am also trying to rid a cancerous malignant enemy that hurt me so I will update you all about that another time..

It is amazing that being hurt, fearing something that was so long ago shouldn’t make you disabled.. but, unfortunately, lovely people it will if you don’t deal with you…

Many blessings… Franny xx

 

 

Managing Expectations in a Casual Relationship


Go Figure… me? Well, I don’t seem to ever put expectations on most evenings however is that wise? I would say No!

For me after I marry I am not well available.. however, as we age and live together longer who bloody knows.. But, and alwaYS a But, the only way I would dabble in the naughty is with him……. not without….. so that is my difference.. That is just me.. for those that are more open continue reading..

For some people, a casual relationship is nothing more than a one-night stand. For others, it can mean having a long-term sex partner without co-mingling living situations, families and finances. Either one of those options and the variations in between can be had and can be wonderful. It all starts with managing your expectations.

State Up Front What You Want
Be clear about what you want and what your boundaries are. If those things aren’t okay with the person you’re chatting up, don’t try to talk them into something they don’t want to do or say anything – especially if they’re outright false promises or lies – just to get them into bed. That’s something desperate losers do.

Don’t Expect People to Change
There are a lot of people, especially women, that believe that if the sex is great, that the other person will keep coming back for more or want to develop something more than just a casual relationship. Luring someone in by entrapment never works out or ends well. It’s also dishonest.

Don’t Make Too Many Compromises
Be completely comfortable and accepting with what the other person wants and has to offer in a casual relationship. If you give up too much, you’re going to regret being in the situation you got yourself into. You are entitled to have your casual relationship be a good and happy thing, sexually and otherwise.

When Emotions Get Lopsided
As much as people can tell themselves that a casual relationship is “just sex”, sex is loaded with emotions. After all, sex feels great. Right? A lot of those “feel good” emotions can lead to attachment. That’s why open communication is so important. Talk about your casual relationship as it evolves. If feelings for and expectations of each other aren’t mutual, it’s easier to deal with the situation sooner than later.

Be Friends
Like the person, you’re hooking up with. Be decent, kind, thoughtful and respectful. If you can’t do or be those things, don’t expect a hot sexual vibe in return. If you feel like that’s a chore or obligation, the other person will sense that and think you’re an asshole, and no one wants to have sex with an asshole. And if you don’t like the person you’re hooking up with or if you’re not having fun like friends of any other type do, your sex is not going to be fun.

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If I turned around so many things would have been different, would it? Probably, maybe, who would know, maybe better than you think!

A Word About Respect
I recently came upon a blog discussion thread where a bunch of men were complaining about the way women disrespect them. Everyone is entitled to respect but it’s earned both ways. If you don’t treat people well, hold up your responsibilities, or keep your word, the other person has every right to be pissed off with you. Being in a casual relationship doesn’t mean that you can be casual about manners and courtesy.

Finding a Casual Sex Partner isn’t Necessarily Immediate or Easy
Even if there are hundreds or thousands of potential casual sex partners on a casual sex dating site, it doesn’t mean that you should expect sex on demand or instant gratification. It might take weeks or months to find or cultivate an eventual hookup. Remember that you’re dealing with available people and not just available bodies. Just because someone is available for a casual relationship doesn’t mean that they owe you sex.cropped-images-62.jpg

To do something that you have never done before…


Imagine your on a journey however, remove all the labels, marriage, comfortably.. what have you got?

This all depends on how many is on this journey….? right..

This also depends on the ability to remove your own self and be able to naturally normal however, who wants to be normal or should I say “I am certainly not normal”.

I am a natural pain in the A$$

You see this is how I look at life.. you’re doing something that you think you are in control…but, really how are you in control ?

How long does this last for?

Are you invested?

Or are you that kind of person that only puts in what they think that they can handle?

How do you measure that emotion?



Cracks to me are… many things.. cocky behaviour, brothers in arms hand in  hand (suddenly I have this image of two men in tights skipping down the yellow brick pavement of loopy ness) snap out of it…… or is it a solo one way ticket to Mars…. because frankly, mine has been likes this from the very beginning … which you could say was a while ago…

When a person is so relaxed doesn’t think about their needs they could be disconnected and very busy so they don’t think……

Or they get run down and sick which isn’t the result however, could be..

Just an interesting thought… how much would you gauge in a journey with yourself, others?

What is your thoughts of how you would manage your journey..?

So, how much does a person invest into a possible risk…. I am using this word….. for many reasons….

My answer to this is EVERYTHING….. I go in from the very beginning str8 into the deep end…. and the funny thing is .. I seem to be still keeping my head just above the water…..figure of speech…… keeping that I am a women…

What if you are a man .. ?

Zombie time warp…. have a watch…. seems fitting..

IF you can paint me a picture of this journey, then what good are you? or Perhaps, it is as simple or as they say difficult as you want it to be, right?

This is now the time to be present and begin this Journey today..


Lets talk about being Present within yourself and within those that you share you lives with socially and explisitly, without judgement, bullshit, just enjoy and have so bloody fun..

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They blame you instead and think it is funny….

We do deserve to be ourselves… we are not caged animals..are we??

Your journey, my journey, the popes journey we all have them and those that understand what that means in fact understand we all have limitations in our lives, however, this isnt about limitations…. I am talking about no LIMITATIONS.. going forward….

In fact let’s be real for a moment

We get to a point in our lives that we go on our personal journeys some include people that are the same mind set.. you would hope… some prefer to go naked and find new ones… some love that same simular smart mouthed larikin… I am one of those.. so is my hubby however, we also love to socialise with new exciting people who love life..

So, let’s shift and start doing because we should now be ready to walk side by side and enjoy life, right?life-quotes-inspiration-i-just-want-friendship-we-have-something-so-special-and-both-be-through-so-muc

I am ready, I know my hubby is… are you?

I had the best weekend and the efforts of my own self was firstly the most powerful, gob smacking, speechless, and devine moment I have had thus far…

In fact, I wanted to just stop and breath in this amazing awareness that I experienced I felt safe, I had no noise, I thought for one moment that my age was back as a young women where I seemed to really let go of things easier… or at least quicker..

However, this feeling was much better… Let me tell you

So, what is it going to take to be present and take that leap of faith?deep-connection-friendships

So, for me, my gorgeous, husband and hopefully anyone else that wishes to put up with our bad inappropriate behaviour, opinionated beliefs, excellent humour, and frankly we are pretty friggin annoying… couple but, yes any other that wishes to jump on board our pink jumbo elephant then by all means.. do so…

So from today which indeed I believe that we are all ready.. to have so bloody fun or at least get dressed up go out into this perth city and find a bar, view, beach, bottle of wine and have some really good fun.

Laughing, is the best start to any journey with those that you care enough about, get along with and have no limitations to expressing whatever you wish to say, feel, joke about with life can and will always be as hard and difficult as you wish… nothing is garenteed and that is what our entire life has been based on…

Below is all those emotions that we tend to have within us… have a look.. and embrace, and trust yourself… nothing to be lost… everything to be loved..

………………so what are you waiting for?? I am so excited to walk with a better skip rather than hesitation anymore.. done and dusted… let’s go and have some bloody fun… okay ?

BTW… nice choice of music xxx

Over whelmed & very humble


Hmm, wow, so many emotions, feelings, thankfulness and wow’s that I cannot even put on a blog, post, bloody post it pad even if my senses are in an amazement with what I have ever been taught in my life I have to say this moment, right now is what life should be.

Let me say it the best way I can… you can suffer from your past or you can find understanding within yourself, find that love that resonates so beautifully, courage, honesty, most your core values that most forget…but, with some people who care enough (thank you) for reminding me of asking me a while ago.. what was mine…

If your life suddenly begins to question you by signalling you areas that seem like difficult, angry, harsh, perhaps you find your lost, sad, suddenly fearful, it is amazing to me that your inner strength is such a powerhouse if you believe it… this isn’t ever taken for granted nor is it ever dismissed but, it does challenge you when you find it hard to justify sadness, trauma, no help apart from what you know this area I am speaking about was finally made to rest…

Then.. fate smiles suddenly, mostly when you don’t or are not ready for it… but, she does smile however, not without, everything you only know… so when for some reason that you start to question things and say to yourself that’s odd why do I feel and suddenly you go wow, that’s a feeling I like and respect and then suddenly you start to open your eyes wider with awe and slowly and mindfully with care you want to say thank you, with much love… that I cannot even explain.

A feeling isn’t something that I was USED TO well at least on a constant and peaceful without someone yelling and screaming at me as I grew up so it took me a little longer to understand a few areas that made me sit up and go with that is so bloody cool

So, this may not make any sense to anyone, but, this is a thank you to two people one that resides with me and that other well, the invisible if it wishes to remain that way but, knows you are very welcome to take a chance and go hiya

To say thank you with my heart, soul and thus far hopefully you will join us and begin a journey that we all deserve… I know I do and I know courts do…. how  about it kiddo??

A Woman’s Heart is a Deep Ocean of Secrets…


So many men think women want money, cars and gifts.

But the right women wants a man’s time, effort, passion, honesty, loyalty, smile, and him choosing to put her as a Priority that is “Hell Sexy”, beautifully honest, tear jerking friggin simply sexy as fck

 

A reflection of ones life….

This is how each other should look at one another….. this song is me… right down to the damn friggin ground… I love how raw it is and how raw they both are… simply beautifully honest!!!  ……. simply raw, simply human…

I think your beautiful… just be you….. wow, that is simply honest, truth, beautiful….

 

 

This song……. is mine….

 

I havent thought about this for a very long time in fact so long I can’t even remember who it was, but I do remember how and where I was when it hurt like someone had ripped out my beating heart and made it worth nothing but, their ego, something that was worthless and it was something I was never going to use again…

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Funny that paragraph above I think us women those who really feel deeply we think we wont feel again but, for some reason it’s not part of our DNA.

So, we do a few things in life I guess we watch like a hawk, we pace ourselves to look around we tend to lightly tip toe before our feelings again are hindered.

Why?

I am Confident because I can admit who I am, what Ive done, and love myself for who Ive become.

Because each time we break something leaves our spirit and without our knowledge we do tend to be a little numb around those because heart throbbing moments when your mind, soul and heart leads before you even know what hit you!

So, the question is my beautiful bloggers how many times did my heart really break?1521830997_life-quotes-inspiration-30-inspirational-quotes-for-the-women-who-are-strong-at-heart-trend-to-wear.jpg

Hmmm, well, my secret, my deeply covered moments that we all have but for me it was like my stomach had done a flip and my head was a little giddy and it scared the shit out of me…..

This occurred to me a few times in my later years…. after 28 years old, so what did I do, I was too busy trying to be a mum, trying to stop ferral men bitting my ass cuz, their 6 pack was their trophies…

I had no time to stop and smell the roses so to be honest – I have no idea all I know I did feel moments, however, I could not allow it to destroy me!

Why?

Because, just because…..of many reasons… 383f4aaba84ed577a940d05606c656ed--inspring-quotes-confident-woman.jpg

I believe in strength of living, loving, sharing moments, my heart feels, loves, beats, we are all only human this is the beauty of being a women..

Never play with a womens heart, once broken it will destroy her soul… it isn’t a game of popularity, it isnt a game that anyone wins… hearts and souls are not toy’s they are parts of your body that makes you whole…

I am the type of person that will sit in the bathroom and cry, but, then walk out like nothing ever happened..

Never Play with a Womens Heart…

“Never play with Feelings of others, because you may win the game but, you’ll surely lose the person forever…”

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What if you don’t even know… hmm?


The going consensus is that women in the lifestyle are either bi-curious or bisexual…

What if women don’t know if they are anything other than what they know?

Seriously, unless you are married to a person who questions I dunno, pretty much everthing that god has said not too… (shucks) If it was up to me remove the damn labels and find out for ourselves… this is also for men as well.. go figure how hard is life .. seriously people… moving on….images

Even though that may be very true for many, others still don’t wish for things to be labeled as there are only bi-sexual ladies in the lifestyle. After all, the lifestyle thankfully allows for variety in every single way imaginable!

Girls, Girls, Girls

A little research on this topic at travel events reveals that there are also those who can just appreciate a beautiful woman while still being very straight.

Then there are those who like to just kiss another woman without it going into a full-on sex session too. Of course, that could be somewhat of a stretch as at events, limits and boundaries are somewhat flexible.

Why is that?

