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Bradley Cooper – you Gentlemen… you are HOT!!! GAGA – gorgeous….


“ALL YOU GOT TO DO IS TRUST ME”

Man oh Man, this man is HOT!!

Energy levels, calmness, beautiful and amazing…. he gets it…

 

Both got it… Chemistry is everything and these two bomb shells my god… HOT.. love it, love the respect, the honesty the amazing frienship both have…

And that is what it is all about people, powerful Chemistry, it blows me away so very much when I feel them both and see it….

 

Life and Understanding , Loyalty, honesty, respect, hot, sexy, damn right means so much more than what you think..


That is how people connect… that is how you have all a higher level of understanding… not this other shit… that is what life is about….

Spent time, Open your heart, and think!!!


This song is beautiful its like finding a place you finally can be “you”, we search our lives for the upmost rewarding experiences  ..only if we trust…. at the end of our lives don’t say… I wish I did more…. do it now..for fcuks sakes… what do you want a Flag that says “Ready, Set, Go… ok… Ready, Set, Stop..

Why Stop cuz, this journey is very dey jau vu

Mr Invisable is just that Invisable… but, has a twin..is called dey jau vu 2..

Sorry personal joke hehehehehhehe

 

What do you think that is?

I think it’s about many things love, friendships that truly matter, trust within your heart and your soul and to try and do your best as a person to others.

How about this to be loved and acepted for who you are good, bad and darn right a tad curious and to find out people are just like you…

This means to accept is to be brave, to search deeply to see if a person is good or not worth your time… why?  Because it’s the right way of doing … we should never judge others but, alas we do.. or our subconcious does.. and it does for many reasons… why, well that is a very long and lengthy story to tell.. which I will tell in time to understand that savy pestering subconcious mind of yours…

When something is lacking in your life you tend to end up seeing a pattern when your ounger and notably you see in in your relationships and most of all it is easiest to see in other couples.. example.. who puts more effort into that relationship….

Giver and a Taker…… 

I lacked alot of love or you could say the spoken word of just saying I truly love you and will never leave you… well, it’s like the search for extracting oil out of a oil pit… easy rigtht not at all… we are all like Krips some and some are not…

With all the knowledge and insight you might have you may still require further evidence to the fact.. why do you think that is

Well, its logical, everything requires further data.. TO BE LOOKED INTO FURTHER…. why do you think that is….Again that Darn subconcious mind that likes to protect you from anything other than …safe… that is great but, it also can be a right Bitch.. and go… Nope it is a Conspriracy you will be disappointed, you will be hurt, you will be betrayed…

What a load of shit

Never think that you know someone until you really communicate with them see how they interact with others and of course their family and listen to their heart felt joys, sadness, disappointments from watching learning and understanding you find out some people are lovely right down to their bone and others well they lack a few good kind items that seem to be missing and then you meet those that are totally broken but, cannot see it.

Here are two scenario’s of possible people both are broken both have never got help both perhaps dont even know they are suffering.. oh yes, both are also made up scenarios.

Imagine a husband and wife the wife is a great mother, wife, she tells her family she loves them does pretty much every mortal thing for each one of them.. especially her hasband… she tries to overly please him even she doesnt even see that she is doing this and she is tired…

What does he do for her…..

He ignored her and barely put too much effort into his children why do you think that is?

Because a long time ago he loved his parents he loved them so much he would do anything for them but the key thing that damaged him was that those parents didnt know how to love.

So, the motto of this story is that “In some families a husband will try so hard to show his wife that he loves her by changing himself by helping her with everything and by supporting her with every possible moment of his exisitance…. Why because he was born with a decent kind heart that is why..

His wife was hurt and something happened to her to loose her way… time passed and people change because a trauma occurred during her childhood.. she never really dealt with it.. what she did was .. said I am fine, or she fibbed and said, that she has already dealt with my past… its not that…. denial of understanding any trauma will end up hindering your family, yourself and those around you..

You see Communication, love, understanding, honesty, trust, a little bit of ego, self worth and a bit of pride and humanity, empathy, sympathy all these wonderful beatiful words means something why?

Because to Live a beautiful life full of experiences you MUST exercise every word, every emotion, every loving moment with time and patience to those that understand that the person they do this too is the same like minded people.

We are just too hard on ourselves, we doubt the spoken word and our hearts speak out by the love that embers out of each one of those people … so Next time when you recognise one of these good people.. stop and give them time, because you never know if you didnt take that time to spend with them and understand how they are deep down then you may possibly missed the best beautiful heart who would love you just the way you are… without judgement, without spite, just pure and simple love.

Just thoughts I was thinking in the last 2 days… enjoy your long weekend… regards and best wishes Candii xxx

 

 

You will love the lyrics……….enjoy and bless… xxx

 

 

Fran’s thought for today.. Embrace your Life… and Live it…. xxx


Imagine a life that you are so loved and appreciated for who you are it would be perfect right!

