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The Top 10 Questions on Sex and Psychology


For today’s post, I have put together an updated list of the ten most read Q&As of all time on the blog. As you’ll see, these questions (all submitted by readers of Sex and Psychology) span quite a range of topics.

However, most of them are united by the same theme:

  • “What’s normal when it comes to sex?
  • What you’ll see when you read the answers is that “normal” does not mean just one thing!

10. How often do married couples have sex?

9. Do women become “loose” if they have a lot of sex?

  •  (Some women’s vaginas may become “looser” over time, but not as a function of how much sex they’re having.)

8. What percentage of women reach orgasm from intercourse alone?

  •  (Based on the research I’ve seen, about half of the women surveyed report this.)

7.  Is deeper penetration better?

  • (For most women, not necessarily—but for some it is. In fact, some women can reach orgasm from stimulation of the cervix.) 

6. Does penis size actually affect female pleasure?

  •  (The answer to the deeper penetration question above addresses the issue of penile length. But what about girth/circumference? Research finds that women tend to rate girth as the most important penis dimension. For a more detailed look at the research on this subject, see here.)

5. Do women enjoy anal sex?

  • (Many do, and studies find that it is an increasingly common sexual activity practised by women today. Although it didn’t make the top 10 list this time around, many readers have also been curious about how to make anal sex more pleasurable.)

4. Injaculation: Is it dangerous for guys to prevent ejaculation during orgasm?

  • (Probably not. There isn’t a single scientific source to suggest that this practice causes problems. In fact, this is actually a common and very successful technique used among guys who are trying to learn better ejaculatory control in order to resolve premature ejaculation.)

3. Is “rimming” safe?

  • (Like any sexual activity, there are risks associated with this one–but there are also ways to make it safer.) Make sure you check if the girl or boy has taken Xenical then your in for a surprise…lol

2. Why are so many straight men into transsexual porn?

  • (This is a common sexual interest among men and, contrary to popular belief, most men who are attracted to male-to-female transsexuals are not gay.)

1. I want to watch my wife sleep with someone else. Is that normal?

  • (Believe it or not, this is also a very common sexual fantasy among men. For an even more detailed look at the research in this area, check out this article.)

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Managing Expectations in a Casual Relationship


Go Figure… me? Well, I don’t seem to ever put expectations on most evenings however is that wise? I would say No!

For me after I marry I am not well available.. however, as we age and live together longer who bloody knows.. But, and alwaYS a But, the only way I would dabble in the naughty is with him……. not without….. so that is my difference.. That is just me.. for those that are more open continue reading..

For some people, a casual relationship is nothing more than a one-night stand. For others, it can mean having a long-term sex partner without co-mingling living situations, families and finances. Either one of those options and the variations in between can be had and can be wonderful. It all starts with managing your expectations.

State Up Front What You Want
Be clear about what you want and what your boundaries are. If those things aren’t okay with the person you’re chatting up, don’t try to talk them into something they don’t want to do or say anything – especially if they’re outright false promises or lies – just to get them into bed. That’s something desperate losers do.

Don’t Expect People to Change
There are a lot of people, especially women, that believe that if the sex is great, that the other person will keep coming back for more or want to develop something more than just a casual relationship. Luring someone in by entrapment never works out or ends well. It’s also dishonest.

Don’t Make Too Many Compromises
Be completely comfortable and accepting with what the other person wants and has to offer in a casual relationship. If you give up too much, you’re going to regret being in the situation you got yourself into. You are entitled to have your casual relationship be a good and happy thing, sexually and otherwise.

When Emotions Get Lopsided
As much as people can tell themselves that a casual relationship is “just sex”, sex is loaded with emotions. After all, sex feels great. Right? A lot of those “feel good” emotions can lead to attachment. That’s why open communication is so important. Talk about your casual relationship as it evolves. If feelings for and expectations of each other aren’t mutual, it’s easier to deal with the situation sooner than later.

Be Friends
Like the person, you’re hooking up with. Be decent, kind, thoughtful and respectful. If you can’t do or be those things, don’t expect a hot sexual vibe in return. If you feel like that’s a chore or obligation, the other person will sense that and think you’re an asshole, and no one wants to have sex with an asshole. And if you don’t like the person you’re hooking up with or if you’re not having fun like friends of any other type do, your sex is not going to be fun.

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If I turned around so many things would have been different, would it? Probably, maybe, who would know, maybe better than you think!

A Word About Respect
I recently came upon a blog discussion thread where a bunch of men were complaining about the way women disrespect them. Everyone is entitled to respect but it’s earned both ways. If you don’t treat people well, hold up your responsibilities, or keep your word, the other person has every right to be pissed off with you. Being in a casual relationship doesn’t mean that you can be casual about manners and courtesy.

Finding a Casual Sex Partner isn’t Necessarily Immediate or Easy
Even if there are hundreds or thousands of potential casual sex partners on a casual sex dating site, it doesn’t mean that you should expect sex on demand or instant gratification. It might take weeks or months to find or cultivate an eventual hookup. Remember that you’re dealing with available people and not just available bodies. Just because someone is available for a casual relationship doesn’t mean that they owe you sex.cropped-images-62.jpg

This is now the time to be present and begin this Journey today..


Lets talk about being Present within yourself and within those that you share you lives with socially and explisitly, without judgement, bullshit, just enjoy and have so bloody fun..

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They blame you instead and think it is funny….

We do deserve to be ourselves… we are not caged animals..are we??

Your journey, my journey, the popes journey we all have them and those that understand what that means in fact understand we all have limitations in our lives, however, this isnt about limitations…. I am talking about no LIMITATIONS.. going forward….

In fact let’s be real for a moment

We get to a point in our lives that we go on our personal journeys some include people that are the same mind set.. you would hope… some prefer to go naked and find new ones… some love that same simular smart mouthed larikin… I am one of those.. so is my hubby however, we also love to socialise with new exciting people who love life..

So, let’s shift and start doing because we should now be ready to walk side by side and enjoy life, right?life-quotes-inspiration-i-just-want-friendship-we-have-something-so-special-and-both-be-through-so-muc

I am ready, I know my hubby is… are you?

I had the best weekend and the efforts of my own self was firstly the most powerful, gob smacking, speechless, and devine moment I have had thus far…

In fact, I wanted to just stop and breath in this amazing awareness that I experienced I felt safe, I had no noise, I thought for one moment that my age was back as a young women where I seemed to really let go of things easier… or at least quicker..

However, this feeling was much better… Let me tell you

So, what is it going to take to be present and take that leap of faith?deep-connection-friendships

So, for me, my gorgeous, husband and hopefully anyone else that wishes to put up with our bad inappropriate behaviour, opinionated beliefs, excellent humour, and frankly we are pretty friggin annoying… couple but, yes any other that wishes to jump on board our pink jumbo elephant then by all means.. do so…

So from today which indeed I believe that we are all ready.. to have so bloody fun or at least get dressed up go out into this perth city and find a bar, view, beach, bottle of wine and have some really good fun.

Laughing, is the best start to any journey with those that you care enough about, get along with and have no limitations to expressing whatever you wish to say, feel, joke about with life can and will always be as hard and difficult as you wish… nothing is garenteed and that is what our entire life has been based on…

Below is all those emotions that we tend to have within us… have a look.. and embrace, and trust yourself… nothing to be lost… everything to be loved..