Well, because apparently, and this comes from the mouth of the ladies themselves:

  • Women do kiss differently than men!
  • Really?
  • Yes, I am not that way atm… however, I have experienced women’s kisses… shock!! I have??? Nooooooo me who is straight god hell.. what is life going to do to me now???
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If I turned around so many things would have been different, would it? Probably, maybe, who would know, maybe better than you think!

 

Many ladies experimented in their younger years with their girlfriends. Word of mouth only goes so far after all!

They do???

No???

LOL, jesus, seriously?

So, What Gives?

When asked, it was mentioned that there is a significant difference in experience when kissing a woman instead of a man.

Kissing a woman is described as:

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  • just a bit lovelier, quite softer and deeper with a beautiful layer of delicacy. So now that we know that, do those kissing women then want to get “kissed” to change into a bisexual lady perhaps?

The answer, give or take a few: Oh no, not at all, of course the more the merrier, but it’s also awesome to be able to just kiss a beautiful woman without it having to go any further than that. No other expectations, period.

But do Women Prefer Women over Men?

The next logical question is: Do women prefer a woman’s kiss over the kiss of a man? And the answer again is no, it’s just considered different and more of a nice addition. Well, all in all, the men don’t seem to mind… On the contrary, a look, a flirt, a kiss, a touch and who knows where things will lead.

That very first kiss between women, what makes it so special? At SDC travel events you can witness this magic happen all the time. Threesomes and foursomes and moresomes are not an uncommon result either. Absolutely nothing is wrong with that, so by all means, if and when the urge hits you, kiss away ladies!

Each to their own I believe, baby steps, don’t beat yourselves up, and never, ever think life is as difficult as most would seem to think!

We are only human beings living in a world that seems to have everything bit like a candystore.. right so, please don’t make it harder than it should be by making it more difficult for each other.

Love and Trust, never say things like…. I don’t care if, or I am not bothered, or Never say to your wife… he or she is off limits because the question is why?

If you just relax a bit let them think … let them go .. if your not open to everything then stay home and watch a movie because if your not open.. then the door stays shut..

It is as simple or difficult as you make it.. if you start dictating to each other what you think it should be.. it does become quite difficult to understand each other and the next thing you both do is disconnect!9bcf8fe9f858a35a5bc9bbde2b4e3ddb

So, please pace yourselves…. relax….. and take your time…. be mindful of each others minds and hearts…. always allow one another to think for themselves and never tell each other that what they think and feel is wrong..

Let them work it out… for themselves 🙂

Candii xxx

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How to Talk About Sex!


Sex Quirks We All Share

(Even If We Won’t Admit It)

Oral sex isn’t always about getting on your knees and puckering up. Some of the best oral sex (think long-term payoff) can be taken care of standing up or sitting at the dinner table—through real, honest communication. Getting oral with your partner is probably the most important thing you can do to cultivate a red-hot sexual relationship. So start talking!

It may not be easy to do, but the more you practice, the easier it gets. If a topic is awkward, use these four tips to get started:

Talk when the time is right.

Initiating a serious conversation about sex right before you’re about to get hot and heavy isn’t always ideal. You’re more likely to rush through the discussion if your goal is really to get down to business. So set some time aside when sex is off the table: Start talking about sex while you’re out for coffee, having lunch, or driving to work.

Be honest with yourself first.

To communicate effectively with your partner, you first need to know exactly what you want. Take some time to jot down your needs as well as your biggest fears. Bring these to the table when you talk to your partner and be honest about your vulnerabilities and uncertainties.

Talking openly about your insecurities helps your partner understand your perspective and reduces the likelihood that you’ll manifest those issues in an untoward (and less attractive) manner at a later date.

Make requests, not complaints.

Talk about your hottest turn-ons and steadfast turn-offs, but be mindful that sex is a highly sensitive subject.

Frame your statements in terms of personal feelings, as opposed to attacks and accusations. If there is something your partner does that drives you crazy (and not in a good way), try expressing yourself in terms of preference rather than criticism: “I prefer when you suck hard as opposed to tickling with just the tip of your tongue.” Straightforwardness and tact need not be mutually exclusive.

Listen and ask questions.

The sex talk will be easier and smoother if it’s a two-way exchange as opposed to a lecture. If you’re naturally more inclined toward verbal expression than your partner, take a step back and encourage him or her to open up so that the conversations isn’t one-sided. Listen intently and ask for clarification as needed.

Sex Quirks We All Share (Even If We Won't Admit It)

 

Time for a little Change…


Hello lovelies,

BLOGGERS WHY DON’T YOU TALK ON HERE?

As you are aware I chat on here about reflection, experiences of others and a little of myself and my past as we all do.

So, I wanted to do something different moving forward now this will be based on my Studies in the next few years for Counselling which is still pending for completion in August and of course sexologist next year.915e1ee238ac17f4e8cb103699b30392

Now, what is it that I would love you to share with me?

Well, this is completely up to you I know for some it seems difficult to open up and talk in normal circumstances however, this is a blog and blogs are used for chatting about themselves or perhaps experiences or even the main topic that the writer provides you with.

So, what topics interest you in being part of?

  • Lets look at what you would like to see more on a blog or at least what topic would interest you and make you chat about?
  • Do you like talking about issues or thoughts about sex?
  • Have you got a question that is in the back of your mind and you would like me to do some research on it for you?
  • Do you have anything that you would like to discuss with others that your stuck with?
  • Is there anything in your life that you would like me to help solve for you?
  • If you are an expert in a field what is it that you do?

Why am I asking the above?

Well, because I do have a huge heart, and I believe in sharing my thoughts this is why I share so much and hide so much so I don’t feel alone myself.  And at times more than I would like I do feel very isolated and very much alone and if you knew me, that is like caging a wild alley cat that wouldn’t be kind at all 🙂

39352800_287197282071199_6664480631281418240_n.jpgThe questions are just random however, I would love to see if we can get others that have perhaps questions, ideas, expert in fields that can help others?  I find it very important to talk about subjects of either the heart, soul, how to help one another in need or even just say your bit because that is what our mouths are for. to share ideas and help one another for all of us to grow.

Life is what you make of it.. if you don’t say your bit how are those that cannot open their mouths going to know that they are not alone in this world!giphy

We need people who help one another we do not need ostriches that put their head in the sand and say nothing…

How would that help anyone? lets face it, right!

So, if you can please add something or at least answer a few of those questions above and lets see if we can at least help 1 person.images (50)

Love and hugs Franny x

So, can you help me, help you?

 

Moments with Reflection


My moment was being very present and a little bit angry more at myself.. you are responsible for your own actions and beliefs and of course your own limitations in life.

You hope those that you spend your life with many years of talking, loving, helping each other and at times yes both have been at each other for many reasons however, that is marriage.. lack of understanding and most of all fears and vulnerability we tend to act out loudly because of many reasons.

However, if you map out each others lives what was it that lacked or perhaps stumbled with communication and why didn’t both of us or married couples, stop and perhaps make sure that we where both okay..

Takes a lot of understanding and unfortunately, perhaps that little bit of hesitancy was the killer or the moment that became broken and suddenly, “bang”, all over, red rover..

We are not perfect and perhaps we think or put ourselves at a high level of understanding forgetting to stop and smell that beautiful roses that should have been put in the ground with gratitude and appreciation to each other..

This is just a blurb of emotions, loving memories of moments of love and massive respect that I have and always will… I cannot explain something to you when I don’t understand it completely that is a crack of limitations of trust that both should have stopped a little bit before the massive titanic wave that hits with a savagely that even I wont express on a post..

Be respectful and love each other more and that spark that once put you both together..

I loved my life and will always respect it with love, honesty and most of all my entire heart and soul…

You only know what you only know… be kind, it is the only fair way to living life..

 

Come on Board the Merry-go-round


Your Stress or your insecurity and your jealousy is nothing without your approval so how valuable is it to you to destroy those you adore so lovingly without judgement nor selfish need..

 

 

I know I would adore that emotional harsh and so easy emotional gift because it is free and willing to just take from the Universe by respecting it and valueing it deeply..

How?

 

GIve yourself a break and embrace this life by openess… easy change it now.. 

That will make you grow, love, understand have amazing experiences without any negative thought, how about that bitch subconscious mind that keeps reminding us of what society has done a bloody grand job of helping us with trauma, cheating partners, betrayal of the family kind, a moment of explain over and over again./

 

I am not that person based on a simpletons group of individuals, that cannot manager as a single unit without bickering and bastard shame all because of a Rich boy who had no honour as a friend.images (40)

Disgraceful, dishonest and darn right shameful underlining back stabbing and narcissistic behaviour according to a Boy who could not find a place that may have possibly saved a mates skin..

You know slanderous lies are the most vicious, nasty, and hateful emotions men can use at other men, all because of fuck knows, seriously popularity?

You see how vicious us humans are we use, abuse those that understand emotional trauma or perhaps you have your own safety net cuz like-minded can be ridiculed and treated with disrespect because …. Once upon a time.. a very long time ago that person you want to offload had her life, or his life ripped out from under him and was made out to be a liar.. based on bullshit nothing.. based on what they think.. but, never based on fact… what a load of shit…

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Their entire life they or you think they know no better or are used to be treated badly and that is why you can justify a nasty, narcissistic, abuse, and don’t forget you fellow brothers that bond so well just like sisterhood does, would throw you under the bus so quickly all because of popularity for a moment of a huge Ego that need to be brushed regularly and for what reason would you sell out a friend, partner, like-minded soul all because of your own Selfish needs and how long does that feeling last for?

Interesting, so let’s say when you do this and unbeknownst to you they are the lowest that they have ever been and you go out come home and your wife, child, husband or perhaps that fall guy that you shot in the head so nicely by not believing his spoken word satisfied you all for a moment?

Was it longer, how exciting? like perhaps 1/2 a day, wow, that will teach them… so let’s go further with satisfying your negative babble, a day passes and you get up notice no ones around and head off the garage and because your ego was more important that a human beings life, honor, back or even sisterhood, the decided to take their life by hanging themselves all because of your Mental negative thought process, fuelled by something that you still have to deal with in your own past...

Well, that is the worst, cruelest feeling all because of EGO or god only knows… that make you a a hero for what? 

Nothing funny about suicide (this is the worst case scenario) all because of cruelty, people who cared more about themselves made a male feel less than and could possibly lame his trust ability, his life and his living a life with no fears.. But, no without probably cause, nor proof they accused a male and could have triggered depression or even worse..

But, as long as that bond of brothers got their needs met somehow by being the hero’s for about 10 minutes, 1/2 a day or even better a whole week… Boys you are legends and take a pathetic bow of your pathetic team effort of nothing.

Bad, disgusting and potentially, the worst behaviour known to man – however, this is just my opinion.. and who am I to say all this well perhaps I noticed a too much and perhaps I understood the vacant ability of some that never seem to disappoint… trust me this is not a positive nor is it an honor to hold as men… moving on..

  • Is this what you want to live for????

  • TO be right?

  • To be intelligent?

  • To off load your past areas of your life all because you said, I have no issues??!!

If you had no issues why on EARTH WOULD YOU ATTACK THOSE THAT LOVE AND CARE ABOUT YOU, without question, without money, position, without anything but your love and kindness, trust, and shoulder so they can build up themselves to be there for you when it is your turn…how-to-propose-a-boy-quotes-elegant-52-fantastic-best-lines-to-propose-a-boy-the-proposal-of-how-to-propose-a-boy-quotes.jpg

Never use triggers that you learn from their trauma just because your life has bumps we all do we are not perfect…. if you wish to live.. be real, be accountable…

However, being mean and cruel to those that have always been treated like that…. that is like kicking a dog when you know it has been kicked and damaged all their life.

Do them a favour and get a gun and shoot them because that is exactly what they will do to their selves…. if people continue to circum to negative, cruel and intentional credit by using bully tactic behaviour I find that just a wasted life..images (43)

 

So here is an example of personalities…

Husband….. his natural nature is kind-hearted, loyal, intelligent, loving, trusting and forgiving, hard working…he does have a logical side to him but, this is a virgo… 

Above this is based on his natural ability… when someone is  accused , made to be the blame for parents who use children as a weapon against the other parent some of those beautiful qualities tarnish they still are the persons beliefs however, it is difficult to find them over time because they have learnt to protect themselves..helenkeller1.jpg

Wifes….. natural nature, kind, crazy, curious nature, loving, nurturing, a little bit nieve, loyal, forgiving, creative, and hard-working… her dream was to have many kids with a loving husband… end of story…. that was her actual requirement to have 4 beautiful kids.. she had 1 and her ex made sure of that fact this terrible horrid person would suffer all because of his ego was hindered because she wanted a divorce…..images (42).jpg

Stories we tell are based on making other feel less than what they are all because of selfishness and lack of understanding and most of all no-one gave them the tools to see a better picture so one day someone or something made them change because their life, their own determination was based on those cores personality and beliefs ..

