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Shaving Away “Toxic Masculinity”

Now let’s talk about the new ad that seems to be causing so much of a ruckus!!!

To be perfectly honest I like this video I am still from that generation that believes in a male does have many rights of him being a man his honour, pride and sense of judgement will only come from his understandings while he grows.

This means if you do not allow a child to go through bullying, up against butt heads, and doffuses, I often wonder what type of male are you bringing into this world?

You would hope that there would be many different levels of shades but, it does go back to a lot of things as I am not a male however, my brother was disabled and if I which I did fight a lot of his fights as a child at home and in the playground there where times I walked away with him screaming at me saying help me, but, I had to because he had to understand what happens to another person if you do fight their battles for them!! 

Plus, just so you are all aware I knew the difference who he was up against as well, so he had a fair argument or fight with a few that really all you had to do is blow in their general direction… all I had to do is jump high and bounce on top of them usually with me hanging on their back and yelling “You touch my brother Bradley Denchem, Richard Hawley  and you will cop it from me… (like I used to do because I was a rather tiny little tot) he ended up finding out that they where easy to beat… always look out for your family and friends.. just saying 🙂

Usually, I would be thrown off and laughted at however, I was always given a hand to get up off the ground by them… so go figure… it taught me alot.. it made my laugh alot.. sorry I actually laughted alot at those numb nuts.. however, so did they at me… great mates as kids btw.. not a day went by that my knees, nor my head didn’t have a few black and blue marks.. but, I would never look at them as anything but, me being a bratt saving my brothers sorry sooky ass.. However, I will say one thing my brother saw me do it and what do you think with time he did? 

Yup, well, he had this shitty habbit and I had to never discount his brave nature he would find the biggest bully and say, this, oh god, “I am not scared of you, just because you can fight doesnt mean I wont be able to beat you, then he would laugh, hmm,” some how not so funny, really, and not that easy to get him away from “those bullies”, however, somehow I was always there.. god damn it… many, many, many, many, did I say many? Times…god shit poo… lol

We are not perfect however, us women should start being more feminine there seem to be too many females acting like males on behalf of our men that we spend our lives with.

I am one of them I said to my husband the other night if anyone hurts you emotionally, that is my main objection when it comes to him that they will be mine to take on because of that isn’t okay!

Blaming and shaming, one another especially our males isn’t cool, they require us to love them, support them, tell them that they are valued, which is something I have noticed that I do not do enough for my own husband.

That also will change!
When your a single mother or a girl that really only had herself to deal with the world it is difficult to step back and say nothing I so get that!

Very difficult for us to say nothing because frankly we are female and we end up saying too much it is hard for us to learn a new behaviour that will benefit as long as the person your withholds your hand and allows himself to trust you.

Trust is the answer and so is communication with every person on this Earth, without talking to one another how are we going to grow and understand how each other feels about things?  We cannot expect everyone to be “us” we have to forgive, we have to listen we have to adapt and perhaps learn a few new understandings, we cannot assume everyone should be mind readers, we are not your parents we did not hurt you, abandon you, we say things to one another that at times isn’t okay!

I know I seem to assume, put my 2 pennies worth of crap in, I tend to think that I know best all because of nothing but my own shit!  I get on my high horse and rant, rave, yell, a mindset of blocking others out and listening mostly to negative unrealistic bullshit!

I cut people off and hear a bit of a sentence then interrupt and say, yup say no more I then ramble about me… whoops, bad, not good, and it does not make friends either!!

Try to stop, listen and not judge others because you might be surprised to find out what really is ticking in a place that could potentially hinder, hurt and lame another person by muting their existence!

Not cool!

Change happens within a millisecond of saying nothing, so try and say little by allowing those that know about themselves by listening and allowing a female to be a female and letting a male be mindful of his needs because our men can be hurt too just like us girls.

  • Men are so silent it scares me to death to think what the hell is it that ticks them off!
    Men are so silent is it possible they have been hurt like us girls?
  • Can men be raped like us women? What do you think? Absolutely, and do you hear them cry? Do you hear them say a word to anyone?

Imagine if you allowed your thoughts to go there for a moment that our men can be hurting inside just like us girls.. how would you feel?

So, the Gillette is not a bad video… get grip wingers!!!

I like this video I still think that us women have alot of understanding and we must be aware that we could be better ourselves!!

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Gillette commercial that has so many people up in arms.

I couldn’t for the life of me understand what was so wrong about it.

To me, the idea of the commercial was to challenge one another to be better human beings.

To not be a bystander when there are toxic behaviours happening all around you.  Frankly, I loved the message

Spoiler alert for how the rest of the conversation went: He did NOT share my view.

His take was this:

  • He sees women as a protected class.
  • What would happen, he pondered, if the commercial implied that women were toxic?
  • His suspicion and I think he might be right here, is that Gillette would be done for. From his perspective, Gillette and the rest of the world are picking on guys like him.
  • Good guys that can’t walk around without feeling like they have done something wrong because they have male genitalia.
  •  He is sick of being portrayed as the bad guy all the time.
  • Even in trying to defend himself as one of the good guys, he felt that he came across as defending “toxic” behaviours.

He wasn’t being toxic.

He was just being him.

A man. And there is nothing inherently toxic

about that.

I get his point.

The trouble, as I see it, is the assignment of the word “toxic” to any particular gender.

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Women too can be toxic. Particularly where gossip is concerned.
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Toxicity is toxicity.

Males certainly don’t have a monopoly on bad behaviours.

Perhaps we need to rethink the assignment of the term “toxic masculinity,” as the definition is too easily expanded to offend people like my friend who feels as if his whole gender is under attack.

Toxicity doesn’t belong to a gender any more than it can be exclusively assigned to skin colour.

In fact, females, are often the drivers of exactly the behaviours we label as being “toxic” in males.

Female mate selection is complicated, but the driving characteristics of “good mates” haven’t changed throughout evolutionary history.

Females today demonstrate the same preferences for their sexual partners as their ancestors did. In short, we want protectors.

In experimental settings, women are generally more attracted to males with higher testosterone, and more aggressive/dominant tendencies.

Hmmm….in reality this means that as females, we may be selected for some of the behaviours we label as “toxic masculinity.”

While not a perfect correlation by any means, high testosterone is linked to extramarital affairs, high sex drive, aggression and fighting.

These “toxic behaviours” might be the direct result of our selections.

What message of “toxic femininity” might be sent by various magazines to their largely female audiences?

And what of the toxic femininity?

What do we do to one another as females?

As I was drinking my coffee this morning, I found myself flipping through one of my “girly” magazines.

I began noticing all the ways it made me feel imperfect.

All the other smiling females that looked back judgingly at me from the interior pages – all skin glowing, and tight stomachs, and perfectly shiny hair and makeup and I began to realize that this was the equivalent of males flexing at one another.

The readership of this magazine is 91% female.

These pages were made for me, to demonstrate how a female should look.

This could easily be labelled as toxic femininity.

Is there anything wrong with being in shape, and pretty and smiling?

Of course not! But could it be toxic in its interpretation by me?

  • Absolutely.

The idea that I had to meet some standard of perfection in order to be feminine is certainly a toxic formula – perhaps the same formula we assign to men (must you demonstrate your testosterone-laden tendencies in order to be masculine?).

  • Do females abuse one another with these standards?
  •  Do we gossip and put one another down and hurt each other by spreading vicious rumours?


Do we weaponize sex, and use it as a powerful tool to get what we want?

More than most of us will care to admit.

These behaviours aren’t exclusively feminine any more than bullying, catcalling, and abuse of power is exclusively masculine.

I’m not justifying behaviours on either side.

In fact, I’m condemning them on both sides.

There are toxic behaviours in the world. And certainly, some are demonstrated by one gender at disproportionately higher rates than the other, but it is the behaviour itself, not the gender that needs the label.

  • Yes, sexual harassment is toxic.
  • Yes, bullying is toxic.
  • Yes, intentionally hurting another human without cause is toxic.


But perhaps we need to put the labels in the right place.

On the behaviours.

We will need males and females as equal advocates in a fight to make the world a better, less toxic world for everyone.

FACTS vs. FICTION: Can Cannabis Use Help Ease the Symptoms of Menopause?

As cannabis reform continues to march its way into the mainstream, one of the fastest growing demographics of new cannabis users is folks between the ages of 50 to 64 years old.

Among this group, women take the lead, and in most cases, they aren’t terp-hunting or trying to make Family Guy funnier, but instead are seeking alternative forms of relief from the downsides of ageing.

Cannabis has been used medicinally by various cultures for thousands of years, but it is really in the past decade or so that the medical community has gotten onboard with weed and has begun to lend its credibility to what has mostly been anecdotal evidence up until now.

When many people hear the term “medical marijuana” their minds tend to go to extremes, like cancer or epilepsy treatments. Cannabis can certainly play an important role in helping to overcome such maladies, but the more we dig into the science behind the plant, the more ailments and conditions are found to be treatable with cannabis.

When women reach a certain age range, usually between 45 and 55, their body begins to undergo a series of usually less than desirable changes known as menopause.



