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What does Love mean to you?


Hi Candii here,

Here I am up early thinking about life and what Love means to people in this world we seem to live in such an era that the internet and people now are very up close and what seems very personal but, there seems to be such an underlining personal agenda of lust.

Have we all lost something within ourselves that we are that empty by looking for another person or idea to Satisify our egos?

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Let’s look at Redhotpie and kasidie 

The two links about are very different but, very similar Redhotpie is a dating service for couples, singles, threesome, gang bangs, swingers, private parties, cockhold, dogging, foursomes, exhibitionist, voyism, roleplay, etc.. it’s a meat market of people who like to socialize with like-minded sexual beings who are all different but, seems to be a simular theme and that to me is very interesting.. I will explain this in a moment while I tell you about Kasidie’s site.

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Now Kasidie, is a site that is obviously evolved into a big business for Travelling Swingers, who do the same thing on a bigger scale, this site is about extreme parties all over the world and clubs that are set for sexual desires that will be fulfilled because they have mastered swinging and have gone wild and wet in USA and beyond.

Both interesting, both are similar, so what is it that seems to be very simular?

Okay, so we now live in a world of people who mostly get married and want to be single?  Or is it that we live with a partner love them but, perhaps we as humans require more than just one person?

I really am being very open-minded, I have to be because this is the area of understanding why couples end up at the divorce court and why we all seem very lurid to want more in our sexual life than one person!

I have many questions that I would like to find out by couples that love to swing together do they actually stay together?  I would love to ask them what is it that they like about swinging, group sex, sex parties, and many other factors that are out there while all those good couples stay at home having missionary sex!

I wonder if there is many couples that settled?

I wonder because of settling is that the reason they swing for their own frustration of having someone to go home with that loves them or is it more that it’s comforting within themselves that they can do this by swaying the “other” partner over to the dark side so that person in that marriage is finally satisfied with his/her idea of what compensation is within that person settling?

Or am I looking at this totally wrong?

Can anyone out there in word press world who is in a marriage/relationship tell me what is it that both of you get when attending these parties?

We are such a beautiful race of individuals and I don’t really find any of what people do is any of my business but, I will say I get it to a point of wanting to understand more about it!

I have to complete a sexology in two years and I would love to explore my mind of understanding further to why couples want to swing together.

  • I want to understand what the pros and the cons of it is?
  • And is it real?
  • Is it an excuse to have sex with others but, stay together?
  • Does anyone get hurt? 
  • Is it true that if we stay together we can swing together?

It seems that we have so many hidden sexual fantasies within ourselves, is it that we are evolving into a society that secretly wants to be single and having wild hot sex with others without the marriage, consent, or is it that we have been doing this since time began and really don’t care what others think?

Love to hear your thoughts on my post above?

Do you have the any thoughts on what I said above? Agree? Disagree? think i made it up?

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Why do we put labels on sexual roles?


Just because you may classify yourself as a top or bottom, or dom or sub, doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy a bit of the other during kinky play.

Indeed, Fetish.com says if you scrap the labels and switch things up, sex can be a whole lot more enjoyable…

The terms “topping” and “bottoming” paint service-oriented sex in black and white. They assume that each corresponding party has only one set of interests that don’t extend beyond their role.

Humans, however, are complex, and this is not the case for most people. Can a top love anal stimulation?

Can bottoms enjoy inserting things into their partners’ various orifices? Absolutely, and you don’t need to be a switch to incorporate diverse preferences without compromising the dynamic of a scene.

Getting what you want out of a scene

Our desires can sometimes exist as the opposite of our sexual personae, so it’s important to take them out of the context of a scene for this conversation with your partner(s) or yourself.

Instead, phrase your list of wants and needs with, “I want to receive,” or “I want to give.” The only roles that need to be considered here are whether you are the giver or recipient of the play at hand.

Once you know what specific sensations you and your partner(s) are chasing, you can then decide how you want to switch to give or receive them.

Switch it up: talk about how you want it

For many, sexual preferences are seen in terms of dominant and submissive behaviour, which means that while someone may like to be spanked, but that doesn’t necessarily mean they’ll enjoy a spanking anytime, any place, by anyone.

If someone gets off from being in a position of dominance, then the way they receive a spanking must be done following that preference.

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Unleash your sexual desires. Switch up your roles during kinky play.

However, my Dom(me) will punish me if I spank her, but not if I was commanded to do so, especially if she holds my leash as I spank her, or if then I’m spanked in return for not taking her orders correctly.

The above is one example of service-oriented submission, which is a fancy term for doing things to your top from the bottom. The premise of service within the context of power exchange is existing solely to please your Mistress or Master, even though doing so also pleases you.

How can a sub go about initiating?

How does a sub go about anything? By asking permission, of course:

“Sir, may I please insert this toy inside of your butt?”

“You may, but only after getting it nice and wet first.”

How does said sub know their Master enjoys anal play?

They had a very open and clear conversation about what they want to experience before they started playing. During which, there was ample opportunity for the sub to say, “Initiating anal play might take me out of my subspace. Can you command me to use the toy on you instead?”

Get rid of the labels

Spanking is not only for bottoms, and receiving blowjobs is not just for tops. Getting spanked and getting blown are both acts of receipt.

Both require a giver and taker. The versatile aspect of these actions is the motive behind them.

Is Person A receiving a spanking because they were naughty or because they’re demanding one for pleasure?

Is Person B getting blown at their own accord, as a reward for behaving well, or as a means of humiliation?