For that I must ask you.. is it so worth it to lay your own past events that you just have not had the time, or your ego cannot bare the hurt, or you just cant be bothered ??

Which one are you….. old quote.. may the first person who has no sin pick up that rock and throw it at this whore…. all because you find her unworthy according to whom?

quote by Jesus Christ..

Are we “all” Chained to the Rhythm?


Love this Sci-fi Musical video, so true, we seem to walk the path of everyone else or are we?

Should we walk the same pace as everyone else or should we stop and smell those thorns and say… are we chained to the rhythm like everyone or are we uniquely wired as individuals on this Earth?

Well, I would like to think we are “all unique”, that we don’t have to walk the same path as everyone else and I would like to see more people say more positive things about themselves…

We tend get a little lazy I know I do… don’t you?

I would like to see people – say I am different because I do this … or I like to paint sunshines because I do it in mauve, rather than bright yellow, organges, or even dull blues…

I would love to see someone say on blogs.. I love myself because I am unique than anyone else on this planet because I am…….

Wouldnt you prefer to be “broken from your chains”, and paint a world unique?

 

 

Guess, what, I am not normal, I am not perfect, nor am I like anyone else, I am crazy, funny, uniquely wired, I have amazing thoughts of fun, zany ideas of love and connection, I enjoy pushing the buttons of the normal and I enjoy it when people are shocked..

Deal withi it lovlies I am different and i AM happy as shit in the mud..

Longing for Change…


Beautiful Lyrics… absolutely lovely…. Gaga’s New Movie Debut…

Wow, very amazing I cannot wait to see this Movie…

Wish I could, I could’ve said goodbye
I would’ve said what I wanted to
Maybe even cried for you
If I knew, it would be the last time
I would’ve broke my heart in two
Tryin’ to save a part of you

Don’t wanna feel another touch
Don’t wanna start another fire
Don’t wanna know another kiss
No other name falling off my lips
Don’t wanna to give my heart away
To another stranger
Or let another day begin
Won’t even let the sunlight in
No, I’ll never love again
I’ll never love again, ooh

When we first met
I never thought that I would fall
I never thought that I’d find myself
Lying in your arms
And I want to pretend that it’s not true
Oh baby, that you’re gone
‘Cause my world keeps turning, and turning, and turning
And I’m not moving on

Don’t wanna feel another touch
Don’t wanna start another fire
Don’t wanna know another kiss
No other name falling off my lips
Don’t wanna give my heart away
To another stranger
Or let another day begin
Won’t even let the sunlight in
No, I’ll never love

I don’t wanna know this feeling
Unless it’s you and me
I don’t wanna waste a moment, ooh
And I don’t wanna give somebody else the better part of me
I would rather wait for you, ooh

Don’t wanna feel another touch
Don’t wanna start another fire
Don’t wanna know another kiss
Baby, I’ll just stay on your lips
Don’t wanna give my heart away
To another stranger
Or let another day begin
Won’t even let the sunlight in
Oh, I’ll never love again

Love again
Oh, I’ll never love again
I’ll never love again
I won’t, I won’t, I swear I can’t
I wish I could but i just won’t
I’ll never love again
I’ll never love again, ooh

 

[Verse 1: Bradley Cooper]
Tell me somethin’ girl
Are you happy in this modern world?
Or do you need more
Is there somethin’ else you’re searchin’ for?

[Refrain: Bradley Cooper]
I’m fallin’
In all the good times
I find myself longing for change
And in the bad times I fear myself

[Verse 2: Lady Gaga]
Tell me something boy
Aren’t you tired tryin’ to fill that void?
Or do you need more
Ain’t it hard keepin’ it so hardcore?

[Refrain: Lady Gaga]
I’m falling
In all the good times
I find myself longing for change
And in the bad times I fear myself

[Chorus: Lady Gaga]
I’m off the deep end
Watch as I dive in
I’ll never meet the ground
Crash through the surface
Where they can’t hurt us
We’re far from the shallow now

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There is No Failures.. only Experiences..


“Failure is unimportant. It takes courage to make a fool of yourself.” — Charlie Chaplind57a0241230d693e23e54770f104e206

The World’s Most Famous Failures

1 — Abraham Lincoln

Famous Failures: Abraham LincolnBorn in 1809, Abraham Lincoln is famously known for being the 16th President of the United States. He was a champion of equal rights, and he blazed a trail towards the freedom of slaves in America. But Lincoln didn’t start out as a success story. He failed numerous times before attaining the highest office in the land.

In 1832, when he was 23-years old, Lincoln lost his job. At the same time, he also lost his bid for State Legislature. Just 3 years later, at the age of 26, the love of his life, Ann Rutledge died. Another three years later? He lost his bid to become Speaker in the Illinois House of Representatives.

In 1848, at the age of 39-years old, Lincoln also failed in his bid to become Commissioner of the General Land Office in D.C. Ten years after that, at the age of 49-years old, he was defeated in his quest to become a U.S. Senator. Of course, through all the personal, business and political failures, Lincoln didn’t give up.

In 1846, Lincoln was elected to the U.S. House of Representatives where he drafted a bill to abolish slavery. In 1861, at the age of 52, he secured the office of President of the United States and has since become one of the most famous failures to ever hold office in the United States. His face also appears on the U.S. five-dollar bill.

 

#2 — Albert Einstein

Famous Failures Albert EinsteinBorn in 1879, the man that we all know as one of the most brilliant minds to have ever lived, was once considered a major failure. In fact, Einstein didn’t speak until he was 4-years old. Yes, four-years old. In 1895, at the age of 16, he failed to pass the examination for entrance into the Swiss Federal Polytechnic school located in Zurich.

And while he did graduate from university, he struggled and nearly dropped out, doing very poorly during the course of his studies there. In fact, he was in such dire straits that at the time of his father’s death, he considered his son to be a major failure, which left young Einstein completely heartbroken.

After graduating, he wandered, unsure of what to do with his life. After some time, he ended up taking a job as an insurance salesman, going door to door in an attempt to sell insurance. Eventually, 2 years later, he took a job at the Patent Office as an assistant examiner, evaluating patent applications for a variety of devices.

Of course, this is the same individual who brought us the theory of relativity, with groundbreaking work done in physics and mathematics, and helped us to reach deeper understandings about how the universe works, developing several fundamentals core laws governing physics, won the Nobel Prize in 1921 and created the beginnings of quantum theory.

 

#3 — Beyonce Knowles

Famous Failures Beyonce KnowlesBorn in 1981, Beyonce’s star rose early on in life. However, achieving dizzying success wasn’t without failure for Queen Bey. For her, the failures started early in life but didn’t dissuade or discourage her from pursuing her dreams. But before her solo career and before Destiny’s Child, there was Girl’s Tyme. 

Girl’s Tyme was a young all-girl group that appeared on Star Search. Beyonce was just 9-years old when the group lost, and she was shattered. The group was formed when Beyonce was just 8-years old and it stuck together for 7 long years. Beyonce’s father, Mathew Knowles, played a hand in managing the girls and quit his full-time job as a medical-equipment salesman, ultimately creating enormous financial pressure on the family.

Eventually, after 8 years, the group’s name was changed to Destiny’s Child, and it had been cut down from the original 6-member group, to just four. Those years were fraught with difficulties. After every setback and failure, Beyonce and the other three girls in the group, Kelly Rowland, LaTavia Robertson and LeToya Luckett, pushed forward.

In 1996, the group signed to Columbia Records and had limited commercial success. But a storm was brewing internally. Robertson and Luckett soon quit the group due to a conflict amongst the members, claiming that Mathew Knowles was favoring Knowles and Rowland. Eventually, the two were replaced, but ultimately, the fourth member was cut, leaving only three in the group, with Michelle Williams rounding out the trio.

 

#4 — Bill Gates

Famous Failures Bill GatesBorn in 1955 in Seattle, Washington, Bill Gates by no means struggled as a child. In fact, he had quite the stable upper-middle-class upbringing, with a renowned lawyer for a father, William H. Gates, Sr. It was originally intended by Gates’ parents that he follow in his father’s footsteps and become a lawyer.

At the early age of 17-years old, Gates had demonstrated the entrepreneurial spirit, forming a company with his childhood friend, Paul Allen, called Traf-O-Data, in an effort to analyze and process raw traffic data from traffic counters and present that data in a reporting format to traffic engineers. Their goal was to build a hardware device that could read traffic data tapes and produce the results without having to do the work manually.

On the big day of the reveal, a supervisor from the County of Seattle’s traffic department came to see it and the device failed to work. The business failed before it had much of a chance to get off the ground, giving Gates an invaluable lesson that he would carry forward with him.

In 1973, Gates enrolled in Harvard University after scoring a near-perfect SAT score of 1590 out of 1600. However, it was the following year that Gates dropped out of Harvard to start Microsoft with partner, Paul Allen. The decision, while contentious at the time, was okayed by his parents after much discussion. Obviously, it was the right move.

#5 — Charles Darwin

Famous Failures Charles DarwinBorn in the same year as Abraham Lincoln, in 1809, Charles Darwin’s life was once considered a major failure by even his own father. In fact, it was due to his interest in nature that Darwin ended up neglecting his medical studies at the University of Edinburgh, and in 1827, dropped out and quit school, leading his father to say, “You care for nothing but shooting, dogs and rat catching.”

In a second attempt at school, Darwin enrolled in Christ’s College at the University of Cambridge the following winter semester. In 1831, he realized that this wasn’t for him either, as he was too distracted to finish schooling. Once again, he quit and dropped out of college for the second time.

In his autobiography, Darwin knew that others, including his father, were displeased in him. He stated, “I was considered by all my masters and my father, a very ordinary boy, rather below the common standard of intellect.” In effect, he was summed up as a failure in life, or as an “idle gentlemen,” which was another phrase used by his father.

Of course, things didn’t remain that way for Darwin. Today, he is considered as one of the most influential scientific minds of our time. His theories on natural selection and evolution have had a major impact on our understanding of species and life here on earth, along with the progress of biological organisms.

 

#6 — Charlie Chaplin

Famous Failures Charlie ChaplinBorn in 1889 in London, England, Chaplin’s early years were tumultuous at best. Born into poverty, Chaplin’s father abandoned them at the age of 2-years old, leaving his mother with no real income aside from the odd side job making dresses or nursing. His father provided no financial support for the family and at the age of 7-years old, Chaplin was forced to go to a workhouse, an institution in the UK where the destitute denizens of a parish are sent to work in exchange for room and board.

After returning from the workhouse for a brief period, Chaplin’s mother was committed to a mental asylum at the age of 9-years old, forcing him to go back to the workhouse again. Afterwards, a brief two years later, Chaplin’s father, a raging alcoholic at the time, died of cirrhosis of the liver.

Chaplin’s mother battled mental illness for several years after that, until she was permanently committed to an asylum where she stayed until her death in 1928. In the meantime, Chaplin and his brother, Sydney, were on their own, oftentimes going without food for days while trying to survive in the wake of all the familial turmoil.

During this time, Chaplin partook in stage plays and enhanced his comedic talents along with his step-dancing abilities. Ultimately, he found his way to Hollywood, California where Chaplin was famously turned away and snubbed, only later to become the greatest silent-film actor to have ever lived.

 

#7 — Chris Gardener

Famous Failures Chris GardenerThe story of Chris Gardener was chronicled in one of the most inspiring movies in present-day history, The Pursuit of Happyness, starring Will Smith, in 2006. Gardener wrote his autobiography to shed light on his early struggles and failures in life, which resulted in an immense amount of pain.

Born in 1954, Gardener had a rough upbringing. With a father that wasn’t present, his mother and siblings suffered abuse at the hands of his stepfather. In and out of the foster care system, Gardener was at the mercy of an unstable childhood

In 1977, Gardener married Sherry Dyson. But after a 3-month affair with another woman who became pregnant with his child, he decided to leave his first wife. In 1981, his son, Christopher Gardner Jr. was born while working as a research lab assistant at UCSF, which didn’t pay enough to help support his family. This led to the decision to become a medical-equipment salesman.