………………so what are you waiting for?? I am so excited to walk with a better skip rather than hesitation anymore.. done and dusted… let’s go and have some bloody fun… okay ?

BTW… nice choice of music xxx

What if you don’t even know… hmm?


The going consensus is that women in the lifestyle are either bi-curious or bisexual…

What if women don’t know if they are anything other than what they know?

Seriously, unless you are married to a person who questions I dunno, pretty much everthing that god has said not too… (shucks) If it was up to me remove the damn labels and find out for ourselves… this is also for men as well.. go figure how hard is life .. seriously people… moving on….images

Even though that may be very true for many, others still don’t wish for things to be labeled as there are only bi-sexual ladies in the lifestyle. After all, the lifestyle thankfully allows for variety in every single way imaginable!

Girls, Girls, Girls

A little research on this topic at travel events reveals that there are also those who can just appreciate a beautiful woman while still being very straight.

Then there are those who like to just kiss another woman without it going into a full-on sex session too. Of course, that could be somewhat of a stretch as at events, limits and boundaries are somewhat flexible.

Why is that?

Well, because apparently, and this comes from the mouth of the ladies themselves:

  • Women do kiss differently than men!
  • Really?
  • Yes, I am not that way atm… however, I have experienced women’s kisses… shock!! I have??? Nooooooo me who is straight god hell.. what is life going to do to me now???
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If I turned around so many things would have been different, would it? Probably, maybe, who would know, maybe better than you think!

 

Many ladies experimented in their younger years with their girlfriends. Word of mouth only goes so far after all!

They do???

No???

LOL, jesus, seriously?

So, What Gives?

When asked, it was mentioned that there is a significant difference in experience when kissing a woman instead of a man.

Kissing a woman is described as:

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  • just a bit lovelier, quite softer and deeper with a beautiful layer of delicacy. So now that we know that, do those kissing women then want to get “kissed” to change into a bisexual lady perhaps?

The answer, give or take a few: Oh no, not at all, of course the more the merrier, but it’s also awesome to be able to just kiss a beautiful woman without it having to go any further than that. No other expectations, period.

But do Women Prefer Women over Men?

The next logical question is: Do women prefer a woman’s kiss over the kiss of a man? And the answer again is no, it’s just considered different and more of a nice addition. Well, all in all, the men don’t seem to mind… On the contrary, a look, a flirt, a kiss, a touch and who knows where things will lead.

That very first kiss between women, what makes it so special? At SDC travel events you can witness this magic happen all the time. Threesomes and foursomes and moresomes are not an uncommon result either. Absolutely nothing is wrong with that, so by all means, if and when the urge hits you, kiss away ladies!

Each to their own I believe, baby steps, don’t beat yourselves up, and never, ever think life is as difficult as most would seem to think!

We are only human beings living in a world that seems to have everything bit like a candystore.. right so, please don’t make it harder than it should be by making it more difficult for each other.

Love and Trust, never say things like…. I don’t care if, or I am not bothered, or Never say to your wife… he or she is off limits because the question is why?

If you just relax a bit let them think … let them go .. if your not open to everything then stay home and watch a movie because if your not open.. then the door stays shut..

It is as simple or difficult as you make it.. if you start dictating to each other what you think it should be.. it does become quite difficult to understand each other and the next thing you both do is disconnect!9bcf8fe9f858a35a5bc9bbde2b4e3ddb

So, please pace yourselves…. relax….. and take your time…. be mindful of each others minds and hearts…. always allow one another to think for themselves and never tell each other that what they think and feel is wrong..

Let them work it out… for themselves 🙂

Candii xxx

Favorite

Longing for Change…


Beautiful Lyrics… absolutely lovely…. Gaga’s New Movie Debut…

Wow, very amazing I cannot wait to see this Movie…

Wish I could, I could’ve said goodbye
I would’ve said what I wanted to
Maybe even cried for you
If I knew, it would be the last time
I would’ve broke my heart in two
Tryin’ to save a part of you

Don’t wanna feel another touch
Don’t wanna start another fire
Don’t wanna know another kiss
No other name falling off my lips
Don’t wanna to give my heart away
To another stranger
Or let another day begin
Won’t even let the sunlight in
No, I’ll never love again
I’ll never love again, ooh

When we first met
I never thought that I would fall
I never thought that I’d find myself
Lying in your arms
And I want to pretend that it’s not true
Oh baby, that you’re gone
‘Cause my world keeps turning, and turning, and turning
And I’m not moving on

Don’t wanna feel another touch
Don’t wanna start another fire
Don’t wanna know another kiss
No other name falling off my lips
Don’t wanna give my heart away
To another stranger
Or let another day begin
Won’t even let the sunlight in
No, I’ll never love

I don’t wanna know this feeling
Unless it’s you and me
I don’t wanna waste a moment, ooh
And I don’t wanna give somebody else the better part of me
I would rather wait for you, ooh

Don’t wanna feel another touch
Don’t wanna start another fire
Don’t wanna know another kiss
Baby, I’ll just stay on your lips
Don’t wanna give my heart away
To another stranger
Or let another day begin
Won’t even let the sunlight in
Oh, I’ll never love again

Love again
Oh, I’ll never love again
I’ll never love again
I won’t, I won’t, I swear I can’t
I wish I could but i just won’t
I’ll never love again
I’ll never love again, ooh

 

[Verse 1: Bradley Cooper]
Tell me somethin’ girl
Are you happy in this modern world?
Or do you need more
Is there somethin’ else you’re searchin’ for?

[Refrain: Bradley Cooper]
I’m fallin’
In all the good times
I find myself longing for change
And in the bad times I fear myself

[Verse 2: Lady Gaga]
Tell me something boy
Aren’t you tired tryin’ to fill that void?
Or do you need more
Ain’t it hard keepin’ it so hardcore?

[Refrain: Lady Gaga]
I’m falling
In all the good times
I find myself longing for change
And in the bad times I fear myself

[Chorus: Lady Gaga]
I’m off the deep end
Watch as I dive in
I’ll never meet the ground
Crash through the surface
Where they can’t hurt us
We’re far from the shallow now

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Songs for Friday…. Enjoy…


Songs For Friday… Enjoy

I will add more to the list below.. so Enjoy your Friday click onto the link above until I fill this one for you all to enjoy and Rock on Ladies and Gents…. have a great weekend…

We all Need ……….A… MAJESTIC……………Let’s face it…

Cool

 

Below is a bit Trippy…. not bad though..

Blast from the past

 

Different….. leave this one for last…. not bad lyrics..

ALways a bit of Calvin…… it’s Friday

Happy one… YAY

 

Wow… Brits and Calvin……. nice… different….not sure….what do you think???

 

OH, Gosh yes, MADONNNA….. oh dear me…

 

Something sweet…. awwww

 

Threesome Sex Fantasy: would you?


Firstly, if I was single, would I do a 3some, absolutely, no question, I would get my Fck Buddy, cuz of course I would have one.

And he and I would go an explore a sexual journey together, as long as we both had each others back…. Meaning it would be built on many solid values of each other.

However, that is if I was Single!!!

How about you?