Menopause affects over one billion women and symptoms may include problems sleeping, hot flashes, a reduction in bone density, increased irritability, decreased sex drive, and a higher risk of heart disease and breast cancer.

Traditionally, women have been told to just deal with it. It has become a stereotype for middle-aged women used as an excuse or a punchline for men who cannot relate whatsoever.

In the most extreme cases, Hormone Replacement Therapy, or Estrogen Replacement Therapy can be administered, but long term use has been shown to further increase the chances of bone disease or breast cancer. Because of this, doctors usually only recommend such treatment for 24 months or less, but even that is going to elevate risk levels of life-threatening diseases.


But new light being shone upon the many benefits of medical marijuana has revealed that when it comes to menopause, kush might be a lady’s best friend.

As you may now, all humans have within them something called the Endocannabinoid System. This network consists of CB2 receptors located throughout the body that are activated by cannabis in a process called “signalling”.

As a woman’s estrogen levels naturally drop during menopause, this signalling process gets weaker and the all-encompassing endocannabinoid system begins to break down.

Whether it is in men or women, young or old, the endocannabinoid system regulates our overall well-being in a myriad of ways – from how your mood is balanced when you talk to how your weight is balanced when you walk.

So when this system suffers, the side effects can be wide-ranging… like with menopause.


Since the endocannabinoid system works to regulate emotional responses, anxiety, depression, bone loss, and more, flooding those CB2 receptors with good ol’ fashioned cannabis can provide real relief.

The beneficial effects of cannabis use are found to be strongest in premenopausal women, though they can still realize substantial aid later in the process with increased intake of cannabis.

For those concerned with the potential psychoactive effects of cannabis use, alternative forms of use such as topical creams, balms, and salves can provide the healing benefits of the plant without the “high” usually associated with weed. Similarly, cannabis suppositories are also growing in popularity based on their effectiveness.

Both of these options are showing up more frequently on dispensary menu boards, but if they are not available, simple microdosing with cannabis flowers or oils can also do the trick. A little trial and error will allow menopausal women to dial in a dose that delivers the medicinal benefits without the buzz.

Additionally, cannabis use boosts natural serotonin signalling in the same receptors which can have a profoundly beneficial impact on occurrences of hot flashes and night sweats that can interrupt a healthy sleeping pattern.

This day and night relief, combined with the general sense of euphoria that cannabis tends to provide, can do wonders for the mood of a middle-aged woman, improving not only her quality of life but that of those around her.

And do we even need to tell you about sex on weed?

Let’s just say… it’s better!

The right dose of topical, edible, or even smoked or vaped cannabis about an hour before getting busy can stimulate the sex drive, increase sensitivity to the human touch, and provide a deep sense of relaxation and confidence that usually translates into spectacular sex.

For those who still opt for hormone or estrogen replacement regimens, cannabis use can help to offset the higher risks of bone disease and breast cancer.

Research conducted back in 2015 showed that the endocannabinoid system helps to build, grow, and preserve our skeletal system and that those same CB2 receptors play a crucial role in balancing bone metabolism.

So if you or someone you know is suffering from the effects of menopause, cannabis may be an all-natural remedy that can not only provide a higher quality of life, it can potentially lead to a longer life as well.


This article is part of our ongoing educational series covering the truth surrounding the many benefits of cannabis. You can read about more topics at the links below:

CANNABIS SUPPOSITORIES: https://www.beardbrospharms.com/news/2018/9/28/why-medical-marijuana-patients-should-consider-cannabis-suppositories

CANNABIS EDIBLES: https://www.beardbrospharms.com/news/2018/9/24/facts-v-fiction-can-i-overdose-on-cannabis-edibles

CANNABIS & BREAST CANCER: https://www.beardbrospharms.com/news/2018/10/10/facts-vs-fiction-does-cannabis-cure-breast-cancer

33 Symptoms Of Menopause That You Need To Know About

Here it comes again itchy skin, cannot sleep, over this crap!!!  And, to top it off not happy Jan!!
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When you ask women to name symptoms related to the menopause, they tend to mention three or four of them but it turns out there are 34 in total. From sleep disorders to vaginal dryness, these are just two of the symptoms Irish women face with menopause.

As the female body approaches the menopause, hormones begin to decrease in production. Because these hormones regulate various bodily functions, many women experience a myriad of unusual symptoms typically associated with ‘the change’.

According to a recent survey carried out by Regelle almost 1/3 of those affected by embarrassing symptoms of the menopause such as vaginal dryness, don’t even seek help from their doctor. Here’s a rundown on the other symptoms that you should probably know about.

1.Hair Loss

Hormonal changes can have all sorts of unexpected effects on the body and hair loss is one of them. Hair experts may recommend lifestyle changes but contact your doctor if you’re worried about it.

2.Weight Gain

You might start gaining weight around your belly. The key is exercising consistently. Ten minutes of gentle yoga or a walk on the beach will work wonders.

3. Brittle nails

One of the causes of weak nails is dehydration or lack of moisture in the body. Water is key and good shellac always works too – any excuse!

4.Sleep disorders

If you find you’re having trouble sleeping, try to avoid caffeine – found in coffee, tea and chocolate – besides keeping you awake, it may also trigger hot flashes.

5.Electric shock sensation

This one surprised us too! Relaxation techniques or a good massage can help relieve these strange sensations.

6. Allergies

You may develop new allergies and allergic reactions. Learn the reasons behind your allergies and you’ll stand a better chance of overcoming them quickly.

7.Burning tongue

Ask your doctor to check your iron levels and something as simple as an iron tonic can make all the difference and get you through these testing times.

8. Loss of libido

This can be one of the most difficult symptoms to manage, often because you might not understand how and why this is happening but it is extremely common and not unusual.

9. Vaginal dryness

One in Five Irish women says vaginal dryness affects their confidence, according to a recent survey from Kora Healthcare. This can result in being uncomfortable in the bedroom. There is nothing wrong with using a little aid to help you feel more comfortable between the sheets. Regelle is a vaginal moisturiser that comes in a discrete applicator giving immediate relief from vaginal dryness and discomfort. Vagina moisturisers have the benefit of lasting up to three days after application giving you long term relief.

10. Gum disorder

You can become more susceptible to gum disease following menopause. If you’re experiencing this, consult your dentist.

11. Mood Swings

The best place to start is to look at what and how you eat. This doesn’t mean you should go on a crash diet but rather get into a balanced routine of eating healthy.

12. Fatigue

A power nap is an essential tool to renew our mind and bodies. If your schedule allows; many women find it helpful to have a short 20 minutes nap during the day to reduce fatigue. Light exercise can also boost your energy.

13. Irritability

Avoid refined carbs and sugars to keep your blood sugar levels stable and your Zen in tact.

14. Memory lapse

Writing everything down, a ‘to do’ list and keeping a diary can help you stay on track when your memory is lapsing.

15. Dizziness

Green vegetables with lots of substance, such as broccoli and asparagus can help. A lack of vitamins B9 (folic acid) and B12 can cause this dizziness.

16. Bloating

Skip chewing gum and carbonated beverages: These can fill up your stomach with air, leaving you with a bloated abdomen and avoid smoking and alcohol if you can. Yoga employs a number of exercises as well as sitting positions and meditations that are great in eliminating gas and excess water that can lead to bloating.

17. Incontinence

You may not be able to control your bladder as you did before – pelvic floor exercises can help or your pharmacist can recommend a suitable remedy.

18. Night Sweats

Have a bottle of water by your bedside and try to avoid hot baths or showers within an hour of sleep.

19. Irregular heartbeat

Reducing your intake of caffeine can significantly reduce heart palpitations. Limiting consumption of stimulants, cigarettes, and alcohol can also remedy this.

20. Depression

Diet can help relieve symptoms of menopausal depression. Food like avocado helps because it boosts the production of serotonin.

21. Anxiety

The hormonal changes that happen during menopause can also drive feelings of anxiety. Try going for a walk in the park or burning lavender oil to ease your mind.

22. Breast Pain

Breast soreness should improve once your periods stop and your body no longer produces oestrogen.

23. Head Aches

Aim to drink about three litres of water every day to prevent dehydration and cut down on hormonal headaches.

24. Joint Pain

Fill your fridge with leafy greens and beans to ease the pain and avoid high impact sport.

25. Digestive problems

Digestive problems can be alleviated by something as simple as drinking more water or eating a balanced, fibre-rich diet.

26. Osteoporosis

Weight-bearing exercises (exercises that make your muscles work against gravity) are best for prevention of  osteoporosis and should be done 3-4 X per week, for 30 minute

27. Tingling extremities

A good, balanced diet, hydration, and adequate sleep are basic lifestyle measures that can help.

28. Change in body odour

This is a totally normal occurrence during menopause so don’t fret – shower regularly and invest in a good deodorant to help you smell and feel better.

29. Difficulty concentrating

The main reason why this occurs is that of an oestrogen deficiency. However, not getting enough sleep or sleep disruptions can also contribute to memory problems and cause issues with concentration.