If you’ve seen the movie, you likely already know how this turned out. Gardener struggled, but was committed to living a better life, one that didn’t involve so much struggle and turmoil. He met a man driving a red Ferrari who ultimately led him on a career path to become a stockbroker. But, during that journey, he suffered through an eviction and homelessness, jail and an eventual divorce. But that didn’t stop him. Not whatsoever.

 

#8 — Colonel Harland Sanders

Famous Failures Colonel SandersBorn in 1890 in Indiana, Colonel Harland Sanders, the founder of Kentucky Fried Chicken (KFC), is famous not only for his chicken recipe, but also his numerous failures in life and in business. At the ripe young age of 5-years old, his father died, leaving only his mother to fend for and support three children, including Harland.

While his mother left for days on end, Harland was forced to help take care of his siblings and became a proficient cook during this time, learning how to make bread and vegetables and advancing in his knowledge of cooking and preparing meat by the age of just 7-years old. By 10-years old, he was already working as a farmhand.

In 1902, at the age of 12-years old, his mother remarried, subjecting the children to an arduous environment that ultimately forced Harland to leave home the following year. By 14-years old, he began working as a farmhand at another farm in Southern Indiana.

Sanders worked odd jobs for years, never really able to make anything stick. He owned a ferry boat company on the Ohio River, sold tires in Winchester Kentucky, and later, in 1930, opened a restaurant inside a Shell Oil Company-owned gas station in North Corbin Kentucky where he began serving chicken dishes. He was 40-years old at the time.

In July 1939, he came to own a motel and a restaurant, which was destroyed by a fire just 4 months later. But it wasn’t until 1940 when he began to finalize his so-called “secret” chicken recipe, at the age of 50-years old. However, in 1942, during the war, he sold his business and subsequently got divorced in 1947.

In 1955, another one of his restaurants failed after an Interstate route that led traffic past that restaurant, was changed. That year, with just a $105 social security check to his name, at the age of 65-years old, he set out to sell his franchised-chicken model to restaurants across the country. He was famously rejected by 1,009 restaurants before one agreed to his idea.

 

#9 — Curtis Jackson A.K.A. 50-Cent

Famous Failures Curtis Jackson 50 CentBorn in 1975, in Queens, New York, Curtis Jackson, professionally known as 50-Cent, had a tumultuous past and a precarious upbringing. Growing up in poverty isn’t easy on anyone, especially in the Projects in New York’s roughest neighborhoods. Not only were drugs and crime all around him, but his own birth mother, Sabrina, was a drug dealer.

At the ripe young age of just 8-years old, his mother, however, died in what’s been coined a “mysterious” fire. His father left, leaving only his grandmother to help raise young Jackson, who started dealing drugs at the age of 12-years old during what’s been labeled the “crack epidemic,” in the 1980’s.

In 1994, at the age of 19-years old, after a string of run-ins with the cops and a subsequent arrest for possession of drugs and a firearm, he was sentenced to serve 3 to 9 years in prison, but was instead sent to a bootcamp where he spent just 6 months, earning his GED in the meantime.

It was after his release that he adopted the name 50-Cent as a moniker for change, naming himself after a local bank robber by the same name. He statesthat he chose that name “because it says everything I want it to say. I’m the same kind of person 50-Cent was. I provide for myself by any means.”

In 2000, he was infamously shot 9 times at close range by an assailant outside his grandmother’s home and left for dead. While in the hospital, he signed a deal with Columbia records, but was subsequently dropped from that label and even blacklisted within the recording industry due to a song entitled, “Ghetto Qu’ran,” forcing him to go to Canada to record over 30 songs and release a mixtape.

In 2002, Eminem heard his song, “Guess Who’s Back?” and ultimately signed him to his label, Shady Records. He was coached by both Eminem and Dr. Dre, and released his first studio album, Get Rich or Die Tryin’, which later went 6-times platinum in the United States and Jackson has since become one of the world’s most famous and best-selling rappers.

 

#10 — Dr. Seuss

Famous Failures Dr. SeussBorn in 1904 as Theodor Seuss Geisel, he took on the name of Dr. Seuss in 1927 during his stint at Dartmouth and Lincoln College, Oxford, where he enrolled with the intention of earning his PhD in English Literature. But he gave up in his career pursuits at the behest of Helen Palm, whom he met at the college, encouraging him to take up a career in drawing instead.

In 1928, they married, and he worked drawing advertisements for years for a variety of notable companies such as NBC, Standard Oil and General Electric. In 1937, 9 years after he married his sweetheart, he wrote his first manuscript entitled, And to Think I Saw it on Mulberry Street.

That initial manuscript was famously rejected 28 times prior to being accepted by Random House/Vanguard Press. Ultimately, it led John O’Hara, who once held the office of President of the company to remark that “I’ve published any number of great writers, from William Faulkner to John O’Hara, but there’s only one genius on my authors list. His name is Ted Geisel.”

By the time of Geisel’s death in 1991, he had sold over 600 million copies of his books, which had been translated into 20 different languages, making him by far one of the most famous failures to have ever lived. His persistence carried him through, allowing him to succeed where others might have thrown in the towel and given up.

 

#11 — Elizabeth Arden

Famous Failures Elizabeth ArdenCanadian, Elizabeth Arden, born Florence Nightingale Graham in 1878, was a business magnate who overcame failure to achieve tremendous success, creating an unprecedented beauty empire by 1929 that included 150 salons throughout the United States and Europe, and eventually selling over 1000 products across 22 separate countries. At the height of her success, during her lifetime, she was also considered to be one of the wealthiest women in the world.

However, in 1909, at the age of 31-years old, Arden failed in business after a 6-month stint when she formed a partnership with Elizabeth Hubbard. One year later, in 1910, at the age of 32-years old, she pieced together the name Elizabeth Arden with the name “Elizabeth” used in an effort to save money on a sign for her salon, and “Arden,” which stemmed from the name of a nearby farm, thus giving birth to that name, the same year that she opened up the Red Door Salon, in New York City.

In 1912, she traveled to France where she would learn beauty and facial techniques. Upon her return, she joined forces with a chemist to begin developing what would become a vast arsenal of beauty products, lending a hand in catapulting the makeup industry into a widely acceptable practice that moved beyond the upper classes.

Her company, Elizabeth Arden, Inc., has surpassed $1 billion in annual sales, making it one of the most successful beauty businesses ever started still to this day.

 

#12 — Elvis Presley

Famous Failure Elvis PresleyElvis Presley, born in 1935, is a famous American musician who’s sold over 1 billion records worldwide. Yet, while Presley’s fame is often celebrated, his failures are usually overlooked. The family lived in a shotgun house for several years until hard financial times forced them out due to an inability to maintain the payments.

In 1948, at the age of 13-years old, Presley’s family moved to Memphis, Tennessee from their home in Mississippi. They lived in boarding houses, which were temporary rooms that could be rented in a larger home where the common areas were usually maintained, before being able to afford a two-bedroom apartment in a public-housing complex.

In 1953, when he was 18-years old, he walked into Sun Records, where he recorded a demo disc. Nothing came of it. One year later, in 1954, he walked back into Sun Records to record another demo, which he also failed to make any traction with. The same year, he failed an audition to become part of a vocalist quartet called the Songfellows. When asked by his father what had happened, Presley stated, “They told me I couldn’t sing.”

He was so frustrated, that he decided to take up a job as a truck driver. Through a friend named Ronnie Smith, Presley met Eddie Bond, who led Smith’s professional band. Turned out they were looking for a vocalist. They arranged some more recordings, which nothing came of until months later when Presley randomly launched into “That’s All Right,” Arthur Crudup’s 1946 blues number. That got the attention of a professional DJ, and the rest, as they say, is history.

 

#13 — Emily Dickinson

Famous Failure Emily DickinsonOne of the most famed authors of modern times, Emily Dickinson largely considered herself a failure for much of her life. As a fiercely-devote introvert, she was reluctant to embrace many face-to-face relationships, opting instead for correspondence rather than in-person meetings.

She was born in 1830 in Amherst Massachusetts and led a rather reclusive life for much of her years, being called reclusive and eccentric by the locals who had come to know her. She never married. She spent much of her time writing poems about dystopian subjects such as death, but also wrote vehemently about immortality, things she would also often discuss with “friends” through correspondence.

While Dickinson became one of the most renowned poets in history, less than a dozen poems were actually published during her lifetime. And, when poems were published, they were usually altered significantly because their style departed so much from the norm of the day with their lack of titles and odd capitalization and punctuation throughout.

While Dickinson might have been categorized as a failure during her lifetime, it was likely due to her reluctance to meet or correspond with many people about her work. However, after her death, her sister discovered a significant cache of poems totaling upwards of 1,800 that were eventually published, helping her to ultimately gain international notoriety and fame.

 

#14 — Fred Astaire

Famous Failure Fred AstaireBorn in 1899, in Omaha, Nebraska, Fred Astaire is one of the most famous failures to grace the entertainment business. In 1905, the family moved to New York City to allow Fred and his sister, Adele, to pursue a career in entertainment, and they focused their energies solely on the musical and dancing education of their children.

The two performed together in acts for some time, even touring the New York City Broadway circuit, and on to London as well. This helped to drastically improve their talent, but Fred shined during this time, with a set of charisma and charm that shone through even at the dimmest of times.

However, in 1932, the sister-and-brother act split, when Adele wed her husband. Fred continued his career despite that. And, according to legend, he was famously rejected during a Hollywood screen test when it was said that he “Can’t act. Slighty bald. Dances a little,” which came as a major disappointment at the time.

Yet, that didn’t stop him. Fred Astaire’s career in the entertainment industry lasted a mind-boggling 76 years, he appeared in 31 musicals,  television shows and recordings. Gene Kelly once stated that “the history of dance on film begins with Astaire.” This was clearly a nod to the musical and dance genius that Astaire was.

 

#15 — George Lucas

Famous Failure George LucasBorn in 1944, George Lucas is an American-born filmmaker, producer and entrepreneur behind some of the most successful films made in history such as the Star Wars trilogy and Raiders of the Lost Ark, amongst many others. Before Lucas ever got interested in filmmaking, however, he was obsessed with race car driving. But after a terrible car crash that nearly killed him, he abandoned that obsession.

After completing his graduate degree in film at the University of Southern California, Lucas set out to make movies. THX 1138, a story about a dystopian future where android police control the population, suppressing both their emotions and primal urges for things like sex, which has been outlawed, through the use of drugs, was, financially a failure for the studio, amounting to a loss of money.

Lucas was undeterred. His next project, American Graffiti, which he directed, was a huge success, giving him major clout and credibility in Hollywood. However, that wasn’t enough when he presented his next project, Star Wars, to two different studios. In fact, he was turned down for Star Wars by United Artists, and later by Universal, both rejecting the movie.

Still, that didn’t deter Lucas from continuing to pitch it. Eventually, 20th Century Fox picked up the script, later saying that “I don’t understand this, but I loved ‘American Graffiti,’ and whatever you do is okay with me.” Star Wars was the highest grossing film of all time, surpassing the then-highest-grossing film of E.T.

 

#16 — Harrison Ford

Famous Failure Harrison FordWhile many people know Harrison Ford for his blockbuster roles in films that are now part of American culture and history, he was also considered a personal and professional failure at several times in his life. Clearly, he’s one of the most famous people to have ever worked in the movie business, commanding top-dollar for his performances. But his life wasn’t always sunshine and rainbows.

Born in 1942 in Chicago, both of Ford’s parents had a connection to the entertainment industry. His father was a former actor and his mother a former radio actress. It seemed as though acting was in his blood. After graduating from college in Wisconsin, at the age of 22-years old, Ford headed to Los Angeles to try his hand in voice-overs. He failed to secure that job but ended up staying in the area.

It took Ford two years of working odd jobs and small-time bits before he landed his first uncredited role as a bellhop in the movie, Dead Heat on a Merry-Go Round, in 1964 at the age of 24-years old. However, studio execs were rough on young Ford, telling him that “he would never make it in this business.”

But Ford refused to give up. It took him until 1973, 9 years later, when he landed his breakthrough role in George Lucas’s film, American Graffiti. It was that role, and his relationship with Lucas, that would help catapult him into stardom. Lucas later cast Ford in Star Wars and the Indian Jones series.