Most men have fantasized about it, and most women have been propositioned for it: a threesome. A ménage à trois has appeal for several reasons, including the allure of being the centre of sexual pleasure, while pleasing others at the same time. The forbidden turns into a night of double the pleasure, double the fun. But should the fantasy of a threesome become a reality?

There’s a lot of mystery surrounding the seductive triad because they’re sexy and alluring, yet dangerous and forbidden. We can imagine what they’ll be like, but we won’t truly know until we go there.

April Masini, a relationship expert and author, believes society feels “regular intercourse” is tradition, and a threesome is a “lesser tradition that is not part of a healthy, long-term relationship,” she told Medical Daily. These core beliefs will inform a person’s decision to either pursue the fantasy or leave well enough alone.

Not all fantasies should be shared; if we’re in a relationship, and haven’t talked about the idea with a partner, it could be uncomfortable, awkward, and upsetting to add a “plus one” to our sexual rendezvous. There are risks and benefits for singles, as well.

1.Sex And The Media: Threesomes

The media has become an outlet of information for sex, dating, and sexual health, especially during our teen years, and it influences our sexual behaviour and attitudes of what we’re expected to do and like. The media can display casual sex and sexuality with no consequences, which may change the way we think about them, including threesomes.920x920.jpg

In a 2003 study published in the Journal of Undergraduate Research, researchers examined the relationship between TV viewing and sexual attitudes and perceptions. Students from a public Midwestern university completed three primary measures: television viewing habits, sexual attitudes, and responses to sexual scenarios. Half of the participants completed the measures after waiting in a room while viewing sexually explicit music videos, and half waited with no TV present. Those exposed to sexually explicit videos before responding to the sexual scenarios rated these scenarios as less sexual than those not exposed to the videos. In other words, being exposed to sexually explicit content had a priming effect.

Daytime and nighttime television can also act in a similar way. Soap operas tend to have more sexual content than prime time programs, but they portray the types of intimacies differently. They tend to show more intimate moments, whereas prime time programs generally imply the sexual content, like threesomes.

For example, in the episode “Third Wheel” on How I Met Your Mother, Ted Mosby calls on his womanizing friend Barney Stinson to explain that he is about to “go for the (threesome) belt” after two women insinuate their plans for a threesome, or as Ted says, “tricycle”. The women attempt to escalate things when Ted comes down with a case of nerves and tries to end things abruptly. He enters his bedroom where Barney is and gets sympathy from him. Barney explains Ted’s problem is not uncommon, and it’s what ended his “tricycle” efforts last year.

The episode ends as Ted gets a second chance after Barney “coaches” him how to start. By the time he leaves the bedroom, the girls appear to be gone, until he hears giggling coming from the other room. Ted peers in and enters with a smile on his face. It’s left ambiguous whether or not he had a threesome.

On the show, the prospect of a threesome was portrayed as the Holy Grail every man should strive to conquer. “The belt” was seen as a reward for a man achieving a ménage à trois with two women.

“A man desiring a threesome is almost expected,” Noni Ayana, a sexuality educator at Exploring Relationships, Intimacy, and Sexuality (E.R.I.S.) told Medical Daily.

She believes society encourages men to explore their sexuality; of course within socially accepted boundaries.

“The Golden Rule”: Two Men, One Woman

One of three straight men’s sexual fantasies is having multiple partners, specifically the male, female, female (MFF) grouping. A hetereosexual man feels less sexually fluid to have a trio with another man and another women, because it’s commonly perceived as homosexual.

In 2011, Saturday Night Live (SNL) did a singing skit that delved into the experience of a threesome among two guys and one girl with celebrities Justin Timberlake, Andy Samburg, and Lady Gaga. The song “3-Way (The Golden Rule)” emphasized if two men are in a threesome, “it’s not gay.”

According to Urban Dictionary, “When engaging in a threesome that involves two guys and one girl, the golden rule states that it’s not gay.”

Typically, when men fantasize about threesomes, they think about the MFF dynamic because it’s viewed as sexual behavior that aligns with traditional masculinity.

Moreover, Ayana expressed that heteronormative men are less likely to participate in a threesome that involves two men and one women since the idea may be perceived as homosexual ideation, or sexual behavior.

Straight men would need to overcome their discomfort with other naked men and strains of disgust in our culture that remain over homosexuality.

 

So, why are we so intrigued by threesomes when at least two of the same gender must participate?

2.The Object Of Simultaneous Desire

The idea of being simultaneously loved and adored by two males, two females, or a male and a female grouping may be exciting for some. Threesomes present a way for women and men to be wanted by more than one person, and be “centre stage.”sexthreesome.jpg

Psychologically, men and women see threesomes as validating their sexual status, or level of attraction. The idea that someone or a couple would consider the third party worthy enough for a salacious encounter can be an ego boost.

Masini adds: “People who are insecure often feel that being part of a threesome will give them confidence, sexually, and make them a more desirable partner because they’ve had this experience.”

Some women see it as a confidence builder, as they enjoy being seduced and desired. For men, it means they’re desirable enough to get two women in bed at the same time.

The psychological allure of threesomes, especially for men, could be driven by a biological urge.

Biological Urge For Threesomes

Men

A ménage à trois with two women is a popular fantasy among men. The idea of being with two women at the same time is intriguing because it represents twice the number of body parts to enjoy sexually. It’s also not surprising; this comes from a man’s biological urge to procreate with as many women as possible to spread his genes.

Women

When it comes to mating, women look beyond just an alpha male. The criteria for a woman to sexually desire a man includes strength, health, and fighting ability. In other words, when women are looking to mate, they want a man who possesses the best possible genes for her offspring, and the offspring’s best chance of survival to pass on those genes.

Women may be less likely to engage in a threesome because subconsciously, they do not see any benefit. A male-female-female scenario reduces her chances of procreating with a male. A woman plans examine her choices and make conscious decisions about her sex life — for the most part.0529102e7974401787f6206ca449a491209510-v5-wm.jpg

3.Attitudes About Threesomes: Women Vs. Men

Men and women both dig the concept of a threesome, but whether they engage in it or not is different, according to a 2016 study in the Journal of Sexual Archives. Researchers noted 82 per cent of men and 31 percent of women were interested in a threesome.

However, compared to women, men reported significantly more positive attitudes and greater interest in mixed-gender threesomes.

Meanwhile, 24 percent of men and eight percent of women said they’ve already had a menage a trois.

Men prefer to know the person who would join them, and their partner, whereas women only cared whether they knew the other two people if they were the third party to join a couple.

People appear to be open-minded about threesomes, but there’s a big difference between how many people want to have them, and how many actually do it.

“The fact that attitudes and interests were more strongly correlated with each other than with behaviour is in keeping with research that has documented a discrepancy between sexual attitudes and beliefs and sexual behaviour,” wrote the study authors.

A similar study in the Journal of Bisexuality found regardless of the proposed relationship type, very few women showed interest in having a threesome with two men if given the opportunity. For a woman, a threesome with two men is much more of a social taboo, as some women don’t want to have casual sex with one guy, let alone two.

Unsurprisingly, men leapt at the opportunity to have a threesome with two women, although this desire was lower for both dating and committed relationship partners. In this scenario, women were also less enthused, because it does not have the same appeal to a straight woman as it does to a straight man, beyond the excitement that comes with group sex.