Alot of us including me have said alot on here but, I am going to share some fact about what I am about, I love people, love them to bits, I cannot and will not ever understand why people want to be something they are not!

We start our journey when we are born and sometimes it’s bumpy, horrid, happy, amazing, funny, and sometimes there are alot of our past that means so much with amazing memories.

 

However, I seem to see us all dwell on those times that have given us grief but, we seem to forget those other times that makes us “smile, laugh, giggle, roll around on the ground with fits of laughter”, those precious moments with your family, friends, those moments that where amazing, rediculous and darn right shocking!

I believe this, sometimes we see beauty, love, great amazing moments with loved ones but, those times when we feel so damn sad it breaks our hearts, and stops you in your tracks with dispair.

I should know I felt every, bit of them these last few months however, that noise that once was so loud, horrible that made me want to crawl into fetal position on the ground seem like a dim memory thank god!

As time goes on for me I believe that this feeling I used to feel will pass and hopefully with beautiful thoughts of walking forward will be the best times, well that is what I am hoping for.. and why the Hell not!

I wish I could fix everyone and hopefully with time and understanding maybe those few that I come across I will do my best to help them of course we cannot fix the world even though I once thought in my tiny “big ideas franny” head.

I am just a very simple chick with an open heart that cares alot about people and I share things not to shock you more to open your eyes to possibilities that you may never have thought possible or even thought before about.

It’s not that I want you all to go out there and do all those things I write about its more about awareness of what is out there, what could be something possible without those darn labels, rude remarks and slandours comments some people use when they don’t understand something or are afraid to even possibly think is possible.

We all have a right to live our lives the way we want to.. if that means that I like hanging naked upside down with a pink bikini then I will and if I want to share with you pictures I will…

Laughing, which I don’t and probably more likely wont, but, you get what I am saying I hope..hehe, just live your short beautiful life and a happy, smiling, loving and open mind.

Our minds and our hearts are the breath in our souls..

Remember that… our hearts beat, and our souls live forever….

Enjoy every moment… because before you know it .. it will be gone..

 

Everything Happens for a Reason…


This feeling of walking into YOUR own house at 11pm 6 months after you get married and after finishing a 11 long hours at a hotel at the age of 21 years of age. (Just turned)

This feeling of walking into YOUR own house at 11pm 6 months after you get married and after finishing a 11 long hours at a hotel at the age of 21 years of age. (Just turned)

This isnt a good start to any relationship at any age and after doing a long day/night at work.

Right!

We either deal with or we either ignore it or divorce it or allow it.

Sad but it does happen to some of us.

Life is as tough as you want it to be.

Or as beautiful as you want it to be.

So the motto of this story is to be honest, loving, truthful, and to love those who deserve your love and to remember just because he/she didn’t the first time it will happen one day.

So, enjoy your life because your worth it.

Just sharing mine with you xxx

TODAY’S HOROSCOPE


 

Mystic Fran here with today’s Horoscope

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BTW see above that is ME I do believe I was crimped by a friend (Lara) it was the 80’s and those eye brows.. (wow) don’t laugh Katie Kate…hehehe

I think I may have been 15 years old… with terrible hair and and aweful eye brows like Brooke Shields… I do believe she was the ‘it” girl back then!

Anyway, here is todays Horoscope signs… (still giggling horrible, picture)

Moon Alert

We have the “all clear” today to shop and do business. The Full Moon is in Sagittarius.

Aries (March 21-April 19)

Be careful because today’s Full Moon could create an accident-prone influence for you. This might be due to distractions of others (drivers talking or texting on cell phones) or yourself? Therefore, be mindful! And avoid controversial subjects.

Taurus (April 20-May 20)

Today’s Full Moon focus is about money. Perhaps this means a financial discussion will come to a head? Or you might finally learn the cost for something? (Ouch.) Something to do with earnings or expenditures will catch your eye.

Gemini (May 21-June 20)

Today the only Full Moon opposite your sign all year is taking place, which is why relations with partners and close friends might be prickly. When the Moon is full it means the energy of the Sun and the Moon are in opposition to each other. This includes male/female energy. Be nice.

Cancer (June 21-July 22)

Because the Moon is your ruler, you generally feel (in varying degrees) every Full Moon, which is why you might be a bit impatient with co-workers today. Or perhaps they are impatient with you? Either way, demonstrate grace under pressure at work and at home.

Leo (July 23-Aug. 22)

Today’s Full Moon makes relations with kids more challenging. (Yes, even the family dog feels the Full Moon energy.) It can also create a bit of aggro in romantic relationships. Who needs this? Not you! Your best recourse is to smile and be patient with everyone. (“Dammit Jim, I’m an actor not a doctor.”)

Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22)

Relations with bosses, parents and VIPs might be strained today because of the Full Moon energy. Be particularly patient with female family members, especially Mom. (When Mom’s unhappy, everyone feels it.) You’re keen to work hard. Relations with friends are warm. Bosses will listen to you. All is well.

Libra (Sept. 23-Oct. 22)

Be mindful of everything you say and do because the Full Moon makes this is an accident-prone day for you. Pay attention to everything you say and do. Think before you speak. Fortunately, relations with bosses are smooth and supportive.

Scorpio (Oct. 23-Nov. 21)

Discussions about inheritances, financial matters, taxes, debt, insurance and anything that you share jointly with someone else will come to a head today because of the Full Moon. Probably this is a good thing. Put your cards on the table.

Sagittarius (Nov. 22-Dec. 21)

Today the only Full Moon in your sign all year is taking place. This could make you overreact or be too emotional about things. Conversely, you might see something more clearly, especially in a relationship. Good luck.

Capricorn (Dec. 22-Jan. 19)

The Full Moon today could encourage tension or friction with co-workers. Just be aware of this. If you feel it, then you realize you don’t have to react. This is the only day in the year this occurs. Hey, you can be big about things! Rise above them. Be cool.

Aquarius (Jan. 20-Feb. 18)

Friendships are important to you. In fact, the words “Aquarius” and “friendship” are synonymous in astrology. Today the only Full Moon all year is taking place in your House of Friendships. This means you might have some stress dealing with a friend or a group. Stay chill. This tension is short-lived.

Pisces (Feb. 19-March 20)

Relations with authority figures — parents, bosses, teachers and VIPs — might be strained today because this is the only Full Moon taking place at the top of your chart all year. Don’t make a big deal about anything. Why bother?

If Your Birthday Is Today

Actress Annette Bening (1958) shares your birthday today. You are eloquent, intelligent and persuasive. You are also open, honest and always spontaneous. This is a time of completions and taking inventory. Review past triumphs and failures as you finish this nine-year cycle. You might let go of people, jobs and places to move on to something new. You are moving away from heavy burdens to something new and lighter!

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And tomorrow will be Angel Cards by Me…… cannot wait for angel cards….. so excited

 

Good Will Hunting.. the Famous Robin Williams.. did this role beautifully!


Like I said, this tells a tail of alot of us and per say some of us, in all if we where subjected to abuse, trauma, etc, and recovered (when I say recovered i say this tongue in cheek) I will also say, with anything in life a CHILD who does survive such hideous, depending on this scale will and no doubt have a distorted outcome on their adult life.

This will vary in each of us and that level of abuse a child is subjected to.. we must understand sometimes, we unaware of our biggest Friend or Foe, the SUBCONSCIOUS MIND, this area of how we adapt is questionable!

Which means depending on what the abuse is.. if it is sexual then who can tell until the are older how they look at life sexually!!

For me well, As that famous commercial that sold alot of chicken.

“I like it like that”, Finger licking good!” ha!

https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/blog/compassion-matters/201805/it-s-not-your-fault-overcoming-trauma#=_

I do agree with the above and here is the link that states it very well.. have a read

There is a famous scene in the film Good Will Hunting where Robin Williams, playing a therapist, compassionately repeats the line “It’s not your fault” to Will, a troubled young man with self-destructive tendencies, who happens to be a genius.

The line is a response to the revelation of abuse Will endured as a child.

At first, Will is dismissive of the statement, but as his therapist steadily repeats “It’s not your fault,” he becomes increasingly agitated.

Finally, he erupts into emotion, tearfully allowing the meaning of the words to sink in. This scene is a powerful signification of what trauma can do to a human being.

It is also a testament to the importance of anyone who has experienced trauma embracing the irrefutable reality that it is not their fault.

The character Will may have been a victim of what’s often referred to as “big T trauma,” which can include serious abuse or a life-threatening event.

However, a person does not have to have experienced an explicitly existential event to experience trauma. “Little t trauma” comprises events that may not sound as dramatic as that of war, devastation, or extreme violence, but that significantly impact individuals by causing them distress, fear, or pain and, therefore, change the way they see themselves, other people, and the world around them.

Too often, people seek excuses to dismiss, bury, or overlook both big and little t trauma. They may tell themselves “it was not that bad,” “others had it worse,” or “remembering won’t do any good anyway.” Or they even say things like, “I deserved it,” “I was a bad/difficult kid,” “or “yes, it was hard at the time, but it made me the strong independent person I am today.”

sneeky peeky – As the Beautiful PINK says it so well, Beautiful Trauma,

They’re resistant to facing what they endured and what it’s done to them.

Whether we try to bury or ignore it or not, the impact of a person’s trauma remains. The American Psychological Association wrote that “traumaticevents challenge an individual’s view of the world as a just, safe and predictable place.”