 

#17 — Henry Ford

Famous Failure Henry FordBorn in Greenfield Township, Michigan, in 1863, Henry Ford was the industrialist who started Ford Motor Company, which has been one of the most profitable automotive companies in the world over the years, making him into one of the most richest and famous individuals on the planet. However, while Ford celebrated many successes later on in life, he also failed often in his earlier years

In fact, it wasn’t until 1891, when Ford was 28-years old, that he decided to become an engineer, working for the Edison Illuminating Company and earning a promotion in 1893 at the age of 30, to Chief Engineer. It was around this time when he started experimenting with gasoline engines.

However, it wasn’t until 1898, when Ford was 35-years old, when he designed and built a self-propelled vehicle that he showed off to people, winning the backing of William H. Murphy, who, at the time, was a lumber baron in Detroit. Subsequently, Ford founded the Detroit Automobile Company a year later in 1899.

In 1901, however, that company failed after an inability to pay back a loan to the Dodge brothers and due to inefficiencies in the design of the vehicle; the company ceased operations, dealing a stealthy blow to Ford. However, subsequently, Ford convinced one of this partners to give him another chance. With mounting pressure, it was agreed that he would try again. But after disagreements, this venture also flopped.

It wasn’t until 1903, when Ford would give it one final shot. At the age of 40-years old, after two separate failures, he tried again, incorporating the Ford Motor Company. Even after the failures, Ford found an unconventional backer who he made agree not to meddle in the business. He found this in Malcolmson, a Scottish immigrant who had made his fortune in the coal industry.

Afterwards, what transpired is one of the most famous stories of an individual who went from failure to success in the grandest way. The Ford name is synonymous with the automobile. In fact, while the assembly line existed prior to Ford’s arrival on the scene, so to speak, he created a car that was affordable by the everyday family, helping to develop what was to become the largest boon in the automotive industry with cars everywhere.

 

#18 — Howard Schultz

Howard Schultz Famous FailureBorn in 1953, Howard Schultz is the famous American entrepreneur behind the wildly-successful coffee company, Starbucks. However, his early life, like many other famous people who failed at first, started off in extreme poverty, growing up in Canarsie Bay, part of the New York City Housing Projects. In 1975, he graduated with a Bachelor in Arts from the Northern Michigan University, which he attended on a sports scholarship.

After graduation, Schultz headed to Xerox Corporation and he was quickly promoted to become a full sales representative. After Xerox, in 1979, at the age of 24-years old, he headed to s Swedish coffeemaker called Hammerplast as the general manager in a small company comprising just 20 employees. However, it was the company’s client, Starbucks, that led him on the next leg of his journey in life.

In 1982, at the age of 29-years old, he joined Starbucks, after being so impressed with the company, as their Director of Marketing. The year later, in 1983, after a trip to Italy, Schultz, realizing the prevalence of the coffee culture there and the country’s 200,000 coffee bars, he convinced the owners of Starbucks to role out the concept across the company’s stores. Previously, they just sold coffee beans and not actual coffee drinks.

While the owners resisted at first, he was persistent and was allowed to open a coffee shop in one of the new stores in Seattle, which debuted in 1984. It was an instant success. But the owners didn’t want to continue with the concept. They didn’t want Starbucks to get too big. In 1985, Schultz left Starbucks to open his own coffee bar, naming it Il Giornale, Italian for ‘The Newspaper.’

However, the story clearly didn’t end there. After two years, Schultz had achieved great success with his coffee shop, but he was thinking even bigger. He proposed buying the Starbucks company, which at the time carried a hefty price tag, so he needed help with the transaction. Attempting to raise the capital to purchase the company, Schultz famously stated that he “was turned down by 217 of the 242 investors I initially talked to. You have to have a tremendous belief in what you’re doing and just persevere.”

 

#19 — Jack Canfield

Jack Canfield Famous FailureBorn in 1944, in Fort Worth, Texas, Jack Canfield is the celebrated author and motivational speaker behind the Chicken Soup for the Soul series. As a Harvard-educated person, Canfield clearly possessed the intelligence for crafting such a book, however, it was his tenacity to see things  through that helped him to catapult that book to success.

In fact, it wasn’t until the age of 48-years old, with the help of his co-author, Mark Victor Hansen, that he set out to write that book, a collection of stories to help inspire and motivate people to achieve their dreams. Yet, things didn’t exactly go according to plan once the book had been completed.

Canfield and his co-author suffered through 144 rejections from publishers over the course of a 14-month period. When one publisher claimed that it wouldn’t even sell 20,000 companies, Canfield replied that he had hoped it would sell 500,000 copies at the least. The publisher laughed at Canfield.

Eventually, they convinced one small-time publisher in Florida that they would at least have some nominal success with the book. Little did they know what was in store for them. Chicken Soup for the Soul is an internationally-acclaimed brand that’s sold over 500 million copies in over 20 languages. Canfield’s determination and unwillingness to give up speaks volumes about the characteristics that allow famous people who failed at first to keep pushing forward no matter what the situation.

 

#20 — James Dyson

Famous Failure James DysonBorn in 1947, James Dyson is an English inventor and entrepreneur who launched the wildly-popular Dyson brand of products. In the late 1970’s, Dyson had the idea of using cyclonic separation to create a vacuum cleaner that wouldn’t lose suction. At the time, he was supported by his wife, who had to start working as an art teacher to make ends meet.

Dyson states that, “There are countless times an inventor can give up on an idea. By the time I made my 15th prototype, my third child was born. By 2,627, my wife and I were really counting our pennies. By 3,727, my wife was giving art lessons for some extra cash. These were tough times, but each failure brought me closer to solving the problem.”

By 1991, he had a great product, but was unable to convince any of the major retailers to sell it since the vacuum bag replacement industry was so large and none of the retailers wanted to buck that trend. So, Dyson created a company after his namesake, Dyson, Inc., in 1993. He was 46-years old at the time.

However, through Dyson’s failures, he never lost hope. By 2005, Dyson had become the market leader in United States by volume sold, allowing him to launch a range of other products that are notoriously well-manufactured and work extremely efficiently, delivering a value-driven concept that the brand has become synonymous for.

 

#21 — Jerry Seinfeld

Jerry Seinfeld Famous FailureBorn in 1954, in Brooklyn, New York, Jerry Seinfeld is a famous American comedian and actor best known for his role in the hit television series by his own namesake, Seinfeld, which aired from 1989 through 1998. However, it’s Seinfeld’s earliest failures that are most notable when speaking about his success in life.

In 1976, at the age of 22-years old, after graduating from Queens College, Seinfeld tried his hand at standup during an open-mic night in New York City where he froze on stage, forgetting the joke. From the second row, a heckler asked, “Is this your first time?” He was booed off the stage and felt miserable about the failure. But he didn’t stop. He simply kept going.

He continued his stint of standup acts over the next three years, which eventually led to an appear on an HBO Special for Rodney Dangerfield, and afterwards, to a role on the sitcom, Benson. In 1981, Seinfeld appeared adjacent to Johnny Carson on, The Tonight Show.

In 1988, at the age of 34-years old, Seinfeld created the semi-fictional series about his life with co-creator, Larry David and pitched it to NBC. It was originally named, The Seinfeld Chronicles, but was later changed to simply read, Seinfeld. In 2002, TV Guide ranked it as the greatest show of all time, then subsequently ranked it the second greatest show of all time in 2012.

 

#22 — Jim Carrey

Jim Carrey Famous FailureBorn in 1962 in Ontario, Canada, Jim Carrey is a renowned comedian, actor and entrepreneur, and quite possibly one of the most famous comic minds of our time. However, his early years were distraught with a string of failures, with a childhood steeped in poverty, which didn’t help his cause or because his family was unable to help Carrey support his ambitions.

In 1977, at the age of just 15-years old, Carrey’s family ran into severe financial problems, forcing them to move to a Toronto suburb where they all worked at the Titan Wheels factory. Carrey took a job as a janitor, doing 8-hour shifts after school had let out. However, after they left their factory jobs, they lived out of a VW camper van until they could afford enough money to move back into a house.

Once Carrey’s family had financial stability, he made his standup debut at a Toronto comedy club called Yuk Yuk’s. Supported by his dad who made the drive to help aid his son to follow his dreams, he bombed during his first time on stage. However, he didn’t give up, even after the painful failure that it caused to be heckled and booed off stage, much like Jerry Seinfeld experienced initially.

Carrey kept at it. In fact, he dropped out of high school to pursue his passion. Eventually, in 1979, at the age of just 17-years old, Carrey moved to Los Angeles, and found his way into a regular standup gig at The Comedy Store on Sunset Blvd in Hollywood. However, after a failed marriage, and 5 years had passed, Carrey threw himself into acting roles. Initially, it didn’t pan out, but he kept at it.

In 1990, after 11 years of trying to pursue his dreams, he got his break to appear on a show called, In Living Color. But it wasn’t until 1994, at the age of 32, when he got his biggest break to star in the film, Ace Ventura, 15 years after arriving in Hollywood. It was that role that helped to catapult him into stardom. While he suffered through major failure along the way, Carrey’s fame is now much talked about around the world.

 

#23 — J.K. Rowling

Famous Failures: J.K. RowlingQuite possibly one of the most famous and renowned former-failures of our time, J.K. Rowling is the author of the wildly-popular Harry Potter series of books. Born in 1965, she grew up with a tumultuous childhood that included a difficult and oftentimes-strained relationship with her father, and dealing with the illness of her mother.

In 1982, at the age of 17-years old, she attempted to gain acceptance to Oxford University. She failed and was rejected, instead enrolling at the University of Exeter where she received her Bachelor of Arts in French and Classics. After graduating from university, at the age of 21-years old, she moved to London to work for Amnesty International in 1986.

After London, she moved to Manchester with her boyfriend. It was there, in 1990, at the age of 25-years old, while on a 4-hour-delayed train, when the idea of a young wizard popped into her mind, later stating that it came “fully formed,” and all she needed to do was flesh out the details.

However, it was just a few short months after that her mother, Anne, died from Multiple Sclerosis, leaving her extremely distraught and upset. In the wake of her mother’s death, only a few months afterwards, she moved to Porto, in Portugal, to teach English. There, she met a man, got married, got pregnant, and gave birth to her daughter, who was born in 1993.

The relationship was a very strenuous one, with reports of domestic abuse, resulting in a separation and eventual divorce. With only three chapters of Harry Potter completed, at the end of 1993, when she was at the age of 38-years old, she moved to Edinburgh, to live with her sister.

At that point, she considered herself a major failure. She had failed at just about everything she had ever attempted to do in life. She was diagnosed with clinical depression and was suicidal. Two years later, in 1995, five years after the initial idea had come to her, she managed to finish the manuscript for Harry Potter and the Sorcerer’s Stone. She located an agent, but after one year of trying to get it published, all 12 major publishing houses had rejected her book.

It wasn’t until 1996, when a small literary house in London named, Bloomsbury, gave the green light and a very small advance of£1500, only due to the behest of the owner’s daughter, that the book was published. In 1997, seven years after the initial idea for the young wizard, the first Harry Potter book was published. By 2004, Rowling had become the first author to become a billionaire through book writing, according to Forbes.

 

#24 — Jack London

Famous Failures Jack LondonBorn in 1876, Jack London is an American novelist who penned the poignant classics, The Call of the Wild and White Fang. He was put up for adoption by his biological mother who had attempted suicide at the time. She shot herself after news of the pregnancy after William Chaney, her husband at the time, demanded that she have an abortion.

At the age of 21-years old, in 1897, while in attendance at the University of California in Berkley, London wrote to his father, Chaney, who denied that he was the boy’s dad, instead sending him a letter that chastised him and his biological mother. Completely distraught by this, London quit Berkley and moved to the Klondike to live in the wilderness for a year.

Upon returning, he had committed to mastering the art of writing, deciding to write at least 1,000 words per day no matter what the situation. Realizing that mastery would come only through this method, he followed through with his goals, working from sunup until sundown, every single day without fail.

Yet, with every piece that he would mail to a newspaper or magazine, with the enthusiasm that he would get published, failure after failure returned in the envelopes that were sent back. No one was willing to publish his writing. After some time, he tired of the feeling of failure and rejection.

