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The 10 kinds of Men’s Mamouth Members… women love


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There are different kinds of dicks and they provide women with different levels of pleasure,

Not all penises are the same, and not all of the pleasure a woman the same way.

There are different kinds offering different levels of pleasure.

Lovepanky reveals what women love and why.

1 The Grower. We all know this as one of the two most-prominent classifications of the penis. This is the more discreet type, because you never know just how long and big it can go unless you go all the way with the guy.

At first, it might seem small, but rub it just a little and it grows 2 to 3 times its flaccid size. Magic!

2 The Shower. These are those dicks that seem mighty impressive and imposing even while in pants. The shower types are really showy, but when they get hard, the initial size and length aren’t any different.giphy (5).gif

3 The Banana. Well, the name is a giveaway. This kind of monkey pole is shaped and bent just like a banana. They may be dangling straight out when flaccid, but when they get hard, they bend down. This may make it appear small, but try it out for size; you might be surprised by how perfectly it rubs against your clitoris, and even your G-spot, with every thrust.

4 The Thor. This penis isn’t all big and ripped like the comic book hero. We called this penis type Thor because it’s shaped like a hammer. The head is big and the shaft is small, like a mushroom. This dick is perfect for touching the entirety of your vaginal walls—and, with shallow thrusts, your G-spot.

5 The Shroom. The mushroom manhood looks much like The Thor, but with more, shall we say exaggerated features. It is typically smaller in size, and the head is more rounded, like an umbrella or a mushroom cap. To get the most of it, you’d better opt for doggy to allow for deeper thrusting, while making the base gratifyingly rub against your clitoris.

6 The “S.” This is a seemingly slithering purple monster because it bends to one side and the other in an “S” shape. Despite its distorted shape, don’t write off this schlong as a freak of nature, because it may just make you a freak in bed. Depending on him and how he can make the most of his package, you can achieve “O” due to the tingling effect this shape brings.

7 The Chode. Wider than it is long, it is the Danny DeVito of penises. But don’t be turned off by this stump just yet. Though it can be very wide and typically stands at 4 to 5 inches, it can be very pleasurable, as it will satisfactorily fill every nook and cranny of your vagina. With deep thrusts, you can achieve maximum climax with this little fellow. Just be sure to have enough lubrication.

8 The Pencil. This love rod is, indeed, as straight as a rod. It appears straight and slim like a pencil. Its head is also almost the same width as the shaft, making it look very sleek and elongated. While this can be long, “wide” ladies won’t get much of that friction they need to get off. It can also poke your cervix, making sex painful. A woman on top and spooning are good positions.

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9 The Carrot. The Carrot is perhaps the most desirable penis for women. It is slim in the end and gradually becomes thick at the base. The head is smaller and the shaft is bigger, forming a soft triangular shape that gives gradual pleasure to any woman in any position. Penetration is easy and sleek, but as the stiffy goes in deeper, the “ooh la la” sensations increase.

10 The Angry Wrestler. This penis seems angry when erect because it has veins popping out all over it. It looks veiny, but a sexier way to put it is “angry.” So this angry old chap can turn you on as you take in the veins lining up its length. There’s something primal and raw about this member, and you may even feel a slight, yet surprisingly awesome-feeling, throbbing of the veins inside you, giving you a subtle vibrating effect.

Why women love your penis just the way it is

It is a known fact that men are weirdly obsessed with their penises. They worry about the size, shape and even girth.

We have news for you: if your woman keeps coming back for more, even though you find your penis unappealing, it might be because she loves it for the reasons below.

MensHealth presents the hidden benefits of the ‘imperfect’ penis below;

Penis Predicament: Too Smallgiphy (1)

The Advantage: There are two positives to having a small dick. One, it may make anal easier on her. And two, it can make her more enthusiastic about oral sex.

“I love anal, but I’ll only have anal with small guys because I’m not a freaking masochist,” says Michele, 37.

And small wieners are easier to fellate. “Giving a normal size penis a blow job is hard on your neck, jaw, and lips,” adds Michele. “But I can go down on my small guy for as long as it takes.”

Penis Predicament: Too Thick

The Advantage: Your massive man-meat may intimidate her at first. But if you spend enough time in foreplay, not only can you fit, but you may actually feel better to her.

Girth is perhaps the most important part of the penis when it comes to pleasure in women. More girth leads to more vaginal satisfaction, as the extra girth increases pressure on the vagina walls.

Amy, 34, couldn’t agree more. “The first time I saw my boyfriend’s penis—it was like water-bottle thick—I said, ‘No way is that going inside me,’” she says. “Then once we eased it in, it was the best feeling ever.”