Back to my thoughts see my link about my own life… https://thecandiiclub.com/2018/05/29/can-you-identify-who-is-more-driven-to-suicide/https://thecandiiclub.com/2018/05/29/can-you-identify-who-is-more-driven-to-suicide/

This shake-up to a person’s very worldview changes the course of their life.

“The effects of unresolved trauma can be devastating,” wrote Dr. Peter Levine, author of Healing Trauma.

Like I said, in my previous link on this page….. https://thecandiiclub.com/2018/05/29/can-you-identify-who-is-more-driven-to-suicide/

“It can affect our habits and outlook on life, leading to addictions and poor decision-making.

It can take a toll on our family life and interpersonal relationships. It can trigger real physical pain, symptoms, and disease. And it can lead to a range of self-destructive behaviors.”

The emotional or physical abuse and the pain people have experienced early in life bends them out of shape in many ways, most of which the person is unaware. The mistreatment of an individual within a family is something my father, psychologist and author Robert Firestone(link is external), has described as a “human rights violation(link is external).” He’s written extensively about the toll interpersonal pain and traumatic childhood conditions can have on a person’s freedom and expression of individuality, including that they lead to the formation of powerful psychological defenses(link is external).

“No child is born bad or sinful; rather, the psychological defenses that children form early in life are appropriate to actual situations that threaten the emerging self,” wrote(link is external) Firestone.

“These defenses attempt to cope with and minimize painful experiences and emotions suffered in one’s developmental years; however, as noted, the defensive adaptation tends to become increasingly dysfunctional.”

People who have experienced trauma may form these defensive adaptations to protect themselves early in life, but these very adaptations can go on to limit them when danger is no longer present.

Young children who’ve experienced trauma tend to internalize much of their pain, blaming themselves for their suffering and struggling with feelings of guilt and shame.

This is especially true of trauma experienced at the hands of parents and trusted family members, as young children often find it too threatening to see the faults of their parents fully.

When a child is born, trusting their parents is a matter of survival, and seeing their parent as neglectful, uncaring, or even abusive can feel like a threat to that survival.

As a result, the child forms defenses to cope with painful circumstances, and they internalize their suffering, seeing it as a reflection of some deficiency in their own personality.

They distort their image of themselves to make sense of their maltreatment and believe themselves deserving of the pain they endure. It never fails to surprise me when children as young as 5-years-old reveal their “critical inner voice(link is external)s,” harsh, self-hating attacks that they think about themselves.

Where did these ideas come from and how do they influence the child’s formation of their self?

My Captain, My Captain

Until The Ribbon Breaks – Count The Lightening.. beautiful song, Bless


 

Lyrics – thank you Ward Clever for allowing me to share this beautiful song… I adore it and it’s gorgeous indeed xx

https://wardclever.wordpress.com/2018/02/24/as-if-weve-been-here-always/comment-page-1/#comment-27550

Come on now, kiddo
We’ll be alright
Me and you can count the lightning
In the middle of the night

Let them count the thunder
We’ll sit upon the roof
We can sit in silence
And pretend that we are bulletproof

Let them count the thunder
Tonight’s for you and I
Let’s sit and count the lightning as it tears across the sky
Let’s sit and count the lightning as it tears across the sky
As if we’ve been here always, you and I
You and I
You and I
You and I

Come on now kiddo
They’ll always call
We were always stronger
With our back against the wall

Let them count the thunder
Tonight’s for you and I
Let’s sit and count the lightning as it tears across the sky
Let’s sit and count the lightning as it tears across the sky
As if we’ve been here always, you and I
You and I
You and I
You and I

You and I
You and I
You and I

Let’s sit and count the lightning as it tears across the sky
As if we’ve been here always, you and I
You and I
You and I
You and I

You and I
You and I
You and I

You and I
You and I
You and I

You and I
You and I
You and I

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Dear Candii, Relationship HIC-UP Line..


Welcome to The Candii Club,

I created this Blog to get a better understanding about myself to learn about my real self so I can finally help those who have suffered the same life experiences that I have endured from for all these years.

My journey has been a “Blessing in Disguise” it has taken me a very long time to finally live my life without regret and live it with a true idea of understanding.

I have to say from the bottom of my “True Self”,  “without those that have supported me throughout my journey thus far”, I would not be where I am today!

My lifes journey has been a lesson and has provided me with the understanding that “Living a Life full of Love & Laughter is the only way to live it!

If you would like to ask us a question to help you live a forfilling loving life please forward your questions below and we will be happy to answer or help you grow..

 

We have created “Dear Candii,” for those that wish to ask her about anything in relation to love, life, depression, partner help, gardening if you wish, if you would like any advise for her to answer send it below or to our Email thecandiiclub@hotmail.com

 

 

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