However, by 1899, after the rise of lower-priced technologies for printing presses that resulted in a boon for magazines, his first story had been published. In that year, he had earned a respectable $2,500 through his writing, equivalent to about $70,000 in today’s dollars when accounting for inflation.

Yet, London suffered through more than 50 separate rejections during a 5-month period of sending out his manuscripts and writing to various publishers. Just a few short years later, in 1903, at the age of 27-years old, London’s celebrated novel, The Call of the Wild had been published, and he had reached a dizzying height of success in his career.

 

#25 — Jon Hamm

Jon Hamm Famous FailureBorn 1971, Jon Hamm is an American actor most famous for his role in the hit television series, Mad Men, which aired from 2007 through 2015. However, it’s Hamm’s early failures, and how he overcame desperation in his career to achieve success, that’s the most notable here.

Interestingly enough, after he had moved to Los Angeles, he couldn’t land a single gig. It was so bad, in fact, that his talent agency in Hollywood cut him. Distraught, Hamm began working as a waiter and had contemplated giving up entirely on the acting business, considering himself a major failure at the time.

During that period, he gave himself an objective — either he would find stable work before he reached the age of 30, or he would entirely quit the acting business. To his delight, he found work on Mel Gibson’s Vietnam War story, We Were Soldiers, deciding to then stick it out in show business.

Good  thing he did. This famous failure would eventually land the role of a lifetime in 2007’s Mad Men, turning him, not only into a famous actor, but also a cultural icon. When he was cast as Don Draper, he states that he was at “the bottom of everyone’s list.” It just goes to show you what people can accomplish when they refuse to give up on their hopes and their dreams.

 

#26 — Katy Perry

Katy Perry Famous FailureBorn in 1984 in Santa Barbara, California, Katy Perry is an American singer and songwriter best known for her hit, I Kissed a Girl. Perry experienced a seemingly-sudden rise to fame. But did she really? In fact, Perry experienced numerous heart-wrenching failures on the path towards stardom before she ever became a household name.

In her childhood, her family faced severe struggles, oftentimes living in poverty, having to use food stamps just to get by, which had a big impact on Perry’s upbringing. From an early age, she realized that things weren’t easily obtained, and that she would have to work hard for it, something that clearly stuck with her through the failures.

Growing up, her and her siblings listened to Gospel music often. At the age of 13, she was gifted a guitar, and shortly thereafter she began performing the songs that she wrote using that very guitar. However, she was far from famous. In fact, fame was going to elude her for quite some time.

In 1999, at the age of 15-years old, she dropped out of high school after completing her GED in order to pursue music full time. She moved to Tennessee where she signed with Red Hill Records and debuted a Gospel record entitled, Katy Hudson in March, 2001 at the age of 17-years oldIt sold only 200 copies before the label ceased its operations a few months later.

In 2004, at the age of 20-years old, she signed with another label called Java, which was associated with The Island Def Jam Music Group, to work on her solo record. However, after Def Jam dropped Java, the record was shelved. Afterwards, Perry signed with Columbia Records, and recorded new music over the next two years. But before the record was completed, she was dropped from that label as well.

However, her big break came in 2007 when she signed with Capitol Records. In 2008, when she released the would-be-hit song, I Kissed a Girl, Perry was 24-years old. What seemed like an overnight success actually took 9 years to accomplish from the time that she had dropped out of high school.

 

#27 — Keanu Reeves

Keanu Reeves Famous FailureIn 1964, the world welcomed Keanu Reeves, one of the most famous, gifted, kind-hearted and generous actors to have ever graced the Silver Screen. However, Keanu’s life was wrought with failures, most of which were completely out of his control and his hands. To say that Keanu suffered through a monumentally-difficult upbringing would be an understatement.

In fact, nothing about Keanu’s life was straightforward, nor was it common. Born in Beirut, Lebanon, where his mother, who is of English descent from Essex, met his father, an American from Hawaii, while working in the country. At the age of 3-years old, however, his father abandoned the family. Reeves kept in touch with him for the next few years, but then didn’t see him again until he was 13-years old.

His childhood was spent in multiple locations. Initially, it was in Australia, but then, he was led to Canada. His mother had married and divorced 4 times and he had been to four separate high schools in a 5-year period. When he was 17-years old, he dropped out of high school and moved to Los Angeles, obtaining a green card through his stepfather, Paul Aaron, a Hollywood director.

In 1998, Reeves married Jennifer Syme with whom he fathered a baby, who unfortunately was stillborn at eight-months old, which led to the disintegration of the couple’s relationship. Tragically, 18 months after the relationship ended, Syme died in a car accident.

Reeves starred in numerous minor roles in films prior to his breakthrough role in River’s Edge, which led to the role in the widely-popular film, Bill and Ted’s Excellent Adventure Ultimately, however, it was his role in the 1999 blockbuster movie, The Matrix, that resulted in an unprecedented rise to fame.

 

#28 — Madonna Ciccone

Famous Failures: MadonnaBorn in 1958, Madonna Veronica Ciccone, who goes by the stage name, Madonna, is an American pop culture icon who’s often referred to as the Queen of Pop. Born in Michigan, where her father worked as an engineer in the automotive industry, Madonna lost her mother early on to breast cancer at the age of just 5-years old, which had a great impact on her life.

In 1978, while attending the University Michigan School of Music on a dance scholarship, she dropped out to move to New York City to pursue her dreams of becoming a professional dancer. With little money to support herself, she took a job at Dunkin’ Donuts. However, after an incident that occurred shortly after she was hired, where she squirted jelly on a customer accidentally, she was fired.

With only $35 in her pocket on arrival in New York City, Madonna searched for other work. She took random jobs where she could, primarily dancing as a backup dancer for modern dance troupes. One night, when she was returning home after a rehearsal, she was robbed at knife point by two men, leaving her scorned and fearful about her choices to abruptly move to New York City.

However, instead of giving up, even through all the failure and setbacks, she pushed forward. She landed small parts singing and performing with bands such as the Breakfast Club, and eventually she caught the eye of Sire Records founder, Seymour Stein. In 1982, at the age of 24-years old, she debuted her single, Everybody, followed by, Burning Up, both which became huge club hits.

Subsequently, she released her self-titled album, Madonna, and has since become one of the most famous singers to have ever lived, influencing many other modern-day singers and professional dancers.

 

#29 — Marilyn Monroe

Marilyn Monroe Famous FailureOriginally born, Norma Jeane Mortenson, in 1926, in Los Angeles, California, Marilyn Monroe is an American actress and model who achieved extraordinary fame in Hollywood. Monroe never knew her biological father and had a sister and brother that she didn’t know about until she was 12-years old.

Monroe’s mother suffered a mental breakdown in 1934 and was diagnosed with paranoid schizophrenia. She was in and out of mental institutions for the rest of her life and Monroe had become a ward of the state, moving in and out of foster homes for the next several years, where she was sexually abused, became withdrawn and also developed a stutter.

In 1936, her mother’s family friend, Grace McKee Goddard, became her legal guardian, but she was molested by Goddard’s husband, Doc. She was in and out of homes again subsequent to that and eventually attended Van Nuys High School, but dropped out in 1942 at the age of 16-years old, marrying the son of a neighbor in order to stay in the state after the Goddard’s had to leave to West Virginia.

In 1946, after a stint of appearances on the covers of 33 magazines, she secured a contract with an acting agency, and ultimately, a 6-month contract with 20th Century Fox. During that time, she procured no work, and instead focused on taking dancing, acting and singing lessons while also spending time in the studio to observe others acting. Her contract wasn’t renewed when it came to an end, but she was determined to make things work.

However, in 1948, at the age of 22-years old, she was signed to Columbia Pictures, and starred in a low-budget movie called, Ladies of the Chorus. Still, her contract at Columbia was also not renewed. Later that same year, she signed with the William Morris Agency, with the persistent attitude to never give up.

Still, her big breakthrough didn’t come until 1950, when she had appearances in a couple of critically-acclaimed films. Since then, her films went on to gross over $200 million, and subsequently turning her into a pop culture icon and sex symbol.

 

#30 — Mark Cuban

Mark Cuban Famous FailureBorn in 1958 in Pittsburg, Pennsylvania, Mark Cuban is an American entrepreneur and pop culture icon, owner of the Dallas Mavericks and star of the hit television show, Shark Tank. However, things weren’t always so rosy for Cuban. He learned failure the hard way, by failing numerous times, again and again before he ever attained any semblance of fame.

In his earliest years, Cuban was always a tinkerer with an entrepreneurial spirit. From selling garbage bags to running newspapers and everything in between, Cuban learned early on how the mechanics of business worked, but that didn’t mean he didn’t experience the gut-wrenching pain of failure along the way.

In 1982, at the age of 24-years old, he moved to Dallas, Texas, on the word of some of his college friends, in a 1977 Fiat X19 that had a hole in the floorboard. Upon his arrival, he worked numerous odd jobs. He simply couldn’t find something that he was good at.

He failed at bartending because he couldn’t open a bottle of wine without the cork falling in. He failed at short-order cooking because he never knew when the food was ready unless he cut off a piece and tasted it. And he failed as a salesman at a computer distributor when he was fired after less than a year on the job.

Cuban simply couldn’t get anything right. At the age of 25 years-old, one year after he arrived in Dallas, he decided to start his own company, MicroSolutions, selling software, doing training and configuring networks and computers. He grew that company to $30 million dollars in revenue, and it was later acquired by CompuServe in 1990 at the age of 32-years old.

That gave him the ability to create Broadcast.com in 1995, at the age of 37-years old, a company that was later acquired by Yahoo in 1999 when it was sold for $5.7 billion in stock. Cuban was 41-years old, famous and wealthy beyond measure. Although he had failed numerous times and been through the ringer, he never gave up.

 

#31 — Mark Zuckerberg

Mark Zuckerberg Famous FailureThere’s little need in the way of an introduction to Mark Zuckerberg, the founder of Facebook, what can be considered as the world’s most successful site that reaches nearly the whole connected world. He was also the inspiration for the popular movie, The Social Network.

However, while Zuckerberg is considered wildly famous, rich and popular today, that wasn’t always the case. In fact, shortly after starting up Facebook, which started as thefacebook.com, Zuckerberg was sued by Cameron Winklevoss, Tyler Winklevoss and Divya Narenda, resulting in an enormous level of frustration and stress. That case was later settled for 1.2 million Facebook shares.

Before launching thefacebook.com, Zuckerberg created Facemash, a system that allowed students to pick the better looking person from a set of photos, either male or female. However, students complained that the photos were being used without their consent, and it was later shut down by Harvard, forcing Zuckerberg to issue apologies and for the student paper to call the site “completely improper.”

However, Facebook’s success in undeniable. Zuckerberg is now amongst the world’s richest individuals, far surpassing anything he might have envisioned his success to be.

 

#32 — Mary Kay Ash

Mary Kay Ash Famous FailureBorn in 1918, Mary Kay Ash, born Mary Kathlyn Wagner, was the founder of Mary Kay Cosmetics, a direct-selling, multi-level marketing cosmetics company based in Addison, Texas. After marrying early on in life, in 1935, at the age of 17-years old, she became a housewife, had two children, and would later go on  to sell books door-to-door when her husband was fighting in the war.

However, in 1945, she divorced, and eventually went to work for a company called Stanley Home Products. Yet in 1963, at the age of 45-years old, she retired. She had been passed up for a promotion and instead of continuing what she felt to be a dead-end career, she decided to write a book instead. That book turned into what would be her business plan for the business she intended to start with her new husband, Mel Ash.

However, Mel died just a month before the new business was set to start. One month after he died, she took the plunge by taking a $5,000 investment from her eldest son, Richard Rogers. She opened up her first storefront in Dallas and created the company to help empower women to succeed in a marketplace that was very much in favor of men.

Mary Kay Cosmetics grew beyond her wildest dreams. Today, the company has over 3 million consultants around the world with sales topping $3 billion annually. By 1968, the company had gone public, but was later taken private again after 17 years as a public company.

 

#33 — Michael Jordan

Michael Jordan Famous FailureBorn 1963, Michael Jordan is a former professional basketball player and also the owner of the Charlotte Hornets team. Called “the greatest basketball player of all time,” Jordan’s professional career is something for the history books, with a game play that will likely be unmatched and unrivaled for decades to come.

Jordan is credited with once saying that,”I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.”