Managing Expectations in a Casual Relationship


Go Figure… me? Well, I don’t seem to ever put expectations on most evenings however is that wise? I would say No!

For me after I marry I am not well available.. however, as we age and live together longer who bloody knows.. But, and alwaYS a But, the only way I would dabble in the naughty is with him……. not without….. so that is my difference.. That is just me.. for those that are more open continue reading..

For some people, a casual relationship is nothing more than a one-night stand. For others, it can mean having a long-term sex partner without co-mingling living situations, families and finances. Either one of those options and the variations in between can be had and can be wonderful. It all starts with managing your expectations.

State Up Front What You Want
Be clear about what you want and what your boundaries are. If those things aren’t okay with the person you’re chatting up, don’t try to talk them into something they don’t want to do or say anything – especially if they’re outright false promises or lies – just to get them into bed. That’s something desperate losers do.

Don’t Expect People to Change
There are a lot of people, especially women, that believe that if the sex is great, that the other person will keep coming back for more or want to develop something more than just a casual relationship. Luring someone in by entrapment never works out or ends well. It’s also dishonest.

Don’t Make Too Many Compromises
Be completely comfortable and accepting with what the other person wants and has to offer in a casual relationship. If you give up too much, you’re going to regret being in the situation you got yourself into. You are entitled to have your casual relationship be a good and happy thing, sexually and otherwise.

When Emotions Get Lopsided
As much as people can tell themselves that a casual relationship is “just sex”, sex is loaded with emotions. After all, sex feels great. Right? A lot of those “feel good” emotions can lead to attachment. That’s why open communication is so important. Talk about your casual relationship as it evolves. If feelings for and expectations of each other aren’t mutual, it’s easier to deal with the situation sooner than later.

Be Friends
Like the person, you’re hooking up with. Be decent, kind, thoughtful and respectful. If you can’t do or be those things, don’t expect a hot sexual vibe in return. If you feel like that’s a chore or obligation, the other person will sense that and think you’re an asshole, and no one wants to have sex with an asshole. And if you don’t like the person you’re hooking up with or if you’re not having fun like friends of any other type do, your sex is not going to be fun.

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If I turned around so many things would have been different, would it? Probably, maybe, who would know, maybe better than you think!

A Word About Respect
I recently came upon a blog discussion thread where a bunch of men were complaining about the way women disrespect them. Everyone is entitled to respect but it’s earned both ways. If you don’t treat people well, hold up your responsibilities, or keep your word, the other person has every right to be pissed off with you. Being in a casual relationship doesn’t mean that you can be casual about manners and courtesy.

Finding a Casual Sex Partner isn’t Necessarily Immediate or Easy
Even if there are hundreds or thousands of potential casual sex partners on a casual sex dating site, it doesn’t mean that you should expect sex on demand or instant gratification. It might take weeks or months to find or cultivate an eventual hookup. Remember that you’re dealing with available people and not just available bodies. Just because someone is available for a casual relationship doesn’t mean that they owe you sex.cropped-images-62.jpg

the ‘O’shot for women- Increases Sexual Response AND… for MEN the “P”shot!!


Just in case you are wondering what that is.. it “Jump Starts a Vagina”, gives life back to your loins…. sounds intesting, not that I require it atm but, something to think about later… or perhaps put it this way… Imagine Vagina on Roids.. wow lol

The O Shot is an all-natural, painless non-surgical procedure that can rejuvenate and revitalize vaginal and clitoral function, giving you dramatically improved sensitivity and significantly enhance your sex life.
Many women lose urine while coughing, laughing, sneezing or exercising. It can be an embarrassing and frustrating problem. Because the O Shot procedure offers rejuvenating capabilities, there is help available without the need for invasive surgery.

Ideal candidates for the O shot procedure are women who seek:

  • Stronger Orgasms
  • Increased Sexual Desire
  • Increased Natural Lubrication
  • Decreased Urinary Incontinence
  • More Orgasms

The injection to the O-Spot® rejuvenates the vaginal tissue to enhance sexual response and cure urinary incontinence.

Genital Tissue Rejuvenation by O-Shot® Australia

The O-Shot® augments and rejuvenates the G-Spot, clitoris and labia.

The O-Shot® Procedure is well-known in the United States for helping intergenerational women of all ages and backgrounds.

The O-Shot® procedure is a simple, nonsurgical, physician-administered treatment. It takes very little time and does not require ongoing medication.

If The O-Shot® procedure is available for women surely there must be a similar procedure for men?

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There certainly is and it is called the P-Shot® (Priapus Shot after the Greek God of fertility).