30. Hot flashes

These are one of the most common symptoms of menopause. Invest in a portable fan and cool yourself down throughout the day.

31. Itchy crawly skin

There are some daily habits that can protect your skin from itchiness, such as avoiding the sun for too long and using tea tree, avocado, or almond oil for cleansing.

32. Irregular periods

Irregular periods are one of the first symptoms of menopause. Periods usually become erratic before they stop altogether.

33. Panic Disorders

You should first make sure your diet is healthy and has all the essential nutrients. It’s also a good idea to make sure that you get proper exercise and a good night’s sleep

Are Women or Men Better at Remembering things?

So, let’s see Women and men:

  • two halves of the human organism who come together in love, passion, harmony, complementarity, and unending competition.

It says a lot about our respective psyches that a book such as Men is from Mars, Women are from Venus became a bestseller.

Both sexes love the fact that we are different (vive la différence!) and based on that there is a (mostly) friendly rivalry.e4b3ca43c9f1052de5d55e57c1e046dc--mona-lisa-funny-monna-lisa

Enter to that rivalry a new study which sought to establish who has the better memory:

  • women or men?

We already know that around 75 percent of older adults report memory related problems.

In addition to aging in general, women report “brain fog” during menopause, but, overall, who has a better memory when it comes to middle age?

  • To study this, researchers gathered 212 men and women aged 45 to 55.
  • The subjects were given tests to assess episodic memory (autobiographical who, what, when, where, why knowledge that is the collection of past personal experiences that occurred at a particular time and place).
  • Executive function (the mental processes that enable you to plan, focus attention, remember instructions and juggle multiple tasks successfully), semantic processing (encoding the meaning of a word and relating it to similar words with similar meaning) and verbal intelligence (the ability to analyze information and solve problems using language-based reasoning).

The results showed … drum roll … that women outperformed age-matched men on all memory measures.


This is true even though premenopausal and perimenopausal women outperformed postmenopausal women in many key memory areas.

Looks like one that can be chalked up for women but, never minds, the men will forget it soon anyway.

Personally, I am better than my husband in so many ways memory, better looking (joking), funnier, taller (no I’m not!) smarter (hang on a momento), anyway, what was this post about again? I forgot! Doh!!!  he,he,he, (see I am funnier) 

Men’s Health is Important…& I will tell you why!!

Dear ladies,

I was chatting to my sister-in-law Katie, about “Men’s Health”, yesterday in fact we believe that there isn’t enough about our “Silent Suffers our Men” who work so hard and never complain about how they feel.

I believe they have a right just like us women and our dear children and our men that go to work every day, love us every day, complain very little every day have a right to feel, talk, cry, sob on our shoulders every day if they want.

I don’t believe there is enough for our Silent beautiful soul mates, who love us unconditionally, with their whole hearts and souls like my husband and your husbands and their best friends and their fathers and their father’s fathers.. you get my drift.

So, why should they suffer silently, without a whimper, without a cry or any type of complaint!

Anger, hostility and any outburst say it loudly remember they only have that pattern as being a man when they do say anything… sometimes it isn’t all about the rage it could be about their internal feeling of what they can’t say…

So, let’s be different and allow them their say, allow them a shoulder and allow them to be them without hurting themselves, without silently hindered, without killing themselves alone, without them harming themselves…

Not, really fair right?

This movie is about all of us who lost, loved, felt something for someone, knew someone that we loved remember grief will come from your subconcious that only knows what it knows..until you show it something new… Love them trust me they love us.. so if we don’t give we will loose apart of ourselves… it’s our human right as a female and as a man to hold each other… love each other and be their for each other.. the movie is brutal, horrifying, and unrealistic right, or am I?

Children, can even work it out…some movies are what they are made for…making your mind think better and then making your heart open to another dimention..think about it…unrealistic movie yes, indeed how else do we understand…???

This movie is about, grief, pain, suffering, listen to the music, stop and listen carefully to the words they use, its a movie but, it is more than that it is your mothers, that lost their sons and daughters, its your sister its your children its your husbands… listen to the words turn your back away for one moment and listen carefully to the words this movie is tell you something… “Listen please, just Listen”

So, remind your partners tonight when they are home after they have had dinner and go up to them and say, I love you.

Please tell me if you need a shoulder to cry on, a place to say what is wrong, and let me help you get help too (they will laugh, they will get annoyed but, say it to them anyway… so pace yourself and not go to anger when they do get annoyed.. say it anyway everyday….)

My husband did Movember they raised within a group of 25 over $25,000 within that month for a fellow father who lost his son from suicide and that to me was an effort that was amazing bless them for being our partners, friends, fathers, brothers and even boyfriends… bless them everyday for their efforts because without them we couldnt exisit

Love 3Wishes xxx


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For anyone wanting further information please go to the below link for men


Jimmy Barnes – listen to his story what a legend!! oldskool if he can say it, loudly like he loves to do… then so can any male on this Earth… good effort Jimmy, you’re a true legend

Sometimes when we don’t know something we don’t know it and that is okay, so make sure they know that they do have a choice, they have a right as a human being and as a partner, soulmate, friend, grandfather, brother, cousin, we all have a right to live and be loved… so love them, tell them, show them it is okay to show their emotions, it is okay to cry, sob, scream and tell us that they are hurting.. tell them that they are worth it…… because it could save them … just a thought ladies… they hurt just as much as we hurt… “Remember that okay, much love xx”

Men are Proud, so they should be.. it is their birthright!

Re-written due to too much of my own Italian/Irish heritage ..   I wrote this after reading this link so please read this before reading my post…


Men are born with a birthright and a responsibility to hopefully be with a supportive family, a strong and fair father that will raise his son with good ethics, morals, and ideas of what and how to live a happy and proud life.

I truly believe the above.. because this is the way to change our children by learning better behavior and being strong by having the guts to work on yourself before your children are born.

Now in saying that lovely kind and hopeful words for our kids, we sometimes don’t end up with the greatest mother or father or brother or even sister.

However, without being brutal and nasty about what they look like let me say this..

If I can do it you can too..

When we are children we are a gift to two or one people or none in some cases… some of us are lucky some are not I get that…it is our life and until we understand what is right and wrong most of us don’t know any better…

So, please note any type of abuse, isn’t okay, I want you all to understand that what I share I do it freely and I do it with a reason to paint you a picture.. so please do not send me rude nor abusive … rubbish.. because my story is mine and if you think that that behavior is something I would allow.. think again…

My lessons is that what happened to me did not nor  would it ever destroy my gifted life going forward and that in it’s self is my strength and I am very proud that I am happy, healthy, I have fallen risen, been amazing and probably will repeat because I value my own self worth because it is mine to value and do whatever I please and I do it with a smile and I do the best I can every day with the support of my husband who drives me with craziness but, supportive love and I thank him once I get it..

Everything happens but, you have to work extremely hard and your partner has to be able to support you, tell you also to pull your head in because at times I lose it and I have lost it often and also being very closed minded towards him..

That is not okay… to treat that person who loves you supports you and at times yes, he has the right to tell you that you are wrong.. I hate hearing it but, yes, I do need to hear it and accept it.. (baby steps.. please forgive me lol)

So, my healing was to learn about me and about those men that we adore and love and support too

So back to what I was referring too…

I read the above post on this person’s lovely post and I could not agree more with what was said, please I would love you all to view it and take a little time to say something because I believe it is so damn important and it isn’t going to get better by “most people”.

I say most because this post and many other posts that say it how it is about our beautiful handsome men that we love and care for who are the fathers of beautiful upcoming girls and boys who love them so damn much and the fathers that adore those children he supports, feeds, hugs, trying so hard every day.

My own father comes to mind when I say that last bit…


We seem as society of “too much”, and “not enough”, we are opinionated, harsh, some of us are angry, furious, bitter, twisted, nasty, selfish, some are bullies, abusive, judgemental, they sexually put their partners down, they also are the biggest wingers of today and make it difficult with their mean, spiteful jealous, hatred towards.. MEN..



Yes, women, no offence to those that don’t do this or have been abused\ it isn’t directed at those people.. this is directed at those others that hurt our society by being cruel to people men especially they make it so damn hard for them, why?

Women are not female anymore they are “numb, desperate, shallow, selfish gold diggers that swoop intake with a smile that isn’t real and fuck that men.. right, they made me who I am bullshit…

Blaming, Shaming, Stupidity and narcissistic behaviour all because of those in high places have said, let’s just remove the behaviour, they always have a cause, however, no solution, right?

Then suddenly after a few years of shaming they then have yet another problem which is how do we stop drug abuse? And, again, no solution!

Women, beautiful, soft, loving women, who adore there husbands and love their children and do the best jobs they do to support their loved ones… I applaud you.. I do, I just wish those other reptiles to shut up and stop being bullies because for some reason they seem to have the right to be abusive, cut off mens balls and eat them because apparently it’s protein?? (sick joke but, we have a sick society that will require more help and alot of good people will unfortunately commit heaven forbit suicides???!?!?!

