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Beautifully honest, she wrote, becareful of alone time this can potentially hinder you.. And I agree


Tragically shattered, her bravery alone is an inspiration of all of us!!

Hi Candii here,

Well, what amazing video of strength and honesty of herself!

I wonder how many times she has said the same story over and over to help others and let me add I bet there is a partial bit of release within herself, however, as I know how this feels in my own journey this all depends on her state of mind at the time she tells it..

Like Leslie, said, even after theraphy she relapsed and felt like her entire life and inner strength was shattered, I get it, that feeling of self loathing it sneaks up and frightens you with no regrets to make sure the pain was still present..

Her therapist told her this will occurr over and over again, horrified at that thought, which I recall a dear friend told me, my response, “Are you serious, that took everything out of me I don’t want it to come back, like Leslie’s therapist said the same response, Franny, it will come back over and over but, it will affect you less and less each time it comes back…

He was right! Was he right! 

My growth felt slow and quick and that realisation came and went out the back door before even saying, gidday, which made me have a massive relief and then a huge lul of sadness and self loathing.

Understanding yourself is a must to move forward for a full life of living on this Earth, so be brave like Lesley, your a beautiful human being who deserves to live in this life.

Her words are so beautiful and everything she said with her voice, heart, soul and even body language was honest to true.. worth every minute..

Be brave and live .. I am doing just this.. and it will be worth it.. I promise..

Franny (aka Candii) xxx

When self-worth is tied to one’s Sexual and Romantic relationship


Sexual Contingent self-worth (CSW) is self-esteem that is dependent on maintaining what one perceives to be a successful sexual relationship .

When individuals with greater CSW experience positive events in the contingent domain, they have better well-being.

However, if they perceive failures in the contingent domain (sexual domain), they have poorer well-being. One study found that individuals who reported sexual problems, such as PVD, had greater sexual CSW than those without problems.

Individuals with greater sexual CSW may perceive a sexual problem, such as PVD, as a failure in the contingent domain, which could be associated with poorer psychological, sexual, and relational well-being.

Both women with PVD and their partners report feelings of failure in the sexual relationship.

However, couples affected by PVD report being just as satisfied with their overall relationship as the general population. Basing self-worth on the overall relationship (relationship CSW) may serve a protective function for couples coping with PVD.

In our study, we wanted to examine the associations between sexual and relationship CSW and the sexual satisfaction, sexual distress, relationship satisfaction, and depressive symptoms of women with PVD and their partners, as well as women’s pain.

What did we do?
We had 82 couples complete an online survey that included validated measures of sexual and relationship CSW and the sexual satisfaction, sexual distress, relationship satisfaction, depressive symptoms, and (for women) pain during intercourse.

What did we find?

  • When women with PVD reported greater sexual CSW, they experienced more sexual distress and pain.
  • When partners reported greater sexual CSW, they were less sexually and relationally satisfied and more sexually distressed, and women had greater depressive symptoms and lower relationship satisfaction.
  • When partners reported higher relationship CSW, they were more sexually and relationally satisfied and less sexually distressed, and women reported lower depressive symptoms and greater relationship satisfaction.

What do these findings mean?
Results suggest that couples’ greater sexual CSW is linked to poorer sexual, relational, and psychological well-being in couples affected by PVD, whereas partners’ greater relationship CSW is associated with better well-being.

Thus, when couples coping with PVD base their self-worth on their sexual relationship, they may be more likely to experience the negative consequences that are associated to this pain condition.

However, if partners are more focused on the overall romantic relationship, this may serve a protective function for both members of the couple.

Findings suggest that sexual and relationship CSW may be important targets for interventions aimed at improving the well-being of couples with PVD. The results also highlight the importance of including partners in research and treatment for PVD.

It is important to note that this study was cross-sectional.

Thus, all of the associations could have been in the other direction.

For example, it is possible that when couples coping with PVD have poorer psychological and sexual well-being, they are more likely to have greater sexual CSW.

Further research is needed to help determine the direction of these associations.

We where idiots yesterday – And we WILL be idiots today.. so quit wine-ing and trust ya gutts…


When you watch this video you will notice a touch of “Sarcastic Selfishness”, and I laughed because it’s so damn well true!!

As we get older we seem to become harsher or we have become Artists of being The Amazing Victims – or we are just ASS HOLES…. 

Anyway either way the below video made me giggle

 

 

 

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