The researchers did find the results were similar when participants were asked how arousing they found the fantasy of a threesome with two opposite-sex partners.

“Some people basically find a threesome a bucket list fantasy they may or may not enact, but they keep it in their ‘fantasy bank’, because they like the way it makes them feel,” said Masini.images (10).jpg

4.The Trouble With Threesomes

Health Risks

Sex between two people can provide a host of infections and diseases; sex among three people triples those odds. A threesome is riskier than sex in a mutually monogamous, long-term relationship where both people have been tested. For example, if you touch one person, and you get fluids on you, and you touch the other person, fluids have been exchanged.

There’s a risk of exposing the third partner to bodily fluids when two fluid-bonded partners engage in unprotected sexual acts. In the book The Ethical Slut, author Dossel Easton uses the term “fluid bonding” to describe when partners involved do not use condoms or other barriers during sex.

Barriers for all sexual activities can go overlooked in threesomes; all partners should use a new barrier every time they switch sexual acts. If one person goes from intercourse to fellatio or vice versa, you change condoms. You also need to change condoms if you move from penetrating one partner to penetrating another. You need to pick up a new dental dam when performing oral sex on someone new.

Psychological Impact

As expected, men are more likely to initiate asking women for a ménage à trois.

Women are more likely to be aware and concerned about the potential emotional pitfalls and hurt that can be detrimental to all relationships.

This is why couples should discuss their physical and emotional limits before the third person becomes involved.

“I have seen some serious fall-out from threesomes gone badly. It can be hard to predict the intensity of jealousy and hurt when it comes to sexual experience and bringing another person in,” Dr. Gail Saltz, a  psychiatrist and psychoanalyst, told Medical Daily.

Finally, remember that the “special guest” is a person, too. They need to be treated with respect. It’s important to ask them about, and listen to, their limits as well. As with any other sexual experience, everyone needs to feel safe and comfortable enough to say no as well as yes.

5. Should Threesomes Fantasies Just Stay Fantasies?

The threesome fantasy is a common one, whether we like to admit it or not, but should we act it out?

“… Not everybody wants to act out their fantasies,” Masini said, and some people have very good reasons for abstaining.

Many people keep their fantasies in their imaginations because they know if they acted on them, they’d lose their primary relationship. If we fantasize about sex with a neighbour or a colleague, acting out the fantasy could lead to rejection from the object of our fantasies, and a break-up with our significant other.

This is not to say threesomes can’t go well. Those who really know themselves and their partners can have successful trios.

Saltz advises: “It needs to be thoroughly talked through with openness to [discuss] concerns, fears; [couples should be willing] to listen to each other, and retreat if one needs to.”

Once we see our partner enjoying sex with someone else, we can’t unsee it. The potential vulnerability it introduces, and the potential desire for the third person could be detrimental to a relationship.

Before we start calling up friends or putting “Special guest wanted” in classified ads, we should ask ourselves why we want one in the first place.

  • To fulfil a fantasy?
  • To feel more desired or wanted?
  • Are we trying to fix our intimate relationship with our partner?

Threesomes can be a fun, adventurous sexual experiment, but can they replace true intimacy between two people?

The idea of a threesome is hot, but it doesn’t mean you should actually do it.

 

Quality Friendships


A true friend can have many different good qualities, but the qualities that add up to true friendship may be the most important.

 

Loyalty is a quality that everyone looks for in a friend.

loyal friend will stick with you no matter what the situation is and you can always count on them being on your side.

Qualities of a Good Friend:

As you read through these descriptions, envision your friends, and the ones who are truly quality will come to mind every time:

  • Your friend is a good listener. She doesn’t interrupt with her own stories, but encourages you to talk as long as you need. She is genuinely interested in you.

 

  • Your friend gives you space. She understands that you need time for other things in your life, and those things don’t endanger your friendship.

 

  • Your friend is forgiving. Maybe, in a fit of exasperation at something else, you were cruel or rude. Your friend understands.

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  • Your friend is reliable. When your friend says she will do something, she does. You don’t have to worry that she will let you down.

 

  • Your friend supports you through tough times. She shows up at your apartment with a bottle of wine because she knows you’ve had a rough day. She knows how to improve your mood and reduce your stress.

 

  • Your friend is trustworthy. You can tell your friend anything and know that she will keep it to herself.

 

  • Your friend helps you to reach your goals. Need an exercise buddy? She’s there. Need an emergency babysitter so you can attend class? She’s there.

Are You a Good Friend?

Friendship is a give and take.

It’s just as important to be a good friend as it is to have good friends, and it takes time and an openness of self to nurture a quality friendship. You know what qualities you value in your close friends; why not measure your own behavior to see if you could be a better friend? To be the best friend you can be:

  • Accept yourself as you are. Be realistic and secure about who you are. Insecurity and self-criticism push friends away.

 

  • Accept others as they are. Don’t judge. When your friends make mistakes, give them a shoulder to cry on, but only give them advice if they ask for it. Don’t belittle them or their choices.

When friends get together, it can be a positive and healing experience. Find the time to connect with your friends often. It’s much more important than a household chore or the latest episode of your favorite TV show. Call a friend for coffee or lunch, or just take a long walk and talk about anything and everything. It may just be the best thing you’ve done for yourself, and your friend, in a long time.download (5)

What is the best thing a friend has ever done for you? 

I am me… if you do not like me.. then see that door…


What can I say about this title many things….. Let me tell you….

Thus far, far out and how amazing is life!!!

We often forget who we are, how we got here, what moments was it that made us “Stop and Smell those bloody Thorns”.

Why the thorns, good question, why the hell not..

Nothing in life is easy or smooth let’s face it and if you say it is then we must be lying right!

So, in saying that I decided to say what I said, because I did!

Life is what it is.. It is what you want to make of it.. I cannot say to you the answer as I am still finding it myself..

And there is nothing wrong with that..

However, if you wish me to answer it.. it is made up on mistakes, winnings, many happy times, many sad times, disappointment, happy ever after times, its made of children that will put a smile on your face, loving moments that we all cherish, it is made of sadness when someone breaks your heart for the first time and it is made of many shades of blue, green, pink, yellow, red, orange, and I could go on.

  • It is also made of regrets of not being there for those that I should have been… with that I am soulful sorry (my son)580616_10151758483017361_261523703_n

What do I love the most 

I love myself (shit that was hard to say)  it has taken a very long time for me to say those words, I love my partner who has been by my side so many years, it is made up of dear friends I say it with the (s) why because it is more than 1 which is more than most have..

 

I love these people because they love me and that is enough no more than how that is because I am lucky..

Why do I want this?

Because I do…

What is it that you regret?

Many, Many things in my life… which is mine and if you wish to find out what, then you walk in my shoes and then ask me the same bloody question!

We can have a crystal ball tell each other I know better than you.. however, what is so significant about your life that you are better and more knowledgable what if you’re not?

Seriously speaking come on !!!

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And my dear bloggers it is that easy… if life was easy and we didn’t hurt, cry, if we had no error if everything in this life was that easy would you say… I know better?

Far out, even god would not say such things….

My suggestion is this….

Smile, love, and listen don’t be foolish if you have any business telling others who you think they are and how you think they should live , well good luck with that!

I would hate to be you if you did say such things to another!