STOP IT…. START … looking for solutions and stop making this a problem because mostly what your doing is going to be one day “You saying, I wish I was more caring towards my husband”, “I wish I was more supportive before he blew his head off with a shot gun”, I wish I listened before he was found swinging in a garage”…

All because someone said, they are men and have no right as a human to have Emotions, to be upset and release, to want a wife that loves him but, for some reason he should change himself all because of a wifes insecurity of her own selfishness.

I don’t get it???!!!

We live in a society where we have so many things to offer each other but, yet we are such a slow-moving race to stop the bull shit of others that want to Shame those that are just being themselves a male who what??

Wolf whistled while a beautiful girl walks by to the shops.. (but, we charge these men of harassment sexual apparently?)

Come on???

I believe in having my own opinion, I believe in each person being open, honest, loving, sexual (heaven forbid) I believe that we need to wake the fuck up or Ground Hog Day will keep occurring over and over and over again…

With no solutions but, many, many people killing themselves all because of our own behavior…

Why do you think that is???

It would be appreciated if people say something on this subject?

Or you could like, thank you, or even type a few words of something that is positive?


Sorry, this was directed to those that have a positive outlook on life going forward, right is that you?

Of course, many apologies to those that seem to have fallen into a pit, oh my did you just fall into your own shit?

Didn’t you just say that a man has no right to Emotions, feelings?

Of course, I will help you out of the deep hole that you put yourself in!

Why would I help?

Because although I do try my hardest to stop being a mole towards my husband, I do try to stop yelling at him … But, I will say one thing about myself I am waking up!!
I am trying my hardest to re-wire my brain by being the best I can be…  I adore my partner and men those that love to be who they are.. and we all have this right…

I have seen grown men grow.. to me that is fucking beautiful, Changing for the better to enhance themselves by having a supportive partner is all a person who want.. right?

So what the fuck are some of you doing by trying so damn hard to do the opposite of what your bloody well complaining about????????




Mental Health – We are Crazy… isn’t it AWESOME :)

I Love this have a listen it came from a blogger I will attach his details very cool so right…



I fell again and I can’t pretend
It’s like your darkness kind of drew me in
I see your pain and I’m just the same
One of those feelings you just can’t explain

Maybe you see the weight on my shoulders
Though I try to hide it all
But I wanna be your army of angels
Though I need ’em even more

Cause if you love somebody like me
Can only mean that you’re crazy
Just as crazy as me and
That’s why I love you baby
I’m not a superman and
I ain’t got no master plan
Let’s just take it all as it goes
Cause if you love somebody like me
You gotta be crazy

Two twisted minds, they think alike
It’s way more fun to skip the warning signs
My restless soul, it was all alone
But here with you I kind of feel at home

Maybe you see the weight on my shoulders
Though I try to hide it all
But I wanna be your army of angels
Though I need ’em even more

Cause if you love somebody like me
Can only mean that you’re crazy
Just as crazy as me and
That’s why I love you baby
I’m not a superman and
I ain’t got no master plan
Let’s just take it all as it goes
Cause if you love somebody like me
You gotta be crazy

We could pretend that everything’s normal
And just try to be friends
But baby you know we’d be drowning in
Boredom and we both know where it ends

We could pretend that everything’s normal
And just try to be friends
But baby you know we’d be drowning in
Boredom and we both know where it ends

Cause if you love somebody like me
Can only mean that you’re crazy
Just as crazy as me and
That’s why I love you baby
I’m not a superman and
I ain’t got no master plan
Let’s just take it all as it goes
Cause if you love somebody like me

Can only mean that you’re crazy
Just as crazy as me and
That’s why I love you baby
I’m not a superman and
I ain’t got no master plan
Let’s just take it all as it goes
Cause if you love somebody like me
You gotta be crazy (crazy)

Absolutely motherfucking crazy

And One Day She Opened her Eyes and said, Sorry to herself.

Mental Health issues in our Society are extreme and to perfectly honest I believe are uncapped to the point of where to do you start to look.

I believe this because I feel that in my own self and my own Mental Health issues that I seem to have.  I never thought that I would have these problems but, unfortunately, I seem to do for reasons that for the life of me I had no damn idea that even my own issues seem to be more visual than I had originally thought.

I have come along way to understand how my brain is wired and I feel that I am now just beginning to see them it’s a very harsh thing to say to yourself, “why do I think these ways, and how do I fix them”.

For many years I didn’t want to even think about myself as someone that could possibly be suffering from PTSD, in fact, I have avoided it like the plague.

No-one I am afraid can go through as much trauma as I have and not think for one moment that I should be okay with everything that I have either put myself through meaning drugs and alcohol I am trying my hardest to stop putting my head in the sand and start applying a better life to help myself and with me helping myself I will be able to help others “stop”.

All I guess I wanted to do is stop the pain that seems to sit inside my body, my heart and my soul and although it upset’s me as I type this and tell you my story well a little bit of my story I guess it is time for me to get better in a more healthier matter.

Mental Health if not checked and if not looked after by “good therapist”, Doctor, whichever, can help those that require it I must admit it will send you crazy and a little bit loopy, to say the least.

To be present isn’t as easy as most would think it means you have to stand up and say what you feel how it affects you and how it may affect others around you and to be honest it has affected others as well.

Many times I could have opened up and many times I could have been present, however, for some reason inside me I had thought it was about others standing up, I thought I was sick of me the one who was either at fault, or perhaps I wanted someone else to tell me something I wanted to hear and no-one ever did or was going too.

That hurt me so much I wanted to scream and even though it tears me up saying that it is exactly how I felt at the time.

This is what I wanted to say:

  • “Why is it always me being hurt, hit, bashed and made to feel that I was nothing to anyone”.
  • “Why can’t for once in my life someone else says it’s okay I am here to help you”
  • “I am not facing you, why should I ?” or 
  • “If you love me so much then why do you treat me like this?” or 
  • “Why should I even care if you don’t” 

And this is what I knew deep in my heart but, my feelings were numb and my eyes were blinded for so long EVEN I could not allow myself to see anything good, fun, spirited and adventurous like I used to do.


So many more above I could list but, I won’t list them because it really isn’t important, however, it is important to write about it to others that do suffer in silence.

You must remember that if you cannot help you, no-one is going to do it for you so please know that if you do not help you to get well then how the hell is someone else going to help you get better.

Here is a link I want to share with you – his suffering is different but, in all, we are the same everyone who suffers from Mental Illness, trauma and many other types like PTSD, we all suffer in silence…


Because we never knew we where sick!

So, I am sorry to myself for being so blinded in so many areas of my life and for the others well, that isn’t for me to share on here with you.

Thank you for listening and think about it.. because there are many that never tell this about themselves until it is too late.

Here is a man that I wanted to share with you, he has approved for me to share his story it is worth watching and of course, commenting or at least share it to other people who you might know that has an issue like him.



What is Love?

Love is a kind of chemical reaction, so you could never tell why it happens and you could never try to stop it by your own will. Love must have existed a long time before human beings developed language.

People always want to find a definite answer about what is love, so they keep asking each other and themselves. However, there is no person who can define what love is.

Every person has his or her own understanding of love, and a single person’s understanding of love may differ by time.

Love is a general feeling of deep caring that does not change (although the form of expressing it may alter).

I do not believe that we can force ourselves to love or not to love someone. We have the capacity to love many people.

For example, you can love your children, parents, friends, and ex-spouse.


what is love


Being “in love” with someone means that you feel a deep caring, you desire them sexually, and you want to spend lots of time with them.

If you truly love them, then you may change the latter two but you will always feel the deep caring.

On the contrary, like is specific and changeable.

Have you noticed that there are things that you liked in a person before but do not any more or vice versa?

  • You can experience both loves and like simultaneously since they are different feelings.

It is important to be able to say to someone, “I love you, and I don’t like what you are doing (be specific).”

This is especially important to children so that they do not get the wrong impression when you are angry.

They need a clear message that you love them (then they can feel lovable), and you do not like their behavior (then explain why).

Also, telling your children or anyone else, “If you loved me you would ____.,” is not love. It is a way of trying to manipulate or to control them because of your fears or concerns.



I have discovered that we all want to be loved, and to love.

That is, we all desire to be deeply cared about and to care about others.

True love is unconditional.

No matter what you or another person says or does, express your love and then deal with the specific disliked behavior.

What the world needs now is lots of love which is the opposite of fear.

Accept your and others’ differences.

Take the time to love yourself and others unconditionally, spread deep caring-that is the key to loving relationships and to a loving world.

There are certain characteristics we show when we are in love.

Selfless behavior shows that you are not just thinking about yourself, but that you’re also concerned about your partners’ needs as well.

You will be concerned about your partner’s growth in life, and become more supportive and understanding, even if you feel like being critical.

You will have a desire to forgive, and realize that no one is perfect in life.

Your love grows when you are able to focus on the good things about someone.

You will see both the positive and the negative side of someone, but you will love them no matter what.

When your partner does that little thing that irritates you, it will be easier to look past it.