The procedure is also performed by a trained and qualified medical practitioner and it is just as quick and relatively painless as The O-Shot® procedure.

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So, if the P-Shot® does what it should, then using it on the penis should result in all of the following:

 

  • Immediately larger
  • Strengthen the penis
  • Straighten the penis
  • Increase circulation within the penis for a healthier organ
  • Make other therapies work better (if you still need Viagra or Cialis, then it will work better for you)
  • Increase sensation and pleasure (helps correct the damage from diabetes)
  • Proven to work in multiple studies
  • Increase size by design (Can place more in base or in the head or wherever makes for best result)
  • No allergic reactions (using your own body’s fluids)
  • No lumpiness
  • Minimal pain (no burning from the PRFM since it’s from your own body)

Remember, both the O-Shot® procedure and the P-Shot® procedure are performed by a trained medical professional so you can be comfortable that you are getting informed, professional advice and care.

 

 

A Depressed Vagina…


No sex?

Be aware of vaginal atrophy, I knew my Vagina was suffering something 🙂

Well, I think I should use it and abuse it in a way that it will say thank you.. so, if you do not use it… well, you might end up loosing it… and that would not be a good think now would it… An Angry Vagina lol…

Keep reading…

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If you think only men ‘need’ sex, listen to this: if a woman doesn’t use her vagina, she should be aware of the facts that it can not only causes vaginal atrophy, but also an depressed vagina .

We can here you thinking ‘a depressed vagina’, seriously?

  • The answer is yes, seriously.
  • The vagina basically wastes away, causing severe medical issues.

“A healthy sex life is therefore very  important for us, women, whether it is with a partner or with ourselves, says Louise Mazanti.

Always invest in a GOOD VIBRATOR or your Vagina may turn a bit dry………… go figure…

“And use them, because it is about using massage and touching the vagina wall so that the blood flows and the elasticity stays.

Two times depressed

When the cells in a vaginal wall don’t get enough blood flow (by getting aroused) there is also not enough oxygen in the cells.

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If my Vagina was a Alien this is what it would look like

This causes the problem that the cells can’t eliminate waste and toxins from the tissue.

This buildup of toxin prevents vital nutrients from getting to the cells, which all can lead to a thinner vagina wall, thus vaginal atrophy, in medical terms vulvodynia (Depressed Vagina Syndrome).

Which can be a very painful thing.
Also not having sex can cause depression because women can start doubting about their own sexual appeal.
According to ‘the Sun’ US research shows that more than 25 percent of women at some point in their lives will experience vulvodynia.

More than eight per cent will suffer it at any moment.

The symptoms of vaginal atrophy

  • Itching and burning without any sign of an infection or skin condition
  • Difficulty peeing or urgency to pee
  • Pain triggered by touch (having sex, putting a tampon in)
  • Incontinence
  • Pain during and or light bleeding after sex
  • Dryness and discomfort during sex

Women at risk of vaginal atrophy

  • Are going through or have been through menopause.
  • In this period the body produces less estrogen which effects on the vaginal wall (getting dryer and thinner).
  • Having no sex
  • Had treatment for breast cancer, especially those women who had hormone treatments /
  • Women who are smokers
  • Women who have never had a vaginal birth

Treatment of vaginal atropy

  • Use the vagina. Have sex. One way or another.
  • Vaginal moisturizers and lubricants can help to treat dryness.
  • They also help to improve your sex life.
  • Get diagnosed and rule out other medical issues such as vulval cancer.
  • When nothing helps, see a doctor and ask for estrogen therapy.
  • Use cotton underware.
  • Avoid scented hygiene products to clean your vagina, included soap.
  • Get physiotherapy and councelling because living with constant pain can be stressful.

Beautiful Quotes….


I have borrowed these from a great Blogger link below to the person who inspired most of these quotes…life-quotes-inspiration-i-just-want-friendship-we-have-something-so-special-and-both-be-through-so-muc

Truth

“Never ruin someone’s life with a lie, when your world can be destroyed with the truth.”

Tell them…

“If you love someone, tell them. Because hearts are broken by the words unspoken.” 

Enjoying sex…

“Enjoying sex doesn’t make you a whore, just like being a virgin doesn’t make you saint.” 

A good man…

“Allow a good man to ruin your lipstick, not your mascara.” 

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“God created sex. Priests created marriage.”
– Voltaire

Lay me down…

Lay me down,
get ready to play,
clear your calendar,
to make love all day.

Start with kisses,
touch me low,
caress me tight,
as we take it slow.