At the age of 15-years old, while a sophomore in high school, Jordan was passed up for the varsity basketball team, instead being assigned to the junior varsity team. He cried after he saw that list without his name on it. But instead of giving up, his mom convinced him to push forward. Every time he thought about stopping his training, he would picture that list without his name on it.

He was able to take failure in stride. He allowed it to push him rather than to entirely defeat him. At the age of 21-years old, he entered the NBA as a professional basketball player for the Chicago Bulls, where he would go on to win six championship titles and become one of the most impactful players to ever grace the courts.

 

#34 — Milton Hershey

Milton Hershey Famous FailureBorn 1857, Milton Hershey is the founder of the Hershey Chocolate Company located in Hershey, Pennsylvania. It was early on in life, while working on the family’s farm, that he learned the values of persistence and hard work, carrying that with him throughout his life during his elder years.

Milton Hershey left school after just two-and-a-half years, instead opting to apprentice with a local printer. One day, he dropped his hat on accident into one of the machines there and was subsequently fired from that job. That was 1871 and Hershey was just 14-years old at the time.

After working for a candy factory near Lancaster, he decided to start his own business, opening a candy store close to Philadelphia. That business failed. He left town and headed to New Orlean’s and then Chicago. Unable to find the right opportunities, he continued moving around until he settled in New York City where he started working for Huyler’s, a candy and restaurant chain.

After a few years on the job, he quit and decided to sell candies on the street in New York City but was also unsuccessful at that as well. Disheartened by failure, Hershey moved back to the farm where he grew up, experimenting with chocolates and candies, considering he had a large supply of fresh milk from the dairy cows. It was here that he learned how to make delicious chocolates from condensed milk.

In 1893, at the age of 36-years old, he established the Lancaster Caramel Company, which he eventually sold for one million dollars seven years later in 1900, giving him the ability to start the Hershey Chocolate Company. When Hershey Chocolate Company first opened its doors, Hershey was 43-years old. Success didn’t come early for Hershey, nor did it come easy. But Hershey’s chocolates are still today one of the most famous and best-tasting brands of chocolate in the world.

 

#35 — Oprah Winfrey

Oprah Winfrey Famous FailureOprah Winfrey was born in 1954 in Kosciusko, Mississippi to a single teenaged mother. Winfrey grew up in a sheer state of utter poverty for most of her childhood life, living with her grandmother during those years. When she was 6-years old, she moved in with her mother in Wisconsin, about the time her mother had another daughter, becoming Winfrey’s half-sister.

During those early years, Winfrey says she was sexually molested by her cousin, her uncle and a family friend. At the age of 13-years old, she ran away from home. At 14-years old, she was pregnant and gave birth prematurely to a baby that died shortly after birth.

At the age of 17-years old, she won a beauty pageant and interned at a radio station, creating a love for the media, and eventually landing a job after college as a news anchor in Nashville. After college, she moved to Baltimore to co-anchor the news, but was later removed by the producer for being unfit for television.

In 1983, at the age of 29-years old, she relocated to Chicago and took over a fledgling show called, AM Chicago, which would ultimately become the, Oprah Winfrey Show. She became the highest-ranked talkshow in Chicago. Today, she is a multi-billionaire and has had a major impact on a large part of world.

Oprah was able to overcome multiple failures in her life, but didn’t give up. Because of it, she reached international fame and is known around the world as a household name.

 

#36 — Richard Branson

Richard Branson Famous FailureRichard Branson, born in 1950, is an English billionaire entrepreneur and business magnate well known around the world for being one of the most famous and successful individuals at the helm of a global brand, Virgin Group, with businesses in a wide variety of fields such as music, telecom, hospitality and travel.

In the late 1960’s, Branson started the Student magazine, where he interviewed prominent people. He also started to sell records through the magazine at a discounted rate, helping it result in an overnight success. Branson opened a record shop in 1971, but was labeling records sold as export stock, and thus had to pay a hefty fine and unpaid taxes. His mother had to re-mortgage the house to help his son pay the settlement cost with the government.

Ultimately, however, the Virgin Records store was a success, and it allowed him to create his own record label. By 1992, at the age of 42-years old, he had created Virgin Atlantic and the Virgin Megastores. But in order to keep the airline afloat, he was pressured into selling the record label or have to suffer a major financial failure and loss in the airline industry. He sold the label to EMI for £500 million and was completely distraught after this because the record business was his first foray into the business world.

Eventually, the airline succeeded and the Virgin brand today is synonymous with value and customer service, also making Branson one of the richest people on the planet. He simply refused to give up, even through all the failures and the setbacks.

 

#37 — Robert T. Kiyosaki

Robert Kiyosaki Famous FailureBorn in 1947, Robert Kiyosaki is an entrepreneur, investor and the wildly-popular author who wrote the Rich Dad Poor Dad series.  He also founded the Rich Dad Company, which provides financial education to children and adults, along with creating the Cashflow board game, which helps to instill the same educational concepts as much of the books in a game format.

Yet before all that fame, Kiyosaki faced a number of failures along the way. His road to fame and wealth was wrought with a number of setbacks and defeats. In 1977, at the age of 30-years old, Kiyosaki started a company that sold surfer’s wallets, with nylon and velcro, but failed to intellectually protect the products. Facing stiff competition, that company eventually went bankrupt.

Afterwards, he started a company selling t-shirts and hats and other licensed products for heavy metal rock groups. That company also went bankrupt in 1980. He was 33-years old at the time. In 1985, at the age of 38-years old, he started a financial education company to teach investors and entrepreneurs various strategies for investing in real estate and other financial products. In 1994, at the age of 47-years old, he sold that company and began his investing and writing career.

However, it wasn’t until 1997, at the age of 50-years old, when he penned the Rich Dad Poor Dad book, that he achieved international notoriety. The book has since sold over 26 million copies worldwide and has been translated into 51 languages.

 

#38 — Shawn Carter aka Jay-Z

Jay-Z Famous FailureBorn in 1969, Shawn Carter, also known as Jay-Z, is an American singer, songwriter and entrepreneur who’s sold over 100 million records and rose up against extraordinary odds to succeed in life. While quite possibly considered as one of the most famous and successful rappers of all time, his early life was dominated by a string of failures and unstable family life that led to a career of dealing drugs.

Born in Brooklyn, New York, Carter grew up in the housing projects known as the Marcy Houses in the Bedford-Stuyvesant neighborhood. After his father had abandoned the family, it was his mother that raised him and his three siblings. He became passionate about music early on, appearing on several early recordings of artists such as Jaz-O and Big Daddy Kane’s, Daddy’s Home.

However, while wanting to pursue a record career, he realized that no label wanted to sign him, so he opted instead to selling CDs out of the trunk of his car. Every major label had turned him down, so he did what any enterprising young individual would do that was committed to succeeding — he co-founded his own label called Roc-A-Fella Records.

Once the label had been setup, he sought out to find a distribution partner, which was no easy task. Ultimately, after finding one, Jay-Z released his debut album entitled, Reasonable Doubt, which reached number 23 on the Billboard 200, and it eventually hit platinum status, with Rolling Stones calling it one of the 500 greatest albums of all time. This was the start of a long and very successful career.

 

#39 — Soichiro Honda

Soichiro Honda Famous FailureBorn in 1906, Soichiro Honda was a Japanese inventor and industrialist who created the automotive empire by his namesake — Honda Motor Company. However, while Honda’s company has certainly grown to rival even that of Toyota, Honda’s earliest days were anything but easy. Yet, it was his perseverance and his tenacity to never give up that kept him going and helped him to ultimately succeed.

Without any formal education to his name, at the age of 15-years old, Honda left home to head for Tokyo to search for work, which he later found at an auto repair shop where he apprenticed and worked for the next 6 years before returning home to open up his own automotive shop.

During the Great Depression, in 1937, at the age of 31-years old, he founded, Tōkai Seiki to create piston rings for Toyota. He toiled and labored night and day to create these, but to no avail. With little cash and bleak chances for survival, he had to pawn his wife’s ring just to make ends meet. He failed ultimately, and was told that the rings didn’t meet Toyota’s specifications.

However, he refused to give up. He went back to school and continued to search for ways to improve upon his prior designs. Eventually, after two more years of designing and trying, he succeeded and successfully secured a contract with Toyota to create the piston rings.

But shortly thereafter, his factory that he built to build the products was hit by a bomb during WWII when a B-29 bomber run carpeted the area. After he rebuilt the factory a second time, an earthquake leveled it. But he refused to give up. Instead, he created a motorized bicycle that would become the start of the Honda motorcycle.

 

#40 — Stephen King

Stephen King Famous FailureBorn in 1947, Stephen King is one of the most famous and successful authors of all time. He’s sold over 350 million books but had an unorthodox start to his writing career. In fact, after a subsequent string of failures, Stephen King was all but ready to give up on his hopes and his dreams of becoming a published author.

King was so passionate about writing, that he worked tirelessly to get his worked published. He was rejected so often, however, that by the time he turned 14-years old, a nail supporting his rejection letters on the wall, could no longer bear their weight. Eventually, he replaced the nail with a spike and continued to hang his rejection letters.

After completing his studies at the University of Maine in 1970, at the age of 23-years old, he got himself a teaching certificate, but he was unable to find any work teaching. Instead, he worked for a laundry service while his wife went to work at Dunkin’ Donuts, writing short stories in his spare time.

In 1973, King finally secured a teaching job, however he continued to write when an idea came to his mind. When the idea for his first book, Carrie, a story about a girl with telekinetic powers, first came to him, he had envisioned creating it as a short story for a magazine like, Playboy. But after beginning the story, he realized it was going to need to be longer than the format would call for in Playboy.

One day, after being so frustrated with the story, he crumpled it up and threw it into the garbage, only later to be retrieved by his wife, telling him that he should continue the work and finish it. Upon completion, 30 publishers rejected the book. Eventually, he got published by Doubleday and received a $2,500 advance. A short time after, he was told that he would receive $200,000 for the rights to that book.

 

#41 — Steve Jobs

steve-jobs-famous-failureBorn in 1955, the late Steve Jobs was an iconic billionaire, inventor and entrepreneur responsible for the one of the most renowned and successful companies to have ever been created — Apple Computers. Yet, Jobs’ life was filled with failure. Before fame ever graced him and his name become synonymous with success, he suffered through an enormous number of setbacks.

In his earliest days, Jobs felt unwanted. He was put up for adoption by his mother and was raised by a blue-collar couple in Palo Alto, California. He dropped out of college and started taking the courses that were most interesting to him rather than trying to complete his degree. Afterwards, he opted to travel the world and see places like India where he would study Zen Buddhism.

In 1976, Jobs co-founded Apple Computers with his friend, Steve Wozniak. The company was highly successful. However, in 1983, Jobs hired John Scully from Pepsi to helm the company as CEO, which ended up being one of the worst decisions he had ever made. After a disagreement with Scully, and a foiled plan by Jobs to oust the new CEO, Jobs resigned from Apple and quit, taking 5 employees with him to start his new business venture, NeXT.

That disheartening period helped to embolden Jobs. While Apple was fledgling and would eventually be on the verge of bankruptcy, NeXT thrived. Ultimately, NeXT was acquired by Apple in 1997 bringing him back into the fold of a now-struggling company.

 

#42 — Steven Spielberg

Steven Spielberg Famous FailureBorn in 1946, in Cincinnati, Ohio, Steven Spielberg is an American Academy Award-winning director, producer and entrepreneur responsible for some of the biggest and most successful movies and movie franchises in history such as E.T.Raiders of the Lost ArkJawsand Jurassic Park.

After his parents’ divorce, Spielberg moved to Los Angeles, California with his father where he applied to the University of Souther California’s film school, but was rejected for his poor grades, instead opting to attend the less-prominent California State University at Long Beach.

In 1979, Spielberg released a film that flopped, entitled 1941. He had been riding high on the success of his previous films such as Jaws. Although 1941 was not a financial failure, it was a critical failure, and resulted in the loss some of Spielberg’s notoriety at the time.

Ultimately, however, Spielberg refused to give up, even after that major failure. He could have called it quits, but he refused to do so. He pushed forward, and because of it, we’ve had some incredible blockbusters such as Schindler’s List, The Color Purple, A.I. Artificial Intelligence, and so many more.