You will realize that it’s not worth getting angry over and causing a scene.

Love allows for anger but in a controlled manner.

Love is about being able to compromise. If emotional pain was caused you’re allowed to let your partner know when they have done wrong.

Love is about caring and showing affection and intimacy towards the other person. You will have a romantic desire towards your partner, not a lustful desire.

With a romantic desire to be intimate and affectionate towards your partner, an emotional bond will grow between the two of you. It will become stronger over time and will bring you closer together.

What Does It Feel Like To Be In Love:-


Love is built on mutual interest, care, trust, and respect.

You will have a desire to be committed to your partner in any type of situation, such as one where infidelity may be a temptation.

Or even when faced with negative comments from others about your partner.

Your commitment will allow you to be faithful and true to your partner, and you will be willing to stick up for them at all costs.

It is important to realize that love is about expecting to give, not expecting to get.

You don’t have to buy your partner something nice every day, but you can do nice things for them often. Something as simple as a romantic dinner at home.

Give them a message with candles lit around the room.

The desire to give will make you feel great about yourself, and most importantly make your partner feel great.

A relationship grows successfully when both partners commit to behaving in a loving manner, through continual and unconditional giving.

Not only saying “I love you” but also showing it.

We experience love as a feeling, and express it as an action.

The thing that ultimately maintains our love and happiness in life is the energy that we get from inside ourselves.

Deep inside us is a wellspring of energy that is very strong in some people but very weak in others. Without that wellspring of energy, you may find it hard to continue on in the face of many problems and challenges in your life.

You may get discouraged or hurt very easily and find that you no longer feel the same way about your loved one that you initially felt.

Your first impulses of love may fade and your happiness may begin to wane.



A lot of things can aggravate the negative feelings that we have inside ourselves and we may think that the person we love is “no longer the same” or “doesn’t care about us anymore”.

You may begin to feel that everything is hopeless and fail to see any light at the end of the tunnel. Something has gone wrong and you don’t know what it is.

The problem that has befallen you is that you never found that wellspring inside of yourself but wrongly imagined it to be coming from someone else.

You were happy for a while but you didn’t really know why.

Those feelings of love and happiness weren’t coming from the other person!

You thought they were but, actually, they were coming from inside of you!

It’s true!

They were coming from inside of you!

Once that person begins to appear commonplace and boring, the feeling you had begins to fade.

You no longer feel the great feelings of love that were actually coming from inside of you to start with.

You decided to turn them off. Instead, you covered them up again and all you felt was a sense of darkness.

Real happiness comes from a heart that is so filled with genuine love that nothing on the outside can really affect it in any lasting way.

There are rare people who have practiced many techniques and teachings and learned to overcome their fears and their negative emotions to find a wellspring of energy inside them which is the real place that love and happiness come from.

If you are feeling discouraged or in need of an answer, look inside yourself for that wellspring and learn to face your fears and your challenges each day so that, over time, you will overcome the many problems that face you each and that face each and every one of us in life.

Life is a long road with many challenges and the winners learn to lift up their heads and go on even in the hardest of times.

Love and happiness are what make this world worthwhile, so let’s keep our head up and learn to be the person in charge of our own destiny.

We are truly the ones who are in charge and we can make it an award-winning movie that everyone will pay to see!


Falling In Love



Two people who genuinely love each other may fall in love because of the burning desire and passion to be with each other or to live close to each other.

Finding love is a tricky sentiment.

There are some things that feel like love, but they are too much exterior to be the real thing. “Real love takes time and doesn’t take place overnight”.

Love is never logical or easy. People fall under the spell of love for many reasons.

Opposites can attract, and while it may seem unusual to the outside world, you can be completely wrapped up and oblivious.

When you find love it can make anything seem potential and possible to do.

Deep within us, there seems an emptiness that not even a hundred lovers could fill, yet there still is an expectation. Your dreams can come true.

True love is so precious and valuable that it is said, “True love is not something that comes every day, follow your heart, it knows the right answer”.

True love can take time to grow, or it can evolve in the pair’s first encounter.

When 2 hearts gather for the first time a lot of magical things can happen.

There are stories of an eye-to-eye spark, this is when you are overcome with excitement by just looking at someone across a room, and this also can evolve into true love.

There are two kinds of sparks, the one that goes off with a hitch like a match, but it burns quickly.

The other is the kind that needs time, but when the flame strikes… it’s eternal, don’t forget that.

After first sight, the two people will ultimately have to talk to each other.

If you don’t feel that certain spark it’s probably not meant to be.

Most couples who have spent a significant amount of time building their relationship with each other eventually fall in love. It’s a natural evolution of their bond.

But, it’s also an indefinable stage that is often difficult to identify. Millions have asked themselves, “Am I in love with my partner?”

  • Some are confused by what that means.
  • Others misinterpret harmful emotions (for example, jealousy and obsession) as love.


Understanding The True Nature Of Love:-

Often it’s easier to define love based upon what it isn’t.

A lot of people mistakenly think that certain emotions they’re feeling represent love. For example, lust is commonly thought to signify something more than it is.

Or, one partner may be so passionate about the other than physical or emotional abuse occurs in the relationship. Neither instance signifies love.

When you love somebody, the feeling transcends the physical.

You feel attached to the other person in a way that you don’t feel with others.

The level of physical and emotional commitment is greater than with anyone else.

And while love translates into intimacy, the willing vulnerability to which you expose yourself to your partner dwarfs that which you experience in all other relationships.


Trust Grows:-

While love can encompass a myriad of qualities, mutual trust is one of the most important.

And it expands much further than simply trusting that your partner won’t cheat physically. In this context, it means that you trust your partner implicitly.

You trust that he or she will not betray you or the relationship on a physical or emotional level.

As your love grows, so too does your level of trust.

Eventually, that trust reaches the point at which you’re unable to even conceive of your partner betraying you.


Intimacy Issues:-


intemacy issues

Intimacy issues plague many couples.

But, it’s important to understand what true intimacy is.

And it’s equally important to realize that issues surrounding it don’t necessarily preclude love.

For many couples, a lack of physical intimacy may be a problem, though they love and trust each other implicitly.

  • Issues involving emotional intimacy are often more severe.

For example, an emotional disconnection can be a warning sign that love is waning.

  • A lack of communication may also represent deeper issues.


Signs That You’re In Love:-

So, how do you know when you’re in love? Unfortunately, it’s often hard to tell because it involves two people so deeply on various physical and emotional levels.

That said, there are signs. For example, if your partner is late, your initial reaction may be a concern for their safety.

Or, you may begin to miss them horribly when they’re away.

Also, small things may constantly remind you of your partner.


Enjoying Your Partner:-

A true manifestation of love is found in the level of commitment, trust, physical and emotional intimacy, and mutual attachment that you enjoy with your partner.

It’s a confluence of several factors and any one factor does not, in and of itself, represent love.

Some claim that loving your partner is more than mere emotion.

It is, in effect, a choice that you make.

And that choice helps to sustain the relationship during times when any one of the above factors falters.

In the end, falling in love is about enjoying your partner on a level that no other person can hope to experience.

It’s about being vulnerable, yet trusting.

It’s about sharing yourself physically and emotionally, knowing that the commitment will be reciprocated. Falling in love is a natural progression toward a lifetime with your partner.

The 10 kinds of Men’s Mamouth Members… women love


There are different kinds of dicks and they provide women with different levels of pleasure,

Not all penises are the same, and not all of the pleasure a woman the same way.

There are different kinds offering different levels of pleasure.

Lovepanky reveals what women love and why.

1 The Grower. We all know this as one of the two most-prominent classifications of the penis. This is the more discreet type, because you never know just how long and big it can go unless you go all the way with the guy.

At first, it might seem small, but rub it just a little and it grows 2 to 3 times its flaccid size. Magic!

2 The Shower. These are those dicks that seem mighty impressive and imposing even while in pants. The shower types are really showy, but when they get hard, the initial size and length aren’t any different.giphy (5).gif

3 The Banana. Well, the name is a giveaway. This kind of monkey pole is shaped and bent just like a banana. They may be dangling straight out when flaccid, but when they get hard, they bend down. This may make it appear small, but try it out for size; you might be surprised by how perfectly it rubs against your clitoris, and even your G-spot, with every thrust.

4 The Thor. This penis isn’t all big and ripped like the comic book hero. We called this penis type Thor because it’s shaped like a hammer. The head is big and the shaft is small, like a mushroom. This dick is perfect for touching the entirety of your vaginal walls—and, with shallow thrusts, your G-spot.

5 The Shroom. The mushroom manhood looks much like The Thor, but with more, shall we say exaggerated features. It is typically smaller in size, and the head is more rounded, like an umbrella or a mushroom cap. To get the most of it, you’d better opt for doggy to allow for deeper thrusting, while making the base gratifyingly rub against your clitoris.

6 The “S.” This is a seemingly slithering purple monster because it bends to one side and the other in an “S” shape. Despite its distorted shape, don’t write off this schlong as a freak of nature, because it may just make you a freak in bed. Depending on him and how he can make the most of his package, you can achieve “O” due to the tingling effect this shape brings.