Cat fight

 

“No matter how much cats fight, there always seem to be plenty of kittens.” – Abraham Lincoln6dd056fa77d441b87e2deffa867f35ef.jpg

Master Your Passions

 

 

 

“The happiness of a man in this life does not consist in the absence but in the mastery of his passions.” – Lord Tennyson Alfred

SLut-o-us Shame, Shame Shaming….


Hey Candii here,
Firstly, you would have to be insane than call me a SLUT out in public, plus it better be only used in a  sentence that I am wearing latex, fish nets with knee-high boots, which I do…
However, only at home with my husband…..  I would beat the living crap out of you if anyone that was using this would towards me….. Be afraid my dear girl or boy, you better either hide your ball sack or your ver jay jay if you used this towards me…. or RUN…

Let’s talk Mamma-to-Mamma…. Girl-to-Girl…. sister-to-sister…

In my opinion slut shaming, especially woman to woman, (sister to sister!), is completely unacceptable.

Woman have been fighting for sexual equality for decades, and each time one woman calls another a slut with the intention to insult, we take a leap backward.

We lose the support we’ve been giving each other, and we lose credibility.
It’s blatant hypocrisy.

Just don’t fucking do it! Get informed and then engage in meaningful, goal-oriented discussion about women and sexual promiscuity in today’s society.
Define the objective, and never lower yourself to a standard of hurling insults just because you may not have solid points to argue.

Better still, if what she’s wearing, or how she’s behaving, doesn’t affect you directly, don’t even worry about it.

Don’t understand why some women like having lots of sex? News flash – You don’t have to!

I have been labeled this title many times let me tell you why this occurred
My first shamed label was because I walked by a group of young adults when I was about 18 at a Sunday Session with my “like-minded” girlfriends.

It was stated by a female that saw her boyfriend say out loud “shit she’s hot”
I was 18, slender, I wore a pair of stone washed jeans a jumper and a pair of suede black stiletto boots my hair was long sandy blonde and I weight at that time would have been 52 kilos.

Looking back I remembered what this girl wore stonewashed jeans, black lovely flat boots, a jumper and she had long dark hair she was a model and worked for a local newspaper.

She was beautiful and should have no reason to use words that put other sisters down.

Now I will tell you what I did when she did this (remember I was only 18)

Once I heard her say this slut-shaming word to me….. I was so angry and shocked mainly because I knew this girl and I also knew she was respected, popular, wore the most amazing outfits. and she really had no reason to say such demeaning words to put down another because of a man said something that made me feel “yeah”.

So, I walked up to her and instead of saying anything I hugged her and gave her a kiss on her cheek.

Her anger left her face and she was shocked by my behavior I then went to walk away and then she tapped me on the shoulder and said I am so sorry.

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What do you think of the above ?
Do you agree or do you disagree?
Do you think us women are making other women harder to fit into a male dominant society?

Competition time to Challenge those that think they can do this…….. more to come later….GRAND PRIZE TO THE WINNER!!!


Hey Candii here,

Competition Time……

I have a Challenge for those who think they are worthy of entering this COMPETITION, this is based on your deepest, hidden, secret, no-one has ever heard this spill from your lips Ever!

More to come… So, get your pen’s out …. I want to hear……. TBC… more to come about this competition… you must be over the age of 21 years.

Are you interested in what I have in mind for those who wish to be part of this Competition, and yes, there is a prize Gift for you.

So, firstly this is OPEN to ALL, so no-one on apart from those who are under the age of 21 years of age, which I believe should be older enough to do this.

What do you think I am wanting from those who wish to take up this challenge and win a gift to the value of $200.00

The WINNER will recieve a GRAND PRIZE, that you will all love so it doesn’t matter if you are a girl, boy, both, none, this prize will be perfect for the one who takes up this challenge and wins First Prise, there are clauses to this competition I do have to have over 25 people to send me what is going to be the most exciting Competition that you will want to enter…

So, watch this space and I will tell you later during the week what you will have to do..

Grand Prize is to be Confirmed… later..

More to come with this Competition later……… Candii xxx

The clauses are:

  • You must be over the age of 21
  • You have a flare to writing well
  • Must understand this site is for those that look out of the box
  • Only those that are worthy will be put into a draw to win the Grand Prize
  • Please only those that are interested in hearing more add your details below
  • Only those that have a KINK level of Sexual only apply
  • Do you want to win a Prize over the value of $250?
  • This isn’t going to be easy… however, that is the thing nothing is EASY, now is it?

Only those that think they can please put your details below this Competition is only valid if I recieve over 30 people, that send me a submission of interest..