Who wants perfect, anyway!

Not me!!!!

This is who I am:

  • I am 50 years old
  • I am in a loving and giving  relationship of 21 years
  • I make mistakes
  • I do very well at times
  • I am a very loud and opinionated female
  • I am a survivor
  • I am a mother
  • I also have good, bad, and darn right not the best at times with the above
  • I am human
  • I am true to myself and my partner, friends and family
  • I make mistakes just like everyone else and I am happy with that…
  • I love my 1 or 2 friends that I have on this earth
  • I am incredibly stubborn
  • I love with every bit of my being
  • If I say something real to you, you better believe it that I am telling you the truth
  • If I tell you my story, your lucky
  • I am a proud female who adores people for who they are not what they can give me back
  • I have no expectations of anything
  • But, I do love, and I do it with every part of my body, soul and faith

So, the question answered is Submission is about pleasing ourselves and those that are worthy of my being this isn’t a given this is earn and I am blessed with who wants to be my friend…

So, Who are you?

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Memories of yesterday… something funny


Have you ever gone to a Sunday session and you look around and scope that pub with your girl friends what do you notice?

My visual even when I was young could see so many different groups of mates, friends, surfies hanging around a pool table drinking beer then I would veer my eyes over to the bar and then notice those gangs that hung around each other they walked the same, they even had similar close then their mates and girl friends.

Then of course the locals divided into two groups by colours on their backs normally these wonderful long-haired scruffy unwashed and smelly bike lovers would look like they had not washed, cut their hair and always hung around the corner bar and dart board area.. that was their area…

Then of course the seriously good-looking angry-looking, in fact they had no expression on their gorgeous mannish faces these boys where my favourites.. at the time cuz normally when they smiled OMG moment pearly white teeth AND  COULD THEY smile took my breath away…

All these different designer men at a Beach hotel in Waikiki, packed pub, and a live band was never ever a disappointment, cuz us girls pint-sized nothing surfie, girls normally tanned black, with surfie beads, stone washed jeans tightly around our asses and all of us cute as buttons.. with our crisps white shirts and butter would not melt in our little 18-year-old mouths… oh yes, indeed…

And me who always and every Sunday Session would do the same walk to find those broody boys who had no smiles…. so what do you think I did to crack those smashing smiles….

Cheeky, sassy, brassy, short asses swinging from the tall bar swinging off with my feet not even close to the floor in their faces.. with my pearly whites saying, come on I know you can give me those beautiful pearls….

Oh, boy, oh, Boy….

Not every time I would but, always there would be at least two cuz they definitely would not broad at the bar alone.. too cool for school and leant over the bar … O M G, legs of steel and an ass of metal… impressive in tight bloody jeans.. my mouth open wide thinking wow I found them mind-blowing and a definite cracker……

Never date them but, jesus I used to get a beautiful smile out of these gorgeous men… and did they smile…. and sass with me… listen you naughty minx you should be home in bed cuz it was past my bed time…. how rude… however, I couldn’t get my smile off my face as I walked passed them and always I was picked up swung around and paid back let me tell you…

I think they put me in a rather tall empty hollow statue once…at least tried too upside down..the only problem is I recalled them saying as they laughed shit… she fitted… bloody hell…… It was at the other local which was unexpected cuz I didn’t see them…. but, they spotted me  and it was pay back…….bastards……..Screamed my heaD OFF…

In surprise… so damn funny…. so damn hot!!!

However, I was surrounded by rather well, good healthy vibrant, strong and let me say broody men which I knew I could only do this too them a couple of times before they got sick of me… these guys where too old but, far out they had white, white teeth… and it was worth it…just to see them smiling..

True story… Franny x

Why do I Blog …What is the reason?


Well, to be honest I do blogs to get to understand those that are on here and this is for many reasons I have a very interesting past and I believe everything happens for a reason.

We tend to take our lives for granted and we never believe our lives are worth much which is sad because I myself have thought that many times in my own life.

I am not on here to be perfect nor am I on here to preach anything that isn’t the truth however, we do tend to have a bit of fun and poke fun at myself mostly or how I actually feel.

But, to be perfectly honest I do this to understand myself express how I feel about my eccentric life which really isn’t however, I have had life that most people would not be aware of and because I so want to complete my studying this may take me sometime as it can be difficult even for me to do.

It means I have to be present, honest, true to myself, those who read some of my piffle but, when I do write about my past sometimes it is easy and sometimes I will write it and I will delete it mainly because it scares the shit out of me for many reasons.

I don’t believe in wanting to dwell on my past but, what I do believe is our paths in our lives is very important and I so want to help those that have similar understandings and most of all help those that I know I can understand those that have walked a simular path as I have.

You see if it wasnt for some wonderful persons that need I say have helped me open my eyes to a lot of things which I thank them even though they may not think I have … So, thank you and I do love you all very much there may not be many that do know about my path but, I do wish for them to know that I do love them and I hold them very close to my heart and soul.. So, to my closest, dearest, imaginary, invisibly, visible and gorgeous souls always know that without those that held my hand and hugged my soul when I wept I thank you so very much with all of my heart and soul…

So, this is why I do this and want to help those that have been hurt through loosing a child through either divorce or wrongly accused for disgraceful ruling due to unfairly being accused or losing their child to suicide, death, tragic and even to those moms that had to let go of children due to rape, drugs, being hurt my others that should never occurred, have nearly hurt themselves due to their own despair and many other reasons that I wish to hold on further for my own growth and understanding.

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So, this is a little to why I want to be here and do what I do because I truly care for others that have been treated unfairly, truly hurtful and devastating occurrences that only those will understand inside themselves…

It is never easy nor is it something that anyone can do.. but, for me I have to do this because I want too and it is inside my own soul, self and most of all my heart cannot .. Not do it.. if that makes any sense..

So, yes, that is why I get on here rant and rave, do funny things and some really odd things it is never difficult it is frustrating because it can be hard to understand myself..

We all learn differently none of us are stupid nor are we psycho nor do we do this because someone else wants us too.. I do it because that is what I want to do… so as I grow and understand myself more I will share with you more as I grow..

Thank you, Franny xxx

Spent time, Open your heart, and think!!!


This song is beautiful its like finding a place you finally can be “you”, we search our lives for the upmost rewarding experiences  ..only if we trust…. at the end of our lives don’t say… I wish I did more…. do it now..for fcuks sakes… what do you want a Flag that says “Ready, Set, Go… ok… Ready, Set, Stop..

Why Stop cuz, this journey is very dey jau vu

Mr Invisable is just that Invisable… but, has a twin..is called dey jau vu 2..

Sorry personal joke hehehehehhehe

 

What do you think that is?

I think it’s about many things love, friendships that truly matter, trust within your heart and your soul and to try and do your best as a person to others.

How about this to be loved and acepted for who you are good, bad and darn right a tad curious and to find out people are just like you…

This means to accept is to be brave, to search deeply to see if a person is good or not worth your time… why?  Because it’s the right way of doing … we should never judge others but, alas we do.. or our subconcious does.. and it does for many reasons… why, well that is a very long and lengthy story to tell.. which I will tell in time to understand that savy pestering subconcious mind of yours…

When something is lacking in your life you tend to end up seeing a pattern when your ounger and notably you see in in your relationships and most of all it is easiest to see in other couples.. example.. who puts more effort into that relationship….