7 The Chode. Wider than it is long, it is the Danny DeVito of penises. But don’t be turned off by this stump just yet. Though it can be very wide and typically stands at 4 to 5 inches, it can be very pleasurable, as it will satisfactorily fill every nook and cranny of your vagina. With deep thrusts, you can achieve maximum climax with this little fellow. Just be sure to have enough lubrication.

8 The Pencil. This love rod is, indeed, as straight as a rod. It appears straight and slim like a pencil. Its head is also almost the same width as the shaft, making it look very sleek and elongated. While this can be long, “wide” ladies won’t get much of that friction they need to get off. It can also poke your cervix, making sex painful. A woman on top and spooning are good positions.


9 The Carrot. The Carrot is perhaps the most desirable penis for women. It is slim in the end and gradually becomes thick at the base. The head is smaller and the shaft is bigger, forming a soft triangular shape that gives gradual pleasure to any woman in any position. Penetration is easy and sleek, but as the stiffy goes in deeper, the “ooh la la” sensations increase.

10 The Angry Wrestler. This penis seems angry when erect because it has veins popping out all over it. It looks veiny, but a sexier way to put it is “angry.” So this angry old chap can turn you on as you take in the veins lining up its length. There’s something primal and raw about this member, and you may even feel a slight, yet surprisingly awesome-feeling, throbbing of the veins inside you, giving you a subtle vibrating effect.

Why women love your penis just the way it is

It is a known fact that men are weirdly obsessed with their penises. They worry about the size, shape and even girth.

We have news for you: if your woman keeps coming back for more, even though you find your penis unappealing, it might be because she loves it for the reasons below.

MensHealth presents the hidden benefits of the ‘imperfect’ penis below;

Penis Predicament: Too Smallgiphy (1)

The Advantage: There are two positives to having a small dick. One, it may make anal easier on her. And two, it can make her more enthusiastic about oral sex.

“I love anal, but I’ll only have anal with small guys because I’m not a freaking masochist,” says Michele, 37.

And small wieners are easier to fellate. “Giving a normal size penis a blow job is hard on your neck, jaw, and lips,” adds Michele. “But I can go down on my small guy for as long as it takes.”

Penis Predicament: Too Thick

The Advantage: Your massive man-meat may intimidate her at first. But if you spend enough time in foreplay, not only can you fit, but you may actually feel better to her.

Girth is perhaps the most important part of the penis when it comes to pleasure in women. More girth leads to more vaginal satisfaction, as the extra girth increases pressure on the vagina walls.

Amy, 34, couldn’t agree more. “The first time I saw my boyfriend’s penis—it was like water-bottle thick—I said, ‘No way is that going inside me,’” she says. “Then once we eased it in, it was the best feeling ever.”

the ‘O’shot for women- Increases Sexual Response AND… for MEN the “P”shot!!

Just in case you are wondering what that is.. it “Jump Starts a Vagina”, gives life back to your loins…. sounds intesting, not that I require it atm but, something to think about later… or perhaps put it this way… Imagine Vagina on Roids.. wow lol

The O Shot is an all-natural, painless non-surgical procedure that can rejuvenate and revitalize vaginal and clitoral function, giving you dramatically improved sensitivity and significantly enhance your sex life.
Many women lose urine while coughing, laughing, sneezing or exercising. It can be an embarrassing and frustrating problem. Because the O Shot procedure offers rejuvenating capabilities, there is help available without the need for invasive surgery.

Ideal candidates for the O shot procedure are women who seek:

  • Stronger Orgasms
  • Increased Sexual Desire
  • Increased Natural Lubrication
  • Decreased Urinary Incontinence
  • More Orgasms

The injection to the O-Spot® rejuvenates the vaginal tissue to enhance sexual response and cure urinary incontinence.

Genital Tissue Rejuvenation by O-Shot® Australia

The O-Shot® augments and rejuvenates the G-Spot, clitoris and labia.

The O-Shot® Procedure is well-known in the United States for helping intergenerational women of all ages and backgrounds.

The O-Shot® procedure is a simple, nonsurgical, physician-administered treatment. It takes very little time and does not require ongoing medication.

If The O-Shot® procedure is available for women surely there must be a similar procedure for men?

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There certainly is and it is called the P-Shot® (Priapus Shot after the Greek God of fertility).

The procedure is also performed by a trained and qualified medical practitioner and it is just as quick and relatively painless as The O-Shot® procedure.


So, if the P-Shot® does what it should, then using it on the penis should result in all of the following:


  • Immediately larger
  • Strengthen the penis
  • Straighten the penis
  • Increase circulation within the penis for a healthier organ
  • Make other therapies work better (if you still need Viagra or Cialis, then it will work better for you)
  • Increase sensation and pleasure (helps correct the damage from diabetes)
  • Proven to work in multiple studies
  • Increase size by design (Can place more in base or in the head or wherever makes for best result)
  • No allergic reactions (using your own body’s fluids)
  • No lumpiness
  • Minimal pain (no burning from the PRFM since it’s from your own body)

Remember, both the O-Shot® procedure and the P-Shot® procedure are performed by a trained medical professional so you can be comfortable that you are getting informed, professional advice and care.



Beautiful Quotes….

I have borrowed these from a great Blogger link below to the person who inspired most of these quotes…life-quotes-inspiration-i-just-want-friendship-we-have-something-so-special-and-both-be-through-so-muc


“Never ruin someone’s life with a lie, when your world can be destroyed with the truth.”

Tell them…

“If you love someone, tell them. Because hearts are broken by the words unspoken.” 

Enjoying sex…

“Enjoying sex doesn’t make you a whore, just like being a virgin doesn’t make you saint.” 

A good man…

“Allow a good man to ruin your lipstick, not your mascara.” 

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“God created sex. Priests created marriage.”
– Voltaire

Lay me down…

Lay me down,
get ready to play,
clear your calendar,
to make love all day.

Start with kisses,
touch me low,
caress me tight,
as we take it slow.

Cat fight


“No matter how much cats fight, there always seem to be plenty of kittens.” – Abraham Lincoln6dd056fa77d441b87e2deffa867f35ef.jpg

Master Your Passions




“The happiness of a man in this life does not consist in the absence but in the mastery of his passions.” – Lord Tennyson Alfred

SLut-o-us Shame, Shame Shaming….

Hey Candii here,
Firstly, you would have to be insane than call me a SLUT out in public, plus it better be only used in a  sentence that I am wearing latex, fish nets with knee-high boots, which I do…
However, only at home with my husband…..  I would beat the living crap out of you if anyone that was using this would towards me….. Be afraid my dear girl or boy, you better either hide your ball sack or your ver jay jay if you used this towards me…. or RUN…

Let’s talk Mamma-to-Mamma…. Girl-to-Girl…. sister-to-sister…

In my opinion slut shaming, especially woman to woman, (sister to sister!), is completely unacceptable.

Woman have been fighting for sexual equality for decades, and each time one woman calls another a slut with the intention to insult, we take a leap backward.

We lose the support we’ve been giving each other, and we lose credibility.
It’s blatant hypocrisy.

Just don’t fucking do it! Get informed and then engage in meaningful, goal-oriented discussion about women and sexual promiscuity in today’s society.
Define the objective, and never lower yourself to a standard of hurling insults just because you may not have solid points to argue.

Better still, if what she’s wearing, or how she’s behaving, doesn’t affect you directly, don’t even worry about it.

Don’t understand why some women like having lots of sex? News flash – You don’t have to!

I have been labeled this title many times let me tell you why this occurred
My first shamed label was because I walked by a group of young adults when I was about 18 at a Sunday Session with my “like-minded” girlfriends.

It was stated by a female that saw her boyfriend say out loud “shit she’s hot”
I was 18, slender, I wore a pair of stone washed jeans a jumper and a pair of suede black stiletto boots my hair was long sandy blonde and I weight at that time would have been 52 kilos.

Looking back I remembered what this girl wore stonewashed jeans, black lovely flat boots, a jumper and she had long dark hair she was a model and worked for a local newspaper.

She was beautiful and should have no reason to use words that put other sisters down.

Now I will tell you what I did when she did this (remember I was only 18)

Once I heard her say this slut-shaming word to me….. I was so angry and shocked mainly because I knew this girl and I also knew she was respected, popular, wore the most amazing outfits. and she really had no reason to say such demeaning words to put down another because of a man said something that made me feel “yeah”.

So, I walked up to her and instead of saying anything I hugged her and gave her a kiss on her cheek.

Her anger left her face and she was shocked by my behavior I then went to walk away and then she tapped me on the shoulder and said I am so sorry.

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What do you think of the above ?
Do you agree or do you disagree?
Do you think us women are making other women harder to fit into a male dominant society?

Competition time to Challenge those that think they can do this…….. more to come later….GRAND PRIZE TO THE WINNER!!!

Hey Candii here,

Competition Time……

I have a Challenge for those who think they are worthy of entering this COMPETITION, this is based on your deepest, hidden, secret, no-one has ever heard this spill from your lips Ever!