 

#43 — Sylvester Stallone

Sylvester Stallone Famous FailureBorn in 1946, Sylvester Stallone is an American actor and director best known for his role as Rocky Balboa in the hit boxing film, Rocky.Stallone moved to New York City in the 1970’s to pursue his dream of being an actor. However, all he seemed to face was rejection, failure and a string of people telling him he talked funny, walked funny and couldn’t act.

He was broke at the time. It was during this period that he was forced to sell his dog for $25 just to pay for his electricity bill. He had been rejected 1,500 times by talent scouts, agents and everyone in the film industry that he could get a meeting with. He would sit for hours on end in offices just to wait to the see the person who would ultimately reject him again. He did this repeatedly, over and over.

Eventually, this wore on Stallone. He was broke and homeless. He lived and slept in the New Jersey Port Authority bus terminal for three weeks while trying to scrimp and save money together for another apartment. He was just about as desperate as anyone could be in their lives.

After writing the script for Rocky, he was offered a tremendous amount of money with one caveat — that he not star in the film. The offer was raised as high as $325,000 with the condition that he not act in the film. He refused time and again. Eventually, he accepted just $35,000 and a percentage of the film’s sales. That film grossed over $200 million in the box office!

 

#44 — The Beatles

Famous Failures: The BeatlesThe Beatles were an English rock group that formed in 1960 and have since gone on to sell over 1.6 billion records worldwide, with over 600 million records being sold in the United States, and are considered to be one of the most popular musical groups in history. Its members were John Lennon, Paul McCartney, George Harrison and Ringo Starr.

However, The Beatles once considered themselves failures. On New Year’s Eve in 1961, the group drove in a snowstorm to Decca Recording Studios to lay down 15 tracks based on songs that they were already performing, which was a mashup of R&B and Rock tunes.

Still, it was Dick Rowe, an A&R that was there to hear their sound, who stated that they would never succeed. Specifically, he said that “guitar groups were on their way out.” Five months later, the group received the big break they had been hoping to receive. and signed with George Martin from Parlophone and released their first in a string of hits late that year entitled, Love Me Do.

While others might have gotten discouraged during the rejections and the failures faced by the group, they didn’t falter. They didn’t throw in that proverbial towel. They knew deep down inside that they were bound to be famous and that it was just a matter of time as long as they didn’t give up.

 

#45 — Thomas Edison

Thomas Edison Famous FailureThomas Edison is an American inventor and entrepreneur born in 1847 in Milan, Ohio, one of seven siblings in a very large family. Edison was home schooled by his mother and developed hearing problems early on in life. He was trained to use the telegraph after a train almost struck the son of a station agent who was so grateful that he taught Edison how to use the system, eventually leading to a job working for Western Union.

In 1877, at the age of 30-years old, Edison invented the phonograph, an invention that was so magical that it made the public dub him with the name “The Wizard of Menlo Park.” In 1878, just a year later, Edison began working on a commercially-viable incandescent lightbulb that would be both long-lasting and highly efficient by not drawing too much energy to operate.

Thomas Edison went through thousands of iterations to make this dream a reality. In fact, he failed over 10,000 times trying to invent a commercially-viable electric bulb. At one point, when asked by a reporter whether he felt like a failure after so many failed attempts. He said, “I have not failed 10,000 times. I have not failed once. I have succeeded in proving that those 10,000 ways will not work. When I have eliminated the ways that will not work, I will find the way that will work.”

Edison had a huge impact on society, holding 1,093 patents to his name at the time of his death. His work in a number of fields created the basis for much of the technologies that we enjoy today and take for granted. However, like anyone else, he suffered through failure numerous time, but where others quit, he persisted.

 

#46 — Vincent Van Gogh

Vincent Van Gogh Famous FailureBorn in 1853, Vincent Van Gogh is one of the most influential painters in modern history, and is accredited with painting some of the most notable works of art in all time. Throughout his life, Van Gogh created 2,100 various pieces of art, which included 860 oil paintings, most of which were painted within the last 2 years of his life.

However, during Van Gogh’s brief 37 years of existence, prior to committing suicide in 1890, he had only sold a total of one painting. Yes, just one painting. For the most part, Van Gogh considered himself a failure and didn’t feel that life was worth living. That also could be because much of his life was lived steeped in poverty and battling mental illnesses.

While Van Gogh suffered through psychosis and delusional states, his bold impressionist work and dramatic brushstrokes have resonated with the art community. While he only sold one piece of art prior to his death, he had only begun the bulk of his oil paintings just two years prior to committing suicide.

Still, it’s clear that Van Gogh was a true genius, with an unending imagination and talent to transform the pictures in his mind into wild landscapes and portraits filled with illustrative brushstrokes and bold impressionistic vibrancy.

 

#47 — Walt Disney

Walt Disney Famous FailureWalt Disney, born in 1901, is the beloved founder of the Walt Disney Company, quite possibly one of the most famed companies in the world throughout history. However, Disney’s road towards success wasn’t easy; it was paved with a number of failures and setbacks that included bankruptcy.

1919, Disney had taken a job with the Kansas City Star, the local newspaper, when he was fired by the editor for lacking imagination and having no good ideas. Later Disney started a company called Laugh-O-Gram, producing cartoon animations. His biggest client at the time was Newman’s theaters, one of the largest theater chains. His cartoons were shown at the start of the films at Newman’s theaters and were dubbed the “Newman’s Laugh-O-Grams.”

However, his success with Laugh-O-Gram was short-lived. The money earned didn’t provide enough income to keep the company afloat, and in 1923 it declared bankruptcy. Subsequently, Disney moved to Hollywood in 1923 when he was just 22-years old, where his brother Roy was living at the time.

With the help of Roy, they formed the Disney Brothers Studio, which later became called the Walt Disney Company. The company was formed to produce animated films. However, it wasn’t until 1928, five years later, when Disney created Mickey Mouse, when things really started to take off, but not before experiencing a number of gut-twisting failures and setbacks.

 

#48 — Winston Churchill

Winston Churchill Famous FailureBorn in 1874, Winston Churchill is famously known as being the Prime Minister of the United Kingdom from October 26th, 1951 through April 6th, 1955, and is  often credited with several very popular quotes about failure such as “Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts,” and, “Success consists of going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm.”

In 1893, Churchill applied to attend the Royal Military College in Sandhurst. He failed that exam 2 times, and on the third try, he succeeded, but only after changing from the infantry division to the cavalry division, which had a lower threshold for entrance. However, he excelled during his tenure there.

During his political career, he lost a total of 5 elections, including his very first one, which included three elections in a row during the years of 1922 through 1924. Throughout his life, he battled clinical depression. He also had a severe lateral lisp, and had trouble speaking and making speeches at times, having dentures manufactured to help repair the impediments his speech caused.

However, Churchill was also one of the most successful and renowned politicians to have ever lived.

Funny Pick up Lines…


Love this very much so here are a few Pick UP lines… for you to use…However, I highly recommend YOU, watching this Video… it’s a scream……which means it’s funny…

Just Bloody well watch it…god damn it!!!

Your name must be Coca Cola, because you’re soda-licious.

You’re hotter than the bottom of my laptop.

If you were a chicken, you’d be impeccable.

I would flirt with you, but I’d rather seduce you with my awkwardness.

I have amnesia, do I come here often?

I’m not a photographer, but I can picture us together.

I don’t need Twitter, I’m already following you.

Do you know the essential difference between sex and conversation? (No.) Do you wanna go upstairs and talk?corny-love-quote.jpg

Do you sleep on your stomach? If not, can I?

Somebody call the cops. It’s got to be illegal to look that good.

I’ve had such an off week but seeing you just turns me on.

Your body is a wonderland and I want to be Alice.

I’m going to kiss you now. Say “Kiss me” now if you want me to stop.

Do you believe in love at first sight, or should I walk by again?

Your lips look lonely. Let me introduce them to mine.

The Funniest Pick Up Lines Ever - Is There A Mirror

Is there a mirror in your pants…? I think I can see myself in them..

Hi, I’m doing a survey …What’s your name? What’s your phone number? Are you free next Saturday?

Kiss me if I’m wrong, but dinosaurs do still exist, don’t they?

I’m going to give you a kiss. If you don’t like it, just return it.

I think there’s something wrong with my phone. Could you try calling it for me to see if it rings?

My magical watch says you aren’t wearing any underwear! (I am.) It must be an hour fast.

1r10kp.jpgYou must be a keyboard, because you’re just my type.

You’re so hot, if you ate bread you’d poop out toast.

If I had to rate you from 1 to 10, I’d rate you as a 9 because I’m the 1 you’re missing.

What do I have to do to get on your drunk dial list?

You make me wish I wasn’t gay.

Are you accepting applications for your fan club?

If you were a basketball, I’d never shoot because I’d always miss you.

Are you related to Jean-Claude Van Damme?

Because Jean-Claude Van Damme, you’re sexy!

I'm New In Town - Chat Up Line

I’m new in town. Can I have the directions to your house please?

My feet are getting cold… because you’ve knocked my socks off.

There’s something wrong with my mobile. It doesn’t have your number in it.

It’s a good job I brought my library card, because I’m checking you out.

I’m not drunk… I’m just intoxicated by you.

I lost my teddy bear. Will you sleep with me instead?

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Did you get your licenses suspended for driving all these guys crazy?

If you were a bogey, I would pick you first.

You’re hot, I’m ugly. Let’s make average babies.

Excuse me, but I think I dropped something… my jaw!

Are you wearing space pants?

Because that butt is out of this world.

Was your mother a beaver? Because DAAAAMN girl!

Are you a parking ticket? Because you’ve got FINE written all over you.

I bet you $10 you’re gonna turn me down.

Roses are red, violets are blue, I have a gun, get in the van.

There’s a huge sale going on in my bedroom right now. Clothes are 100% off!

Here I am. Now what are your other two wishes?

Remember me? No? Oh that’s right, I’ve only met you in my dreams.

Hey girl, you’re gonna have to stop eating magnets; you’re making me attracted to you.

 

But, wait there is more

 

Roses are red, bananas are yellow, wanna go out with a nice little fellow?


You wanna know the best thing in my life?

It’s the first word of this sentence.

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If you’re here, who’s running heaven?


Kiss me if I’m wrong, but dinosaurs still exist right?


Do you have a name? Or can I call you mine?


Are you an alien because you just abducted my heart?


Let’s commit the perfect crime. I’ll steal your heart and you can steal mine.


Where do you hide your halo?


You’re pretty and I’m cute.

Together we’d be pretty cute.


You look familiar – did we have class together?

I could have sworn we had chemistry.


You’re like a dictionary.

You add meaning to my life.


If you hold 8 roses in front of a mirror, you’ll see 9 of the most beautiful things in the world.


If I had a star for every time you brightened my life, I’d be holding a galaxy.


Do you have a Bandaid?

Because I just scraped my knee falling for you.


Is your body from McDonald’s?

Because I’m lovin’ it.Epic-Rumi-Quotes-spiritual-poems.jpg


If I were a stop light, I’d turn red every time you passed by, just so I could stare at you a bit longer.


Your eyes are bluer than the Atlantic ocean and baby, I’m all lost at sea.


There’s 21 letters in the alphabet right?

Oh wait, I forgot U R A Q T.


Can you kiss me on the cheek so I can at least say a cute girl kissed me tonight?


You are so beautiful that you give the sun a reason to shine.


I’ll give you a kiss.

If you don’t like it, you can return it.

Beautiful Quotes….


I have borrowed these from a great Blogger link below to the person who inspired most of these quotes…life-quotes-inspiration-i-just-want-friendship-we-have-something-so-special-and-both-be-through-so-muc

Truth

“Never ruin someone’s life with a lie, when your world can be destroyed with the truth.”

Tell them…

“If you love someone, tell them. Because hearts are broken by the words unspoken.” 

Enjoying sex…

“Enjoying sex doesn’t make you a whore, just like being a virgin doesn’t make you saint.” 

A good man…

“Allow a good man to ruin your lipstick, not your mascara.” 

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“God created sex. Priests created marriage.”
– Voltaire

Lay me down…

Lay me down,
get ready to play,
clear your calendar,
to make love all day.

Start with kisses,
touch me low,
caress me tight,
as we take it slow.

Cat fight

 

“No matter how much cats fight, there always seem to be plenty of kittens.” – Abraham Lincoln6dd056fa77d441b87e2deffa867f35ef.jpg

Master Your Passions

 

 

 

“The happiness of a man in this life does not consist in the absence but in the mastery of his passions.” – Lord Tennyson Alfred

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