Giver and a Taker…… 

I lacked alot of love or you could say the spoken word of just saying I truly love you and will never leave you… well, it’s like the search for extracting oil out of a oil pit… easy rigtht not at all… we are all like Krips some and some are not…

With all the knowledge and insight you might have you may still require further evidence to the fact.. why do you think that is

Well, its logical, everything requires further data.. TO BE LOOKED INTO FURTHER…. why do you think that is….Again that Darn subconcious mind that likes to protect you from anything other than …safe… that is great but, it also can be a right Bitch.. and go… Nope it is a Conspriracy you will be disappointed, you will be hurt, you will be betrayed…

What a load of shit

Never think that you know someone until you really communicate with them see how they interact with others and of course their family and listen to their heart felt joys, sadness, disappointments from watching learning and understanding you find out some people are lovely right down to their bone and others well they lack a few good kind items that seem to be missing and then you meet those that are totally broken but, cannot see it.

Here are two scenario’s of possible people both are broken both have never got help both perhaps dont even know they are suffering.. oh yes, both are also made up scenarios.

Imagine a husband and wife the wife is a great mother, wife, she tells her family she loves them does pretty much every mortal thing for each one of them.. especially her hasband… she tries to overly please him even she doesnt even see that she is doing this and she is tired…

What does he do for her…..

He ignored her and barely put too much effort into his children why do you think that is?

Because a long time ago he loved his parents he loved them so much he would do anything for them but the key thing that damaged him was that those parents didnt know how to love.

So, the motto of this story is that “In some families a husband will try so hard to show his wife that he loves her by changing himself by helping her with everything and by supporting her with every possible moment of his exisitance…. Why because he was born with a decent kind heart that is why..

His wife was hurt and something happened to her to loose her way… time passed and people change because a trauma occurred during her childhood.. she never really dealt with it.. what she did was .. said I am fine, or she fibbed and said, that she has already dealt with my past… its not that…. denial of understanding any trauma will end up hindering your family, yourself and those around you..

You see Communication, love, understanding, honesty, trust, a little bit of ego, self worth and a bit of pride and humanity, empathy, sympathy all these wonderful beatiful words means something why?

Because to Live a beautiful life full of experiences you MUST exercise every word, every emotion, every loving moment with time and patience to those that understand that the person they do this too is the same like minded people.

We are just too hard on ourselves, we doubt the spoken word and our hearts speak out by the love that embers out of each one of those people … so Next time when you recognise one of these good people.. stop and give them time, because you never know if you didnt take that time to spend with them and understand how they are deep down then you may possibly missed the best beautiful heart who would love you just the way you are… without judgement, without spite, just pure and simple love.

Just thoughts I was thinking in the last 2 days… enjoy your long weekend… regards and best wishes Candii xxx

 

 

You will love the lyrics……….enjoy and bless… xxx

 

 

What are your values?


A friend asked me once “what are your values?”

I had forgotten what that really means and I had them all along!!!

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Oh, wow, this is something I have had within me since time began, however, how did I forget about them?! 

Did I forget what my self-worth was once?

Did it slip my mind?

I wonder sometimes how on earth something so embedded deep inside you ends up “missing for action”?

My values, are to be kind to myself and others to understand what the difference between what is right and what is definitely wrong?

I guess we sometimes lose ourselves or our voices not sure which goes first?

I had misplaced it but, did I?

My values are what I stand for as a person, what I believe to be the difference between right, wrong, and just darn horrid?!?!

We end up so busy minded or is it that we just plain forget or do we have so much going on that we forgot about what we held so dearly to us?

I would say it’s everything above and more… we do forget, misplace, our minds with time and other people who could potentially distract you from what you think is right and wrong or perhaps it’s about letting your once good intentions go to see if another or others could potentially be right?!?! (not sure if that makes any sense)

They say in a schoolyard that we can get bullied into saying, doing and acting differently, that is true, or do we get lazy? or are we distracted by negative thoughts that cloud your judgment from time to time??

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We do tend to grow in a different direction hoping that direction does not mean the death of your own soul, or perhaps we hope for those we love to see the light of the day and show you something that you have not yet understood?!?

I guess we all have choices and we all tend to forget our voices, own thoughts, even values that once was so held tight that you could taste it on your lips!

Old saying, “You can lead a horse to water, but, if it wishes not to drink you cannot make it drink”

Human nature is all about living a life and that also means making good, bad, and somewhat mind-numbing decisions that once you would go, NO, Way!

And sometimes when that light disappears for a while, potentially when you least expect it will beam through like a light so brightly you can taste it!!

I believe in being true as in real, being real and honest, never lie about something that even if it isn’t right at least you honest enough to say it, do it or even try it!

The best part of values and beliefs is about how well, you rise from the deep shit you get yourself into lol, we are on this earth to live and learn and that is a human ability or in some cases disability if you wish.

But, in all cases, it is about being true to yourself and holding your head up high without any type of significance in return..

Let your ego and your pride relax and let yourself be free… that is what we are all about kindness, silliness, craziness, call it what you will but, always treat yourself with respect and others with the same certainty and life will glide by lovely and a little bumpy but, at least your honest to be who you really are..

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Tell your kids about the Birds and the Bee’s … if not watch the movie I added..


Hey, Candii here,

Oh, I do love to chat about this subject when it comes to young youths boys and girls who are striving or starving for answers about “Life”!

The Talk, I chattered to a Blogger friend about this and I agree, we both didn’t really get much from “the Talk”, my mother told me sex is only for babies!!

The rest as a curious young little girl as I was I found out about SEX harder, slower, jackrabbit, Vasso, was the lube of the 80’s and might I add “Never use Vasso” it is nasty, harsh and could cause multiple problems in the nether regions for ladies I mean!!

My advice to younger mums, dads, grandparents, you MUST be honest, yes tell them about where babies come from, but please and I say this with all due respect to mums and dads that not telling them isn’t the answer!!!

Here are some very important tips to what I am trying to tell you both if your child girl or little boy is of a curious mind meaning they are always doing things you tell them not too, this means they are curious and if you say NO to them they will hunt it down and find out why!!

I did and I will always because I love that word NO, I respond either in my warped mind “why”, I see, hmmm, ok, right, no is no, hmm mm, you see what I mean..

So how do you say sex to your children, well you tell them the truth, you tell them about your story or a story that you know is really how they are required to kiss each other, get naked, show each other their naked bits, (in other words if they are really young this should gross them out)  If they are older well, sorry its hardcore chat to your kids parents!!

Here is a true story about Perth (WA’s Chief of Police) his child a boy well he was a meth addict and his father well, he is the man who has shut down our pubs in Perth they call it “lock up rights” you must be either inside a pub by the time the clock strikes 12 then you are either locked in or your locked out !!

Personally, I think he has a few screws loose, in the top paddock and now looks at Perth’s nightlife, places are shutting down, no ones going out anymore and to perfectly honest it’s hell out on the town on a Friday or Saturday night!!

This man should have been a little bit more lenient towards his child and allowed his child the respect he should have given him and that was lenient towards him never tell a child No, tell them the why’s, the how’s the experiences of what could occur and how important it is to find a like-minded person to do these things with at a better age of understanding.