More to come… So, get your pen’s out …. I want to hear……. TBC… more to come about this competition… you must be over the age of 21 years.

Are you interested in what I have in mind for those who wish to be part of this Competition, and yes, there is a prize Gift for you.

So, firstly this is OPEN to ALL, so no-one on apart from those who are under the age of 21 years of age, which I believe should be older enough to do this.

What do you think I am wanting from those who wish to take up this challenge and win a gift to the value of $200.00

The WINNER will recieve a GRAND PRIZE, that you will all love so it doesn’t matter if you are a girl, boy, both, none, this prize will be perfect for the one who takes up this challenge and wins First Prise, there are clauses to this competition I do have to have over 25 people to send me what is going to be the most exciting Competition that you will want to enter…

So, watch this space and I will tell you later during the week what you will have to do..

Grand Prize is to be Confirmed… later..

More to come with this Competition later……… Candii xxx

The clauses are:

  • You must be over the age of 21
  • You have a flare to writing well
  • Must understand this site is for those that look out of the box
  • Only those that are worthy will be put into a draw to win the Grand Prize
  • Please only those that are interested in hearing more add your details below
  • Only those that have a KINK level of Sexual only apply
  • Do you want to win a Prize over the value of $250?
  • This isn’t going to be easy… however, that is the thing nothing is EASY, now is it?

Only those that think they can please put your details below this Competition is only valid if I recieve over 30 people, that send me a submission of interest..

Are you worthy of being The First Candii Clubs, VIXON, DOM, Master, Slave, Submissive, Kinksters, Swingers couples, this is all to cum…

So, please share this to your friends facebook pages and word press pages… and if you are not in it… then you will not WIN IT…… TBC on Friday for more information……….


What would you say on a dating site…

Perhaps I would say this…..or would I????

Although we are new we are not new if that makes sense, to this scene without going on about us as a couple I wanted to share with you a few things about me.

I am a very open fun and at times to some a little crazy, however, that is me, I have always been like this since time began…   I do drive my husband nuts, however, that is my observation of me, not of what he thinks of me…

If I do then he will tell you, and I will probably tell him to go for a flying leap of the next cliff (lovingly of course)

Why are we on here… hmm, interesting question… I really had no idea this was place was so bloody open… never heard of so many men wanting (xxx) with married couples???

…that was a shock to me… to be perfectly honest… to think I had thought we as a couple would be unique and to find out …. There is millions of you everywhere… where have I been?

I said, to my husband the other day, to be a “swinger as a man” so easy for you guys, let’s face it, it was your single life!!!

For me swinging isnt my thing nor hubby however, I think men would say those things to stop you from going…ooooooahhhhhhhhhhhhhh did you just say that??

How… funny?!

One-night stands… even us girls at times… well, a few for me but, geez, once, twice… shrug…

But, for men… simple Simon… and bang… I remember those days, men just could do this… women however, not so easy!!!

So, here we are.. hubby and I… sigh, well, this is the most honest I have broken down our “intro”, so many times, and I am still doing it…

“To answer your question… we have not had a XXX, yes it interests us, does it? yes, of course it does, silly me, lost my head for a momento….however, for me, I am struggling with it, why?

Because, my wiring is a little different … let’s just leave it there… oh, yes, a lot picky btw…

Perhaps a little old fashioned, nasisitic, passive aggressive, what else can I put…sheeesh… I am sure I will find something…

Call me what you like… crazy, weird, picky, whatever, I am what I am… so be it…..get over it…

Now… if my husband wants to add something well that is up to him………………….the above is me… his painful, loving, stubborn assed wife, winging, moaning, open, crazy, funny, real wife… ME!

How interesting if I did put the above …. just testing the field.. what is out there.. how people tick and what other thing I can add to this platter of latter….

Psst…However, if I had my choice….. you know who I would pick, but, No, means no right ?!


Husband it is your turn …………………TBC…


Now that would be an interesting dating site intro…. however, would I ever really put such things….NEVER…???.

The Secret Warning Hidden In Your Horoscope, Based On Your Zodiac Sign


FOR THOSE 3 THAT ARE STUCK……….Start doing…… and planning and most of all having the best time in your lives.. and for gods sakes believe in yourselves… 

I didnt do these below but, they seem pretty good….. continue…. love Candii xxx



ARIES (March 21-April 19)

Take a break from being so moody and impatient. You will find yourself enjoying the good times more if you aren’t wishing things away by being constantly rushed and uptight. Let go and just trust in the intent of the universe, because things might be bumpy ahead.

TAURUS (April 20-May 20)

Stop fighting your successes just because they weren’t what you originally thought they would be. Everything happens for a reason, and even if you can’t see it clearly now, the reasons are valid. It is okay to not have everything go exactly your way all the time: compromise makes people like you more.

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GEMINI (May 21-June 20)

Something big is about to happen. Don’t panic, though: just remember to breathe and trust your instincts. If all else fails, be aware of those around you and let them be a guiding light. You’ll find your way through, just stay patient and stay the course.

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CANCER (June 21-July 22)

Careful not to get too wrapped up in the business affairs of others: it can lead you down a dark path. Take some time to “smell the coffee” and really think through what your stuff is and what belongs to someone else. Nobody likes to carry around any extra baggage than needed.

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LEO (July 23-August 22)

Hard times ahead: you are going to find yourself with too much going on that is outside of your control. Don’t fight for your place or try to push others out to grasp control. The right time will come and others will eventually see that they are ignoring a good resource (you).

VIRGO (August 23-September 22)

Watch that you don’t let your emotions take control, let them merely serve as a guide for you without becoming overwhelming. If you find yourself in circumstances that make you feel annoyed or restless, remember to revisit your true motivations and ideals. Use your wise mind to make the best decisions, you need both your rational brain and emotions to plan the best path for now.

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LIBRA (September 23-October 22)

You hate change, but it is time to make it happen. It is okay to visit your inner child from time to time, and in this instance, it might be necessary.

Negative emotions are ahead. Be sure to focus on self-care and don’t be afraid to reach out to a trusted friend if needed.

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SCORPIO (October 23-November 21)

Watch out, someone is going to “move your cheese.” Hold tight to your brain and common sense, simply allow circumstances and emotions to come and go as needed while reminding yourself that you will maintain stability. With so many changes and with things feeling off or misplaced, you’ll need to constantly remind yourself of the stability that still exists inside.

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SAGITTARIUS (November 22-December 21)

Careful: don’t put the cart before the horse. It is important to take time to settle into your emotions and connections with others before diving in with words and promises that your heart may not agree with. You may also find that allowing yourself to look within allows you to better care for yourself and your health, something you may desperately be needing right now.

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CAPRICORN (December 22-January 19)

You need to calm down, slow down, and use your talents as intended to best serve your life, not simply the lives of others. You must stop causing yourself stress from holding too firmly to something that should have been left in the past. Without a good foundation, it is impossible to build a home.

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AQUARIUS (January 20-February 18)

This can be a troublesome time for you and tensions may rise. Be careful to listen and genuinely hear the viewpoint of others before growing irritated and jumping to conclusions. Be willing to compromise if needed to restore harmony and bring a better balance to your life.

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PISCES (February 19-March 20)

You are going to soon find yourself challenged to think about your true mission and purpose in life and might need to be prepared to make some changes. If you continue to remain tied to the past situations that you should have set down long ago, you will find that the upcoming changes in your life are going to be that much more difficult to bear.

Fran’s thought for today.. Embrace your Life… and Live it…. xxx

Imagine a life that you are so loved and appreciated for who you are it would be perfect right!

Alot of us including me have said alot on here but, I am going to share some fact about what I am about, I love people, love them to bits, I cannot and will not ever understand why people want to be something they are not!

We start our journey when we are born and sometimes it’s bumpy, horrid, happy, amazing, funny, and sometimes there are alot of our past that means so much with amazing memories.


However, I seem to see us all dwell on those times that have given us grief but, we seem to forget those other times that makes us “smile, laugh, giggle, roll around on the ground with fits of laughter”, those precious moments with your family, friends, those moments that where amazing, rediculous and darn right shocking!

I believe this, sometimes we see beauty, love, great amazing moments with loved ones but, those times when we feel so damn sad it breaks our hearts, and stops you in your tracks with dispair.

I should know I felt every, bit of them these last few months however, that noise that once was so loud, horrible that made me want to crawl into fetal position on the ground seem like a dim memory thank god!

As time goes on for me I believe that this feeling I used to feel will pass and hopefully with beautiful thoughts of walking forward will be the best times, well that is what I am hoping for.. and why the Hell not!

I wish I could fix everyone and hopefully with time and understanding maybe those few that I come across I will do my best to help them of course we cannot fix the world even though I once thought in my tiny “big ideas franny” head.

I am just a very simple chick with an open heart that cares alot about people and I share things not to shock you more to open your eyes to possibilities that you may never have thought possible or even thought before about.