Are you worthy of being The First Candii Clubs, VIXON, DOM, Master, Slave, Submissive, Kinksters, Swingers couples, this is all to cum…

So, please share this to your friends facebook pages and word press pages… and if you are not in it… then you will not WIN IT…… TBC on Friday for more information……….

 

What would you say on a dating site…


Perhaps I would say this…..or would I????

Although we are new we are not new if that makes sense, to this scene without going on about us as a couple I wanted to share with you a few things about me.

I am a very open fun and at times to some a little crazy, however, that is me, I have always been like this since time began…   I do drive my husband nuts, however, that is my observation of me, not of what he thinks of me…

If I do then he will tell you, and I will probably tell him to go for a flying leap of the next cliff (lovingly of course)

Why are we on here… hmm, interesting question… I really had no idea this was place was so bloody open… never heard of so many men wanting (xxx) with married couples???

…that was a shock to me… to be perfectly honest… to think I had thought we as a couple would be unique and to find out …. There is millions of you everywhere… where have I been?

I said, to my husband the other day, to be a “swinger as a man” so easy for you guys, let’s face it, it was your single life!!!

For me swinging isnt my thing nor hubby however, I think men would say those things to stop you from going…ooooooahhhhhhhhhhhhhh did you just say that??

How… funny?!

One-night stands… even us girls at times… well, a few for me but, geez, once, twice… shrug…

But, for men… simple Simon… and bang… I remember those days, men just could do this… women however, not so easy!!!

So, here we are.. hubby and I… sigh, well, this is the most honest I have broken down our “intro”, so many times, and I am still doing it…

“To answer your question… we have not had a XXX, yes it interests us, does it? yes, of course it does, silly me, lost my head for a momento….however, for me, I am struggling with it, why?

Because, my wiring is a little different … let’s just leave it there… oh, yes, a lot picky btw…

Perhaps a little old fashioned, nasisitic, passive aggressive, what else can I put…sheeesh… I am sure I will find something…

Call me what you like… crazy, weird, picky, whatever, I am what I am… so be it…..get over it…

Now… if my husband wants to add something well that is up to him………………….the above is me… his painful, loving, stubborn assed wife, winging, moaning, open, crazy, funny, real wife… ME!

How interesting if I did put the above …. just testing the field.. what is out there.. how people tick and what other thing I can add to this platter of latter….

Psst…However, if I had my choice….. you know who I would pick, but, No, means no right ?!

 

Husband it is your turn …………………TBC…

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Now that would be an interesting dating site intro…. however, would I ever really put such things….NEVER…???.

The Secret Warning Hidden In Your Horoscope, Based On Your Zodiac Sign


TIME IS NOW… ZODIACS….

FOR THOSE 3 THAT ARE STUCK……….Start doing…… and planning and most of all having the best time in your lives.. and for gods sakes believe in yourselves… 

I didnt do these below but, they seem pretty good….. continue…. love Candii xxx

 

 

ARIES (March 21-April 19)

Take a break from being so moody and impatient. You will find yourself enjoying the good times more if you aren’t wishing things away by being constantly rushed and uptight. Let go and just trust in the intent of the universe, because things might be bumpy ahead.


TAURUS (April 20-May 20)

Stop fighting your successes just because they weren’t what you originally thought they would be. Everything happens for a reason, and even if you can’t see it clearly now, the reasons are valid. It is okay to not have everything go exactly your way all the time: compromise makes people like you more.

RELATED: 25 Best Taurus Tattoo Ideas & Bull Tattoos For Taurus Zodiac Signs


GEMINI (May 21-June 20)

Something big is about to happen. Don’t panic, though: just remember to breathe and trust your instincts. If all else fails, be aware of those around you and let them be a guiding light. You’ll find your way through, just stay patient and stay the course.

RELATED: 4 Harsh But True Reasons Why Geminis Get On EVERYONE’S Nerves


CANCER (June 21-July 22)

Careful not to get too wrapped up in the business affairs of others: it can lead you down a dark path. Take some time to “smell the coffee” and really think through what your stuff is and what belongs to someone else. Nobody likes to carry around any extra baggage than needed.

RELATED: 15 Uplifting Quotes That Will Comfort Even The MOODIEST Cancers


LEO (July 23-August 22)

Hard times ahead: you are going to find yourself with too much going on that is outside of your control. Don’t fight for your place or try to push others out to grasp control. The right time will come and others will eventually see that they are ignoring a good resource (you).


VIRGO (August 23-September 22)

Watch that you don’t let your emotions take control, let them merely serve as a guide for you without becoming overwhelming. If you find yourself in circumstances that make you feel annoyed or restless, remember to revisit your true motivations and ideals. Use your wise mind to make the best decisions, you need both your rational brain and emotions to plan the best path for now.