The Talk for girls and boys should always be honest talks and make it fun, tell them funny stories that they understand, not serious, hideous, hardcore stories that will shock them into therapy … Come on people, treat your children with a little respect because let me give you the hot tip, denying you as having past yourselves well your just being pig headed and foolish!!

So, man up, women up and tell them a real story about you two .. it might surprise you how they react!!

They are your children and you should know how they are wired so chillax it isn’t the ass end of life it is the beginning of many family funnies, and they will come back to you and remember that story because you gave them something better.

The Truth!!

Our kids are very clever, they have mobiles phones, I pads, they have seen sex on the internet by either friend or another way plus they hear everything you say to each other because they are mini you both!!

We adore our children so please don’t be a pratt and tell them stupid book stories, or sex is for babies only so don’t even think about it… my god, that is the worst story EVER!!!

And if you don’t do the talk with your girls.. they will meet this guy..watch this movie..OMG!!!

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Play together.. so you can Stay together…


 

Life is amazing and scary and many, many things the most terrifying moments for me is to be present… Why?

Because of never being able to have the present real.. expectations are never true, the expectations of surprise and happiness taken away within an instance and feeling forever feeling never, ever enough for anyone!

This song I will do anything normally not to listen to it because frankly it means I have to listen and be present and never, ever, ever, be belated… why?

Because it is never, ever, true, it’s made up of dreams, beliefs, that beautiful experience most people get that is called LOVE…

It reminds me of being that little girl at Christmas and my expectations where so pure and that big huge SMILE of thank you.. that I feel loved..

That feeling of Love and Love looking back by just a smile, glance and that most precious feeling of a warm and loving hug.. knowing you are the only thing in the world that matters…

That it me is a dream that one day I had hope would happen to me..

 

Time…….. the beat is like a heart, beating harder, louder, deeper, purer, it has no end and randomly beats when it sees the eyes of the one that it loves and that loves it…

Pure love is my hidden passion where it’s full of smiles, ease, peace, harmony, endless talks about living, loving, seeing, travelling with the earth, growing and forever being real….

Listen to the beat of the song below…. simply beautiful… these words everything I write going forward is how I will write……how I feel….. how I love and most of all how I see things through my own eyes……………… I am me being me there is no reason, why’s, who’s and when’s that is just now………………………………………………………………. x

 

 

 

Beautifully said…….. I want to live gorgeous video of seduction, sexual thirst, hunger, desire and passion………

wicked hot nights sweting, dripping, with panted breaths, longing to hear, feel undressed, skin on skin….

naked and desired….

Now that is how you fuck……

 

Time for me to be me again….. I cannot just be… I require more…that this… don’t you agree…

Play together.. so you can Stay together…


 

Life is amazing and scary and many, many things the most terrifying moments for me is to be present… Why?

Because of never being able to have the present real.. expectations are never true, the expectations of surprise and happiness taken away within an instance and feeling forever feeling never, ever enough for anyone!

This song I will do anything normally not to listen to it because frankly it means I have to listen and be present and never, ever, ever, be belated… why?

Because it is never, ever, true, it’s made up of dreams, beliefs, that beautiful experience most people get that is called LOVE…

It reminds me of being that little girl at Christmas and my expectations where so pure and that big huge SMILE of thank you.. that I feel loved..

That feeling of Love and Love looking back by just a smile, glance and that most precious feeling of a warm and loving hug.. knowing you are the only thing in the world that matters…

That it me is a dream that one day I had hope would happen to me..

 

Time…….. the beat is like a heart, beating harder, louder, deeper, purer, it has no end and randomly beats when it sees the eyes of the one that it loves and that loves it…

Pure love is my hidden passion where it’s full of smiles, ease, peace, harmony, endless talks about living, loving, seeing, travelling with the earth, growing and forever being real….

Listen to the beat of the song below…. simply beautiful… these words everything I write going forward is how I will write……how I feel….. how I love and most of all how I see things through my own eyes……………… I am me being me there is no reason, why’s, who’s and when’s that is just now………………………………………………………………. x

 

 

 

Beautifully said…….. I want to live gorgeous video of seduction, sexual thirst, hunger, desire and passion………

wicked hot nights sweting, dripping, with panted breaths, longing to hear, feel undressed, skin on skin….

naked and desired….

Now that is how you fuck……

 

Time for me to be me again….. I cannot just be… I require more…that this… don’t you agree…

When In Rome….. we shall do what others do… RIGHT!!!!


Hi Candii here,

Now, this is talking my language, however, a fish out of water perhaps but, would I attend these amazing places.. Absolutely, and I would wear something HOT and Rediculously Slutty, with a touch of Classiness…

I think it would be the best fun ever … a bit like diving into the DEEP end first but, hey why not.. “When they say, When in Rome”!

I would wear appropriately, latex corset with heels up to my fanny, and fishnets, false eye lashes, may even get a tattoo, oh and fake boobs would be just right up my ALLEY….

However, let’s not get too over board… oh sugar, why not…. stuff it and I would take two men.. dressed beautifully, and we would play very well together..

Okay, that is my fantasy that GOD…. please before I die.. heheheh anyhoo, check out the below and see if any of this ticks your box.. like mine…

Enjoy Franny (aka Candii)

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Best Swinger Clubs in London: Ready to Mingles?

Set up by a beautiful pair of Essex swingers, Mingles was established with classy couples in mind. Think of an elegant wine bar (but bring your own!) mixed with a sexy adult lifestyle destination. You can have a few drinks, let your hair down and if you feel adventurous, have an intimate encounter with new like-minded friends. If you live just east of the UK’s kinky capital, this is the perfect alternative to a Swingers party in London city centre.

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Best Swinger Clubs in London: Let yourself be set on Hellfire

The Hellfire is home to countless Swingers parties in London catering to every sexuality and gender. There are events every week including ‘Secret Sunday’, masquerade balls and our all- time favourite ‘Swish’ – the ultimate sex party in London for swingers and members of the fetish community. Think it can’t get any better? Like most swingers in London will find, you’re allowed to bring your own alcohol, but at Hellfire, soft drinks are also completely FREE – all night long.

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Best Swinger Clubs in London: Show off your Legs 800

Swingers in London craving for a venue in which you can really be your true self? Legs 800 is a very special place dedicated to members of the transgender and crossdresser community (and their admirers!). You can dress up, get a makeover, dance all night and have a cheeky fumble in the private rooms with someone who appreciates you at your most beautiful. More of a celebratory escape than a mere Swingers party in London, Legs 800 is as unique as it is fun.

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Best Swinger Clubs in London: Meet the South London Swingers

Last but not least, let us introduce you to South London Swingers. How long has it been since you went wild at a friends house when their parents were away? This is for those who are now all grown-up, and know exactly what they want – to meet other swingers in London in a comfortable and very, very naughty house-party environment. Don’t miss out on the opportunity to revel in delicious decadence, with that taboo feeling that feels oh so familiar.

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The Secret Warning Hidden In Your Horoscope, Based On Your Zodiac Sign


TIME IS NOW… ZODIACS….