Beyond the disassociation of behaviour from pre-conceived roles, there lies a broader variety of possible sensations that can be experienced within a power exchange.

Your physical position during a sex act (i.e. top or bottom) does not mandate your status as a Dominant or Submissive, your intent does.

Put differently, taking the act and the role as separate things opens you up to many more possibilities for interesting power play.

When In Rome….. we shall do what others do… RIGHT!!!!


Hi Candii here,

Now, this is talking my language, however, a fish out of water perhaps but, would I attend these amazing places.. Absolutely, and I would wear something HOT and Rediculously Slutty, with a touch of Classiness…

I think it would be the best fun ever … a bit like diving into the DEEP end first but, hey why not.. “When they say, When in Rome”!

I would wear appropriately, latex corset with heels up to my fanny, and fishnets, false eye lashes, may even get a tattoo, oh and fake boobs would be just right up my ALLEY….

However, let’s not get too over board… oh sugar, why not…. stuff it and I would take two men.. dressed beautifully, and we would play very well together..

Okay, that is my fantasy that GOD…. please before I die.. heheheh anyhoo, check out the below and see if any of this ticks your box.. like mine…

Enjoy Franny (aka Candii)

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Best Swinger Clubs in London: Be naughty in Le Boudoir

Second only to Berlin in its kinkiness, you’ll never be short of a sex party in London. Le Boudoir offers a playful yet elegant venue for international swingers. Discover, meet and have sex with plenty of naughty people from all over the world, and add a few stamps to your sexual passport in the process. Register an application online and get ready for a non-judgemental and stylish event that promises to push the societal norms and excite every attendee.

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Best Swinger Clubs in London: Not your everyday Playgrounds

Want to go to one of the best swingers parties in London? Adults want to have fun too, right? The Playgrounds organise parties where you can have all the kinky fun you want. A sex party in London that is far from boring – these organisers mix it up and switch from venue to venue. Their motto is “for people who just get it” and, believe us if you attend these insane events, you’re most likely to get it.

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Best Swinger Clubs in London: Discover a new level of Arousal

One of the amazing venues to find swingers in London is the famous Arousal. Home to a kinky array of parties that cater for every taste. It’s enormous, complete with 13 communal play areas and six lockable playrooms. For the kinksters, there’s a dungeon, cages and glory holes galore. Arousal hosts the previously mentioned Playgrounds’ ‘Swingles Party’, ‘Naughty Bi Nature’ (the biggest bisexual swingers party in London), and the Blackman’s Fanclub. Talking of which…

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Best Swinger Clubs in London: Are you part of the Blackmans Fanclub?

The name says it all – this is not your average swingers party in London. There’s nothing quite like a sex party in London purely dedicated to gorgeous, open-minded black men and their many admirers. That said, BMFC events are open to all swingers in London, regardless of the colour of their skin. Let’s just say this – if you haven’t tried it already, well, you’ve heard the rumours. Why not see if they’re true?

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Best Swinger Clubs in London: Succumb to Subversion

Subversion is the ultimate destination for kinksters wanting to attend a swingers party in London. It’s organised by fetishists, for fetishists alike. But if it’s your first time… don’t fret. Everybody’s welcome, and it’s a vanilla-friendly fetish clubbing event. For something naughtier, check out their Noir events – the ultimate BDSM-themed sex party in London.

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Best Swinger Clubs in London: Indulge yourself in Killing Kittens

Ladies, worried about being a bit overwhelmed by all the ungentlemanly men? Killing Kittens is a night made to make you feel sexually empowered. Their events happen all over the world, with sex parties in London, New York, Melbourne, Venice and more. And they’ve earned quite a reputation. KK events are said to be the most exclusive, hedonistic and down right naughtiest happenings in the world – purposefully planned with the pursuit of female pleasure in mind.

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Best Swinger Clubs in London: Ready to Mingles?

Set up by a beautiful pair of Essex swingers, Mingles was established with classy couples in mind. Think of an elegant wine bar (but bring your own!) mixed with a sexy adult lifestyle destination. You can have a few drinks, let your hair down and if you feel adventurous, have an intimate encounter with new like-minded friends. If you live just east of the UK’s kinky capital, this is the perfect alternative to a Swingers party in London city centre.

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Best Swinger Clubs in London: Let yourself be set on Hellfire

The Hellfire is home to countless Swingers parties in London catering to every sexuality and gender. There are events every week including ‘Secret Sunday’, masquerade balls and our all- time favourite ‘Swish’ – the ultimate sex party in London for swingers and members of the fetish community. Think it can’t get any better? Like most swingers in London will find, you’re allowed to bring your own alcohol, but at Hellfire, soft drinks are also completely FREE – all night long.

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Best Swinger Clubs in London: Show off your Legs 800

Swingers in London craving for a venue in which you can really be your true self? Legs 800 is a very special place dedicated to members of the transgender and crossdresser community (and their admirers!). You can dress up, get a makeover, dance all night and have a cheeky fumble in the private rooms with someone who appreciates you at your most beautiful. More of a celebratory escape than a mere Swingers party in London, Legs 800 is as unique as it is fun.

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Best Swinger Clubs in London: Meet the South London Swingers

Last but not least, let us introduce you to South London Swingers. How long has it been since you went wild at a friends house when their parents were away? This is for those who are now all grown-up, and know exactly what they want – to meet other swingers in London in a comfortable and very, very naughty house-party environment. Don’t miss out on the opportunity to revel in delicious decadence, with that taboo feeling that feels oh so familiar.

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