RELATED: The 10 Best & Worst Zodiac Personality Traits Of Virgo (+ Their Perfect Love Match)


LIBRA (September 23-October 22)

You hate change, but it is time to make it happen. It is okay to visit your inner child from time to time, and in this instance, it might be necessary.

Negative emotions are ahead. Be sure to focus on self-care and don’t be afraid to reach out to a trusted friend if needed.

RELATED: 20 Motivational Quotes That’ll Help Libras Make Up Their Damn Minds


SCORPIO (October 23-November 21)

Watch out, someone is going to “move your cheese.” Hold tight to your brain and common sense, simply allow circumstances and emotions to come and go as needed while reminding yourself that you will maintain stability. With so many changes and with things feeling off or misplaced, you’ll need to constantly remind yourself of the stability that still exists inside.

RELATED: Traits Of The Scorpio Zodiac Sign That Make It The Most Intense Sign In Astrology


SAGITTARIUS (November 22-December 21)

Careful: don’t put the cart before the horse. It is important to take time to settle into your emotions and connections with others before diving in with words and promises that your heart may not agree with. You may also find that allowing yourself to look within allows you to better care for yourself and your health, something you may desperately be needing right now.

RELATED: 25 Best Arrow & Constellation Tattoo Ideas For Sagittarius Zodiac Signs


CAPRICORN (December 22-January 19)

You need to calm down, slow down, and use your talents as intended to best serve your life, not simply the lives of others. You must stop causing yourself stress from holding too firmly to something that should have been left in the past. Without a good foundation, it is impossible to build a home.

RELATED: 5 Ways To Keep The Capricorn You Love Happy AF — Or Else


AQUARIUS (January 20-February 18)

This can be a troublesome time for you and tensions may rise. Be careful to listen and genuinely hear the viewpoint of others before growing irritated and jumping to conclusions. Be willing to compromise if needed to restore harmony and bring a better balance to your life.

RELATED: 4 Strange Myths & Facts About The Aquarius Zodiac Sign That You Should Know (Even If You Don’t Believe In Astrology Or Horoscopes)


PISCES (February 19-March 20)

You are going to soon find yourself challenged to think about your true mission and purpose in life and might need to be prepared to make some changes. If you continue to remain tied to the past situations that you should have set down long ago, you will find that the upcoming changes in your life are going to be that much more difficult to bear.

Fran’s thought for today.. Embrace your Life… and Live it…. xxx


Imagine a life that you are so loved and appreciated for who you are it would be perfect right!

Alot of us including me have said alot on here but, I am going to share some fact about what I am about, I love people, love them to bits, I cannot and will not ever understand why people want to be something they are not!

We start our journey when we are born and sometimes it’s bumpy, horrid, happy, amazing, funny, and sometimes there are alot of our past that means so much with amazing memories.

 

However, I seem to see us all dwell on those times that have given us grief but, we seem to forget those other times that makes us “smile, laugh, giggle, roll around on the ground with fits of laughter”, those precious moments with your family, friends, those moments that where amazing, rediculous and darn right shocking!

I believe this, sometimes we see beauty, love, great amazing moments with loved ones but, those times when we feel so damn sad it breaks our hearts, and stops you in your tracks with dispair.

I should know I felt every, bit of them these last few months however, that noise that once was so loud, horrible that made me want to crawl into fetal position on the ground seem like a dim memory thank god!

As time goes on for me I believe that this feeling I used to feel will pass and hopefully with beautiful thoughts of walking forward will be the best times, well that is what I am hoping for.. and why the Hell not!

I wish I could fix everyone and hopefully with time and understanding maybe those few that I come across I will do my best to help them of course we cannot fix the world even though I once thought in my tiny “big ideas franny” head.

I am just a very simple chick with an open heart that cares alot about people and I share things not to shock you more to open your eyes to possibilities that you may never have thought possible or even thought before about.

It’s not that I want you all to go out there and do all those things I write about its more about awareness of what is out there, what could be something possible without those darn labels, rude remarks and slandours comments some people use when they don’t understand something or are afraid to even possibly think is possible.

We all have a right to live our lives the way we want to.. if that means that I like hanging naked upside down with a pink bikini then I will and if I want to share with you pictures I will…

Laughing, which I don’t and probably more likely wont, but, you get what I am saying I hope..hehe, just live your short beautiful life and a happy, smiling, loving and open mind.

Our minds and our hearts are the breath in our souls..

Remember that… our hearts beat, and our souls live forever….

Enjoy every moment… because before you know it .. it will be gone..