FOR THOSE 3 THAT ARE STUCK……….Start doing…… and planning and most of all having the best time in your lives.. and for gods sakes believe in yourselves… 

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ARIES (March 21-April 19)

Take a break from being so moody and impatient. You will find yourself enjoying the good times more if you aren’t wishing things away by being constantly rushed and uptight. Let go and just trust in the intent of the universe, because things might be bumpy ahead.


TAURUS (April 20-May 20)

Stop fighting your successes just because they weren’t what you originally thought they would be. Everything happens for a reason, and even if you can’t see it clearly now, the reasons are valid. It is okay to not have everything go exactly your way all the time: compromise makes people like you more.

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GEMINI (May 21-June 20)

Something big is about to happen. Don’t panic, though: just remember to breathe and trust your instincts. If all else fails, be aware of those around you and let them be a guiding light. You’ll find your way through, just stay patient and stay the course.

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CANCER (June 21-July 22)

Careful not to get too wrapped up in the business affairs of others: it can lead you down a dark path. Take some time to “smell the coffee” and really think through what your stuff is and what belongs to someone else. Nobody likes to carry around any extra baggage than needed.

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LEO (July 23-August 22)

Hard times ahead: you are going to find yourself with too much going on that is outside of your control. Don’t fight for your place or try to push others out to grasp control. The right time will come and others will eventually see that they are ignoring a good resource (you).


VIRGO (August 23-September 22)

Watch that you don’t let your emotions take control, let them merely serve as a guide for you without becoming overwhelming. If you find yourself in circumstances that make you feel annoyed or restless, remember to revisit your true motivations and ideals. Use your wise mind to make the best decisions, you need both your rational brain and emotions to plan the best path for now.

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LIBRA (September 23-October 22)

You hate change, but it is time to make it happen. It is okay to visit your inner child from time to time, and in this instance, it might be necessary.

Negative emotions are ahead. Be sure to focus on self-care and don’t be afraid to reach out to a trusted friend if needed.

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SCORPIO (October 23-November 21)

Watch out, someone is going to “move your cheese.” Hold tight to your brain and common sense, simply allow circumstances and emotions to come and go as needed while reminding yourself that you will maintain stability. With so many changes and with things feeling off or misplaced, you’ll need to constantly remind yourself of the stability that still exists inside.

RELATED: Traits Of The Scorpio Zodiac Sign That Make It The Most Intense Sign In Astrology


SAGITTARIUS (November 22-December 21)

Careful: don’t put the cart before the horse. It is important to take time to settle into your emotions and connections with others before diving in with words and promises that your heart may not agree with. You may also find that allowing yourself to look within allows you to better care for yourself and your health, something you may desperately be needing right now.

RELATED: 25 Best Arrow & Constellation Tattoo Ideas For Sagittarius Zodiac Signs


CAPRICORN (December 22-January 19)

You need to calm down, slow down, and use your talents as intended to best serve your life, not simply the lives of others. You must stop causing yourself stress from holding too firmly to something that should have been left in the past. Without a good foundation, it is impossible to build a home.

RELATED: 5 Ways To Keep The Capricorn You Love Happy AF — Or Else


AQUARIUS (January 20-February 18)

This can be a troublesome time for you and tensions may rise. Be careful to listen and genuinely hear the viewpoint of others before growing irritated and jumping to conclusions. Be willing to compromise if needed to restore harmony and bring a better balance to your life.

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PISCES (February 19-March 20)

You are going to soon find yourself challenged to think about your true mission and purpose in life and might need to be prepared to make some changes. If you continue to remain tied to the past situations that you should have set down long ago, you will find that the upcoming changes in your life are going to be that much more difficult to bear.

Beliefs are Magical, Mystical and most of all it is Freedom of living


 

Imagine a life of beliefs, Imagine a life of wonderment, imagination, magical events, and Empowerment of ones self…

When we are young we imagine so easily, to be a Astranaut, Nurse, Doctor, Priest, getting married, having children, climbing that mountain, running a race …

We all have beliefs sometimes we have those anchors that hold us back but, we rise above the harsh experiences and we learn and we grow…

We change… did you know that we Change and you dont even see youself doing it..

The hardest thing in this world is to change… but, we do.. we learn something new.. and we go okay lets do it.. or grab an empty suit case and we run down to the airport and we close our eyes and we pick there..

Why is it that we find life so hard, so difficult to believe, if a person is a good person why on earth would you hurt them, you would embrase their courage, hug them and say you are so brave and you did so well and they appreciate those small little words but, it means more to them then breathing this air we take for granted.

We are all unique and beautiful we just need like minded people to listen to us, believe us and just like us for being just that different.

That to me is strength, truth, love, all those beautiful words we all are so lazy by taking those who we trust and love for granted .. let me tell you I do not take anyone that I feel has a soul that loves… as week.. it is the strength that most of us don’t have..

Move your ass off that couch and do something spectacular…. and enjoy it…. love it and pat yourself on the back for being brave enough to try… and that is living a life…

And if those that you are around don’t understand you move to another area and they will gravitate towards you because you are so true.. and truth is Empowerment..

And it is Beautiful…. that is all we can do.. in this small amount of time… so make sure you change every day do something you dont normally do… sing, dance, live, drink, eat, whatever you want to do…. just do it with humility…

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Fran’s thought for today.. Embrace your Life… and Live it…. xxx


Imagine a life that you are so loved and appreciated for who you are it would be perfect right!

Alot of us including me have said alot on here but, I am going to share some fact about what I am about, I love people, love them to bits, I cannot and will not ever understand why people want to be something they are not!

We start our journey when we are born and sometimes it’s bumpy, horrid, happy, amazing, funny, and sometimes there are alot of our past that means so much with amazing memories.

 

However, I seem to see us all dwell on those times that have given us grief but, we seem to forget those other times that makes us “smile, laugh, giggle, roll around on the ground with fits of laughter”, those precious moments with your family, friends, those moments that where amazing, rediculous and darn right shocking!

I believe this, sometimes we see beauty, love, great amazing moments with loved ones but, those times when we feel so damn sad it breaks our hearts, and stops you in your tracks with dispair.

I should know I felt every, bit of them these last few months however, that noise that once was so loud, horrible that made me want to crawl into fetal position on the ground seem like a dim memory thank god!

As time goes on for me I believe that this feeling I used to feel will pass and hopefully with beautiful thoughts of walking forward will be the best times, well that is what I am hoping for.. and why the Hell not!

I wish I could fix everyone and hopefully with time and understanding maybe those few that I come across I will do my best to help them of course we cannot fix the world even though I once thought in my tiny “big ideas franny” head.

I am just a very simple chick with an open heart that cares alot about people and I share things not to shock you more to open your eyes to possibilities that you may never have thought possible or even thought before about.

It’s not that I want you all to go out there and do all those things I write about its more about awareness of what is out there, what could be something possible without those darn labels, rude remarks and slandours comments some people use when they don’t understand something or are afraid to even possibly think is possible.

We all have a right to live our lives the way we want to.. if that means that I like hanging naked upside down with a pink bikini then I will and if I want to share with you pictures I will…

Laughing, which I don’t and probably more likely wont, but, you get what I am saying I hope..hehe, just live your short beautiful life and a happy, smiling, loving and open mind.

Our minds and our hearts are the breath in our souls..

Remember that… our hearts beat, and our souls live forever….

Enjoy every moment… because before you know it .. it will be gone..

 

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