It’s not that I want you all to go out there and do all those things I write about its more about awareness of what is out there, what could be something possible without those darn labels, rude remarks and slandours comments some people use when they don’t understand something or are afraid to even possibly think is possible.

We all have a right to live our lives the way we want to.. if that means that I like hanging naked upside down with a pink bikini then I will and if I want to share with you pictures I will…

Laughing, which I don’t and probably more likely wont, but, you get what I am saying I hope..hehe, just live your short beautiful life and a happy, smiling, loving and open mind.

Our minds and our hearts are the breath in our souls..

Remember that… our hearts beat, and our souls live forever….

Enjoy every moment… because before you know it .. it will be gone..


#MeToo Movement…

I personally think this is potentially a problem that we could have with our young generation going foward that they seem to lack how to communicate with each other.



In the wake of the #MeToo movement and a rash of sexual-harassment scandals, software companies are creating digital ways for people to give their consent to have sex.

Apps such as uConsent allow potential sexual partners to tell each other what level of physical intimacy they are comfortable with and record their eventual agreement so there is no misunderstanding.

The apps are aimed at young people, particularly college students, who are comfortable using technology to communicate, surrounded by an array of potential sexual partners (and often ­alcohol), and relatively new to the nuances of sex.

Sexual-assault ­allegations aren’t uncommon on campuses:

  • one in five women say they have been assaulted while in college, according to the Campus Sexual Assault Study, funded by the US Department of Justice.

One in 16 men say they have. Often, those who are accused of sexual assault claim the sex was consensual, while those who say they were assaulted said they never agreed to the encounter.

  • The problem has prompted at least four US states — California, New York, Connecticut and Illinois — to pass laws in the past four years that require schools to teach students about affirmative consent, stressing that the message should be “yes means yes”, rather than the old “no means no”, according to the Affirmative Consent Project, a non-profit based in Florida that works to stop sexual assault in colleges and high schools.


How to have a conversation about sexual consent

Decide what you want in advance. Be honest with yourself about what you are looking for;

  • it could be the type of sex or whether you want it to be casual or part of a continuing relationship.

It’s important to know what you want before you can tell someone else.

Make talking a priority. You probably shouldn’t be having sex with someone you can’t talk to openly about the experience. And you’re probably not going to have good sex, if you do. “If someone can’t talk to you about what they want or feel, they won’t be particularly subtle in expressing themselves physically,” says Paul Reynolds, a reader in sociology and social philosophy at Edge Hill University in England.

Start early. If you have a date but don’t want to have sex that night, tell the person beforehand. And give a reason. “I am eager to go out with you tonight but have to get home early.” This will make sure everyone is on the same page.

Be unambiguous. If you don’t want to have sex, don’t just say “no”. “Some men interpret ‘no’ as a play on modesty,” Reynolds says. He suggests saying: “I do not want to have sex with you tonight.” If you do want to have sex, talk about what you do and do not agree to do.

Listen for yes. “Anything other than yes is a no,” says Alison Morano, founder of the Affirmative Consent Project, a non-profit based in Florida.

Send clear signals. Men don’t always read sexual signals well, says Helen Fisher, a biological anthropologist who studies the brains of people in love. “They aren’t good at reading posture, gesture or tone of voice,” she says. “You have to be much clearer than you realise.” If you don’t want to have sex, she says, be mindful of all the signals you are sending.

Remember that you can say no at any time — even after sex has begun.

Consent is ongoing.

You can say yes one moment and no the next.

You don’t need an app for that.

Be nice.

Saying no to sex doesn’t mean you have to hurt someone’s feelings.

If the person is someone you might be interested in down the road, say so.

If you like that person I suggests saying: “I like you, but I am not doing it tonight.”


Harvey Weinstein’s ???

 There are not many voices speaking up in Harvey Weinstein’s defence.

I personally, think he is a really Ugly Dick!


Yet one of Britain’s leading novelists has voiced concern about the dangers of “mob” justice.

Ian McEwan said that he intended to maintain a “degree of scepticism” about the charges against the disgraced Hollywood producer until the evidence was set out at trial.

The Atonement author said that Weinstein appeared to be a “moral monster” but added that he was cautious about any accusations that emerge when a “whole mob is in full cry”.

A what did they say he appeared to be??? Nothing Moral about the MORON!!

Sorry I will be taking out a bit of rubbish the NEWS said today, about this asshole, so instead of me deleting I have created a new way of removing crap!!

A line through the typing – btw that is me    

McEwan’s comments were condemned as disturbing by equality campaigners, who pointed out that dozens of actors had gone on the record with allegations against the film mogul despite the risk to their careers. However, his views touch on a question that will be central to the criminal case against Weinstein: whether it is possible for the man who gave rise to the #MeToo movement to get a fair trial.

The producer has been charged with two rapes and a criminal sexual act for alleged incidents involving two separate women. Mr Weinstein, 66, handed himself in to police in New York on Friday. He has repeatedly denied non-consensual sex and intends to plead not guilty.

Asked about the case on BBC Radio 4’s Today program, McEwan, 69, said: “It seems a kind of circus to me. There is the media stuff, which we have to penetrate. We don’t know what actually happened; it seems he is a moral monster who has had his comeuppance but I always like to encourage in myself just a degree of scepticism once the whole mob is in full cry, so I am going to withhold judgments until I have heard the arguments in court.”

The novelist’s defence of due process drew criticism on social media as activists accused him of marginalising the experiences of women. Catherine Mayer, author and co-founder of the Women’s Equality Party (WEP), said that men such as McEwan “cry rough justice” about the treatment of alleged offenders while querying the testimony of their young victims.

“He’s seeing multiple women speaking about these things as a mob, when it is actually evidence of the crime at scale,” she told The Times. “I’m so sick of these supposedly great men of literature who are posited as great public thinkers but are not nearly as interesting as they think they are.”

The author Stella Duffy, also a founding member of the WEP, said that it was “seriously disturbing” for “comfortable white privileged men” to dismiss the #MeToo movement as a mob.

In New York yesterday, Mr Weinstein’s lawyer said that he had serious doubts about whether his client could obtain a fair trial. “One of my concerns is that by virtue of some of the publicity that has occurred … the ability for people to keep an open mind is of concern to me,” Ben Brafman said after a private hearing with a judge and prosecutors.

“I also think that the pressure that is being brought to bear on the district attorney’s office demanding that an indictment or prosecution of Mr Weinstein proceed is inappropriate.”

Mr Weinstein posted a $1 million cash bail and will wear an electronic monitor that tracks his movements.

What’s your thoughts on this Character??

Why did it take so long?



When self-worth is tied to one’s Sexual and Romantic relationship

Sexual Contingent self-worth (CSW) is self-esteem that is dependent on maintaining what one perceives to be a successful sexual relationship .

When individuals with greater CSW experience positive events in the contingent domain, they have better well-being.

However, if they perceive failures in the contingent domain (sexual domain), they have poorer well-being. One study found that individuals who reported sexual problems, such as PVD, had greater sexual CSW than those without problems.

Individuals with greater sexual CSW may perceive a sexual problem, such as PVD, as a failure in the contingent domain, which could be associated with poorer psychological, sexual, and relational well-being.

Both women with PVD and their partners report feelings of failure in the sexual relationship.

However, couples affected by PVD report being just as satisfied with their overall relationship as the general population. Basing self-worth on the overall relationship (relationship CSW) may serve a protective function for couples coping with PVD.

In our study, we wanted to examine the associations between sexual and relationship CSW and the sexual satisfaction, sexual distress, relationship satisfaction, and depressive symptoms of women with PVD and their partners, as well as women’s pain.

What did we do?
We had 82 couples complete an online survey that included validated measures of sexual and relationship CSW and the sexual satisfaction, sexual distress, relationship satisfaction, depressive symptoms, and (for women) pain during intercourse.

What did we find?

  • When women with PVD reported greater sexual CSW, they experienced more sexual distress and pain.
  • When partners reported greater sexual CSW, they were less sexually and relationally satisfied and more sexually distressed, and women had greater depressive symptoms and lower relationship satisfaction.
  • When partners reported higher relationship CSW, they were more sexually and relationally satisfied and less sexually distressed, and women reported lower depressive symptoms and greater relationship satisfaction.

What do these findings mean?
Results suggest that couples’ greater sexual CSW is linked to poorer sexual, relational, and psychological well-being in couples affected by PVD, whereas partners’ greater relationship CSW is associated with better well-being.

Thus, when couples coping with PVD base their self-worth on their sexual relationship, they may be more likely to experience the negative consequences that are associated to this pain condition.

However, if partners are more focused on the overall romantic relationship, this may serve a protective function for both members of the couple.

Findings suggest that sexual and relationship CSW may be important targets for interventions aimed at improving the well-being of couples with PVD. The results also highlight the importance of including partners in research and treatment for PVD.

It is important to note that this study was cross-sectional.

Thus, all of the associations could have been in the other direction.

For example, it is possible that when couples coping with PVD have poorer psychological and sexual well-being, they are more likely to have greater sexual CSW.

Further research is needed to help determine the direction of these associations.

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