 

#MeToo Movement…


I personally think this is potentially a problem that we could have with our young generation going foward that they seem to lack how to communicate with each other.

 

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In the wake of the #MeToo movement and a rash of sexual-harassment scandals, software companies are creating digital ways for people to give their consent to have sex.

Apps such as uConsent allow potential sexual partners to tell each other what level of physical intimacy they are comfortable with and record their eventual agreement so there is no misunderstanding.

The apps are aimed at young people, particularly college students, who are comfortable using technology to communicate, surrounded by an array of potential sexual partners (and often ­alcohol), and relatively new to the nuances of sex.

Sexual-assault ­allegations aren’t uncommon on campuses:

  • one in five women say they have been assaulted while in college, according to the Campus Sexual Assault Study, funded by the US Department of Justice.

One in 16 men say they have. Often, those who are accused of sexual assault claim the sex was consensual, while those who say they were assaulted said they never agreed to the encounter.

  • The problem has prompted at least four US states — California, New York, Connecticut and Illinois — to pass laws in the past four years that require schools to teach students about affirmative consent, stressing that the message should be “yes means yes”, rather than the old “no means no”, according to the Affirmative Consent Project, a non-profit based in Florida that works to stop sexual assault in colleges and high schools.

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How to have a conversation about sexual consent

Decide what you want in advance. Be honest with yourself about what you are looking for;

  • it could be the type of sex or whether you want it to be casual or part of a continuing relationship.

It’s important to know what you want before you can tell someone else.

Make talking a priority. You probably shouldn’t be having sex with someone you can’t talk to openly about the experience. And you’re probably not going to have good sex, if you do. “If someone can’t talk to you about what they want or feel, they won’t be particularly subtle in expressing themselves physically,” says Paul Reynolds, a reader in sociology and social philosophy at Edge Hill University in England.

Start early. If you have a date but don’t want to have sex that night, tell the person beforehand. And give a reason. “I am eager to go out with you tonight but have to get home early.” This will make sure everyone is on the same page.

Be unambiguous. If you don’t want to have sex, don’t just say “no”. “Some men interpret ‘no’ as a play on modesty,” Reynolds says. He suggests saying: “I do not want to have sex with you tonight.” If you do want to have sex, talk about what you do and do not agree to do.

Listen for yes. “Anything other than yes is a no,” says Alison Morano, founder of the Affirmative Consent Project, a non-profit based in Florida.

Send clear signals. Men don’t always read sexual signals well, says Helen Fisher, a biological anthropologist who studies the brains of people in love. “They aren’t good at reading posture, gesture or tone of voice,” she says. “You have to be much clearer than you realise.” If you don’t want to have sex, she says, be mindful of all the signals you are sending.

Remember that you can say no at any time — even after sex has begun.

Consent is ongoing.

You can say yes one moment and no the next.

You don’t need an app for that.

Be nice.

Saying no to sex doesn’t mean you have to hurt someone’s feelings.

If the person is someone you might be interested in down the road, say so.

If you like that person I suggests saying: “I like you, but I am not doing it tonight.”

 

Harvey Weinstein’s ???


 There are not many voices speaking up in Harvey Weinstein’s defence.

I personally, think he is a really Ugly Dick!

 

Yet one of Britain’s leading novelists has voiced concern about the dangers of “mob” justice.

Ian McEwan said that he intended to maintain a “degree of scepticism” about the charges against the disgraced Hollywood producer until the evidence was set out at trial.

The Atonement author said that Weinstein appeared to be a “moral monster” but added that he was cautious about any accusations that emerge when a “whole mob is in full cry”.

A what did they say he appeared to be??? Nothing Moral about the MORON!!

Sorry I will be taking out a bit of rubbish the NEWS said today, about this asshole, so instead of me deleting I have created a new way of removing crap!!

A line through the typing – btw that is me    

McEwan’s comments were condemned as disturbing by equality campaigners, who pointed out that dozens of actors had gone on the record with allegations against the film mogul despite the risk to their careers. However, his views touch on a question that will be central to the criminal case against Weinstein: whether it is possible for the man who gave rise to the #MeToo movement to get a fair trial.

The producer has been charged with two rapes and a criminal sexual act for alleged incidents involving two separate women. Mr Weinstein, 66, handed himself in to police in New York on Friday. He has repeatedly denied non-consensual sex and intends to plead not guilty.

Asked about the case on BBC Radio 4’s Today program, McEwan, 69, said: “It seems a kind of circus to me. There is the media stuff, which we have to penetrate. We don’t know what actually happened; it seems he is a moral monster who has had his comeuppance but I always like to encourage in myself just a degree of scepticism once the whole mob is in full cry, so I am going to withhold judgments until I have heard the arguments in court.”

The novelist’s defence of due process drew criticism on social media as activists accused him of marginalising the experiences of women. Catherine Mayer, author and co-founder of the Women’s Equality Party (WEP), said that men such as McEwan “cry rough justice” about the treatment of alleged offenders while querying the testimony of their young victims.

“He’s seeing multiple women speaking about these things as a mob, when it is actually evidence of the crime at scale,” she told The Times. “I’m so sick of these supposedly great men of literature who are posited as great public thinkers but are not nearly as interesting as they think they are.”

The author Stella Duffy, also a founding member of the WEP, said that it was “seriously disturbing” for “comfortable white privileged men” to dismiss the #MeToo movement as a mob.

In New York yesterday, Mr Weinstein’s lawyer said that he had serious doubts about whether his client could obtain a fair trial. “One of my concerns is that by virtue of some of the publicity that has occurred … the ability for people to keep an open mind is of concern to me,” Ben Brafman said after a private hearing with a judge and prosecutors.

“I also think that the pressure that is being brought to bear on the district attorney’s office demanding that an indictment or prosecution of Mr Weinstein proceed is inappropriate.”

Mr Weinstein posted a $1 million cash bail and will wear an electronic monitor that tracks his movements.

What’s your thoughts on this Character??

Why did it take so long?

 

 

When self-worth is tied to one’s Sexual and Romantic relationship


Sexual Contingent self-worth (CSW) is self-esteem that is dependent on maintaining what one perceives to be a successful sexual relationship .

When individuals with greater CSW experience positive events in the contingent domain, they have better well-being.

However, if they perceive failures in the contingent domain (sexual domain), they have poorer well-being. One study found that individuals who reported sexual problems, such as PVD, had greater sexual CSW than those without problems.

Individuals with greater sexual CSW may perceive a sexual problem, such as PVD, as a failure in the contingent domain, which could be associated with poorer psychological, sexual, and relational well-being.

Both women with PVD and their partners report feelings of failure in the sexual relationship.

However, couples affected by PVD report being just as satisfied with their overall relationship as the general population. Basing self-worth on the overall relationship (relationship CSW) may serve a protective function for couples coping with PVD.

In our study, we wanted to examine the associations between sexual and relationship CSW and the sexual satisfaction, sexual distress, relationship satisfaction, and depressive symptoms of women with PVD and their partners, as well as women’s pain.

What did we do?
We had 82 couples complete an online survey that included validated measures of sexual and relationship CSW and the sexual satisfaction, sexual distress, relationship satisfaction, depressive symptoms, and (for women) pain during intercourse.

What did we find?

  • When women with PVD reported greater sexual CSW, they experienced more sexual distress and pain.
  • When partners reported greater sexual CSW, they were less sexually and relationally satisfied and more sexually distressed, and women had greater depressive symptoms and lower relationship satisfaction.
  • When partners reported higher relationship CSW, they were more sexually and relationally satisfied and less sexually distressed, and women reported lower depressive symptoms and greater relationship satisfaction.

What do these findings mean?
Results suggest that couples’ greater sexual CSW is linked to poorer sexual, relational, and psychological well-being in couples affected by PVD, whereas partners’ greater relationship CSW is associated with better well-being.

Thus, when couples coping with PVD base their self-worth on their sexual relationship, they may be more likely to experience the negative consequences that are associated to this pain condition.

However, if partners are more focused on the overall romantic relationship, this may serve a protective function for both members of the couple.

Findings suggest that sexual and relationship CSW may be important targets for interventions aimed at improving the well-being of couples with PVD. The results also highlight the importance of including partners in research and treatment for PVD.

It is important to note that this study was cross-sectional.

Thus, all of the associations could have been in the other direction.

For example, it is possible that when couples coping with PVD have poorer psychological and sexual well-being, they are more likely to have greater sexual CSW.

Further research is needed to help determine the direction of these associations.

Dear Candii, Relationship HIC-UP Line..


Welcome to The Candii Club,

I created this Blog to get a better understanding about myself to learn about my real self so I can finally help those who have suffered the same life experiences that I have endured from for all these years.

My journey has been a “Blessing in Disguise” it has taken me a very long time to finally live my life without regret and live it with a true idea of understanding.

I have to say from the bottom of my “True Self”,  “without those that have supported me throughout my journey thus far”, I would not be where I am today!

My lifes journey has been a lesson and has provided me with the understanding that “Living a Life full of Love & Laughter is the only way to live it!

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